TTC after MC - nice people in crap times, full of posifrickingtivity

haha sal if it's help with geting rid of the last of the gunk, how about a trampoline? ewww

oooh thunder I hope your bloods give the right result!

Been thinking about you Weasel, let us know how you got on!

Aly - running? I'm like a hobbit with big knockers...not built for running, might help with getting rid of the last of the gunk though? (Sorry, grim thought!)

I'm a beauty therapist and just about to move into a rented room in a sunbed salon. The other girl in there does Shrinking Violet Wraps (google them) and they are supposed to be great. So my plan if I don't miraculously slim down in 8 weeks is to squash the fat with a few wraps and have a couple of sunbeds as we all know tanned fat looks better than pasty fat before the wedding!

It's also good to know that my other half also has a streak of dark humour as he piped up "maybe people will feel sorry for us and put extra cash in a card"! Haha....every cloud and all that!!!

Choc when is/was AF due?? I'm getting frustrated with your feint lines now...

Hi everyone.

Who was talking about putting on weight after mc? I feel that pain- its just another slap in the face isn't it?! I have been so much better in terms of exercise and healthy diet since then and still put on. Damnit!

weasel guess you are coming out of your scan any minute- really hope it went well....let us know!

choc limbo is a horrible feeling- hope you get the good right answer on Fri.

tins how are you feeling?

blackholes FB is evil when things like that happen. I get nervous now even meeting up with friends who may 'announce' at any time. Just don't know if my face would behave when confronted with the news.

Off to blood test now, hoping to get results later in the week. Come on blood!

choc how confusing for you I hope you get a nice strong line on fri.
blackholes and liesl Fx those symptoms are real and not imaginary!

weasel I hope your scan this morning has come up with some answers.

fod that bitch is super insensitive - although if it's a little baby perhaps she wouldn't feel comfortable using a sitter? Anyway that's not an excuse! Try not to feel left out though. You'll still have a great time

sal let me know how the 5:2 diet works out. I've also heard very good things about it, and been tempted myself. Not tempted enough to actually try it though . How about running? The weight always comes off me pretty easily when i start running more. Also I hope everything does come out by itself and you'll be back ttc in no time.

hi mytwo big hugs for you in this difficult time

Good morning all

Weasel good luck with your scan this morning, hope you get answers as to what is going on.
mytwo - hello (waves)

tins v interesting on the CBFM - think I will give mine the boot after this cycles weirdness.

liesl & Blackholes - will join you on Friday to POAS I think. Just did my last 3 tests impatient for BFP and got slightly stronger but still feint line on the cheapy stick, v feint line on the Sainsbury stick and a "hold it at an angle and you can almost see a faint line" with the Tesco stick.
So still don't really feel able to say I have a BFP yet. Feeling a little in limbo

Welcome back MrsExcited I was thinking of you on your holibobs last week!

I asked my MW mate about weight gain after MC/ERPC and she said its likely to be hormonal and comfort eating during the shitty time. I'm gonna give that 5&2 diet a go, have heard great things about it!

Welcome to newbies, sorry you're here, mat your stay be short and sweet! Xx

Thanks so much mummy, Aly and Thunder for your replies, I think I'm just convincing myself that it's not going to happen ;( even been looking into adoption.....lost my posifrickintivity

blackholes I stayed well away from Facebook and eventually removed anyone that was pregnant or had recently has a baby from my news feed which worked out great! Until an insensitive mare that I work with was invited out for lunch with the team ( I'd organised it as a bit of a giggle) we all organised sitters for our kids and she has decided to bring hers along! If course everyone will be ooooing and arghhhing over it and now I feel pushed out of the very event I'd organised....insensitive bitch!

Fingers crossed for blackholes symptons
my two hope your ok, it's devastating it really is but I promise the pain will lift - it never leaves you and you never forget - but it does her easier with time
weasel my thoughts are with you, the uncertainty is a horrible thing to bare, your just left feeling stagnant

I'm sorry if Ive missed anyone

Sorry, the would-be due dates of my two miscarried babies, I mean,

Sorry for some reason the post i wrote last night seems to have posted itself tonight, so appears all out of sync with today's conversations.

Sal - I know the feeling with putting on weight, i put 3 pounds on before going on holiday (trust me i can't afford too) but now am properly back at work and generally trying to eat healthier (not the stuffing face with Chocolate!)

Mummy - I loved rule 6 - stating a woman may pee on an actual stick as often as they liked!

Crossing fingers for those hopeful poas-ing on Friday!

Indeed, liesl!

I'm sorry I'm pretty rubbish at the advice, having never used a cbfm and been lucky enough (?!) not to have needed an erpc. Still offering handholding though!

I've just checked fb. You guessed it; two pregnancy announcements, due around the times of my two miscarriages! Literally one announcement after the other. Bit gobsmacked to be honest!

Hi Blackholes sounds like we are in the same boat. Im also wondering if my mind and body are playing tricks on me. Fingers crossed for Friday!

Hey sounds like there are some congratulations in order this week!

That sounds all exciting Booty, as does the others who have had BFPs since Friday!

I'm still ticking along 2 1/2 weeks since ERPC, having been on holiday last week there was quite a bit of dtd but with no idea whether i will ovulate this month or not but it was fun! (sorry if tmi!)

I think if AF shows no sign of arriving by end of the month i will poas

Sorry i can't help with anyone with CBFM but not owning one i have no idea how they work, I used OPKs last time and hit first time

Weasel- hope youre ok and it's just retained products that are making your levels stay up- I'm no expert whatsoever.

Hello to mytwo- sorry you're here

I'm symptom spotting big time; will be testing on Friday. I don't have that pregnant "feeling" I don't think... Just sore boobs, tingly nipples, unbelievably emotional and hormonal and full of rage! plus super sensitive to the smell of car fumes, which was a major symptom in all of my last pregnancies. I just don't know how much of it is my body playing tricks on me. I know that if it is bfp, I'll be so terrified of something going wrong again.

Hey ladies - I'm cd15 today - waiting for ovulation which isn't due for ages thanks to my lovely lengthy cycles - still doing opks daily - oh how I love to POAS - any stick will do!!

Fod - the hospital told me that I may have a cycle where I don't have ovulation following the miscarriage - finished crossed for a positive opk for you soon xx

Weasel since the bloods are not really rising much (in an ongoing pregnancy you'd be expecting them to double every 48 hours) I think it's more likely you have some retained products. Hope the scan clears up any doubt and you can stop worrying about ectopic.

Hello mytwo

I wanted to add to the posts about the CBFM later but was on ipad and trying to type anything long winded makes me lose the will to live. I looked into it when I was having problems with it and is is basically much more simple than I thought. It looks for 2 hormones, oestrogen and luteinising hormone, but as soon as it detects them for the first time it stops looking IYSWIM. You get a 'high' as soon as it sees oestrogen and that will continue until it sees LH, when it gives you 'peak' for 2 days then 'low'. If it misses the LH then you just get 'high' for the remainder of your 20 sticks, irrespective of the fact that your oestrogen will disappear once you have ovulated. The 'learning your cycle' bit just means it will ask for a first stick later in subsequent cycles once it has an idea when you ovulate, but that only works if it detects ovulation in the first cycle. I have used it twice when TTC in the past with great success, but tried at the end of last summer and for 2 cycles it missed LH, so I spent £40 on sticks and learned nothing. It may help to change your testing window if this is happening to you, or go back to cheapie OPKs and test more than once a day when you think it's your fertile period. I'm not bothering, I've been doing this long enough to know my cycle and DTD several times over the days I'm most likely to ovulate.

Hello Mytwo sorry you find yourself here.
Weasel hope you get some answers tomorrow.

I'm currently symptom spotting. Af due on sunday and I've had a bit of cramping and brownish discharge and wondering if it's implantation. The cramping feels similar to last time but didn't get the discharge before. I guess I'm just going to have to hold out to fertile Friday unless af gets me early! Anyone else joining me on Friday?

sal I think it's quite normal to still be bleeding a bit after 12 days. I certainly was, after the medical and erpc stages. But more like brown spotting by 14 days

I had retained products and my hcg levels were around 500, then 450 2 days later. That was already almost 4 weeks post mc. the retained stuff measured 4x5x5cm, so quite large really.

Missed your last comment about scan! Try not to worry til then if you can weasel you will get your answers.

Weasel, I'm sorry I just don't know that much about it- thinking about it you're thinking because your levels are still rising that your body still thinks its pg? Have you any other symptoms that might lead you to think its ectopic- like the cramps (which I understand are really bad- but I'm sure some of the other ladies can help with info). If they were worried about ectopic they'd have you in there straight away to get sorted.

Sorry I can't remember what the next step is...are you going in for a scan?

Hi mytwo, really sorry you are here.

Hey thundercats can that be a reason? Any advice welcome, just had three blood tests done thu/sat/today and HCG has been 249/262/264. Miscarried nearly a week ago, lots of blood/clots etc (sorry if TMI) but all done naturally so retained product seems more likely that ectopic? Any thoughts anyone?!

Have scan at 8.15 tomorrow so fingers crossed I get some answers. Any 'I had something similar' comments v welcome...

hiya ladies can I join

I Had a miscarriage last week I was 5 +5 weeks. gutted!!

Hi everyone, just dashing in and out as an way too busy and am in a total flap and I have itchy bits to boot which I won't mention

weasel why ectopic? Might there just be some retained product? I hope you get it sorted quickly whatever transpires.

fod I think that an anovulatory cycle is not unreasonable so soon after mc, or for things to be a bit all over the place. I was definitely told it might take a few cycles to get back to normal.

Hug for tins and anyone else that needs one x

*shitting her off??? Where the hell did that come from? I meant brushing her off!! Hehe

Aly - I know EXACTLY how you feel!! My friend has exactly the same EDD that I had and also lives away (but is moving back in a couple of months unfortunately). We sent a message telling them what had happened and said we need to back off from them for a while (this was a week ago). She sent a lovely card today which I was trying to find fault in but couldn't and now I feel bad about shitting her off. I still don't want her to come to my wedding in a couple of months, but now don't feel I can tell her to stay away! Life is shit sometimes eh?

In other news, I went back for my weekly willy-cam sesh with Pam, my personal dildo-scanner as I am still bleeding 12 days post ERPC (now nearly 3 weeks in total since spotting began) and she said she can see some blood and clots in my very fricking empty uterus but no left over tissue so they want nature to take its course and it will come out on its own hopefully. They've booked me in for another scan in 2 weeks unless the bleeding stops on its own.

I got on the scales today thinking that I've probably lost a couple if pounds....no, it says I've put on nearly 6lbs in 11 days!! WTF???!!!!

I get married in 9 weeks and I'm the heaviest I've ever been and not even up-duffed!!!!!! Any advice other than jaw-wiring?

Love from el-fatty-bumbum.....