TTC after MC - nice people in crap times, full of posifrickingtivity

DIY how did your doc appointment go? How worrisome...

boo liesl for 2nd bfn

fod I hope you had an awesome bonking session.

I'm feeling a bit as another of my friends has just announced a pregnancy. Happy for her of course too, but....

Just popping in to read through and had to send to diy, sorry you're stressed hun, and good luck at the appointment.

Yes mummy mention everything to the docs and if they say it can't be a factor then ask them for their reasons why. I don't know much about PCOS, this is just my general approach with doctors. Knowledge is usually power!

fod when is your thigh appointment?

seaside at lonnnngggggggg cake

Hi everyone, thought I'd pop back and say hello. Have been over on the 'graduates' thread but still reading this one - congratulations blackholes! bakingtins I'm so sorry you're having a rough time at the moment and I hope you get some answers. You're so kind to us all on here, I hope some more luck and happiness comes your way soon. I'm still worrying myself silly - had a few days of elation after my bfp then the fear kicked in! Have been getting tummy pain, and no progress on cbdigi tests, so having bad feelings - off to see the doctor later. So sort of saving my seat here just in case...

Sorry about the double post there!! Xx

I've also been thinking a about acupuncture - keep us posted on how it goes. Yes cycles have always been long and really irregular - one was 66 days! Before miscarriage they seem to average out at 45 days so I am hope that even though they are long they are at least regular. I have been reading about PCOS and am convinced I might be a candidate for it so not sure whether to mention it to the doctors or not??? Xx

I've also been thinking a about acupuncture - keep us posted on how it goes. Yes cycles have always been long and really irregular - one was 66 days! Before miscarriage they seem to average out at 45 days so I am hope that even though they are long they are at least regular. I have been reading about PCOS and am convinced I might be a candidate for it so not sure whether to mention it to the doctors or not??? Xx

seaside thanks for your supportive comments, I hope so too
I too have heard good things about acupuncture, a friend of mine does reflexology and she's helped a few people concieve, it's definitely worth a shot, it certainly can't hurt. I know what you mean about looking into adoption I have had the same thoughts was feeling very low and thought it may never happen Did you know that there are websites that actually show you profiles of children for adoption? Not sure that I titan agree with the whole catalogue idea but I did find it helpful from the other side, my mother is currently adopting so if you have any questions about the process feel free to ask

mummy glad your cake was a success, I usually bake with my two but I tend to go a bit OTT I think if I'm going to wreck the kitchen I might as well make it worth while lol so I make about 50! Rediculous I know! Especially when asda make such beautiful cakes (other supermarkets are also available)
Off to bonk now as I'm ovulating....cross everything for me ladies bar your legs of course
seaside big fat fish slap with a slimy kipper

bakingtins I love your idea and I'm going to do the same in retrospect of my last EDD. Hope you have some brighter days this week.

seasidelily I've just been to acupuncture - a lady I went to ages ago who I really liked - I went 4 weeks after my ERPC to try and sort my head hormones out. I have no idea whether it works but I felt very calm and relaxed afterwards - though could have been because I was lying down for a hour in the day which I never get the chance to do. I think it's important to get some TLC and have things to look forward to ... Go for it I say. I'm going back after AF arrives - still waiting for first after ERPC Grrrrrr

I hope everyone has a good Monday and hope AF arrives for me but not for those TTC xxx

Lol, I meant has your cycle always been that long, not was the cake long!! Very badly worded!

Nice one! Sounded like an amazing cake! That is long, was it always that long mummy?

It's the worst not knowing my cycle anymore, not knowing what to expect when. Don't know why it's so screwed up, it was fine for the first 3 months after ectopic surgery. Grr.

Hi ladies, hope you have had a good day!! The cake was a success and DS loved it so worth the late night icing!! I think I will just buy one next year though as I woke myself up at 4am last night shouting "don't drop the cake" so think it sent me slightly loopy!!

I'm cd20 at he mo and waiting for ovulation - should be in the next 5 days - oh how I love the long cycles - not!!!

Xx

Hi everyone,

Sorry to have been away, trying and succeeding to keep myself busy. What a rollercoaster this thread is! So exciting about choc and blackholes (any more news on that faint line?), congratulations - and double congrats to Spanish!

Sorry to see new faces, and a hug to fod, you poor thing. I hope you get a weight taken off your mind very soon about that lump, and that your brother's ok.

I've really needed a real life fish slap this month, I wound myself up into the most ridiculous state. I convinced myself i was pg, took FOUR tests (sorry, broke all the rules), af was three days late totally screwing with my head, and obvs arrived today. I have taken myself in hand, and promised I'm not doing this next month. Also DH has gone to sea (naval reserve) for 2 weeks, really bad timing, but thank god my Dad's coming for a week tomorrow, which will def keep me sane.

Needed an action plan, so am going to acupuncture next Sat, to try and calm my hormones down and sort my stress. Has anyone ever tried it? Shot in the dark, but heard some crazy stories about it helping fertility. Also spoken to DH about adopting. Seems extreme I know, but we were always going to do it after having our first child, and if I'm not pg in 7 months or when I go actually insane trying we're going to go for it first. I just need something practical to hold on to.

Anyway, sorry for huge post, have to unload before Monday starts, need to try and clear some brain space for work!

Congrats spanish!

So got a bfn again yesterday but still no af yet. I'm now just hoping it comes soon so we can start again with ttc rather than a wtf cycle!

baking that sounds like a good idea, have you thought of booking a long weekend away or a holiday? It might be just what you need....you never know once the pressure is off and your away relaxing .... Baby dust may land at your feet cxxx

It's all si pants isn't it? Such a huge journey

tins I think that is such a lovely idea. I hoped to be pg by the time of my due date but that's not going to happen now. I think maybe I'll make a donation to a children/baby charity that day. Thank you for the inspiration x

Fod by EDD for my first MC I was pregnant and past 12 week scan which made it much easier - I felt like I was back on track IYSWIM. Would have worked out like that this time had I not MC3, but it feels really bleak to have gone through the next 6-7 months and be no further forward.
I'm going to try to find something positive to do to mark the day since my ov plan is probably nonsense on EDD of first MC I bought a baby-related charity gift, it seemed good to honour the baby that didn't make it by helping another.

tins I really feel for you in relation to the EDD I've not approachedind yet but I'm dreading it.... I was hopIng to be pg at that point thought it might make it easier
Post ERPC AF can be light or late or not at all, remember you've just had all the lining of your uterus lining taken away so even if you did have AF it would be very sparse.... Mine was minimal and your body needs time to rebuild the lining too.... Don't panick' hope that helps

Morning all!

I'm making , anyone want one?

lucky are you there. We don't want you back here either, in the nicest possible way.

fod hooray for ovulation! I loved seeing a positive after mc as it feels like everything is starting to work again.

Hi emki

lucky- how are you now? Still spotting? If it's just spotting I'm hopeful that it's nothing to worry about. Plenty of women have spotting and healthy pregnancies. Fingers crossed for you.

Bakingtins- very posifrickingtive! Fingers crossed you get ovulating ASAP.

Emki- welcome. I'm sorry to hear your story. I hope you're not here long.

Jmf- I know exactly how you feel. Trying so hard not to get too excited/ plan ahead too much. However.... Poas this morning again and the line is definitely a lot darker! Not really due AF til next week sometime so all looking good. Just hope this one decides to stay.

Hugs to all xxx

Wow a lot has happened in one day. On phone so might miss people, sorry.
Spanish, twins! Wow that's exciting. Must have been such a relief to see those heartbeats.
Lucky, fx for you. Apparently most women have some spotting during their pregnancy.
Tins, what a horrid day.

And fod, yay for ovulation!! Woo

welcome emki glad you decided to come across and join us.

mttab impressed with the cake prowess. I regret doing a DIY cake every time when I'm up at 11pm trying to stick it together the cocktail sticks and swearing ( totally over ambitious castle cake for DS1)

Tops trying hard to think of suitable names for a baby conceived in Rome......

I have decided that the consultant has no idea what she is talking about and to mark my EDD I am going to ovulate and conceive this w/end. How's that for posifrickingtivity totally unrealistic ?

Spanish- wow double congratulations!! How very exciting. Is twin pregnancy more common after MC?
Fod- hope you have been very busy!! Wedding abroad sounds good.
Bakintins- big hugs - it's so horrible thinking where you could have been. I just keep thinking my baby whenever they come will be so worth this wait

Emki- sorry you find yourself here but it's a great source of comfort to be able to have support from people who know exactly how you feel.
Topslou- hurrah for AF, hope it didn't make you too sad but instead is the beginning of the cycle that will result in a baby.

I'm finding early pregnancy very anxiety provoking, so greatful to be pregnant but full of worry. Just taking one day at a time and hope lots of you lovely ladies will join us soon..

Morning ladies. Sorry I've not been around, have been struggling with all the pregnancies going on around me. 3 best friends all due within a week of when I was. Congrats to all those that have had BFPs recently, fab news.

First AF after mc arrived yesterday morning and it is already the heaviest I've ever had. The spooky thing is that it arrived exactly to the day it would have been due if I hadn't got pregnant. Not sure if that's coincidental or I've managed to fall straight back into my cycle. The dates my app gives me for ov are when we'll be on long weekend in Rome so not sure how many sights we'll see!

Have been awake since DS woke me at 3 (nightmare) he went straight back to sleep, I am wide awake and bored