TTC after MC - nice people in crap times, full of posifrickingtivity

Please can someone slap me?

I am 11dpo. I have an extremely extremely small chance of conceiving due to bloods and lack of dtd this month and yet I'm freaking out! Desperately want to be pg, no hope of being, just want af to come so I can move on but she's not due til Fri or Sat. WAAAA!

littlebairn sorry about the falling out with your family. I think people don't really understand unless they've been through it too, even my dp doesn't really understand and gets annoyed with my worrying. Am making a big effort to appear less stressed at the moment, after the hospital appointment yesterday he was saying that if this one fails he doesn't think he could put up with me stressing again and maybe we should stop at one. That makes him sound like a knob, he's not at all otherwise, just doesn't understand. He was saying 'why are you worried about miscarrying again, it wasn't that bad was it, just a bit of pain for a few days but the rest was just bleeding wasn't it?'! I think in a funny way he's trying to make me feel better, I'm just a bit sensitive about all things ttc and pregnancy now...! Am feeling more philosophical today though, am lucky to be pg and it's not over yet, time will sort things out either way. Just hoping the sac's in the right place, only a couple of hours to find out.

DIY- so hope all goes well at your scan, fingers crossed xxx

DIY hope the scan shows everything in the right place and a viable pregnancy, even if it's too early for a HB.

LB that's really pants of your family. Sounds like your cousin is fine about it. I know it's sometimes difficult to understand unless you've been there, but really it shouldn't be that hard to put themselves in your shoes for a minute.

at all your devious DTD strategies!

DIY that's brilliance. I'll try the "only twice more" line tonight methinks.

I really really hope that your scan looks OK today - do keep us posted.

little I hope that you do sort things out with your family. It sounds like they are being very insensitive.

On phone but good luck DIY with scan. Fx all fine xxxx

I'm still here! Just wanted to echo the dtd troubles! Had a giggle reading posts. Possibly had the worst dtd ever that both of us started laughing so hard we were crying. Helped lighten the mood I guess. It is hard though - such pressure. Becomes a whole different ball game. (Excuse pun)

Good luck with the scan diy- really hope that bean is in the right place.

I have similar problems with OH re dtd pressure but we have found a way that works ok for us. He doesn't want to know when the crucial days are so the deal is we just both have to make the effort to do it regularly throughout. Unfortunately we're both a bit lazy and/or busy and knackered so could both do without the pressure!

little so sorry about the argument. That does sound really insensitive of them.

mummy, dp and I had similar issues and I went to all sorts of lengths to persuade him - massages, candles, nice dinners... Sadly what worked best in the end was saying 'only 2 more days then I'll leave you in peace for a couple of weeks'! Ah the romance. Am hoping not to have to ttc again....

Thanks for the kind words, I'm sure I'm just stressing, but gp sent me to hospital yesterday as concerned about the possibility of an ectopic from my symptoms. Having a scan today to check at least it's in the right place - will be too early to see a baby.

Oh am having the same issues. Due to ov today based on phone app. Should have dtd last night (we did Sunday) but dh made it clear that he wasn't in the mood to " do his duty". Humph. So hoping it'll be ok if we dtd tonight instead. Not hopeful for thurs or fri (he's going out drinking) so might see if we can get wed in as well. Not hopeful .
Rock I'm sure you can start ttc whenever you feel ready. Just keep doing test for bfn. Strange not to have bled at all?

egg I'm also using a gel this cycle. It's called balance activ it's meant to help them swim quicker and I think live longer. TMI warning...I spray it into syring, a thin 1ml and then inject myself best before DTD.

mummy your time table is exactly the same as mine, we are also trying to decide if we should DTD on Wed too.
I'm doing the CBFM and I've got a cheapie OPK, does anyone know when I should use the cheapie? I think they are meant to be done later in the day but can't remember.

The only thing that might ruin our chances this month is that DH has been having his usual hot baths this week due to have a really chesty cough. Otherwise I'm not sure he would have managed to DTD. needs must and all that jazz.

Thanks chocolate - we have dtd tonight and I will try again tomorrow but as we dtd last night that will be 3 days in a row so not sure it will happen - if not I will go for Wednesday - fingers crossed.

I'm going to do another OPK tomorrow - should the line get fainter? Xx

saggy/Mummy - I found telling DH it was "too late" or "too early" for ttc-ing made him a but more keen. Takes the pressure off a bit
I also used Pre-seed this cycle which is supposed to help the chaps get up where they need to be. Plus they should last for up to 5 days, which considering DH was away over easter during when I should have ov'd (if CBFM hadn't missed it) must have been what happened. My BFP took ages to show up so can't have ov'd before he left.

Thanks Saggy - he is fine any other time of the cycle but once I get that positive opk he over thinks everything and the stage fright kicks in! Does the days leading up to the positive count? I am cd21 today and DTD cd17 and cd20 so you that count?? X

Mummy we have been having the same erm... problems. DP is convinced that we are 'at it like rabbits' for one purpose only! In reality we have DTD 4 times this cycle! Trouble is, how do you take the pressure off? Ive really tried, but there is always this big baby shaped elephant in the room!
Im sure every other day will be fine.

Hi ladies!

Just wondering if its too soon to jump back into TTC - it's 5 days since my ERPC but haven't bled at all - had been planning on using the end of bleeding as my cue but obviously that didn't go to plan! Still getting +ive pregnancy test so I know it's incredibly unlikely I'll fall pregnant yet but DH and I are both nervous about it all and I want to get back in the saddle so to speak ASAP.

Evening ladies - DIY - hope the appointment went well Hun

LittleBairn - how awful of your folks and sister - hope you are okay.

Liesl - the long cycles are soo frustrating - I think I will mention it when I go and see the doctor at the end of May - I will add it to my every growing list of questions to ask them about TTC!!

I think I have had a positive opk this evening - if not it is definitely approaching as the 2nd line was practically the same - I don't think we will be able to DTD consecutive nights as last cycle DH had some "ahem" issues and felt under pressure to perform - will every other night be okay??

Any info / advice / knowledge would be massively appreciated!! Xx

I have decided to take a stand today. I have started 5:2. I've made it all day on two grapes and I'm just about to inhale a 500 calorie ready meal which I plumped for because there was no calculation involved!
I had some EWCM yesterday, and a higher result on the OPK, although not a darker line. We DTD on Saturday and today so fingers crossed! If I ovulated yesterday it was day 18, so late, but at least something is happening! It's just a long wait now!

Diy I have everything crossed for you. Xxxxxx

egg what really kicked it off was me telling my sister to stop being so Twee and parroting rubbish she had heard, they clearly had no idea of my 'pain' if they couldn't understand. My cousin hasn't said a word about visiting, I posted a gift, I get the feeling it doesn't need to be said she understands.
I should have known better they didn't quite get the situation, after my dad telling me I better hurry up and make another one because my neice really would love a baby in the family. My DS hadn't even died at that point! Ok we knew he wasn't going to make it but still!

fod yay pee stick buddy. I promise this time no steamy glasses of urine I've got my pee sticks already just waiting for a BFP.

LittleBairn - that's awful of them!
If they "really knew you were in pain" then they'd know why you didn't want to go. Hope it is repairable though eventually.
Fx that the sex festival has worked this time - sounds like you and Fod will be POAS partners in a couple of weeks

Oops forgot to get rid of my yoni name.

Hello everyone been MIA for a bit it's TTC weekend so umm well you know whats been going on! I actually feel quite positive about this cycle, even if the CBFM is showing itself to be a complete waste of money.

In other news I have had a spectacular falling out with my parents and sister, over the fact that I won't go and visit my cousins new baby, they are furious with me and can't see why it's an issue. I don't know why would I not want to go see a newborn baby boy in the run up to my DS due date?!
My sister tipped me over the edge with "We all know your in pain (said in a roll your eyes sort of tone) BUT.... I told them all to leave my house.
TBH I'm not even sure if our relationship is even reparable.
All this going on while TTC and strangely I feel Ok about it.

Hope your appt went well DIY!
I've decided I need to get myself on here a bit more. Seems like everyone around me in pregnant lately. My sister in law text me today to let me know they're having a girl. She's due 3 weeks before I should have been
Anyway... Hopefully none of us will need to be on this thread much longer!!

mummy I totally empathise with the long cycles. I had to wait 10 weeks for af after erpc and now I'm on cd39 of what used to be a 38 day cycle and still no af. I was read under 40 days was ok but I'm worried I'm going to have a crazy long cycle again and who knows if I'm ovulating. Thinking of getting a cbfm if these wtf cycles continue.
Sorry for the me me post