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TTC after MC - nice people in crap times, full of posifrickingtivity

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WillSantaComeAgain · 02/04/2013 13:49

Welcome aboard ladies (though obviously sorry you have to be here). We're a friendly bunch so come in and plump up a cushion for POAS Fridays and lots of posifrickingtivity. With a few (gentle) fish slaps thrown in for good measure.

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Mummytothearkbuilder · 16/04/2013 21:28

Fod that's ace!! Well done!! Good luck for the bloods tomorrow x

LittleBairn · 16/04/2013 21:20

fod that amazing! I too have cut out all caffeine and limited refined sugar as much as possible but I'm still the same size.

I am feeling really positive about this cycle. It's day 14 I'm sure I'm ovulating right now or very close to it. Lots of perfectly clear CM probably the best I've had since MC.
Oddly it seems as of my cycle has corrected itself, I am back right where I started ovulating on a Tue like before MC. maybe that's the reason I was coming on period slightly earlier each month was my cycle trying to correct itself.
Seems like thundercat was right about your body taking same length of time to heal for as long as you were pregnant.

But I do think cutting out all caffeine and taking B6 has helped, hopefully the conceive gel is working too.

On the CBFM front still getting high everyday Hmm I did muck it up today by forgetting to pee on stick, I had to squeeze a tiny bit out for the stick after it even so it still said high.

Emki · 16/04/2013 21:09

fod that's fantastic - I'm trying to lose weight - such a jelly belly - what's the grapefruit diet? I'll google it so don't worry if you can't be bothered to explain Smile.

Fingers crossed for you tomorrow fod

saggy I'm with you - it's hard! I'm on tender hooks waiting for people around me to say they're pregnant.... Finding this thread a great release for all the things you can't say! X

fod27 · 16/04/2013 20:56

Hi guys I've had a quick scan....in an attempt to catch up ;) we had the same giggling problem in the sack (no pun intended) DF reckons I've broken him hahaa, we did it mornin and night whilst ovulating he said " if you aren't up the duff by now after all that then there's something bloody wrong!" hehe! For once I hope he's in the right!

I've got my blood tests tomorrow morning for my lump do cross everything for me! In other news I've cut out all caffeine and started drinking green tea and lemon and hot water plus the grapefruit diet....lost a stone! Went to work in new clothes and felt fabulous even my students commented but to be fair I think that may be a bad thing

Mummytothearkbuilder · 16/04/2013 20:44

Thanks for the advice ladies - just attempted the seduction and it was a no go :-( might try again when we go up later - if not I will go for it tomorrow. DH doesn't know that I'm ovulating but I think he may suspect it as there have been no problems any other time in the cycle. I'm guessing that DTD before the positive opk will count too as sperm can live for a couple of days so hopefully Sundays 'contribution' will help!!

Saggy - sorry about the pregnancy announcement - they are everywhere at the moment - there are 2 ladies in our street who have had babies in the last 2 weeks - we are only a small street so can't avoid them!
X

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 16/04/2013 20:22

Oh FFS! Ds has just been on FB and broke the news that ex SIL has just announced she is PG.
it's fecking typical. She is an absolute cow of the first water, who has the mothering skills if a dead cat!

Emki · 16/04/2013 19:52

Im not sure Mummy - when i've used them I just stopped after I got the first double line and then made sure we DTD as must as possible in the following 48 hours - amounted to twice DTD

Thundercatsarego · 16/04/2013 19:19

You've timed it well already then mummy but yeah go for tonight too if you can. It's normal to get several positives in a row but I understand it's the first one that counts. Of course it doesn't prove you've ovulated, just detects the surge of hormone released as your body gets ready to do so. So it might get fainter tomorrow or not, but go by the first positive. That's why many packs say stop poaOPKs after the first positive as it doesn't mean so much after that.

Mummytothearkbuilder · 16/04/2013 19:13

Thanks thunder - it's my second positive - first one was yesterday (is it okay to get 2??) I guess I should DTD tonight then - I'm hoping there is enough there to meet the egg when it's released!! Should the opk gts fainter from tomorrow then? X

Thundercatsarego · 16/04/2013 19:01

If its your first positive mummy then you should ovulate in the next 24- 48 hours. So yes tomorrow falls in the window too but it would be great if you could dtd tonight (as well)

I'm saying this as the model thing to do- we never dtd on consecutive nights here! Just do your best without it causing problems!

emki how annoying to be 8 weeks without af- my sympathies for you. I know just what you mean about wanting to move on! Same as you mrs

Fingers and toes crossed blackholes

And thank you for the pep talk on baby steps aly. I'll do my best!

Mummytothearkbuilder · 16/04/2013 18:43

Okay so think I will definitely have to do some secret seduction tonight - I have just done another opk and 2 dark lines appeared almost immediately - I will try and use all my moves and DTD tonight but if not will tomorrow be okay? We DTD Sunday and Monday - I am panicking abut getting the timing right!! X

Emki · 16/04/2013 18:32

DIY good news about the scan and will be thinking of you tomorrow
FX blackholes
littlebairns they should understand, its so hard. The woman who lives opposite gave birth to her second 10 days ago. I can see her with him from my bedroom window, it took all my strength to go over and give some flowers but don't think i'll manage going over at the weekend. There has to be a of self preservation.

I've been reading your posts at work with lots of giggles at all the DTD stories - its SOOO true. DH also prefers to not know, however before this last MC I did tell him and he then went over the top being all romantic and just really made me laugh!

I swear every woman I saw today had a huge bump (on their tummy) - happy for them just want it to be me too!! Actually feeling very frustrated - 8 weeks after ERPC now and still no AF - now wishing we had continued with the OPK and DTD lots but I was finding it too stressful.

Spoke to doctor yesterday for results from ERPC (to see if same problem in placenta from mc at 20 weeks last week - this wasn't the reason for mc...) and there wasn't enough tissue to test on. She said to come into EPAU next Tuesday if AF still not arrived. Feeling a bit anxious that something might be wrong and so frustrated and want to start TTC.
I totally understand what you are saying Guff- also had the same comment made to me .... grrrr...

However not looking forward to the rollercoaster of emotions you go through when TTC - but at least i'd be moving forward - I FEEL STUCK!!!

Keep us posted on seducing DHs during OV days! x

Mummytothearkbuilder · 16/04/2013 17:52

Glad the scan went well DIY - keep us posted on the bloods.

Blackholes - fingers crossed everything is okay Hun xx

I am going to try and secretly seduce DH tonight but think he will cotton on to the fact I'm ovulating which he doesn't like to know - we DTD on Sunday and Monday so hopeful if the seducing doesn't work we can sneak one in tomorrow!! Xx

MrsExcited · 16/04/2013 17:50

Oh the frustration of it!

I know i can't expect AF to be regular its only 3 weeks since erpc but i want to know what is going on with body!!!

Dtd many times in last fortnight so there is a chance that things could be good and i will have no idea! Had first negative 28th march, is there any point to poas inApril?

BlackholesAndRevelations · 16/04/2013 16:58

I had my bfp on cd 25 so it's not necessarily too early! Glad it seems like good news re: scan, DIY. Lol at "omce in a lifetime shagging opportunities!!" not sure I've had any of those, myself... Grin

Hold tight ladies; I'm waiting too but for another reason. Tiny bit of spotting this morning and a lot of aching. Hoping and praying it's all normal.... But time will tell.

alyant79 · 16/04/2013 16:40

guff i had the exact same comment. I told her how much it upset me and she felt really bad Grin.

DIY excellent! Fx that the bloods look good too and you'll be on track.

thunder be strong. look at it in baby steps - only 2 more sleeps and then it's only 1 more sleep until you can POAS. And then if it is a bfn, only a little while to wait for AF

yes santa I'm with tins - want to hear about all these amazing shagging opportunities! Don't think I've ever had one either thunder. Boo.
I also think you should POAS on friday. thunder and tins reasoning is rock solid.

After being all prepared to seduce DH tonight I'm now feeling sick and sore-throaty and generally rotten Sad. But we HAVE to dtd! It's ov day!
had momentary thought that i feel nauseous due to false bfn 1.5 weeks ago but i'm sure that can't be

Bakingtins · 16/04/2013 16:16

DIY that sounds like good news. FX is all keeps progressing as it should. Smile

Santa surely that makes it thrice-in-a-lifetime shagging opportunities? (and now I want to know the gory details!)
13DPO doesn't sound too early to POAS? If you get a BFN you can still be secretly hoping that it's a bit early and you'll be sticking within the rules if you POAS again early the next week. Do it!
I'm with you on the setting limits, age gaps getting ever bigger thing. In a lot of ways I'd be much happier now if we decided to give up on the idea of a third, but I think I'd probably regret it in years to come and wonder if we might have succeeded if we'd had that one last try....

Thundercatsarego · 16/04/2013 16:08

Great news diy, one step at a time. Fx for the next step too. How many digis did you do?

santa, if you ov'd early then fri might not be too early for you after all? Do you think you'll test? Sorry to read you're stressed too and also sorry about missing out on the amazing shag opportunities- what are the chances?!

WillSantaComeAgain · 16/04/2013 16:03

x-posts with DIY - thats hopefully good news, so will keep those fingers crossed that all is well.

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WillSantaComeAgain · 16/04/2013 16:03

Hello all - I've been lurking, not posting [Bad Santa]. thunder I won't fish slap you again, but let me know if you're still needing another one. Though impatience for AF isn't necessarily a fish slapping offence, as its not negafricktivity.

And also, impatience for AF is not an exclusively TTC emotion - unless you are lucky enough to be regular as clockwork (i.e. on the pill) its always a pain as I was never 100% sure what day it was going to arrive, and I always sort of forgot when it was due. So then you spend a week being all PMT and emotional forgetting you've probably got PMT and you're stressing over nothing. Or (going back even further to pre-DH days) you're hoping and praying it arrives on a Monday so that you're free for your date at the weekend (when you hope to get lucky Wink). [Can I just add that AF has stopped me not once, not twice but THREE times from once in a lifetime shagging opportunities, due to its untimely and unexpected arrival]

So, I'm 10DPO, but I think too early to POAS on Friday (would be CD25, "normally" have 29/30 day cycles) - though I did ov earlier than previously this cycle. But waiting till the following week is really late. Actually dreading it, either way anyway. I'm going to be gutted if I don't get a BFP (waving bye bye to the 2013 bus, which is pulling out of the station) but also I know I'll be almost gutted if I do get a BFP, as it will really feel like a here we go again. I can't be arsed to pg again. 5 out of the past 10 months pregnant and nothing to show for it but then I'm secretly sick as a pig with jealousy at spanish's twin news

Slightly getting myself to the position that if I am not pg by the end of this year, I'm going to give up and stick at one. Or look at adoption. I don't want a 4 year age gap and as the longer I leave it, and the easier its getting, the harder its going to be to start again with sleepless nights, nappies, vomit, breastfeeding and a ruined figure. Sad

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DIYandEatCake · 16/04/2013 16:00

Had scan, they can see a sac in the right place so that's good news. Have to go for bloods again tomorrow - they found some free fluid I think which means they can't exclude anything odd going on? - am glad about bloods as I should know soon if the hcg's going up as it should.

GuffSmuggler · 16/04/2013 14:10

I'm glad I came here, you are all make me laugh with your stories of trying to DTD Grin We are still yet to DTD post MC as I had a bit more blood at the weekend but I'm already dreading it thinking about how MUCH effort I made to get PG last time!

I know I must try and just 'enjoy' it but the MC has really damped all enthusiasm in that area at the moment - one of the most insensitive comments I've had from someone after the MC is: 'well just think of all the fun you're going to have trying for another!' Hmmm not really getting excited about that right now as I've just had a fanny operation and am still bleeding heavily from it.... Hmm

Anyway, big slap to thunder the 2WW is excruciating, it's like time stands still!

I'm sorry to hear your story littlebairn, if I was your cousin I would totally understand and it's no-one else's business really.

I hope to hear good news from scan results, tests and some BFP from you all soon.

Thundercatsarego · 16/04/2013 12:57

Thank you tins I needed that. And I knew what you meant. Just feel like I have no patience to wait for a few more days at the moment. Going mad!

Bakingtins · 16/04/2013 12:49

Sorry that sounds bad! I mean by either AF arriving or a surprise BFP...

Bakingtins · 16/04/2013 12:48

Big wet fish coming your way, Thunder ! Hope you are put out of your misery one way or the other in the next few days.