TTC after MC - nice people in crap times, full of posifrickingtivity

I have Internet OPKs and have not yet had a proper equally dark or darker than the test line result. I'm getting a little disheartened now.

onelittle thanks - it's reassuring to know that they haven't worked for other people too and it's not just me! I might give a CBFM a go...

littlemiss I never had any luck with the OPKs I got from the internet. And I had two mcs to show at least I'm ovulating. That's why I got a CBFM, but I haven't used it so I don't know if it could detect my LH surge.

Just checking in. Today would have been my due date so feeling very down :(

Have been trying to conceive again since December with no luck so far. Tried to be cool and calm about it initially but started to use the ovulation stick thingys for the last couple of months - but not had a single positive test yet so have no idea if/when I'm ovulating, which is frustrating and making me v worried that there is something wrong....has anyone had a similar experience?

ldt87 - I had an overwhelming feeling of needing to conceive again straight away and it made me feel very guilty. But we held back to give me a chance to recover a bit, as I was so completely shattered by the whole miscarriage experience. Hope you're doing OK x

jbrd I like your enthusiasm. Can we start using our CBFM straight away? I thought we needed to wait for the next period? I'm having very light bleeding atm, but it's supposed to be normal for it to continue for another 10 days. Has anyone started with the CBFM in these circumstances?

DD and I went to a birthday party of one of toddler from my NCT group. I guess you all know what is there to wait for me. One of the mums is due in late September. I couldn't help it but think my first mc would have been due early/mid september.

Hi jbrd, I'm glad that the discomfort has stopped and you have brushed yourself and your equipment off ready to get back into action. It's not easy at all and you have been through the mill. I hope the scan gives you the all clear. Your baking sounds fabulous- brioche?! Amazing.

tins yeah I really understand what you're saying. The good thing is that you will get that information either way in June. It's shit that it's June rather than this week but it is coming. So we're hoping for an answer that is very treatable, yeah? --naively pictures a shiny yellow 'fix it' pill>

Morning, ladies, I hope you are all well!

One Well, I concluded that it only really could be the sac - given the size and shape... Although I am having another scan on Friday to confirm that everything is really gone. The sac (if it was that) was a large-ish, very irregular, messy piece of tissue, attached to a round and firm tissue, which I assume was the placenta... Or it could be the other way round?! But it was definitively a two-part thing, that's why I thought that this is it. But given that I was in really bad pain before passing it, and have had none since then, I'm pretty certain.

Rock Baking is my other therapy - I've been baking all last week, lots of bread and a few cakes and biscuits! Def not good for the diet, I agree. DH's work colleagues love me, as they have been getting the cakes. I made a brioche yesterday for the first time, and it turned out really well. And am about to start another bread before going out into the garden again.

So - I have reset my CBFM and started a new chart on FertilityFriend, the thermometre has come out again, and 6amthe daily alarm for temp taking set to 6am. Ttc is a lot of work

None taken, Essex don't worry. We know what you are trying to say. Enjoy your new LO.

Hey thunder. It felt better initially to be "doing something" but now it's a long wait to see if there is anything comes of it. I'm not sure how I'll handle the most likely outcome which is "we can't find anything wrong so there is no specific help". If they do find something treatable that gives me more hope for next time, and if they find something that means we have no chance of a successful pregnancy then I'll deal with that. The in between is difficult to know how to handle.

Really didn't mean offence baking and little, lucky is probably the wrong word, you are never lucky to lose a baby but I meant turning a horrible negative into a positive that it allows you to really appreciate the process of pregnancy and when you have your babies, which I'm sure you will and you have to believe you will to get you through this, the loss makes you truly cherish that you are in fact lucky with the end result. Sending you all messages for sticky beans very very soon!

I thought you said June, tins, that is rather a long time. Do you feel better that you're in the system now or is it still horrible being in limbo as any time?

Well done guff, but stay away from the emails!

I'm ok. Have had samples taken for all the tests but now have to wait until June for next appointment with consultant, it takes a long time to process some of them. Limbo city.

Well we have DTD this weekend so I'm officially back on the 'am I, aren't I?' TTC rollercoaster

Just had someone from my original NCT group email to say she is expecting 2 days before what would have been my EDD. I know a few people expecting in Sept now as they are all just announcing it after good scans, it is so painful

Now stay away all you AFs, we need some BFPs round here!

Ahh thank you south tins. Yeah hopefully this month or next I'll be back on track. Ibthinkbthe reason why I still have the hangover at this time is my age!

When is your next appointment again? How are you doing?

thunder you have a hangover at 5 o'clock? Respect. I just couldn't do it anymore - too old for all that. I have a good feeling for you about this cycle - your thyroid levels are only going to need a tiny tweak in time for ov and a BFP is coming your way mid-May for a January baby.

Hi everyone. CD1 here and I have a hangover. Feeling positive though- I have so much to be thankful for in my life so I'm going to eat chocolate and remind myself that there is plenty of good as well as all the shite.

I appreciate Essex's message, and her honesty. We are not all going to feel the same as we're all so different and have had such different experiences. It is good to hear of a happy story to keep our hope alive.

Fx saggy

Essex thanks for sharing your experience - I find it comforting to hear of people coming out the other side with a happy outcome.

We have had another busy weekend of birthday celebrations - turned 29 yesterday - last year of my 20s - where did that time go???? Currently 4dpo - stay away AF!!!! X

essex I really love hearing stories like yours.... It's like a shining beacon and the end of our deep dark tunnels, it gives you that "if they can do it we can" feeling. Thanks so much for sharing xxxxxx

LB I thought exactly the same, but I know Essex is only trying to help. Even having had a MC and then a rainbow baby I still wish I'd never lost the first one. Of course now I wouldn't be without DS2 but equally I would have loved the unique baby that I lost, and after 3 MC lucky is the last thing I feel.
Saggy keeping FX for you. Stay away, witch!

Thanks for the finger crossing. I'm not POAnymoreSs until at least Tuesday, Friday if I can hold out. I did on Friday and ^possibly got the faintest line you could possibly imagine if it wasn't just the watermark, then yesterday and got nothing. It's really early, and I'm not going to torture myself because its pointless. I got really early BFP last time, but it was ectopic and that messes with your hormone levels. I'm also not going to get my hopes up.

essex I know you mean well and im pleased to hear of your happy outcome. But after what I've been through I will never feel 'lucky' for having lost my DS and all the truma it caused physically and emotionally.

Hope you don't mind me posting here still and checking up on you all.

I saw my sac, OLTT, and it was unmistakably that. Pale in colour, right shape, with tiny cord sorry.

Hope you have a relaxing day x

jbrd I'm planning to go back to work on monday. But I have a desk job so definitely nothing strenuous. I'm with you about feel relieved that it's all over. It's a sort of closure for me. Btw, how did you know it's a embryonic sac? The doctors described the clot as liver like, which is pretty accurate. And they say the sac is totally different.

However, I'm taking full advantage of doing nothing at home though. DH went to get us a M&S meal deal last night - a chicken balti, some roasted veg, and profiteroles. It was really good. He's going to do the cooking today too. I'm just sitting on the sofa watching tv .

Thanks Jbrd - it's faded to very light spotting now so I think you're right and its a delayed reaction - hopefully that means I can start counting down to AF/BFP soon :) Glad the gardening was therapeutic, baking tends to work for me but sadly not so good when trying to lose weight!

Saggy fingers crossed for you.

OLTT so glad you went to A&E when you did - take it easy hun, you need to let your body recover.

MrsExcited I like that logic! My DS is a March baby and it worked perfectly like that, so hoping we all have lovely winter/spring babas.

God OLTT that sounds horrific, poor you. I'm glad your dp took you to a&e when he did. You're very brave not to have told work the truth, but make sued you take the time you need to recover and don't go back any sooner than that xxx

Jbrd I'm so very sorry for you too xxx

saggy fingers crossed. Have you done a test this morning?