TTC after MC - nice people in crap times, full of posifrickingtivity

Wowee Santa that's amazing. Not writing much as on phone but had to comment on that news.

welcome newbies.

Someone add me since I'm on phone please?

Alyant79 1DD 1 MMC, TTC cycle 1, AF due 3rd may

Can someone add me too:

Topslou 0dc, 2mc, ttc cycle 1, af due 16/05

As much as I want to get pregnant this month I also don't as it would be exactly to the day that I got pregnant last year and then had a mmc. It's bad enough comparing one pregnancy to another let alone when you're working to exactly the same dates.

Welcome newbies. Sorry that you're here. There are lots of lovely ladies with good advice & big ears for listening and strong arms for comforting hugs. It's really helped me through some tough days and as lots of people have said its easier to reveal your true feelings here than in RL.

Mummytothearkbuilder - 1DS, 1MC - TTC cycle 2 - AF due 1st May
SaggyOldClothCatpuss 1DS 1DD 1MC -TTC cycle 2 AF/POAS 23April

Seaside - so glad you felt the acupuncture had a positive affect - I am a firm believing in doing things that help you through TTC and have a positive effect on your way of thinking even if people around you are skeptical. Keep us posted on how it goes xxx

Saggy - good idea about the stats - I am on my iPad and couldn't cut and paste so wondered whether one of you lovely ladies could add me:

Mummytothearkbuilder - 1DS, 1MC - TTC cycle 2 - AF due 1st May

Xx

p.s. sorry for marathon post!!

Hi everyone, sorry to see you newbies, hugs and hand holding for all those awful sounding experiences.

Thought I'd report back on acupuncture, which I had on Sat. It was really helpful for reassurance, mostly, the lady was so positive about my chances. It was really hard not to just sob on her really, but that's why I went in the first place I guess. We talked through stress symptoms, and the fact that my periods are wack suddenly, and she strongly advised I wait at least 2 months before TTC again. Which, obviously, I don't want to do, but oddly I feel she might be right. Also I'm paying her £45/session so I might as well take her advice!

I feel a bit relieved at the idea of a break, strangely, and so much is happening right now - stressful job, renovating house, working all hours - that I think it'll be a good idea to start TTC again when life is a bit calmer. So I lay there like a pincushion for 40 minutes, and I don't feel terribly different from the actual needles, but I'm going to see her once a week for this cycle, and then, if I can, I'll hold off for two months.

So, I would recommend it, mostly because it feels good to be doing something positive - and also she had such a different take from Western doctors, who just look at charts and numbers and if they're not off, you're fine apparently. Something about it was really calming, which is just what I need right now!

So, I'm going to keep lurking in the background, I want to see how you're all gettting on, and I hope not to see any of you in 2 months time! And that you're all on your way to 2014 horse babies (2014 sounds like a good birthday year to me).

Thank you so much for all your posifrickingtivity, having this thread has helped so much, just when I needed it. I'll be back for fish slaps in 2 months...and go easy on your poor OHs!! xxx

Is it about time we had a new set of stats ladies? Shall I start us off?
SaggyOldClothCatpuss 1DS 1DD 1MC -TTC cycle 2 AF/POAS 23April

Welcome Birds, Im sorry to see you here. We are a lucky thread though, so fingers crossed. Take a peak up there^^ at Fri 05-Apr-13 21:50:38 for the light hearted thread rules, and dive right in.

Hello, I think I was on this thread several threads ago but have had a bit of a break from mumsnet while in strange limbo between miscarriage/ttc again - i had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks and didn't get erpc straight away - we waited for three weeks for something to happen naturally, but apart from constant bleeding nothing did happen, so finally went for erpc two and a half weeks ago. Stopped bleeding this week, thank goodness - about ten weeks after it started, just ridiculous, and it's been so exhausting - and we're finally feeling able to start thinking about trying again. (And maybe actually doing the deed!) Anyway, that's just a long preamble to saying hello and can I please rejoin the soon-to-be-knocked-up-again gang? (positive thinking!!)

ariel and bakingtins I love the idea of planting something for the baby.

mummy if your a cow that makes two of us heheeee, I've deleted loads of people... Personally I think If they can't see things from this side of the fence and become offended then they weren't really my friends in the first place! I can see why they would want to shout it from the roof tops I really do but surely they can understand why I want to scratch their fucking eyes out

Hi newbies so so sorry your here, it's really really crappy... No one can understand the ups and downs that you go through and the guilt you feel when you begin to feel positive again... You really are in good hands here, it's amazing how many women have been through this...and it's only when your experiencing it that friends and family volunteer such experiences (of course it's a conversation killer in normal circumstances) but I too have had students come to me a confide in me about their MC's I think they find it easier to talk to someone that gets it and understands that the pain will always be with you and that its ok to "not be over it"

Oh baking I've just shuddered at the thought of going through another booking appointment. I totally agree if when I get PG again there is no way I'm going through that rigramole of form filling/question answering/weeing in a pot/bloods taken until after the 12 week scan.

saggy you are going through exactly what makes me dread TTC again! The 'am I/aren't I/I won't POAS it's too early/well maybe I will'. It really is enough to drive you bonkers!! We are all willing your AF to stay away.

Hi aerial, littlepea and lovely, so sorry you're here, hopefully we can all get each other through.

Hello Lovelylara Sorry to see you here too (in the nicest possible way).

It's nice to have somewhere to hide. We didn't tell many people about the pregnancy so don't have many RL people to talk to.

Please can I join too? I was due in November too and miscarried last Thursday :( Feeling rather fragile, mentally and physically, but a little better than last week.

Thanks ladies - I'm going to de-friend her - she is lovely but I don't really need her as a friend on Facebook. I just wanted to make sure I was being a complete cow or over sensitive by it xx

Hi aerial and pea too.

Mummy I think you can edit whether you see the posts in your newsfeed without actually defriending if that helps?

That's a lovely idea Bakingtins - I'm sorry to hear about your losses. The new rose bush should have some lovely peach 'bowl' shaped flowers, will look forward to those later in the year. LOVE roses.

Are you actually friends, mummy?

If not yes defriend her. Or just do that thing where you don't see her updates?

Okay posted too early!!!!!

She used to be his old key worker at nursery - do you think it's acceptable to de-friend or am I a cow? Xx

Welcome ariel and littlepea - sorry you are both here :-( you will find lots of support on here, it really is a safe haven.

I am currently 7dpo and was feeling really positive but this afternoon saw someone I am friends with on Facebook post a 16 week scan pic with her due date the same as mine and I had just gone to pieces. I keep looking at the pic and are a perfectly formed little baby and can't help thinking that I should have one just like that inside me. She is completely entitled to post her scan pics for people to see I just don't know if I can look at them and see all the comment and updates etc - am I a complete cow for de-friending her?? I don't know her that well - she used to be my DS's key worker at his

Ariel and LittlePea - sorry you are here but you are very welcome.

All the talk of booking appts made me give a wry smile - I actually started to MC first time at my booking appt and the other 2 have been the week it should have been and I've had to cancel at last minute and throw the sodding form in the bin in a temper
If there's a next time I will inform MW I'm pregnant but I'm not making any appointments until I'm past 12 weeks. It will be my 6th pregnancy, I have taken so much folic acid I rattle and they are not going to tell me anything I don't know. Will be having consultant care from the off next time anyway.

Ariel your rose bush has a lovely name. What are the flowers like? I find gardening very therapeutic as well - I have a little corner of the garden where I've planted some 'memorial' plants (chosen for flowering around MC or EDDs, lovely names or associations with remembrance). I find it comforting to go and potter there.

Sorry new to MN...

Could I join? DF and I lost our first in early March..

I've just recommended this site to two of my students and told then how much it helped me, one of them had a bleed at 6 six weeks (she's currently 12 wks) and has just started having pains in her lower back and abdomin, I was so worried for her that I contacted her GP and father - she is currently on route to A n R she was incredibly destressed (obviously) especially when one of her peers told her how she felt the same pains when she MC I simply informed her it was precautionary and not to worry....now I'm worried ;(