From egg to egghausted. The journey part one!

Ah thank you BartBaby. I was so poorly yesterday after going running, think the heat got to me. Who says this getting fit is good for you, eh?!

Depending on the results of the blood tests I may push my GP to do something more quickly - if everything comes back ok I'm sure he'll say we have to wait it out till the new year, if not perhaps he'll authorise more tests. I did look at going private but it's £200+ for the initial tests at both of the places I tried. OH is desperate for a baby BUT irritatingly reluctant to go for tests after his last girlfriend lied to him about it for so long. Ho hum, at least once I have the results I can go from there - even a "it all looks ok" result would be encouraging at the moment.

I realised that as AF has happened along early again this month, it looks like I'm down to a 25 day cycle and hence it will happen during my trip to Barcelona next time, how annoying!! Of course there's the chance that it won't happen at all but I don't think I'll be relying on that when packing all my, er, requirements for the trip.....

Toast and Nutella - yum yum!! And thank you for the good wishes, it means a lot! x

Sorry AF got you i do think its slightly better for her to arrive early though rather than late. Being late and getting the hopes up even more, although i know its no consolation. As you said though it is at least good about the tests. The sooner they are done the better then you can at least plan your next move. It may be worth pressing your gp further for some quicker action? it may just be that the waiting lists in your area is longer. Sometimes there is a difference in the local authorities with what they will and wont do with things like IVF and surgeries etc. Have you looked at private tests? Im not sure on costings or anything but it cant hurt looking into it.

Thailand will be amazing! not that i am at all jealous lol. And barcelona aswell Hopefully you will have a lovely relaxing time and it will take your mind off things for a bit. I doubt my holiday will be even slightly relaxing with ds but i cant wait for it all the same. And people always say that they get upduffed when they decide to have a break, so maybe this will be the case for us?! I hope it happens at the most inconveniant time for us!

I hope you start feeling better soon Ive had a DH free and DS free evening so ive enjoyed a couple of blue wkd's and toast with nutella for my tea just because i can!

AF arrived early for me today, not due till Thursday..... irritating in a way but means I can go for the next tests Wed/ Thur rather than missing them yet again!! And after that I should have the results in a week or so, so HOPEFULLY by the end of next week I'll know whether everything is (relatively) ok, or whether I should be asking my GP for further tests I agree, 18 months is a ridiculously long amount of time to wait when the NHS website actually says 6 months for women over 35, I'm guessing that it goes by your local authority or whoever complains the loudest as to who gets treatment.

I have heard before that it takes a few months for AF to settle down once you come off the pill, and although light it's still regular which can only be a good thing!

Completely understand about the holiday, OH is thinking of taking us to Thailand in Sept which would be amazing, but then I'm guessing we'd run into problems if I had to have various inoculations whilst TTC so we might have to put everything on hold till after that. In the meantime we are at least going to Barcelona in a few weeks' time so I really need to make an effort to not look like a piggy in a summer frock by the time I go. Of course, I can then fully justify lots of yummy food and wine by the time I get there

I did have a lovely weekend thank you and hope you did with the celeb-spotting excitement too!! Don't know why but I was a bit down today, probably with the arrival of AF to put an end to another month's hopes, and also because I know how much OH would love us to have kids. We're only on month 4 of TTC but already it seems like forever

18 months seems like a long time?! Tbh i would have fibbed aswell if i could. Good luck with the next lot of tests. Its sods law isnt it that out of 7 days, it normally falls on the only 2 you cant do?!

Well af showed up for me bang on time. They've only been lasting 2 days each so far and although that does seem like quite a good deal, i was getting a bit concerned that there might not be enough blood in the lining to hold a fertilised little bean, hense them being so short. I went to the doctors though and she didnt seem concerned. She said all the stuff i was expecting like it can take up to 6 months for the hormones to get back to normal and to keep taking the vitamins etc etc etc. she did say to go back though once its been 6 months if they are no different. So at least im half way there.

We're sort of having a couple of months break now until after our holiday in september although i use the word break in the loosest possible sense im not going to use opk's or do any temping. And im trying to be less obsessive about it and counting days all the time (but i already know roughly the day im due to ov so im not sure how well i will be doing with it all nearer the time!) but id quite like a few drinks in the sunshine, and to look relatively ok in my bikini if i dare get one! Although were not preventing things either so maybe im hoping a bit of reverse psychology on my body will do the trick and many people do eventually get upduffed when they take a break!

Sorry for the long post! I hope you are having a fab weekend away. The weather has been gorgeous hasnt it?! We took ds to watch the racing at Croft Circuit today and Andy Sugden off Emmerdale was racing made my day anyway! Lol

Ah well of course not!! OH has been working loooong hours this week, but we're going away for the weekend to visit friends, so that will be a nice break. I think I may even have to have a few glasses of wine given that there's only a very small chance of me being upduffed this month.....

We've only been trying since March really, admittedly I did fib to my GP and tell him we'd already been trying 9 months, but then time is not on our side (I'm 36) and as he told me we'd have to wait 18 months for any help on the NHS, I'm glad I did!

First lot of blood tests were yesterday, with my luck days 3 & 4 (when the next lot are due) will fall on a weekend AGAIN though which is the one time I can't have them.....

Ha ha ruby well obviously its nothing that dh has done that has made him poorly.... one advantage of already having my ds is that dh would never get away with going away for a week boozing!

Im sure the bloods will turn out fine. I hope they do. How long have you been ttc now?

I stupidly poas on cd's 9, 10 and 11. Thought i may have ha a v v v faint barely there line on cd9, but nothing on 10 or 11 (although 11 wasnt even with fmu) so now im cd12 and out of tests and waiting for af to arrive. I may have just tested too early but im not really holding out much hope.

At the risk of TMI - I don't think this will be our month as OH & I have only managed to DTD once over the right time - he's been ill yet again since returning from holiday!! And yet somehow he can't connect boozing all week in Ibiza with now feeling rubbish.....

BartBaby - I have my day 21 blood tests on Thursday, once I've had the day 2 ones (trickier to arrange time off for as of course I'm never sure when CD1 will be!) I'll have had all the tests that I can for now, and (assuming all is ok) everything else is up to him. I don't think there's anything 'wrong' with either of us, but at least the tests would help us know for sure.

Minion - any news??!

Welcome back minion hope you had a fab time thats certainly a lot of dtd so you must be in with a good chance. I also dont think i will be upduffed but as you said there is always that glimmer of hope there.

ruby i hope things are ok with you. Just explain to dh that even if there was something wrong with his little swimmers then that still doesnt mean he has missed his chance. There are all sorts of things that they can do these days. And really the quicker he finds out the better so other options can be looked at sooner and it can be fixed. If he leaves it too long and something is wrong then he may infact miss his chance twice then.

Nothing new here with me really. 8dpo and dying to poas Still have the sore fuller boobs, occasional nausea, bit if backache in bed. All are my pre af symptoms. Ive come to the conclusion that as i only had my coil removed 3 months ago my lining probably isnt thick enough yet for a little eggy to get comfy which would explain why my last 2 af's only lasted 2 days each so i think it will be another few months at least. Its a good job i enjoy the trying part!

Hi ladies,
Well I'm back from holiday and 10 days worth of trying to get upduffed. It was over my fertile week and we did it every day so now I'm just hoping for the best.
It's a little different this month, don't normally get any symptoms till a week before AF but this started 10 days before.
Different kind of cramping, more like sharp pains to the sides with a feeling of 'fullness' much like when you really need to number 2... Sorry.
Boobwise they're not as itchy as last month but they have got bigger and I am probably kidding myself, a little more veiny?
Also, and this may be tmi for this time of day but in the interest of science, ysterday I had a huge amount of lotion like cm. never noticed it before, and cervix is still high.
Backache has also returned after its 4 month hiatus,
Now I don't think I am pg but there's always that notion of doubt...
Roll on the 2nd x

Oh how true!! He'd rather not have to think about until I can 'prove' that any problems are on his side. Well, hopefully there won't be any problems, but if all my tests come back ok and still nothing is happening, perhaps he'll take his head out of the sand and agree to have ONE test as opposed to the FOUR blood tests I'll have to have.....

He says that as he did have a sperm test about 5 years ago, he doesn't want to have another as if there was something wrong now (that one was fine) then he'd feel like he missed his chance to have kids - he was desperate to have them with his ex but she lied to him for years and stayed on the Pill. Which I agree is a horrible evil thing to do to someone who trusts you, but doesn't help me now!

Still on Medium on the CBFM so fingers crossed for High/ Peak on Thurs

I think with men well a lot of them anyway if they dont know about a problem, then there isnt a problem, and then they dont need to fix it. Where as with us women, or at least where having babies is concerned, the quicker we find out if there is a problem, we can find out what it is, and then we can do something about it to fix it and get on with the ttc again.

I think a lot of the torture with these things is really the just not knowing. Its the same on the 2ww. It kills me that i cant just fond out right now and be done with it and deal with it if its not the answer i was hoping for! Hopefully once you have your tests back he will be a bit more forthcoming with you. Failing that just make his appt and frog march him down there

Ohhhh I hate that job too!! Decided I hate cleaning the kitchen more though. I do a big batch of cooking to make a few lunches, and then I seem to spend the next two days washing up from it!

The only time I got a positive result on an OPK was when I hadn't drunk much water - I'd get a faint line other times I was expecting it but not the dark line I was supposed to. Now you come to mention it though, it's worth me trying again this week to see if I can get that and the CBFM to match.....

Pah, no, he's being really irritating about it. I think I might have more luck if all my tests come back ok, which I won't know for about a month (after the next lot my last ones are on CD3 of the next cycle). I understand that in a way he'd rather not know, as he thinks that if his sperm count is low then he's missed his chance, but in my opinion IF it is low then at least we know and can hopefully do something about it. Just have to wait for the results of my tests I guess and cross that bridge if I have to!

I hate the washing and the cleaning and the tidying! Lol. Its the putting all the clean clothes away though that i hate the most. Always seem to be doing it! We had some of DH family round yesterday for his birthday so i had to do my tidying for that. He did take ds out for a couple of hours this afternoon so got a few hours by myself. Bliss!

You could be right about the opk's and drinking lots of water. Ive always found them really clear but im terrible for not drinking water! note to self to really try and drink more of it

Good luck for the bloods. Did you ever manage to get your DH to go for the sperm test?

I filled the rest of the day with cleaning, ironing and washing - not exactly thrilling but needed doing!! In bed already now though.....

Thank you for the advice about the ov'ing, I think we will time it just about right but sod's law he'll be wrecked from a week away so that will be another month to wait before TTC still, all I can do is try to stay healthy and positive. The OPKs never worked for me, not sure if that's because I drink lots of water and the instructions say to try not to?

CD21 blood tests are booked for a week on Thursday so will see how they go!

Well done ruby i think you deserve to put your feet up for the rest of the day now!

I normally ov on cd14 so that sounds about right with the monitor although i normally only use the opk's so unless you have a short cycle you should be fine for when he gets back. My DH works away sometimes during the week so i know awful it is worrying about if they will be back in time.

5dpo for me so nearly half way through the 2ww

I did it in 33:14 BartBaby although I am now very tired indeed!! Hope all this getting fit is worth it with a BFP soon!

CD10 at the moment and Medium on the CBFM - I'm hoping that High/ Peak will coincide with CD14 when OH is finally back from his hols.....!

Good luck for that ruby even the thought of it makes me feel tired!

Good luck to you Bartbaby!!

I'm on CD6, trying the CBFM again. There'll be no DTD for me until next Wednesday at least as OH is in Ibiza (so there's better be none for him too!!), however after that it'll be back to symptom spotting during the 2ww..... dear oh dear. In the meantime I have a 5K race on Sunday to worry myself about instead, don't think I can quite run 5K yet so we'll see how it goes!

How is everyone getting on this month? Cd 15 for me. Ov yesterday. Managed to dtd on cd9, cd11, cd13 and cd14.

Starting the 2ww now so ready for the going mad and all the symptom spotting!

It looks like AF is definitely on the way for me, had some spotting already just to add to an already crappy Monday - I'm still coughing and sniffling and am beating myself up about not sticking to the healthy eating and running that I've got into over the last few weeks. I know it's not productive to do that but you know when you have one of those days when everything makes you feel demoralised?!

Oh and I'm also going to be skint for the whole of June as work didn't pay my expenses in on time. I think I want to hibernate for a while please!!

I'm glad it's not just me who finds that phrase incredibly irritating!! Bless him, he is so broody but he doesn't seem to appreciate that sometimes these things need a helping hand, as you say. AF is due Wed/ Thur for me but I'm not holding out much hope; OH has been poorly for most of this month & I'm now coughing and sniffling too!

If it happens it happens is the one phrase that drives me bananas. He never had problems before having kids and just assumes it will always be easy sometimes lady luck is around but a little planning does not go amiss

mimili, I'm so sorry to hear that. it must have been upsetting for you. Are you still at your mum's? If so I hope she gives you big hugs, but if not please know that we are all thinking of you and hoping you feel better soon.

Nice to hear from you Bartbaby and good luck with the TTC! My OH would love kids but trots out phrases like "if it happens, it happens" which drive me insane when my point is that it probably will happen if only we can time things right. I never found the OPKs helpful personally but am getting along much better with the CBFM (Clearblue Fertility Monitor). That of course is far too technical for him so I've stopped trying to explain how it works!

Oh mimili i hope you are ok. It must be hard for you esp with DH being away. I dont have any experience with these things so cant offer any help or advice but we are here thinking of you and are here if you need to talk about anything or vent anything

Morning everybody!
Bit of a rubbish day yesterday.. the cramps etc got worse as did the bleeding.

I made a doctor's appointment and after a rather rough internal exam and a pregnancy test. Dr advised I've either had a very very early miscarriage or AF arrived early (although possible she didn't think it was the latter).
I know it's common but with hubby away, hormones awry etc. I can't help but feel a little sad.

Keeping my fingers crossed for all of you.