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The Elderberry Pavlovas are pimping everyday – a lovely thread for 30+ ladies TTC #1 (Thread 7)

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CatsCantFlyFast · 16/03/2013 14:42

Newbies very welcome provided they meet the entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 3+months, must have a special pot, NO instadiffers) and bring a bouquet of sausages when they join!

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haycorn · 23/03/2013 06:40

Morning berries! Yes I know it is indecently early for a Saturday, but got a text message from a friend about an hour ago announcing the birth of her baby boy, and sleep is now impossible. I think it has suddenly hit me that actually it might never happen for me, and that is very hard to deal with.

I haven't posted on here for a while because I've had a horrific couple of weeks at work, but I have been lurking and keeping up with everyone's news, and I'm so so sorry for you both merk and cherry. I just hope that this thread is done with the bad news now and the universe will start smiling at us berries again. And I'd be quite happy for it to start by giving me my period back. I can't believe I'm hoping for it after wishing it away for so many months, but it is currently CD52 for me and I can't stand not even being able to console myself with thoughts of this cycle being the one. I have never had a cycle longer than 5 weeks before, so I presume I must have completely missed my period this time. Come back period, I'm sorry I treated you so badly before, please forgive me!

Tallyra · 22/03/2013 23:28

yes, it really does.

Bunnygirlie · 22/03/2013 23:23

Baby name discussions already Crikey!

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CatsCantFlyFast · 22/03/2013 23:15

Does the dildocam actually look like any kind of 'dildo'???

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CatsCantFlyFast · 22/03/2013 23:14

a bit un*fair!

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CatsCantFlyFast · 22/03/2013 23:13

boodle your clue as to where you live is so cryptic my brain melted!
cats where is st George's? Read about it on a thread tonight but as I'm not from these parts I have no idea! I think there is a midwife led unit at the other hospital which I have read good reviews of but in all honesty I just hate hospitals so home would be my choice
tally its normal and natural to worry. However once its done you will forget all about it. Man or woman they've seen it before. Doesn't help you feel better but just keep that as your mantra in your head. Have you got a list of questions ready? Make sure you let us know how it goes
On a side note, as we have recently resurrected the baby name discussion(clearly its all now gone quiet) my DH wants his 'family' name as a first name for a boy. It's a lovely name now I've got used to it (although not one that can be shortened which I struggle with as am a lazy name person and shorten every name, even to just an initial if needs be). However I feel a bit short changed (didn't really want to change my surname after wedding as last child in our family with it and now it's gone) that potential (not yet conceived) baby would have first name and surname relating to DH's family and nothing from mine. Nephew already has my family 'boy' names so can't use them. It sounds really childish (because it is Grin ) but I can't get past feeling its bit fair! Ah well, by the time I actually have a baby we will probably be so old we won't even remember these names anymore!

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BoodleLovesPot · 22/03/2013 22:32

Sid, I had two females when I had the dildocam, but my letter very specifically said that it could be male or female staff. I understand how you feel but it's better than a smear, in my experience at least, as they're busy staring at the screen, not at your bits you.

I don't live near any of you...but I do live in an area with artificially fluoridated water, which I hate. If I want fluoride I'll get it in my mouthwash, thanks muchly.

Tallyra · 22/03/2013 22:31

thanks merk. Mr has come back in and given me a hug and apologised for not coping with my mood as calmly as I deal with his. Its a good sign. we might be up to snuggling tonight. maybe.
How are you today?

Bunnygirlie · 22/03/2013 22:30
ILoveMyCats · 22/03/2013 22:29

Surrey-ites unite! sid, I think the techs are women, but could be wrong. I'm booked in for one on 2nd April, so will be thinking of you and interested to hear about it.

ILoveMyCats · 22/03/2013 22:24

Yes, merk, I know it's too late. I had high hopes for yesterday as I had ewcm and pos opk, but a lot less cm today and the pain, so reckon we've missed the boat. Er, I think I've heard bad things about your local hospital (on the k2 bus), but you could choose to go to another one. I would like to go to st georges personally.

SidneyBristow · 22/03/2013 22:24

Forgot to add the other day that I'm in Surrey too! Must be something in the water own here.

SidneyBristow · 22/03/2013 22:23

My husband is one of those weirdo optimists too Grin. God bless him but sometimes the relentless positivity grates, and I'd prefer to see him down in the dumps sometimes about it. At least I'd have company.

Vagiscan (vagicam?) test tomorrow. DH was talking about what a relaxing weekend we'll have...um might be a little hard, mate, what with the stranger poking a camera up there.

Are the technicians for this sort of thing women, or am I being a bit precious for caring?

ILoveMyCats · 22/03/2013 22:18

Yes, DH doesn't seem to see the importance of timing.

barkingtreefrog · 22/03/2013 22:17

plumps not pumps. It's not inflatable....

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CatsCantFlyFast · 22/03/2013 22:17

cats honestly take a breath. If you have O'd then DTD is not going to change anything, it's too late anyway (sorry if that sounds harsh but may help you to de-stress).

I am finding sofa is much comfier with the addition of wine. Am home alone and reading childbirth threads Hmm and swinging between despair (it will never be my turn) and absolute excitement (my turn soon)! However am fascinated by all of it and am powerless to stop myself absorbing all the information I can find. Especially the big slagging off of my nearest hospital maternity unit (adds more arrows to bow for homebirthing argument with DH)!

Tally is Mr Tally looking after you?

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barkingtreefrog · 22/03/2013 22:15

That sofa does look rather lovely . DP is another in the camp of it will happen at some point and rolls his eyes when I don't like hearing about another pg. However after 15 AF's even he seems to be a little less sure.

ILoveMyCats · 22/03/2013 22:03

Oh, can I join you? After the clear ov signs yesterday and what I think was ov pain today (cramps on one side), DH has not been able to finish the job. We dtd last night, this morn & just now. Nothing. It's so frustrating after all the stress & worry, going to GP etc. bah!

Tallyra · 22/03/2013 21:27

The sofa of pity is lovely and comfy, thank you.

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CatsCantFlyFast · 22/03/2013 21:17

tally so sorry you're feeling crap. Have some Wine Flowers and cake! I'm tonight in a men are hopeless place, despite DH being lovely he has asked multiple times this week "what's wrong?"! I just don't think they 'get it', it doesn't connect with them in the same way and they don't seem to have have the ticking clock, the worry, the hormones etc. My DH wholeheartedly believes it will happen and it just needs time and cant seem to see the possibility that that might not be the case. Because of that nothing upsets him, he just thinks that that will be us soon. Wish i could do the same. Come join us on the sofa of pity

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BoodleLovesPot · 22/03/2013 20:45

Gah, Tally, I bloody hate pregnancy announcements - they have such a bad effect on me...much worse than getting AF each month, which is illogical when you think about it. I've had THREE pg announcements this week and they're all pretty close so I won't be able to get away from the big fat preggos them as they grow their bumps and whatnot. Sad

I think my DH is FINALLY starting to get how hard it is for me to hear pregnancy announcements but it's taken (tries to count on fingers and runs out of space) a lot for him to 'click'!

Tallyra · 22/03/2013 20:36

I'm sorry guys but I need to rant.
Just found out that an ex of dh that is good friends of ours, played her violin at our wedding and got engaged last year is 3 months pg.
On top of that, I asked dh to put my left over food on the table next to us so the dog didn't eat it and he bloody went and ate it himself. that was my lunch tomorrow!!!
And he seems to have finally got tired of the way I get upset every time I find out someone else is having a baby and we aren't. so he has gone out to the shed to get away from me and I am sitting on the sofa trying to stop the dog from eating his bandaged foot that he cut last night and trying not to cry, again. I'm so sick of this feeling.

Frogcatcher · 22/03/2013 19:37

Thanks for all the help & tips guys. I'm still getting faint lines on the OPK whatever that means so I'm going to try & stay positive. Guess we just keep DTD as much as possible at all times until I've worked out when the optimal time is! Shag week will be renamed shag month. Every cloud & all that...

Sending more Flowers to merk, cherry,bunny & anyone else who needs them right now.

SidneyBristow · 22/03/2013 19:36

So sorry cherry and hope that Monday brings you more answers Thanks go easy on yourself til then; I know, easier said than done.

ILoveMyCats · 22/03/2013 19:08

cherry , I'm so sorry about your news. Very glad you're off to bupa so quickly and that the nhs is jumping into action as well. Hopefully you'll get some answers. Try to relax this weekend. Nothing more you can do. Write down any questions you both have so that they're not churning round your heads.