The Elderberry Pavlovas are pimping everyday – a lovely thread for 30+ ladies TTC #1 (Thread 7)

Watching OBEM, not sure this is a good idea!

A mate's sister just announced her pregnancy. They decided to have a second, came off the pill in December, POAS in January and BFP. She's 39. Part of me was happy for her, she had had a couple of mc before #1, the other was put out, couldn't she at least have had the decency to take a few months over it?!

Considering taking the train tomorrow morning and hiking somewhere in the snow with the dog.

Ugh instadiffers! One of my friends had a baby last year and she was all 'oh we only did it once that month', at the time I thought it was funny but now I'm like how the f did they manage that?!?!?

Hey Cherry, you and me should get together. Between us we coould combine to become one functioning fertile woman.

Instadiffer woman from work had her baby today. I can't be bothered crying about it anymore.

Cherry, I've told a few people at work now, and I'm so glad I did as they have been really supportive and are looking out for me. There are plenty who I wouldn't dream of telling because their cliquey, passive-aggressive moaning gets me down but I've picked the ones I have told carefully, and they've been amazing.

Thanks guys, you are truly wonderful
I've told a couple of close friends - along with DH they've beem amazing. Wondering who to tell what now really along the way. As little as possible in most cases but clearly my many Dr apts and the sudden emotional instability will clearly point to something up. I manage a department at work, it's full on so will also need them to cut me a bit of leeway while I deal with this.

Boodle thanks for the advice, straight talking definitely appreciated, I can't thank you all enough will definitely check out the counselling options.

Hope you are all doing OK, I 'll let you know how Mon goes.

Thanks merk I'm a natural pessimist though so I'm not holding my breath!

cherry I think boodle is right, def ask about counselling and don't give up hope yet. Do you have friends/family that know you are TTC that you could chat to?

Hugs cherry. Hope you get some news on Monday that will make next week more bearable.

Watching Madagascar 3. In pyjamas. Another crazy Saturday night!

Cherry, come and join us on the sofa. All of those emotions are completely understandable. I've read more than once that coping with infertility is on a par with dealing with bereavement and I can absolutely see why. We all have these plans of how we see our future panning out and then something like this throws the most monumental spanner in the works.

You have another appointment on Monday, yes? Have they mentioned anything about counselling? I think you should ask if they haven't. NHS guidance is that all fertility clinics should offer counselling before, during and after treatment. It sounds like it could help you. I know it's something that I will strongly consider once I get to the clinic stage.

Don't give hope yet - this is a blow, that's for sure; there's no way of sugar-coating it for you and I think we are all sensible, straight-talking ladies here who would see straight through that anyway. However, in all seriousness, they will have options for you, even if the second opinion confirms what you already fear. Have you read the (sorry for saying this word) infertility boards? I don't post there but I read the threads and there was a lovely one last year from someone looking for an egg donor. She updated recently to say that she was doing well at 24 weeks pregnant.

Hugs cherry

merk Seeing as you asked, TMI though, I usually get a few days of brown goo so this pink stuff is odd, I fully expect the goo to turn up tomorrow though and AF on Monday.

thanks for thinking of me berries, am really touched circling between denial, anger and despair at the moment. It feels like grieving. Just wondering how I'm going to cope at work next week as TBH I'm in bits.

How you doing?

Sitting here on the pity sofa with a rose spritzer, can't believe DH has left me lol I do have my fluffy babies keeping me company though!

merk yep third day of pink spotting, AF due Monday.

Glad your dildocam scan went well, Sid! It is quite interesting watching the screen, isn't it? Can't imagine how exciting it must be when you get to do it because there's a baby there to look at.

Twinkle BFN but no AF yet? How many DPO are you?

Bunny, I expect to be on the pity sofa for some of the evening, although do need to DTD at some point...not crucial time yet, but like to get a good run up!

I really fancy a glass of wine but I know next weekend is going to be quite a boozy one so I think I should refrain. Maybe a hot chocolate as an homage to the snow.

Oh yes, fish & chips counts

sid dildocam sounded good!

frog I've been on Dianette on and off for years. I kept getting a doctor that said it wasn't safe and wouldn't prescribe it then the acne would come back and they'd try creams and antibiotics again, I even tried roaccutane which was horrible. However, although they promised me all the nasty side effects would be worth it in the long run as it's guaranteed to get rid of the acne forever it all came back when I stopped taking it as I ended up in hospital with acute colitis and the doctor thought it was too much of a coincidence I was on roaccutane so made me stop it. I was supposed to have taken enough of the course for it to have worked anyway by that point though. Four or five times I managed to then find a doctor who was willing to prescribe Dianette again and it all cleared up each time, but about a year before ttc they refused again and I'd been moved to Cileste (sp?) which wasn't as good for my skin and I'd started on antibiotics as well. Obviously had to come off everything when ttc and my skin has just got worse and worse since. It's now on my back and chest and creeping occasionally onto my shoulders, making summer and holidays miserable as I either cover up or feel even more self conscious. I just want to get pg so it will all be worth it, and I can see an end in sight as either the change in hormones will sort it out, or I can start taking more drugs again post pg/bf etc!!!
I believe I have tried everything and spent a lot of money trying.

cats we've been on a fish diet all week after a friend came to stay last Sunday who is on a health kick (she's super fit) and only eats veggie food or fish. We had salmon and cous cous when she came over, then this week DP has been at the Jamie Oliver app and cooked nothing but fish (and one night of chicken) this week. He doesn't usually eat fish but having been persuaded of the health benefits of not eating as much red meat, is now embracing it!! I've just called to ask him to pick up fish and chips on his way home from a mate's - that counts as well, right?!

bunny THE MOONCUP

It's me, iLoveMyCats under a new name that can still be shortened to cats, as I like it.

Ah thanks frog interesting!

Good newssid

cats you are so lucky,mine won't cook anything!!!