BFP 2013

Only she finds it funny when she tells people about what she does; we just feel for her.

Oh res that is :(

I think the sad thing is that the longing would never cease. I have a friend who is mid-40s and had multiple late m/carriages. She now accepts that she will never have kids but still longs for them so much so that when strangers ask her if she has them, she says yes and makes up their names and ages. Funny but sad too.

I'm at the beginning of my fertile period (cd13) and could kick myself for not dtd yet. In my defence oh has been ill - we were supposed to start last night but we didn't.

I'm with you on that! Expected O around the weekend of 30 March so started the week before that evert 1-2 days and have only just stopped. Had row after last night's efforts cause the DTD definitely strayed into automatic, TTC mode. Romance is dead in out house today!

Also, talking of giving up trying I thought I was ok about never having a baby and was starting to think about life just me and OH and then I saw on FB a few weeks back that someone was pregnant and it completely floored me. I was a mess all weekend, I didn't even leave the house.

Oh gosh we all sound so down, I really hope we all get the good news we deserve soon.

Thingy - I've tried all the dtd combos over the many many months of ttc (every day, every other day, throughout whole month, waiting till OV day, etc) and still NOTHING! You are right it's soooooo frustrating when you know you've done everything right.

I had high hopes for the cycle and now I'm in panic mode :( I brought the Zita West book yesterday and it said to dtd every 2-3 days to keep sperm fresh or the first two times of dtd in a new cycle are just dead sperm. OH and I haven't dtd in weeks and now I feel like our chance this month is slim :(

Does anyone else dtd all month? I have done in the past but to be honest we get bored of dtd all the time! You know the saying too much of a good thing?!

Know how you feel re thinking about giving up trying. I have the thought process every week but as soon as I see anyone with 2 kids (particularly two under 5s playing together), I know that I can't.

Only thing that has made me smile recently on the TTC front is Halle Berry. You go, girl. And it took her a while.

Sorry thingy x post. You try to be a little positive and I wade in again!

Oh no - just seen Leen's post re m/c too. Life is shit.

We are all so down. Maybe its the time of year or something. I certainly need a break. A nice holiday, cocktails, sandy beaches.. Well, I can dream. A close second will be our holiday in Cornwall in August. I think a bit of sunshine would help us a little and one of us to get some good news of course.
I have come very close to telling DP I want to stop trying. In fact I was awake until 3am thinking about it and how its affecting my well being. I'm pretty sure its just the disappointment getting to me though. Decided to ignore it until my hormones have settled a bit after AF.
kerry I hope she doesn't arrive. You've definitely dtd enough anyway! I find it quite frustrating when I've dtd every day and there's no way we could have timed it incorrectly, it just seems to raise the hopes even more.

Been reading what I missed. We are all down and the one thing that would cheer us all up is the thing we can't achieve! Grr.

Just had another thought. It was a year ago today that I stopped bleeding after my ERPC so we've been at it a year. Depressing. And that doesn't take into account the 5 months to get to the last failed time.

Ads hope your day goes well and quickly.

Hi guys. Sorry to read that everyone is a bit down but I'm not the one to cheer you up as the absence of success is really getting to me today.

Sorry too red re yesterday. It's horrible and if you mention it to people, most give you some sympathetic words but you can almost hear them thinking "erm, you need to move on".

Went out for dinner on Saturday. Out of 11 of us, there were 6 pregnants (all with DC already). No getting away from it.

Think my body is reacting to the stress of various things as no +ve OPK until CD 26. It's gonna be a long haul.

We def need a virtual cocktail drinking session ads

I am going to be away from DH again during the week for work. So haven't got a hope in hell of timing it for OV / will just have to see if the weekend shags work or not.

winkle I hear you hope you have a short wait for your second - you will have your first soon. It will happen. Virtual hugs all around.

Yes we all need a virtual glass of wine together to cheer ourselves up! I have the day from hell at work today so really dreading it and have woken up with lots of low back pain period pains - am more upset about all that than the fact af is on its way!!

Am sorry to hear again about friends babies and due dates - it's impossible to just get on with things when you have those kinds of reminders to deal with. We get good at the 'congrats with a brave smile' thing don't we?!

I am sending us all a massive virtual hug and a g&t! X

We all seem very down at the moment don't we. We need some good news soon.

I'm on cd12 and the monitor has gone to high so I'll be dtd. It's my second wedding anniversary tomorrow so feeling :( about not having a baby's I really thought I'd be planning my second by how, instead I'm still wondering whether I'll ever get my first,

I had a big slice of cheesecake and I still feel like crap. Just want all of this to be over. Going to try harder this month but I am all out of hope.
Sorry for sad posts but having a very bad day and don't know where else to vent my frustration.

Sorry ad :(

Oh red, I wish I could jump through the screen and give you a big hug. This process is too cruel. Be kind to yourself tonight xxx

I hate ttc too. AF did arrive winkle

Today is my CP due date and my best friend had a baby girl yesterday. Lots of messages on her fb congratulating her and I am just bawling my eyes out wishing that would have been me today. I am happy for her but really can't stop wishing it was me.

Just want to be pregnant so I can just get out of this rut. It's so cruel I am feeling so lost today

DP has said he's not bothered about the vitamin so we are sticking with Wellman afterall.
Sorry to hear that ads. I know the feeling, its getting to me too. I hope your OH is around to pamper you for a while.

another bfn today and lots of quite bad period pains - grrr! Well it took 10 months last time so I'm not sure why I'm surprised! I hate TTC!!

Thanks everyone. You are all so lovely. I'm feeling much better now.
I started to use TTC as an excuse too and now my clothes are getting a bit tight. I've decided to cut out as much of the unnecessary carbs as I can so I've bought some salad greens to eat instead of rice or potatoes with my meals which is a start anyway. And I've changed our meal plan to reduce red meat so our meals are predominately poultry and fish based now. Good luck to everyone trying to lose weight. We can do it!
Btw, I have heard in the news that l-carnitine has been found to be the reason why red meats are so unhealthy. I realised this morning that Wellman conception contains an amount of that nutrient so I have cancelled my future Amazon orders. Current advice is not to take Carnitine in supplement form if you're a meat eater. Just thought I'd let you all know. Any ideas as to which vitamin we could switch to?

winkle that's EXACTLY what I've been doing - puttin it off again and again with the same thoughts... But now the time has come!