Ttc after recent mc, for Creme egg scoffers, shared confusion and joint cursing of mother nature

Hello All, sorry that you are all having hard times with pg friends, I don't have that particular problem to contend with at the moment.

I do however have the smear test letter staring at me, was hoping to have the pg excuse, but suppose I better get on and have it (ugh shiver ugh)

Shell - looking forward to the "sextival" about start next week (DH is a bit scared when I call it that)

jbrd don't worry, it's natural. i'm actually fine again today, it just all hit home last night i think. i was surprised at how emotional i got, really didn;t think i'd be as bad. it just brought back the fact that it wasn't us celebrating..ya know? but now i can't wait to go visit and get baby squeezes from the little guy :)

I'm also dreading the soon-to-start influx of new babies that is imminent here. It'll be 1-2 babies per month starting more or less now (waiting to hear from a friend who was due last week). It's going to be so hard, and I hate myself for begrudging them their happiness and joy

i actually won't see her for a while as i'm in ireland and she's in england, i'll probably plan a visit over in a couple of months.

anyone seen thunder recently? helloooo! is dh feeling any better?

thanks everyone, i'm as expected but doing better thanks to my family and friends which is nice.

janie definitely better to have a melt before you see her, its hard to process the mixture of emotions, I'm sure even if you did seem a little upset she would understand!

Oh Janie - I can sympathise - I have two friends due to give birth first week of March so will need to 'man up' when it comes to visiting them - there is another girl on the periphery of my group of friends who I have a love-hate relationship with who I know is TTC and lets just say sometimes she and her DH lack any sensitivity (eg when she got pregnant with first baby - her DH said to our mutual friends - who had tried for 2 years to get pregnant - 'I got her pregnant first time - easy, Im not a jaffar' - whatever that means)

so I will have to plaster a smile on my face and you know I am pleased for people but it will hurt I wont lie

hi diy i know what you mean - the text that she'd given birth just came as such a shock last night as she was due on monday (my birthday) - i know people go early but i just hadn't prepared myself to get the news yet!

sorry AF is being a big tease with you... hope she finally buggers off x

Hugs, Janie better to do your crying before you have to face her in person. It's very tough to be torn between jealousy and happiness for someone.

Janie and shell Good luck with those turbo sperm!

spanish laughing at your horoscope Hope next week it says "a long term project will finally bear fruit"

arigold I can't imagine how you must be feeling, hope you manage to sort things out.

Janie, I'm already dreading my best friend giving birth and she's not even 12 weeks yet! I know I'm unlikely to even be pg by then due to our fertility issues, unless a miracle happens, which will be hard. But I'm happy for her too, just envious of her good fortune.

Af still hasn't completely gone, got caught out this morning after thinking it was all done, after a week and a half. Feel fed up bleeding and like my body's a bit of a mess. Ah well. Just booked my smear test for next week after putting it off for about 2 years, dreading it too but will be good to get it over with.

hey shell glad to hear you're feeling a bit more chipper. i would defo get to the GP, you shouldn't have to put up with that sort of pain so it's worth a shot.

we're heading away this weekend for my birthday for a couple of nights and hopefully next week should be (consenting) rape week! love the term turbo sperm! bring 'em on!!

i should have said that my friend had her baby a week EARLY so i just wasn't prepared yet

Hi everyone, I took myself off for a few days after that rant...I was SO angry ha ha am a lot happier now, had a fab couple of days off with DS and it's CD10 on Saturday so DTD can start up again in earnest...defo feeling like this is my month, as I say to DH bring on the turbo sperm (totally TMI ha ha)

Decided to cut booze out completely for the 2ww, we'll see how I get on with that!

Re the discussions on GP tests, I was thinking of going to see my GP if I don't get PG this time....if I say that I've had two miscarriages and explain how bad AFs are for me, do you think they may refer my early?

Hi to all the newbies, so sorry you find yourself here.

How are we all doing, any POAS action at the min? We need more BFPs!

hey girls, been a bit awol over the last few days and haven't had much time to read through so i'm sorry if it seems i'm ignoring anyone. hi to all the newbies, and sorry to see you here, but welcome to the gang.

i hope you are ok arigold and hope you have lots of support in the real world at the minute.

had a tough day yesterday. my best friend (who i love dearly) gave birth a week to a perfect little baby boy. i'm over the moon for them, she hasn't had it easy getting pg either. but i just wept and wept and wept last night...all night. i was reading all the lovely messages on facebook and i think i was just jealous that it wasn't me announcing such great news. that probably makes me sound like a right cow but i don't mean it it that way. DH didn't really know what to do and just let me get on with it, which kinda made me feel worse... i tried to explain why i was crying but he just said 'oh come on love' :(

then i got my smear test reminder letter this morning...more hoking and poking ffs

moan moan moan...sorry about that

Hi Arigold - I am so sorry but as others said hope you can resolve things with your partner. Hope you are ok.

Bakingtins - I tested negative for ovulation so may just be imagining things - my horoscope (believe it when I like it!) did say today that I shouldnt try to push things along before they are ready - so I am going to get back in my box now!

Also I imagine being pregnant after a MC must be nerve wracking so taking it day by day is all that you can do. Think everyone is hoping the best for you.

amelie FX!

arigold I'm sorry. I hope you can work things out. Are you ok?

liesVT welcome. You'll find plenty of sympathy for the WTF cycle on here. Hope AF shows soon and you get back on track with a more normal cycle.

Bakingtins congrats on the bfp fx
Arigold -oh dear I hope you can resolve things with your partner.

Hello all can i join? I found out i had a mmc before christmas and I had an erpc. I'm now still waiting for my first af. It's been nearly 7 weeks and still absolutely no sign. Starting to think ill have a 12 wk wait like when I came off the pill last year unless I get pregnant in the meantime as we're ttc again but due to cycle I very much doubt.

My partner has just left me so I will be leaving here, we let the stress get the better of us unfortunately.

I hope everything goes well for everyone and you get your bfps soon xx

bootyboo welcome, hope things settle back to normal for you quickly.

spanishlady you have the patience of a saint to be sure you are ovulating and resist jumping into bed. Hope it will stand you in good stead when you are ready to TTC again, must save you a or tune in ov sticks.

diyqueen I'm ok thanks. The world seems to be turning unbelievably s-l-o-w-l-y. I got BFP just less than a week ago and it feels like forever. Don't feel very pregnant. I'm trying to just take it as it comes and not plan ahead at all.

Hello All

hi Booty - where are you in your cycle at the moment?

I am CD4 (of second AF since Dec MC) - and very impatient this time. Feel like I'm wishing my life away. At least my CB Fertility Monitor will start asking me to POAS in a couple of days (this sates my POAS need )

bzzbee - have you had a follow up scan? are you all clear from the actual MC? I guess everyone is different, but would hope the MC bleeding would stop by 6 weeks? My first AF afterwards came exactly 28 days after MC, and was pretty gory for the first 2 days.
What do you do for a job? (don't have to say if you don't want to)

Hi everyone, good to hear all the updates.

Well I POAS again this morning as AF is still late and I'm still experiencing symptoms... still negative!

Presuming my cycle is still mixed up from the mc. Would quite like AF to arrive so I can get back to normal. I had a chocolate fudge cupcake to cheer myself up.

Hello all
Great to hear the updates and welcome but sorry-you're-here to the newcomers.
Re:job hunting, I have sent my CV out for a few roles now, no responses yet but it feels good to be "out there". Work is dull beyond belief. I think they are deliberately not giving me loads to do on account of the mc, that is the only explanation as where I work is notoriously tough in terms of workload etc. yawn. I'm not bothered enough to complain, energy levels very low.
It's week 4 since mc and apart from a few days last week when I got pains akin to ovulation pains and the bleeding petered off, I have had continuous bleeding. It's like a heavy/medium period now (actually hard to gauge after the horror of a mc..it's probably heavy but my expectations have risen!). Is this normal? Could this be AF? I guess the answer is there is no normal now!
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we seem to be in a holding pattern at the minute - dont think anyone is ready to POAS - unfortunately ):

Afternoon all. I'm lurking around not posting much and waiting for O. No sign yet which is good as I'm away from the sperm provider DH until Thursday evening. Am then going away again Monday morning so hoping to O in that window and get lots of action in. I normally o around cd17, which will be Saturday, so I'm hopeful that the timing will work out.

Feeling whingy and full of cold. Hope everybody's well. Any poas-ing action coming up?

will no doubt be wrong but... I think I can feel the start of mittelscherz today which if you take the day I started bleeding from my MC would make today the usual time I start getting it - I start to feel it and get a + opk around 13th day of my cycle - so I might do a ovul test to see - we arent ttc until after the next period so Im interested purely from the perspective of 'getting back to normal' and if I ovul then a period is 2 weeks away!

I am really hopeful