Ttc after recent mc, for Creme egg scoffers, shared confusion and joint cursing of mother nature

It's great that you went on to have DS tho :) we were concerned about it happening again ;(

Yeah I had no complications or anything so dunno why?! I always wonder tho as coincidentally DS was conceived after 3m, tho I know it's rubbish as its all luck really

Bakingtins glad I have too, it's nice to share and read other people's experiences...although its a really awful thing to go through its comforting to know we are not alone in this. I had no idea that the first cycle acted as a 'clear out' cycle. Think it's def best to wait until after bearing that in mind. I feel as though there is light at the end of the tunnel now we have decided ttc again...it gives me something to focus on as oppose to dwelling on the pain and injustice of what we are going through atm, not that I'm saying it will be easy.

Shellshock Wow really??!!!! 3 months?! Crikey that seems like a really long time to wait. It is a comfort and definitely makes me appreciate what I have been blessed with and I'm very lucky in that respect, I just wish I appreciated it more at the time. I was a very young mother and this was our chance to do it again 'properly' that may sound strange, plus my partner would really love children of his own and I appreciate how hard that must be for him xxx

fod I was told to wait for first af, we half heartledly tried anyway but no joy I think as it was a completely messed up cycle (and first af has lasted the best part of 2 weeks so still feeling pretty messed up this cycle too). I chose to let nature take its course with my mc too, didn't need any extra treatment but it did take a long time and lots of hospital visits for scans and blood tests. Hope all goes well for you.

Hoping af has finally finished but think I may have ov'd during the end of it (wtf?) so dammit may have missed my chance this month. Going to try anyway over the next week just in case. Definitely going to try opks next cycle. Being v lazy at the moment, my name change is very apt as I have done hardly any DIY/house stuff despite my good intentions but have eaten a tonne of cake, biscuits, Creme eggs etc...

Hopefully that helps you too then....the hospital told me 3 months but I think most people get told a month?? We didn't TTC for the first month at all tho, but I know some people do get PG again straight away, it's a personal choice.

Having children already must be a bit of a comfort too as at least you know you can (feel for your DH, as you say it's not right but can see why he is worrying that it's his prob).

I waited for nature too and miscarried at home, so again if I can help at all I will

Hi fod glad you decided to come across - the ladies on here are fab. There have been lots of posts about whether to wait once cycle to TTC again. Main reason quoted (which is not a v good one) is it makes a future pregnancy easier to date as it may not be obvious when you ov'd immediately postMC and you can use a MC date as an LMP date. Think that is where a dating scan comes in....
The other consideration is that a lot of us have found first period is a lot heavier and concluded that whatever the scan that gave us the 'all clear' says, there was still quite a lot of material/womb lining left behind, so first proper AF is a good clear out and getting everything back to normal. Plenty of people have got pregnant without a period and it's all been fine though. We didn't 'try' but didn't 'prevent' either, but I didn't get a BFP anyway. I think as soon as you are emotionally ready to try again I'd go for it. For a lot of us TTC is part of the healing process, I wanted to set things right in some way by getting pregnant again.

Shellshock I'm exactly like that, we have already talked about ttc I have ov kits left over from when we were trying before and have already decided to buy more...,its giving me something to cling to and helps me to look to the future. I have the "it can't all have been for nothing" mentality and I know that if I don't keep trying that's exactly how I feel.

I have a friend that lost 3 in a row and now has a little girl so that helps too.

They told me to try it the natural way as that would be better if I wanted to ttc again however they also said I would have to come in for a scan to make sure I had shed everything. If that's not the case I would have to have the op and then follow up scans to make sure that I was clear

They also said we should wait until I have had one menstrual cycle before ttc so that my body is back on track xxx

I totally understand that feeling fod, I felt that low for a good couple of weeks after it was all over....what have the hospital said to you abt what happens next? If you want any advice on what could happen I can help with some parts and there will be other people here that will have been thru the same unfortunately but that will mean we all understand.

Depending on what type of person you are, I found becoming a bit obsessed with TTC actually helped me climb out of the fog, I learnt my cycle inside out, charted etc. so I thought abt that loads instead...might not be your thing but it defo helped me.

Shout out if you need anything while you are going thru this x

Shellshock that really does help....any flicker of hope is greatly received right now. I think we saw it as some kind of death sentence (hope that makes sense) I'm glad to see that there really is life after mc.

My fiancé has been a complete rock, this has definitely brought us closer together and he has been so supportive and caring, family have been great too it's nice to know that we have support

I'm sure that there will much more venting to come xxxx

Hi fod same happened to me with my first MC, it is totally and utterly shit and all I can say is ride it out and try again when you're ready....I got PG with DS 3m after if that helps any. Hope you're being looked after in RL and come vent on here when you need

Hi folks.... Looking for guidance.

We had our 12 week scan on wed and we were told that they couldn't find a heartbeat -baby passed at 8 weeks- this is my first mc. I have had two healthy pregnancies from a previous relationship and my fiancé is concerned that he may be the cause - he has no children - ridiculous of course but I think it's parts of the process, I've blamed myself for sneaking cups of coffee, not noticing, looking for signs etc etc

We are at home awaiting for nature to take its course (we this never end!) then if course there is the joy of after scans and still the possibility of a ERPC

The only thing giving me hope atm is the possibility of ttc again, I read a few positive stories now of successful after mc so I have that to cling to, plus the research that says women are more fertile 6 months after mc - not sure how true that is

I suppose in a nutshell I am emotionally and physically fucked! Pardon the language I'm somewhat bitter atm at the injustice of it all and need to vent

Ugh. Fed up with it already lol. It's made me actually take a step back and make me wonder if my house is ready for a baby. So much needs doing that I've not really be too bothered with. But now I'm wondering if it was a sign. Hmm!!!

Hi lyndsey. I'm afraid it's anyone's guess what will happen first cycle after MC. For me it's been about a week longer than normal both times, but it can be a normal cycle or really long....

We DTD last night, then after DP questioned whether it was a good idea to use no contraception! he's been so lovely recently, and it's a big thing for him to actually agree to try, that a wobble or two are expected, but before might have been a good idea!

Hi ladies!
I had an early miscarriage early this month. It's been 7 days since I stopped bleeding, me and my OH has dtd twice since then. No idea when I'm due to ovulate or have my monthly...

Any ideas? My af was due on 24th but doubt that will happen now....

Welcome Saggy like the name, have a bit of a soft spot for Bagpuss.

Not as funny as dr Shagufta though - hope that proves to be a good omen for bootyboo.

Went and had my hair cut today - normally an ex-colleague who is also a hairdresser cuts mine and the boys, think this time she was having a bad day and ran out of patience after doing the kids (and to be fair they would try the patience of a saint) and didn't do much of a job on mine - looked a bit like a lampshade. Too much of a wuss to complain, slunk off to the local hairdresser to see if they can rescue it, cue much sucking in of breath, but it's much better. Felt loads better until hairdresser made some throwaway comment that made me realise I'm nearly as old as her mum who has just had her 40th!
Started to talk about having it coloured, but I'm not sure if it's safe in early preg, too paranoid to do something different in case it all goes wrong and I'd blame myself. Might do it as a treat if I get past first trimester.

Wow! What a busy week you have all had! AF decided to appear last Tuesday which didn't surprise me so onto the next month of trying! Like many of you, am using clear blue ov tests so hoping to get the smiley face sometime next week! I'm on half term so that's a good opportunity...just a pity the oh doesn't have the week off too!
Booty- Dr Shagufta made me laugh! Chocolate - you sound as bad as me with the chocolate! I must try twirl on toast soon Bumpkitty - its daft isn't it that we don't want to be seen buying opk kits! Last time I went in, was trying to hide them...until the shop assistant asked me if I had used them before! Er...no! She replied 'oh there great...I got pregnant with twins when I used them!' Lovely to know, just a shame she had to share the fact I was buying them with a loud voice to the rest of Boots!!! Saggy Nice to meet you! My prednancy that ended in miscarriage was a little unexpected too but we're trying again! And to everyone else - Hello!
Have spent the afternoon in the garden planting loads of daffodils and flowers in the sunshine! Was glorious and has put me in a really good mood! Going to enjoy nice meal and wine tonight - Spring is almost here! (oh and have eaten too many creme eggs...but thought seen as on this thread am allowed!!!)

Oooo choc on toast - that's a new one to try! I love melting it in a cup and eating it, hubby thinks I'm weird hehe The HSG (I think that's the right initials?) is basically blowing dye into the tubes to see if everything flows ok - not really looking forward to it as I've read should stay AWAY from Google mixed reports on it being uncomfy downright painful but I'm also quite excited to watch my insides on screen in a macabre way

I've also had an FSH test done - has anybody else had that?

Hahah Janie - Dr Shagoften is great! I'm going to be sniggering every time I see her now - she is very serious as well which makes me want to giggle more! Good luck with your OPK - I was lucky to nab a half price Clear Blue FM from Boots a while ago and it's ace, although the sticks cost a fortune

Thanks bumpkitty - am having a duvet day and planning on completing my box set marathon of True Blood - have a bit of a crush on Eric the Vampire going on

Hi Saggyclothcat (great name) xx

Can I join you please? I MCd about 3 weeks ago, and we are just going for it. The PG was totally unexpected, (my youngest is 14, Im 37) and I was convinced that DP wouldnt want to try again, but after an emotional on my part conversation the other night, we are not going to use any contraception, and see what happens.
Fingers crossed for a quick BFP, the lost one was conceived on Cerazette, so he must have super sperm!
It'll be lovely to have others to talk to, the September bus and the ladies over on the miscariage bord were wonderful support and company!

Wow chocolate I have to try melted twirl on toast! Can't believe how much junk I've eaten lately, was eating v healthily for the few weeks I was pg but all gone to pot since the mc. Should really start eating better for Ttc sake...!

I've never tried opks before but am sort of tempted reading all this. Have always had clockwork cycles but am in a wtf one now, based on dates should be ov'ing now but no signs and af the bitch still coming and going (nearly 2 weeks, she has outstayed her welcome!) so no idea what's going on, may miss our chance this month. Got to work out how to do a name change now...!

Holding* in a pee! Damn phone again!

Dammit bump I should've tried that in boots!! Then I defo would've got pg ha!!!

Thanks for the advice, I've been hung in a pee since before tea so I can try before bed! How bloody sad is that ha!! Better get back to DH... On weekend away here ha!! Hope you're all having a lovely start to the weekend

thunder i wouldn't have thought they had a memory i expect they just have a threshold over which it produces a positive - though if they did have a memory it might explain whey they are so effing expensive!

janie I have fallen foul of paying more for clearblue opk to guarantee i get pg - also my internet cheapies are super naff. When I got pg with DD i bought the clearblue opk tests from boot s but in my haste not to be seen buying them (didn't want work to know my plans!) i whipped my debit card out of the machine too early and it buggered up the whole system and froze the till. They couldn't work out if payment had happened or not and in the end it turned out I hadn't paid, so free tests and I got pg

bootyboo ha ha love the docs name - hope you're feeling better soon

chocolate that sounds amazing! I bet that would be a million syns :(

Hi Booty loving your Dr - but excuse my thickness (long week) what is a HSG?

DH is away tonight so have the tv to myself - and my choice for supper - so planning Twirl melted on toast with chocolate orange chasers. Mmmmmmm!!!!

(disclaimer - DH does all the cooking in our house since we moved 50 miles commute from my work)

Oh. Crikey.... Maybe ill do another cheapo in the morning then give it a whirl! X