Ttc after recent mc, for Creme egg scoffers, shared confusion and joint cursing of mother nature

Hello all.

spanish tell us more about this line!! Is there any colour in it? Did you use fmu?

I am in a better mood today. OH and I had a good chat no shouting and stomping around by me this time about him being away at the wrong time and he's told the clients that he needs to be home the second half of the week. Not perfect but if my cycle does similar to last time he should be home for smiley day. I am feeling very appreciative of this at the moment, especially when it means he might miss out on some money which is no small thing when you're self employed.

I totally understand Thunder and Floweroct about being back at square one and just the endless waiting.
I'm living my life by counting down weeks by my possible cycles and its horrible. I am useless at waiting at the best of times!!

I have decided that this cycle won't work as I probably didn't ovulate.

Spanish- I should be 13 weeks today so I feel your pain. Last week the day of my booked scan I felt really sad.

never feel you are 'going on' flower - this is what we need from this thread, somewhere to go and talk about however we are feeling without feeling judged.

am so pleased for you and agree now shes been she can bog off again!

I think I am going to just accept Im going to eat chocolate today.

Today was suppose to be my 12 week scan - keep thinking what if etc - well what if doesnt help nor does wishing (apparantly) - as Im never married to John Cusack or a millonaire - or pregnant.

though I have done something silly and bought some pregancy tests (first response) and there is a vague second line if I tilt it - have never used first response before - does it usually do that? also its not right next to the main line but a bit away.

it was stupid cos now Im hopeful we somehow managed to get pg without a clue where was in my cycle!

I'm with you on back to square 1!

However af has finally appeared woop woop! Nearly 10 weeks after erpc so happy however this is the last time I will be happy to see af! I can now also start my clomid for the first time tmrw so for the first time this year I finally feel I can move on.

Sorry for going in but just had to share with people who would understand :)

Fingers crossed for you Spanish, I have bought in a healthy lunch today but then just bought some chocolate to celebrate :)

morning everyone - nearly March - and Spring!

Still no AF - this is 4th week since MC and 20 days since I stopped bleeding - from what I have read these dates are by no means abnormal - but I really hope to get a period this week so I can get going!!

My 'usual' cycle is either 24 or 27 days - have passed the 24 and get to the 27 day start on Wednesday - again fully aware that cycles after MC can be odd for a while - but in the absence of knowing what is going on this is what I have to cling to - so please bear with my irrational witterings.

I conceived my son in March so naturally I have decided March is the month for me

heading for a fall arent I?

ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

feel better know.

I cleaned my bathroom yesterday to within an inch of its life - felt good to do something.

but in bad news I had a chocolate crossiant for breakfast so the diet hasnt started well.

I need to get a grip!

I'm off to bed so just a short post but I wanted to add my two penneth worth- in understanding about 'back to square one'. To add to that what really pisses me off gets to me sometimes is all the time and energy and waiting etc, not only of ttc but then of starting that pregnancy...three months of feeling pretty shite for nothing, only to be ill and knackered and hormonal and unable to conceive for how many months afterwards. Grrrr!

Rant over.

Night all x

Mummyark, go easy on yourself, it's still really early days. I'm with you with 'back to square one' - takes us ages to conceive (18m and 6m but the 6m one failed) and it feels like a long road ahead! You don't have to be perky and positive, it takes a while to come to terms with and you may have 'wobbles' for quite a while.

Forgot one bit, wanted to ask a question to anyone who gets ovulation pain...can it be anything like round ligament pain in pregnancy? I've had some strange pains today, thanks

Hello ladies, hope you have all had a lovely weekend

DIY - I suffer with migraines too - I normally take sumatriptan but trying to avoid it while ttc - they are so painful though

I am trying so hard to be more positive - I have ordered some more OPK from amazon and am back to work on Tuesday so some normality should back in our house - thing is I just feel really sad today - I know my miscarriage was only last Friday so it is probably still raw but I just want the sadness to lift - I feel cross that we are back to square one (I know how pathetic that sounds as we are all in the same boat).

Sorry for the rant - I will get a good nights sleep today and will be perky and positive tomorrow x

I've cut down to 1 or 2 cups of tea a day - since I normally drink it all the time I'm like a bear with a sore head it's difficult.
jmf I think it's days post ov that determine when you can test, so if you ov early you can in theory test early. Maybe try some cheapie tests from 10 dpo if you want to? I've always been in favour of waiting until AF is late but I don't like the disappointment of BFNs, and I know I'm v much in the minority on this one!

I wouldn't touch ibuprofen either just to be safe.
I need to cut down my caffeine- I don't drink much tea or coffee but I drink Pepsi max like its water!!

I had a smiley face on day 8, now day 13 with no more smilies!!
If you ovulate early can you test early or should I wait until day 28.
15 more days seems forever.
Also I'm going away this weekend- what can I drink- don't want to drink alchol but want to avoid caffeine. Water on a girlie weekend sounds rubbish!!
Hope you all have a good week ahead!

Ah just seen your reply DIY I didn't know abt the ibuprofen studies, sounds like you suffer badly glad you're feeling a bit better

Aaagggh just lost my reply...will try to remember it grrrr

Hi to all the newbies, sorry to find you here, good luck getting a quick BFP

janie I've decided to try to go dry for the 2ww, just in case really?! I usually drink the same right up to BFP as I don't think transfer to embryo happens until abt 6 weeks? DIY for this reason I would take nurofen in the 2ww?

sunshine in my 3 PGs (one DS) I only had sore breasts once, and it wasn't the successful one? I think each PG is different and symptoms are unpredictable.

So, I'm feeling a bit better flu wise and am on CD18...but now DH is starting with the flu and I just know he won't DTD anyway like i did and I don't ovulate until CD19 usually so got a few rounds left to go!

Hi wardy and sunshine. wardy, that is frustrating, especially when you just want to get on with it again. Hope something happens for you soon.

bakingtins keeping fingers crossed for you and hoping you get some symptoms soon to put your mind at rest.

Feeling better this evening, but a wasted day. The triptans I used to take are a complete no-no in pregnancy (and breast feeding which I'm still doing), i've been managing ok the last couple of years with ibuprofen but some studies say that has an increased risk of miscarriage, so i dont risk it in the 2ww. Paracetamol is all the drs are willing to say is safe, was offered other drugs last time I got pg (suffered lots in early pg) but they all had some risk so decided I'd rather put up with it.

How's everyone else? Wonder who's going to get lucky this month, at least one of us has to!

Thanks bakingtins yes before mmc I had very regular 32 day cycles. I was using Clearblue OPKs when I finished my period in jan and I got a smiley face on the 25th Jan I dtd the deed the 3 days leading up to my smiley face, the day of, twice and the day after so when I was late I really thought I was pg!!! I have since found out that I can have an LH surge but no release an egg... I definitely detected an LH Surge but think if I was pg now the tests would def pick it up at 16 days late!!!

Hi Wardy sorry to hear about your MMC but you are of course welcome to join us. I'm afraid many of us have had WTF cycles the first couple after MC and it is very frustrating. No way to say if you have ovulated or will ovulate this cycle unless you are charting/temping/ov sticks. If you normally get increased CM around ov and have it now I'd give it a go! Did you have regular cycles before? Hopefully it's just a case of hormones settling down and you'll be back to being predictable. It is difficult, I'm sure you feel like your cycles being back to normal and being able to "try" with some hope of success is part of moving forward. Hope your AF arrives soon, or you get a sneaky BFP one of the times you test.

Hi everyone, can I join???

I had an mmc at the end of Nov, I was 11 weeks but baby stopped growing at 8 weeks, this was my 1st pregnancy! We wanted to start trying again straight away. Didn't have AF at all in December and first period after the mmc was 7th Jan.

Well that was my last one, I am now on CD49 and no sign of AF and I've tested a bit and getting BFNs I am guessing that my cycle isn't back to normal yet or I've had an anovulation cycle!!!

I just don't know what all this means, will I ovulate before my AF decides to arrive or not? Shall I continue trying I just don't know what to do!!! I have had increased cm lately and really bad skin.

Just feel very at the moment!

DIY hope the migraine passes soon. Have you asked your doctor if there is anything safe you could take if you were in early preg?

Hi sunshine and welcome, we could use a bit of sunshine on the thread! I think unfortunately thinking about possibly being pregnant makes you overanalyse every sign and poking your boobs experimentally makes them sore and in my case a lot of PMS symptoms would fit into the possibly pregnant category. Hormones, eh? I got a BFP in early Feb and I've had fewer symptoms than every other month when I got BFNs hoping this is not a bad sign and each of my five early pregnancies has felt a bit different.
No alternative to waiting it out for another few days and testing. Hope you get a BFP.

Hi everyone, I'm a long term lurker and yous all seem so nice and supportive on this thread, so could some of yous answer a question for me plz?

I had an early mc in January and we decided to TTC again straight away. When I did get pg in Jan my breasts started tingling from 5 dpo - which was obviously a positive pregnancy sign for me! So thus month I'm currently 7 dpo and no tingles but my breasts r sore and a bit swollen!

So my question is to those ppl who have had multiple pregnancies, did ur early symptoms change from one pregnancy to the next??

Thanks for any help, and sorry we all hav to meet in such sad circumstances! Xx

Poor you, diy, thats horrible. What's the reasoning behind not taking paracetamol in the tww?

Suffering with a migraine and not able to take anything stronger than paracetamol thanks to being in the 2ww. Looking forward to a day of pain and chucking up... Get v annoyed when af comes and I needn't have suffered, but clinging to the hope this could be my lucky month... Anyone else get the same?

That's great, thank you ladies- as I thought. Now need to figure out when he's actually going but if I'm getting back to normal then I should now have some idea of the really important time.

How's everyone today? I'm hungover!

The best scenario would be to Dtd the day before smiley, day of and day after..... But then I obsess as you might have figured out!

Smiley detects LH so you are likely to ov in the 24 hrs following the smiley or peak. Once the egg is released it has 24 hrs to be fertilised. If possible I'd DTD that day and the following one. Remember swimmers can survive 5 days, so if your DH can't change his plans I second the suggestion to DTD before he goes away.