a safe sanctuary for larger ladies who are ttc!

Yes I do

scottydoc do you have children?

Channel 4 Supersize versus super skinny - effects on babies and mothers as a result if being obese. Watch it and maybe some of you may take things a little more seriously.

Sorry Olivia!!!

acsr...I know that feeling and sorry to hear of your mc. I guess I'm lucky that I work fulltime...its the only thing that brings to a halt the comfort eating that happened over the last couple of weeks. Sometimes it takes another lifestyle change to break the habits we become locked into.

Thanks Olivia, trust me I reigned myself in massively because I knew you would probably be popping up with a quick guideline reminder

acsr dealing with an mc is hard please do not feel that you need to justify yourself to us or anyone else on this thread. You sound wonderful and very busy Your ds is a lucky little boy to have a Mummy like you and don't let anyone elses misguided, nasty, spiteful opinion's make you feel otherwise.

Hehe to gosuckeggs..you tellem girl.
isabeller hope you feel a bit better now hun....always here if you need to chat. Just think what could be going on inside you right now...wow.
fieldfare I have come to the conclusion that some of us just have to do a lot more than is practically possible to keep the weight off. I am so sure now that the secret to weight control really is healthy eating and more exercise. However the heavier we get, the more we have to do, and the older we get ...the harder it is. Its a vicious circle. I have a friend whose diet is consistently worse than mine (except when I have been on the chocolate and maccies binge that I have been on post mc) she exercises less and generally has an unhealthy lifestyle. She weighs about 10 stone and only ever budges about 5lbs either side of that mark. Her Mum and sister are the same. My mum, sister and me all have the same athletic figures...heavy muscly thighs and a decent sized bottom (luckily my dp loves my bum). If I weighed the amount that fits into the "healthy" range for my height I would look very odd. I would have a gaunt, hollow eyed look, no tits and a massive bottom lol. I think we all have a responsibility to ourselves to be healthy and functional but need to be happy with ourselves ultimately. I'm getting there slowly but would be happier to wear size 14 jeans

Hello all, now the topic has resumed normality. :)

I'm having a bit of a wobble ove the whole ttc thing ATM. We don't qualify for any funding, dd is 11 this year and I'm just not sure how I feel about all of it anymore. It's a very double edged sword for me right now.
I'm the same weight now as when I had dd, try consistently to eat well, cook pretty much everything from scratch and get a lot of exercise. Nothing makes any difference.

Waves back. Well put notsoold. Working in an acute mental health setting i have seen and heard of some godawful discrimination. Much of it unrepeatable. I actually quite enjoy people such as scottydoc...they remind me who's best....wink.
Work is ok....buried myself on my wardround earlier and dragged it out as much as possible.
On subject of this thread though....i was looking forward to my jacket potatoe and salad only to find no potatoes left and was forced to have pizza and salad instead. Not a good start to my healthy eating plan. The canteen here is poo...but overall it works out cheaper than prepsring food to bring in.
About 3 years ago i lost nearly 4 stone on the cambridge diet....it was totally unsustainable and i swear it totally fcuked my body up. I hated how it left my body and have to say i would be a very happy size 14. (As opposed to the 18-20 i am). Little goals though.

Calibee how wise and balanced you are, you have made me feel positively tearful (tiny bit blue at the minute, sure it will pass shortly).

to Topc and weegie

DoctorWho I identify very much with what you describe. I can do some things well some of the time but I can't seem to get the nutrition - activity equation to come out negative for long enough to make a difference.

Just wanted to say thanks to weegiemum for posting. It was kind of you. It really does seem that being overweight is the last great taboo. Mind you...the Tory party are doing well at having a dig at gay marriage abd the disabled, but then I'm not surprised by that in the least, it's pretty usual for them!

Sadly, I have been increasingly finding mumsnet to be full of very vocal, judgemental people. What a pity. My suggestion is report bullying where it occurs. I absolutely advocate everyone's right to an opinion, but when that opinion is used to hector and bully others, that is unnacceptable and should be reported.

Waves at isabeller

Calibee, my ex GP stopped just short of telling me that I shouldn't try for a baby due to my mental health issues. It's obscene that she think that, especially as she had only just met me, and I am a whole lot more than my diagnosis! It is just as obscene in my opinion that people judge you for wanting a child if you are overweight, and even more so if they suggest you shouldn't. It is a trifle reminiscent of the nazis wanting only a 'perfect' (in their eyes) race.

I do not wish to be overweight, and I do what is in my currently limited capacity to not put further weight on. Everything I eat is home made, from scratch. I certainly have more than my five a day, and I keep my portion sizes down. I simply struggle to do any extra exercise other than day to day tasks like cleaning etc due to my crippling knee issues and fybromyalgia. However, just because I cannot attend fat busting classes at a gym does not mean I am complacent, or incapable of doing my best for a child.

For people like Scotty to suggest otherwise is rude (and assumptive) at best, and discriminatory at worst.

This is supposed to be a support thread for us larger ladies who are ttc. Let's face it, we're not doing it for an excuse to get fatter...

Rant over! Hope your first day back isn't too awful xx

I just saw this thread in Active!

I'm not ttc, in fact I'm menopausal, but I had all 3 dc while clinically fairly obese. I'm a size18/20 now, which is less than I was for all 3!

I never had any bp problems, I had nasty kidney side effects but nothing to do with weight.

I'm the happy mum of dd2 (9), ds (11, yesterday!) and dd1 (13 on Wednesday).

Despite being a fatty I was very active, walked everywhere tc, which was my advantage. I liked the cheese and wine too much. Conceived dd1 on first month, ds on 2nd month and dd2 was a mirena accident!

Good luck to you all xx

Topc that was really interesting thankyou. Sadly there are people who refuse to see past their boundaries and assumptions come readily to them. I often wonder if these people would object to being told to reconsider having a child as they suffered mental health issues or were concerned they would not live to see the child grow up...or even if they were plain ugly....afterall, its all a bit of a lottery. Anything can happen and does ...smiley

You and I are entitled to our views yes, but none of you should be advocating that it is possible to be obese and healthy at the same time. I will do as asked and leave the thread, I just hope that everyone on here at some point manages to get themselves into shape for the sake of future children. And also educate those children about the importance of eating well and exercising regularly. Have a good day all.

Couldn't read this and not post. Firstly, I'll admit I'm not overweight but I am certainly not here to judge just to offer some hopefully helpful support and like most women post pregnancy I wanted to lose the pounds I gained and if it helps anyone here's some of the ways I did it.

Firstly, I worked out my BMR (basal metabolic rate) this is the calories your body needs per day just to 'be' as it were. Once you know how much energy your body needs you can really see how to create a deficit to help you lose the pounds, it's just maths really.

Here's a link to help you see: www.bmi-calculator.net/bmr-calculator/

For example once my level of activity is taken into account I need about 1700 calories. So when I wanted to lose weight I changed some of what I ate and upped my activity level. Even if you can drop 200 calories a day it is a start and it WILL make a difference.

Also, I know people do lose weight doing weight watchers but I would plead for you to not go this route, every item should be labelled low fat HIGH SUGAR. And there is no such thing as free food, even healthy foods all count towards what your body needs every day.

One of the best food changes I made was to try and have raw food with every meal. So I chuck some spinach in my lunchtime soup and have cucumber/salads with every dinner. Also, don't be afraid of fat ladies, your body needs good fats and according to Weight Watchers avocados are ruining your waist lines - RUBBISH.

Sorry this turned into a mammoth post and hope it doesn't sound lecture-y, just know this stuff helped me. Best of luck to you all TTC ( I am too!).

Oh dear oh dear...ladies there is always one. I do not find it in the least offensive that scotty points out that i should not be comfort eating less than 10 days post miscarriage. I feel no need to defend myself to her/him or to argue the healthy/ unhealthy points about being overweight.
Clearly scotty has some mild issues regarding personal boundaries and what contitutes support or attack. My guess is that she/he would have similar issues regarding anything mildly abnormal. Best ignored me thinks.

Hi Drwho and Calibee