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Elderberry Pavlovas And The Eternal Sausage of Wang (Part 4): a frightfully good thread for the over-30s TTC their first baby.

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viviennewestwould · 25/01/2013 18:58

Over here, sausage-wangers!

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Bunnygirlie · 04/02/2013 22:21

Aquarius AF due today 4th feb
Gail cd29
Sidney cd21
Boodle cd19
Thundercats cd12
Bunny cd10 (ave cycle 31 days) AF due 26th feb
Happylass cd10 (of 26)
2 cats cd18 (of 35)

Bunnygirlie · 04/02/2013 22:20

happy that is so exciting! We got married end of 2011 and it was just fab!!!

I am a little worried about janey pooping without warning, is that what happens when you are PG Wink

Gail thought we'd lost you the for a sec, chin up, it will happen for us all!

mother I'm with you, i have no personal experience but I feel it is totally a personal choice!

thunder I think you are right, if we base it on CDs we will have to change it every day, have added my dates...

SidneyBristow · 04/02/2013 21:04

Oh no, Gail. I am so, so sorry. I really thought you had it in the bag this month. Please don't think that way - the world is full of surprises; don't give up! a thousand Thanks for you, dear.

MotherOfCleo · 04/02/2013 20:57

ahh gail Im sorry! If it helps my skins gone all teenage on me overnight, obviously coming out in sympathy with you!

You will have a baby hun, Im sure of it!

Warning rant alert! Cant bear to watch that 'abortion debate' program on bbc, who do they think they are judging people! When I was 17 I got pregnant, it was the first time I ever had sex, deciding to abort the baby was a horrendous decision and an awful experience BUT I wouldnt change it. At seventeen I was not in any way ready to be a mum, even now when I want to be a mum more than anything I dont regret my decision all those years ago. I want a baby with my OH living the life I lead now, in my house, with my friends, not as a seventeen year old with nothing to offer and no prospects. It should be a womans choice, every situation is different and I think the woman should be allowed to decide what is right for her. Sorry rant over!

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SidneyBristow · 04/02/2013 20:18

Thunder yep it is exhausting; I get whiplash trying to keep up with their different moods, harder still bc they're in and out so frequently (their mom's choice) that we never really get into a routine. Today was great, which we all needed, then again tacos make everything seem great. Sidney

2cats222 · 04/02/2013 18:37

aquarius I am not going to comment Wink
janey may need you to round up the graduate troops & arm them with sausages... I think we need to fight back under the cover of darkness

Aquarius1 · 04/02/2013 18:33

happy that's very exciting about booking your wedding Grin

2cats you forgot to take a sausage

I have nothing to report. My cycles vary from 25- 33 days- Iperiod said af due today but thats just based on average cycles so not necessarily accurate- might be later. Really puzzled by total lack of any pmt symptoms - not complaining mind - but makes me feel a bit hormone-less Hmm

janey1234 · 04/02/2013 18:29

Pooped back in with a warning...
If you've lost Gail us graduates will be very angry indeed WinkWink
Good luck for some BFP's this month

2cats222 · 04/02/2013 18:17

the only other alternative is that she has been kidnapped and imprisoned by mumsnet HQ....

2cats222 · 04/02/2013 18:16

Gail has not updated her chart today. Is she preggers???

2cats222 · 04/02/2013 18:14

happy SOOOOOO jealous... still got post wedding blues (4 weeks on)! IT really is the best day ever.

And because I like things to be neat (ahem, maybe except my house) I have ordered the list by how soon we can expect the BFP's;

Aquarius AF due today
Gail cd29
Sidney cd21
Boodle cd19
Thundercats cd12
Bunny cd10 or 11
Happylass cd10 (of 26)
2 cats cd18 (of 35)

And in the mystery of the disappearing Gail I am off to do some research. I think she may have been kidnapped. Will report back once I know more

happylass · 04/02/2013 17:26

Congrats Pip. Sorry to hear your having a tough time Sidney. Today I booked my wedding for August next year eeeek. Really need to get upduffed ASAP so I'm mot waddling down the aisle carrying ten tonnes of baby weight or even worse just about to give birth!

Adding myself

2 cats cd18 (of 35)
Sidney cd21
Aquarius AF due today
Bunny cd10 or 11
Thundercats cd12
Boodle cd19
Gail cd29
Happylass cd10 (of 26)

Thundercatsarego · 04/02/2013 16:27

(although doesn't a cd list take a lot of updating?)

sidney I say grumble away, it certainly sounds like you need a good moan as it all sounds exhausting.

Thundercatsarego · 04/02/2013 16:25

Hi all,

Adding myself:

2 cats cd18 (of 35)
Sidney cd21
Aquarius AF due today
Bunny cd10 or 11
Thundercats cd12
Boodle cd19
Gail cd29

SidneyBristow · 04/02/2013 16:11

Fx for us all! Wouldn't it be great if we all came up with BFPs this month!!

I would think that if gail were banned (again?) then it might be that her IP address were getting flagged up as a previously banned poster's? So perhaps logging on from a different computer would work? It's all so weird isn't it.

2cats222 · 04/02/2013 15:47

sidney good idea, I'm madly excited and have a feeling this is going to be a bfp cycle for lots of people on this thread (except me who can't seem to shag at the right time! Wink)

Have started us off...
2 cats cd18 (of 35)
Sidney cd21
Aquarius AF due today
Bunny cd10 or 11
Boodle cd19
Gail cd29

If gail has been knocked off with a sausage (again) is there any way she/we can make contact??

SidneyBristow · 04/02/2013 15:29

Thanks for the support, ladies. My SKs are great kids 99% of the time, but when they're horrible, they really go for it. They're here every other day or so, which I'm finding increasingly hard to handle, as it feels like I'm always "on duty" and never able to relax and just be Sidney, DH's wife, a good friend/daughter/sister etc. It's a very hard gig, all the responsibilities of being a mother but very little of the respect/affection/credit. They're good kids, but the baggage the situation brings is hard to swallow some of the time.

Anyway. I do have an urgent need to know what's going on with Gail's temp, so if there's any kind of cloak and daggerness going on, could she pretty please send up a smoke signal so we can all have an answer?

2cats I hear you on wanting to have the perfect cycle. That's where I am too, in prep for seeing a GP for the first time on Weds, mostly to discuss TTC. God forbid I get patted on the head and told to relax. Still, you never know - DTD bigtime and see what happens!

Bunny shall we do a CD poll? CD21 here, right in the center of a 2WW

Bunnygirlie · 04/02/2013 13:00

sidney that doesn't sound like fun, having step-children must be so difficult

2cats Just give it a go anyway!!!

So who is next to POAS? Awaiting BFP or evil bitch?

2cats222 · 04/02/2013 12:58

aquarius can I get excited on your behalf? No better symptom than missing AF Wink when are you POAS again??

2cats222 · 04/02/2013 12:57

Luckily we dtd last night and will be certainly trying our luck again tonight. I'm mostly mad as I wanted this to be the 'perfect' cycle for illustration purposes for the docs (ie we're doing everything right). Arse

Am ever so slightly concerned somebody has cottoned on to gail as she's AWOL this morn

Aquarius1 · 04/02/2013 12:55

pip that's great news on the house front - I love unexpected results like that

sidney sorry you're feeling blue - best I can say is don't give up hope, you never know what's coming

I should probably have a word with myself along those lines too - af due today and hasn't arrived but have absolutely no symptoms other than a lot of cm. took a sneaky test last night which was negative... So not feeling hopeful Hmm i hate the waiting!!!

navis176 · 04/02/2013 12:38

Pip - congrats on the house, sounds really exciting!

2cats - it's got to be worth dtd today just in case?

Sidney - sorry your weekend wasn't great, really hope next week brings you positive news fx

2cats222 · 04/02/2013 12:34

sidney poor you Wine [hugs] You have every right to feel grumpy. Chin up - this cycle isn't over for you yet!

Pip so exciting about the house! Sounds like it was meant to be

SidneyBristow · 04/02/2013 12:22

Pip congrats on the house! how exciting! I hope it's that easy for us when we're ready to move. Been looking at rightmove lately, getting a little depressed at how little we can afford here, compared to what we could afford in the US Sad

2cats that would make me very cross too; there's so much pressure to hit the right mark - you never know though, maybe DTD today and hope for the best? A tiny chance is still a chance after all, right?

Thunder I'd rebook the smear if it were me. Even the worst shag is better than the best pap smear; not a hard choice really!

Captain v jealous of your Sunday night. I spent mine in a mood because my 2nd dinner in so many nights was ruined by a tantrumming stepson, this after an entire day spent cooking for stepkids and playing a neverending board game, spoiled by a tantrumming stepdaughter bc she lost. Angry

CD21 here and trying not to think about what next week might bring. Felt very positive about it at the beginning but am now the opposite, like the rest of my life is going to be spent playing substitute mom (and probably a v poor one at that, in their eyes) to children who are oblivious to the contributions I make to their lives Sad Sad Sad yes that noise you hear is the soft strain of violins playing at my pity party