TTC for the first time

I'm new too, just started. Literally just stopped pill on Sat so AF has arrived and ceased activities! I'm 30 DH is 32. Am I supposed to wait for a natural period to turn up or can we just get on with it? I really can't wait to get started properly!

Hi, can I join in please? I'm 31 and have been TTC since sept 2012. Have decided to have a go with the super Drug OPT this month. I'm currently 3 DPO and am already symptom spotting!

Thanks TeaAddict235 and blueamber - oof, didn't know that about multi vitamins either! What a learning curve.

TeaAddict from talking to friends and doing research, morning sickness seems to change, person to person. I think typically, women feel very nauseous and don't necessarily vomit but of course, there are women that suffer with both...

Hi tilson, welcome. I read that about lube as well, apparently spit isn't good either, but then women do get pregnant using either!

tea addict I think morning sickness differs, no experience myself, but know that some just feel sick, while others actually are sick. Not just mornings either. Why the name then, one wonders?

Welcome Tilson, the more the merrier. Exciting times really learning about our bodies. Thanks for the tip on lube. I didn't know earlier that my A-Z multivitamins were probably not a good idea either. Put me back about 2 months.

Question: how sick do you get from morning sickness, is it just the feeling or actual passing of fluid?

Hi ladeez, is there room for a big'un? I have been ttc since March 2013. I am 35, DH is 37, and this is our first time! I've been charting since coming off the pill in August 2012 and know my cycle pretty well now. However, I am considering trying OPK for the next cycle and would love to know your thoughts. I find charting pretty stressful - when it comes to ovulating I have around 5 potentially fertile days to try and target, but with OPK, you have a more specific 48 hours to know you're most fertile? I mean, in a way, I guess that increases the pressure?!! Any thoughts/experience/preference would be most welcome.

Anyway, Im just glad to have found this page as my neurosis knows no bounds during the 2WW!! And Im just entering it now! Also, I found out today that using lube is a real no no when ttc. Doh! Been using that every single time (Liquid Silk). Now considering pre-seed. It feels like a mine field! There is always something to do differently/better!

Thanks all! I look forward to getting to know you! Btw, I have double posted but think this is the better thread for me as a first timer. Im not spamming, just new to all this! Tara for now.

Hey all, congrats on the latest BFPs. I think that I'm giving the whole symptom spotting a rest. From excessive wind to constant peeing, I'm irritating myself and loosing distraction with my work, in the quest to keep the lineage going.

If I can, I'll wait until I miss two AFs (June and July) before I even consider little feet next year joining us at the table. In the meantime, I'll have to contend with DH talking to the cat and picking him up. I am sure that he does it to wind me up and give suggestions. We even had a 20 second discussion on baby names. Thankfully I'll have AT LEAST 9 months to persuade him on my choices for boys names (His late grandma has top bids on any girls names).

Plus we're saving tonnes on condoms, that's all I can say. I don't have to pop down to Boots as often, and thus I don't buy anti ageing creams and whatnots while I'm there. Hurrah!

Where is the sunshine May? I'm still in autumn/spring gear.

Hi Tea! Hope all is good...my zeal?! Oh dear, hope I'm not coming across as a mentalist!!
i haven't been on here in a few days-have been in a BIG FAT AF-related HUFF!!! She showed her unwanted self two days ago...and I was CONVINCED I was good to go for my bfp this month!!!
I even came up with a saying "it ain't over 'til the flo lady stings..." And then at 14dpo...she STUNG!!! Totally gutted...felt preggo!! Didn't even get the chance to POAS!!
So, out for this month...but onwards and upwards (pardon the pun!!)
Fx we all get bfps soon!!

It's weird I am only just getting to know my cycles. I went on the pill only a short time after I got my first AFs for medical reasons, and I have been pretty much on it since then. Now I have stopped I don't really know what's going on.

I thought I got Mittelschmerz (I love that word) a few days ago, because I felt it once before a couple of years ago when I had a month-long break because I couldn't be bothered to visit the GP in time to get a new prescription, but I must have been wrong, because CBFM told me so.

I got the CBFM because I absolutely hate uncertainty and to help me get to know my cycles, and computer has been saying low all the time. I have had a bad cold as well this week and today is the first day I feel better and suddenly I got a high on CD16! Don't know if it's my body slowly getting used to this whole new world, or if the cold has delayed things. But yay!

I just have no patience for anything haha

All the best wannabeamommy, sounds good with the absence of AF. I daren't even buy a pregnancy test, I'm still not brave enough. I think that I'll just symptom watch, archaic I know.

Congrats to all the new expectant Mommy

Still no Af or possitive test. Gonna test tomorrow I think. Test Tuesday was negayive. Fingers crossrd I get my possitive tomorrow x

COngratUlationS Madratlady, hurrah!!!! well done, good on you old girl . I think that I have been on a few boards where you have commented, and I have agreed or liked what you said, but never interrupted the conversation. So well done hun. Amen.

Hey blueamber, no worries about my supervisor, what comes around goes around. I am waiting for feedback from him so that I can make the corrections and really consecrate what I know. In the meantime my hubby is planning the biggest holiday since our honeymoon 5 years ago: a cruise and a drive across Europe. That'll be my celebration, also I would quite like to be fully pregnant by the end as a "gift" to our parents, as they are being really indiscreet about wanting grandkids.

Hi everyone, I've been avoiding the conception board for a while as I find that it can get me down, and being around other symptom spotters during the 2ww just stressed me out.

I'd just like to report that i got a BFP this evening. It took less than a minute even though it wasn't flu and it was a dark line so I'm in no doubt.

I was going to test tomorrow because AF was due at the beginning of this week, but I have been feelin a bit nauseous and light headed at work today so I thought I'd test when I got in, just to deal with the dissappointment of a bfn tonight rather than going to work feeling down tomorrow, but no dissappointment this time

I'm waiting for DH to get home so I can tell him.

and I won't have to clean the cat litter tray for a whole 9 months muahahaha

Tea addict, your supervisor sounds awful! Must be difficult to remain motivated when you have no support. My supervisor was okay until one of her students who had submitted received much criticism from the external reader and had to spend a year rewriting the thesis. Now she is overly strict and I am redoing work that was fine before, which is tough. Although on the other hand I do not fancy spending another year on my thesis after submission, so hopefully all the work will be worth it.

So you are almost finished? Do you have any plans for what you're doing after you get the PhD (expect celebrating that you'll never have to work on it again)?

Hey blueamber, keep going with the writing and TTC. If only I had known that the best time to become a parent was during my PhD, then I would have taken my time .

Concerning the criticism from your supervisor, keep your head up. I hate it too but I tell myself that my chosen field will be challenging, so I have to be prepared. My supervisor has been nasty from day 1, so it is no surprise now when he tells me that I am a disappointment. He doesn' t like ladies nor brits; he thinks that we are not up to international engineering standards. Anyway, won't let the beastie stop me from progressing. Sorry to moan, just that I know exactly why women leave engineering after a while.

Hi tea addict and Sciencegeekgirl, good to hear about other PhD students ttc! I'm in social sciences, so it's a bit more relaxed if you get pregnant during PhD or job. My supervisor, who had a baby recently, even claimed that the best time to have a baby is during your PhD! I'm not sure about that, because you don't get any maternity pay. But I thought I'd go ahead anyway. I should submit in about 6 months and just don't want to wait until I have graduated and found a job, because that could take forever.

About the stress, my boyfriend said I should try not to be too stressed, so I'm trying to let go of the perfectionism, take regular breaks and do exercise, like yoga and walking. I think it's quite important to not get too stressed, but then again that's very hard whilst doing a PhD. And also my supervisors have suddenly turned insanely critical, so I too can't wait to finish!

Same here sciencegeekgirl, I was an avid stalker reader on this thread but daren't join. Now I think i'd might as well, nothing to lose,we can only learn from one another.
Hurrah another engineer. My stance is, i'd might as well start now as you can't really take mat leave in the first 6months of a contract. I gave a draft of my thesis in last week, the devil supervisor wasn't impressed. Arrrg, can't wait to finish.

Me too, it's nice to hear others that are ttc while doing a PhD. I love hearing I'm not alone in doing it. I'm also in Engineering so very male dominated so have never spoken to anyone in RL that has done it even though there is maternity leave etc available.
I always read this thread but never posted so here's a little bit. This is my 3rd cycle ttc#1. Am currently waiting for my AF after 3 negative tests. Am currently late so don't know what my body is playing out.

wannabeamommy that sounds really positive, absent AF. Keep up the positive actions x

Hey blueamber congratulations and snap: phd& TTC. What field is your PhD in? Mine is engineering, where Talk of babies is career suicide. Neither of the two other ladies in my research group are mums (they know that they want to be, but daren't admit it), whereby most of the men are dads or planning to get married. Hey ho, each to their own.
Do you think that it is okay TTC whilst doing your PhD? Its not too stressful? I'm trying to ignore the stress x

TeaAddict235 I'm not sure lol. Been having unprotected sex for six weeks. Unsure if a three day bleed was AF or an implant bleed. That was at the start of April havent had an af since.

If it was AF then I was due last thursday. Its Tuesday now...

I nievely thought id get caught as soon as we started. Done a test today. Was a big negative

Hi teaaddict, I can't help doing the research either. I'm already trying to learn everything about anything, and this is only the first month that we are ttc... also been watching one born every minute and trying to remember every scenario so that I'm prepared. But I'm a bit weird like that, trying to plan too much in advance! I'm also finishing my PhD, and I've had the same problem there, trying to find out every little detail about the subject, which is very time consuming!

Hey ladyboom, love your zeal! I'm new on MN as well. I haven't gotten any apps or anything though, I feel a bit funny looking on MN on the tube in thr morning; anyone could take a peek, imagine what they'd learn about me from an ov app!!! I'm such a nosey parker myself ;-)

Are you ladies doing anything or changing anything in your lifestyle to expect little feet? I've started researching e.g MN websites, comparing prices of stuff at supermarkets, watching one born every mimute, ....generally annoying my husband

I know what you mean cursiveLetters as well about trying not to worry or think about it: i'm watching everything that my body does, every twitch makes me think.

How long have you been trying for wannabeamommy? We've been "trying" for two months now. I must be super naive tho because I thought that basically the first time without protection would get me preggers. I thought that youth, sport and a stupidly heavy and regular AF would be in our favour. Will see though, both parents wanting grandkids and with my PhD ending, I can't keep making up excuses.

Fingers crossed for all of you ladies x x