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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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TTC for the first time

786 replies

bluefreckles · 17/01/2013 18:50

Hello ladies

I would like to start a thread/bus/merry-go-round to meet, get support and share with ladies in the same boat as me:

TTC baby no 1!

Will you join me and see it through to the BFP?!

A bit about me - I'm 29, DP is 35. This will be our first child.

OP posts:
ELA88 · 06/02/2013 09:20

I'm not sure love ! I did a test last Sunday morning because I thought AF was due on Monday (that's only when it would've been due when I was taking the pill) so maybe my cycle is later and I didn't ovulate till after? Hmm I might wait till Friday and if still no proper AF ill poas on Saturday morning? I hate waiting and not knowing! But I'm so glad I've found this site because I have no one else to talk about TTC! Xxx

Ariel21 · 06/02/2013 08:32

LLL I had a mirena too, had it out end of December. Did you find your cycles got back to normal quite quickly? I've had one AF visit and have out this into the Ladytimer (haha) app, so at least I can try and track my cycle.

LoveLaughingLots · 06/02/2013 08:26

ELA time to POAS??

LoveLaughingLots · 06/02/2013 08:16

Hi rach, BookWorm and SmartDoodle, I'm very new to MN, welcome!

This place is certainly making me feel more calm because I can ask the questions I want and talk about babies as much as I want! Lol

Me and OH are 28, TTC our first. This is c4 after coming off Merina IUD late last year.

Bring on the BFPs!

LLLx

ELA88 · 06/02/2013 08:07

Hi rach I feel like that too, I feel like I'm watching what I eat and drink incase it stops me from conceiving! And I feel like I'm watching my body so closely I'm not sure if signs and thing are in my head because I'm willing them to be there so bad!
I'm not even sure what's going on with my body right now anyway, when I've stopped my pill before my periods have always come back regularly straight away but not this time! I thought AF was coming on Sunday, the day it would've been due and then all the pain went away, had a small spot of brown nothingness and now it's stopped completely Confused I hate the not knowing!! I want to be able to work out ovulation! Xxx

rachd77 · 05/02/2013 22:51

Had a couple of glasses of wine tonight, enough to make me feel tipsy and feel really guilty as feel I won't be able to conceive if I do. Only a few weeks in trying, feel like I'm pressurising myself here! Feel it's already consumed me yet trying to keep it natural as realise stress may not help matters! Also worried age is against me (am 35).

Feeling better having found MN but still analysing everything! Not able to talk to many friends as only confided in one or two that we are trying. Any advice is appreciated!

X

BookWormery · 05/02/2013 21:23

I'm TTC, first DC.

Currently enjoying a large glass of wine.

Hello Smile

smartdoodle · 05/02/2013 21:20

Hello

Can I join in? New to mumsnet and currently ttc. I came off the pill in May last year and been a bit irregular up until the last couple of months so properly trying now.
I'm 26, hubby 27 and trying for our first. I was quite niave when I came off the pill and kind of expected everything to just happen straight away. Now I'm getting a bit impatient and hubby gets a bit bored of me talking about babies!!

Hope you don't mind me jumping in Smile

PistachioTruffle · 05/02/2013 19:57

Thanks all for the welcome. I'm glad I took the plunge and posted, I feel a little better just not feeling so alone!

ELA88 · 05/02/2013 15:49

pistachio that's exactly how I'm feeling! Both my cousins and a friend have announced recently they're expecting! All 3 babies due within a month of each other! This time last year I was imagining me to be one of those too! No such luck yet!
daily are you reading what to expect? Is it any good? I found it on amazon when I was googling pregnancy in an attempt to cheer me up! Then I found this site which was much better! Xx

LoveLaughingLots · 05/02/2013 12:14

DailySliceOfGato thanks - I haven't had much luck with them, only had a very feint indicator line, but I can feel OV pain. Will be sympton spotting over the 2ww.

Anyone into yoga out there? Just started with a new teacher who is amazing, has just given me some postures to assist fertility, anything to do with opening the hips/pelvis and using kegel muscle. Let me know if anyone is trying yoga to assist with fertility...

Stay positive guys!

LLLx

WakeyCakey · 05/02/2013 11:51

DP and I have decided not to talk about TTC too much, he wants it as relaxed as possible so we are DTD as normal and I've promised not to tell him if I'm ovulating as he doesn't want the pressure. We have no deadline as such although DP is 40 so he doesn't want to wait forever so I'm just going with the flow.
I love having MN as I can talk freely about it as I haven't told anyone else we are trying

DailySliceOfGato · 05/02/2013 11:23

Hello all new people! I wonder if OP is okay as she hasn't checked in for a bit.

Thank you for reassuring me ladies. I've easily managed to resist not testing this morning as I'm scared about what it will say - I'll will try again tomorrow. I'm assuming for now that I'm NOT pregnant!

Regarding diet, according to my bible 'What to Expect...' book, too much alcohol and caffeine is linked to lowered fertility, but there's no need to cut it out completely.

We also tried to eat more green vegetables, switched some foods to organic to reduce chemical intake, and cut down on artificial sugar - things that might make a difference but wouldn't affect our daily lives too much. We have to strike a balance as we could be ages TTC-ing and we don't want to live miserable (caffeine-free) lives for the whole time!

Agree with pistachio, it is quite lonely isn't it? Unless you're the sort of person who doesn't mind sharing ups and downs with everyone (which I'm not unfortunately), all hopes and fears are just poured out on poor DH, whose ears start to bleed.

Good luck with the OPKs lovelaughing. I use a CBFM and have found that it makes our lives less stressful.

LoveLaughingLots · 05/02/2013 09:49

Re diet I've cut out alcohol and caffeine, I also intend to give up sugar and all confectionary type stuff for Lent as well (I have a high sugar diet that I have been trying to cut down without much success!). DP has stopped drinking alcohol as well...

LoveLaughingLots · 05/02/2013 09:46

Re diet I've cut out alcohol and caffeine, I also intend to give up sugar and all confectionary type stuff for Lent as well (I have a high sugar diet that I have been trying to cut down without much success!). DP has stopped drinking alcohol as well...

LoveLaughingLots · 05/02/2013 09:42

PistachioTruffle

Pretty much similar circumstances, lots of people falling pg around me! But let's remain positive!

All our babies are on the way!

LLLx

LoveLaughingLots · 05/02/2013 09:29

Hi All,

Would love to join you!

I'm 28 DP is also 28 and TTC our first. Had Merina IUD removed in October and haven't had any luck yet.

January I decided to start using Clear Blue OPKs but they're quite tricky to get the hang of!

Now in 2ww - fingers crossed for c4!

Good luck to everyone!

LLLx

PistachioTruffle · 05/02/2013 08:18

Hello, can I join as well?
I'm mid 20s, DH early 40s, TTC first baby since September with no luck. I'm finding it quite lonely, no one knows we are TTC and I don't want to keep blabbing about it to DH and boring him silly! 3 people I know have announced pregnancies in the last month, all of whom conceived in the time we've been trying. Of course, I don't know how long those people were TTC, and 6 months isn't really that long, but it certainly feels it sometimes.

rachd77 · 04/02/2013 23:11

Hello! Smile Can I join you all too? I'm 35 and partner is 33. TTC for the first time and only been trying for a few weeks. Wish you all luck and hope we all have good news soon! X

Ariel21 · 04/02/2013 22:58

ELA Not sure but most advice I've read just says to eat healthily, lots of fruit, veg and protein etc - common sense I suppose, but not all that easy to practice!

ELA88 · 04/02/2013 19:53

I tried to avoid too much caffeine in the 2ww but I don't think I drink excessive amounts anyway! How much does diet affect TTC? I think I have a reasonably healthy diet anyway but not sure what I should avoid! Xx

Ariel21 · 04/02/2013 19:48

Yes I was wondering if people avoid caffeine on the 2ww? I've just started a new part-time job in a coffee shop and I can drink as much coffee as I like... Might be difficult cutting it out completely!

WakeyCakey · 04/02/2013 19:43

I'm definitely not avoiding naughty foods tonight. When AF buggers off i may be a bit careful, although going away this weekend so will most likely eat myself silly and enjoy a good few drinks

ELA88 · 04/02/2013 19:01

daily I don't avoid naughty foods! Although on Saturday night I didn't drink because I was convinced I was pregnant! When is AF due? That's exciting about the faint line! I did a test yesterday morning because I wasn't sure when AF was due and stared at the BFP for a good 15 minutes willing another line to appear! Xx

DailySliceOfGato · 04/02/2013 16:50

Lozcat, really sorry to hear that. I'm really surprised as I had heard rumours that if you've been trying over 12 months then they will do some tests - maybe someone on this thread can advise?

If it makes it any better, I have several friends (your age) who conceived their first babies after two years plus of trying and lots of people on Mumsnet have as well.