TTC and a teacher?! Join me!

Hi All, this week feels really long...tempted to ring Domino's and sabotage the new year diet!
Laura Job shares seem to get royally done over don't they. My team leader is a job share, she does 4 days a week but always works on her day off. She is expected to attend meetings and INSET on her days off...It really annoys me, it isn't fair on her, and it makes me look so bad as I work full time and can't keep up with her! At least I get paid for it though!
Delilah I do know what you mean - after the miscarriage I really wanted to go back to work. The kids made me feel useful, at a time when I felt like a huge biological failure! In hindsight though, I should have listened to all the people who said eat biscuits, watch entire series of tv shows in a sitting and forget about work for a while. My boss was the one who suggested tv show bingeing.
Any more symptoms to report?

I know bearface but it isn't totally selfless. I teach secondary so am spending a lot of time relaxing at my desk, and the students definitely help me take my mind off the 2ww.
Will definitely get signed off if I feel unwell in any way though.

Hi Laura - I would ask to be paid if that is what you normally get. It's not right to ask you to do it for nothing. I'd also make a point of saying to your line manager that you are only a 0.4 teacher and that your jobshare in future needs to take responsibility for their share of the parents' evenings.

Oh Delilah - you shouldn't have gone in! Obvs it's up to you, but put yourself first for once.

Hi to all the newbies. Nice to meet you!

Thanks. As is always to way a teachers job is never done. My (hopeless) jobshare is declared that suddenly she can't do parents evening tomorrow (her working day) so I have been asked to come and do it. (Unpaid) and I am doing the second one on Thursday already. I am only a 40% teacher why am I doing 100% of the parents evenings!!!

Ohh, and welcome Laura! Lovely to have you join us.

Look after yourself Delilah! Cramping is a good thing ....... ooooooh, fingers firmly crossed for you.

I agree with beQuick! Glad you're ok & school is nice. Take care

Delilah! You are such a teacher!
Glad things are feeling promising...cramping is good. Well if you do feel in the slightest bit tired or fed up, I demand that you ring in sick straight away. I will ring in for you if necessary.

Well, I'm in work after all. Luckily I work in a very nice school with easy classes. Despite a lack of planning things have been good today too.
I'm having a few crampy feelings, I'm hoping this is a good thing. The 2WW is rubbish.

laura you are so right... I work in a medium size primary and I know at least three other ladies who are trying to conceive and finding it difficult, in my school! Teaching is fab lots of the time but it eats the rest of your life while your back is turned!

I have been for blood tests today, got a feeling it might be thyroid as I have started temperature charting and my temp is never above 36.degrees! In fact last week I qualified as hypothermic twice! The doctor is rushing my results through after I laughingly told her this... Whoops. It might explain my stupid extending cycles.

Hope everyone else is okay and Monday hasn't hit too hard.

Room for another?

Hi I am a primary teacher and we are on cycle 2 of ttc#2. It took us 2 years to get my DD due to severe endometriosis. I was starting off all the tests for IVF and suddenly I was pregnant.

I think I am setting myself up for heartache this time though. I really thought I couldn't concieve naturally and now they have said it should be easier this time I am expecting it to happen right away. It's really hard to keep perspective.

My school is falling apart around us. Head off sick, notice to improve, new head starting at easter. Zero trust in our judgements of professionalism, and a new initiative every week as management are panicking. I am only working 2 days a week but its in a very challenging year 6 and our results are very important for the next ofsted due before end of summer term.

I am so pleased to see some BFPs already and people being so supportive of each other. People think being pregnant or TTC in a school is easy because its all about kids already. They are sooo wrong!!!

Thanks Bequick & Sparkle. Bequick - I will go into work - having had a pretty rubbish weekend the frenzy of work I'm hoping will take my mind off things a little, but thanks for the advice. Sparkle, I'm acting until September (here's hoping they actually manage to appoint someone by then!)
Delilah .... definitely take tomorrow off ...... in fact, get the doc to sign you until half term ..... then you're through the 2WW, you know either way and will have time for your head to get around whatever the results are. Just a suggestion, but worth a thought. Fingers firmly crossed for you - Good Luck!

Good luck!

There won't be anyone in tonight, so no point calling in early. I'm going to write a rough idea of cover though so I can email it straight in tomorrow morning.
Here's hoping I can actually get a GP appointment tomorrow!

Yes, I know The Guilt. Would cover be any easier if you called this evening? Can you send in work now, so that you don't have to worry any more? I've done that in the past. They will all be fine without you. You'll be missed, for sure, but they will cope. HoD gets paid to sort these things out. Good to give as much warning as poss & would be appreciated too.

God knows what I do about cover though. Leave my HoD to sort it out I guess.

Thanks bequick and ilovemycats
Even though logically that school will be fine without me, and that I have to do everything to make this cycle work, I still get The Guilt at the thought of abandoning my classes.
I shall be strong though and will call in tomorrow morning, I've got to do everything I can to help these embryos survive, and the way I feel my lessons would not be very good anyway. I'm not exactly focused on teaching.

delilahbelle I agree that you should call in sick. I would go as far as to go to GP tomorrow & get signed off for two weeks. You won't even have to think about work that way. It is hard, I hated being signed off (not related to ttc), but ultimately felt better when I did go back rather than going back too soon & feeling worse for longer. School will still be there! You've already planted the idea on Friday. Their insurance will kick in for supply tomorrow, I think, so let them use it. This is too important for you. Also, you'll be closer to half term then. Good luck!

delilahbelle ring in sick. And don't feel guilty, we do too much of that. You are well justified - you have got to give yourself the best chances, school will be there next week! I don't take my own advice obviously, but I should do!

Sparkle thanks for the advice, I will look in to it. Got a feeling it won't work if new school is an academy, like pensions, rights, pay etc etc etc... I am a bit scared of academies but all the jobs I see advertised seem to be academies now.

Sorry, should say 'I'm now' not 'I'm not' above. Ham handedness over here.

Hi fellow teachers
I have been TTC for 8 years, quite a lot of failed treatments in that time, I'm not on the 2WW from a DE IVF cycle. Transfer was Friday, I called in sick for it, as I have not told work about this cycle. I couldn't face telling my boss about another BFN or chem preg as I've had to do in the past.
So my question is, do I go in to work tomorrow, or do I call in sick again and go to the doctors and ask to be signed off? I'm sure I could cope if I was sat down in a nice easy office job, but teaching isn't like that... But at the same time I don't want to let work down, I had enough guilt about calling in sick on Friday.
WWYD?

doobeedee amazing news! Here's to a happy nine months, be nice to yourself.

oneslice welcome... Sorry to hear about your miscarriage. My advice would be to take time off if you need it - I hurried back to school after mine because I was leading a residential visit with loads of hiking... and had a really tough class of 40 that I didn't want to leave to someone else to deal with. I think I really buggered up my chances of getting pregnant quickly after mmc because I put work first, despite all the advice from family and friends.

Is there room for one more?! I'm acting head of a primary school - just a little stressful! I've just hopped off the 'due September 2013' bus as I miscarried this week. Trying as hard as I can to be positive but had a particularly tearful day today - here's hoping some positive thinking from this thread will help me along!