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Sorry Cats, but might have been a lucky escape. Schools are funny places and some you fit right into and some you just don't. Better to not get a job in a place you don't fit than to get a job and then find out it's not the right one for you. I've been teaching twelve years in six different schools. Three of them I loved (including my current school) and the first two I loved I only left for external reasons (ex partner and his job). Three I didn't like, and moved on after a year. This is why I'm adverse to my DP's idea of moving abroad, I don't want to leave my current school and end up in a bad one!!

I think this was obviously a bad fit, and means the good fit school is still out there waiting for you :o).

Oh, sorry for you Ilove. Oh well, maybe something else will come up. Keep looking!

I've not heard anything yet either and starting to get a bit jittery. I wish they'd tell me either way.

Wasn't short listed. Bummer. So full of commiseratory biscuits, I have given myself stomach ache. Bummer.
Theatre company in school tomorrow morn, so don't have to deal with things too much. Hurrah!

Sorry that you haven't heard anything ILove and Thatsso. You say that, but one of my friends did only get a day to prepare for an interview and it wasn't even a full day. I think what happened probably was that she was number 5 on the list and number 4 pulled out, so she got a place for interview at the last minute.

I haven't heard either, but am really hoping that I hear something today as I'm going away on Thursday and could really do with knowing before then! It is really rude for them not to send an acknowledgement email, but hardly anyone seems to anymore now if it makes you feel any better. probably doesn't

Anyway, I think with jobs that if they can't see your potential bu shortlisting you, then it's probably not the place for you anyway. At least I say that and it makes me feel better. I do think it as well.

Barking - I've not had a referral, but in my experience and from what I've heard from friends and family, you have to really stand your ground and don't let them fob you off. If you have a real concern, then you must ensure they act upon it. Maybe take some written evidence i.e. where you have logged your cycles to show that you have a short luteal phase as 'proof'. It also shows you're serious. Bummer about the waiting, but as you said, it's all we seem to do when TTC!

thatssofunny I think the first thing we do is wait! GP said we should get an appointment with someone at the fertility clinic at the hospital in 4 months, so now waiting for the appointment letter. GP said the clinic will probably do an ultrasound and some more detailed blood tests. What I want them to do is give me clomid to try and bring forward my O as I have a ridiculously short luteal phase so I'm not convinced an egg could stick even if it got fertilised. I will have to wait to see how fast things move and how seriously they take my concerns about the LP. More waiting then, should be used to that by now!

Thanks for the chocolate - just what I needed. I have a snoring cat on my lap, who is acting as a hot water bottle/security blanket combo. Difficult to type, tho!
It's a pain when you've decided to apply, take the time to fill the application, visit the school (especially with the ttc do I, don't I?), and they don't even acknowledge your email. You say wise words, but it does miff. Onwards and upwards.

Never mind ILove, something else will come up and perhaps you'll like that one better anyway. I'm not holding out much hope, either. They didn't even press the button for the e-mail response, acknowledging receipt of my application.

I could offer you some chocolate, which is what the kids in my class do when I'm feeling down. (I do have some nice ones, too.)

Good luck with the referral, Barking. What happens after a referral? (Just nosy, haven't gone through that process, yet.)

Thanks for the advice, ladies. Much appreciated. I didn't do or say anything today as I don't think it's worth it. Interview date set as Thursday, and I haven't heard, so doubt I've been short listed, as they wouldn't expect me to get cover and plan a lesson with one day notice, would they?
I think I just need something to obsess about as I can't about ttc in this loooong random cycle. Bit low today. Tomorrow will be better.

IloveMyCats - how annoying! Barking's advice is really sound though. If she asks you about it again I'd be tempted to say that you can't talk about it and just let her draw her own conclusions. Then you've been as discreet as you can be. I agree with Barking that she could have overheard or maybe she knows someone who works at the school, but it's not worth worrying about. At my last job I didn't tell people I was leaving (apart from SLT and the Head of course) and then they saw the advert. It was all very awkward when they asked who it was!

Well done on getting the referral Barking!

Just waiting for a response to the job I've applied for now. Jeez, with the 2ww and TTC, and now jobs I feel like I'm always waiting for something!

Thanks, barking. You are so right! I've had half a packet of biscuits, so great minds think alike!

Congrats on the referral!

Thatssofunny I really wouldn't worry about it (easy for me to say I know). It's not like the gossip has got hold of it before you've told the head etc, so you've got nothing to reproach yourself for. And don't waste energy worrying about who might have told her, it could be she overheard something. That's what gossips are good at! Unless the head has asked you to be discreet (and there shouldn't be a reason why you can't discuss your own business with whomever you choose) then there really isn't an issue, don't let yourself stress about non-issues, there are plenty of other things in school to get stressed about!
Have a biscuit!
I found myself running around like a headless chicken all day, and it wasn't until school finished that I started getting worried about picking up my results from the GP tonight! Which was nothing to worry about. She's referred us to the fertility clinic and said most people wait around 4 months for an appointment, but that we should get the letter with a date in the next 4 weeks so then we'll know when the next stage starts! :)

Well, I'm working as a TA, but am a pn experienced teacher. Current head was pleased that I'm applying for class teacher roles. It's a change of path really and they understand. Just annoyed that I've been so careful & gossip chops comes out with it!!

ILove I wouldn't think so. What did your head say about it? Mine said they'd be sad to see me go, since I'm brilliant...but I live really far from school. Wasn't happy, but didn't discourage me, either. (My old head didn't, either. She was annoyed when I got a new job, because I am actually pretty good at what I'm doing...two years earlier, she would have happily escorted me out of the door personally. I'd rather leave while I'm still ahead.)

Yeah, thanks, thatssofunny. I know it's not the end of the world, but I've been so anxious about the whole process, having to have the conversation with head etc. Ive been so discreet, not even telling my friends there & to have this woman approach me with it was quite a shock. Could I get a neg reference for not being discreet?

Hi ILove Why do you think you'd get a bad reference? My head knows that I have applied somewhere else, most other people know that I have been for a look (I'm at a very small school). They also know my reasons for it...and that I wouldn't be too unhappy, if I didn't get the job. But then, I'm absolutely terrible at keeping secrets...I have always been rubbish at it, even as a kid. I wouldn't like it when people found out, who I don't want to know or aren't happy telling, though. Perhaps you could have told the nice gossip "Yes, it was an AMAZING school. They do APP for EVERYTHING, from dance to woodwork. Always good for professional development to have a look at what others are doing, don't you think? I'm thinking of implementing a few of the ideas I picked up from there....Oh, I've volunteered you as one of our trial candidates. I thought you'd like to be included in this great opportunity. Just think...more APP! What could be better?" (walk away excitedly muttering about differently-coloured highlighters and evidence files for each child)

barking I can spend ages not planning stuff. I'm really good at it. Somehow, however, planning ends up done (or copied...aehm,...yeah...). Hope the first day back wasn't too bad. We seem to have been back for ages. Four more weeks to the holidays!

No AF, yet. No symptoms, either. Test was negative (yes, yes, couldn't resist...but then, my cycles are 26-33 days long,...who knows when the witch comes round). I'm on CD27. I hate waiting! (I'm pretty sure af will turn up in the next few hours, though.)

So, this isnt ttc related, but need a rant and know you'll understand.
The school gossip knows that I went on a school visit. She cornered me in the staff room & said she'd heard I'd been for an interview. I set her straight that it was a visit & she wouldn't say who'd told her. I only told the head & my class teacher & head of phase. Why would any of them have said any thing? Is it worth saying something to those people tomorrow? My fear is repercussions from whoever she has told & ending up with a bad reference if head thinks I've been blabbing. What do you think?

I'm back at work tomorrow rather than today (Mon), but spending as little time as possible today marking and prepping. Going to try and do it as quickly as I can. It's a bit of a joke as I don't get paid to do it either, so it will be a very quick session I hope.

I've sent off my application and now just waiting to hear. I should find out this week hopefully.

AF has just finished today (after 11 days) so I am relieved. It seems my AF is always that long now, which in a 27-10 day cycle means I'm spending a third of it on AF. I've had tests though and no one seems to think anything is wrong with my hormones, so I'm just bemoaning the crapness of it really. Hmph. Preferred being on the pill when I knew it would be 7 days and that was it. Oh well. Hoping it will all be worth it in the end.

Hope everyone has a good first day back.

Hello all, just a quick update from me! Was too wrecked and stressed from work this month to DTD so now awaiting AF so we can restart TTC. Feedback from my obs was fine in the end. Soooo unmotivated to go back to work today! Don't let TTC put any of you off looking for new jobs. I'm hanging on where I am as I love the people I work with and the mat leave deal is fab but will be reconsidering next year if no success with TTC...

Hello barking! Crossed posts with you. Not happy about going back tomorrow, but not long til Easter!!!

Hope you're all recovering from bugs etc won't mention that colds are supposed to be symptom of early pg. I've always caught most bugs going round school, usually towards the end of terms when I'm tired.

Had to let you know what my acupuncturist said on Wednesday. Amongst the unsolicited advice on dtd (making dice of likes to maintain spontaneity), she said that working with children helps when ttc. Her actual words were 'playing with children puts you in the right place'. What a load of cack! She also told me to be more feminine!! I chose her as she's a GP as well, but think she's got a bit caught up in the happy clappy! As long as she does the acupunture right, I'll ignore the rest.

Cd69. Aaaaaargh! If I did get pg this cycle, how the hell would due date be calculated?? DEcided to try dtd on Sundays, Tuesdays and thursdays to cover the 2-3 day theory, but so we don't have to count!! Dunno if this will work, as it may put more pressure on, but worth a go, no?

(It's H313n, I had a name change...)
So, everyone happy to be going back to school tomorrow?! I know half term week has varied greatly across the country so it might just be me who's back at school tomorrow but hasn't planned more than two lessons yet and really can't be arsed doing any more. When I'm not in the mood I just can't get my planning done. I can spend 4 hours failing to complete what should take an hour. Picking up my test results from the GP tomorrow after work so my mind really isn't much on school.

I usually get ill during the holidays, which is terribly annoying. It hasn't happened so far this year, though,...so hoping it will clear up by itself very quickly. I usually take NightNurse and that tends to help pretty quickly (apparently not advised when pregnant,...or having even the slightest chance...the lady at the pharmacy refused to hand it over...not telling her next time, pah...).

I've just written my job application and now in the process of designing wedding invites. We'll see what happens. Everything always seems to happen at the same time, but since I'm currently feeling like af is just around the corner, I might as well apply.

h313n I'd love to move somewhere warm. I can't believe I moved to this cold little island in the first place. I really miss the warmth. Always seems to be miserable here,...and I can't wait for summer (would love a proper one, though...20 degrees is a spring temperature, not a summer one).

Yep, Sparkle - I'm snotty and horrid. Ironically I think I caught it from being around a friend's kids a few days ago. Always ill in hols. Gah! We're supposed to start DTD tonight but I feel knackered already and I've only just got up. Feel like crawling back into my bed.