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TTC and a teacher?! Join me!

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HopefulFairy · 16/01/2013 20:58

Good morning (evening) Miss/Mrs MummyToBe!

I don't know about you, but I'm finding it hard to balance teaching+TTC. Too tired to DTD as often as I think I probably should be+so overwhelmed with the job that I'm filled with lots of negative thoughts+feelings all the time Sad

Everyone keeps telling me that I need to be less stressed if I want to conceive but find that an impossibility.....unless I resign!!

Any other teachers out there feel like this?

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AmelieRose · 17/01/2013 18:50

Thanks HopefulFairy - I think you have to be pragmatic about it all, and keep optimistic. It's good to be aware of things that can happen but shouldn't let it take over. That's what I'm trying to do - keep positive and hope it works!

I know what you mean about pregnancy rumours too - I work in a Catholic school and the assumption is as soon as you're married you'll be up the duff ASAP! I've been married for 9 months now so the subject of much speculation - even from some pupils!

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HopefulFairy · 17/01/2013 18:42

Great minds must think alike Lark! I just feel that teaching adds yet another pressure to what is an already stressful+trying time! I got married in August so spent all of last year trying to juggle wedding planning with teaching so guess I should be used to it! Sorry to hear you've been trying for so long. It's only been a few months for us but can't help worrying that I'm gonna struggle. I'm actually desperate to leave teaching. I love working with the kids but the job isn't really what I thought it would be+I don't cope very well with the stress+pressure. Thing is, I feel trapped because cant afford to turn down the maternity pay Sad so gotta stay till I'm upduffed.

Amelie, I'm so sorry about what's happened hun. I can't imagine how you must be feeling. We spend so long obsessing about the actual conception bit that I sometimes forget the world of worry+uncertainty beyond that. I really hope that things start to look up for you.

Totally agree Doobeddee. Was recently the subject of a pregnancy rumour. Found it quite funny at first as wasn't aware I was being watched so closely, but then just made me a little upset that I couldn't confirm their suspicions. Also made me really weary of what I say in the staff room. Felt sick yesterday (not pregnancy related Sad) but couldn't say anything in case everyone jumped to conclusions!!

Really pleased to have you all on board with me Smile and here's to BFPs for us all Wine

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doobeedee · 17/01/2013 18:09

Hello everyone. I'm a teacher too. Been trying for 18 months and just took first round of Clomid. I don ovulate but have a short luteal phase (9 days usually) so it's to try and lengthen that. I find the worst thing about TTC as a teacher is trying to get fit in appointments without being obvious and everyone knowing your business!

AmelieRose · 17/01/2013 18:08

I'm in. I'm a secondary school teacher and am currently signed off work after a miscarriage and ERPC and feeling horrendously guilty about leaving my classes.

I was feeling very smug after getting my BFP in November, which meant baby due in August (in Scotland so means could have rested over summer hols and started mat leave as school went back). Look where that got me!

Feeling much, much better today though after a really really crap week last week so hoping we'll be back to TTC soon!

LittleLark · 17/01/2013 17:49

This must be some kind of a sign!
I have logged on to the conception board for the first time in about a year as I just needed to ignore it for a while.

But today I thought: I am going to start a new thread myself about ttc and being a teacher - and here it is!

Been ttc for nearly 3 years (man, that's depressing written down!) and am about to start taking Clomid again for the first time in about 6 months.

I can feel the cramping of an AF arrival, so clomid ttc will commence again in earnest this month

But I am exhhhhhhaaaaaaauusssssssted as work is crazy at the minute. I absolutely adore it, and if truth be told, I have taken refuge in it wrt to whole ttc business.

The problem is that I never really recognised how much emotional energy teaching takes until the ttc thing started to struggle. I teach secondary as well, and have some rather 'challenging' classes, shall we say...? Love them dearly, but it takes me to be 'on' all of the time, as well as happy and chirpy and calm and in control. Exactly the opposite of Clomid side effects....

Sorry, this is a bloody essay now! (and my pile of essays for tomorrow remain unmarked...) So: thank-you for starting the thread, and an introductory Wine to all!

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HopefulFairy · 16/01/2013 23:47

Welcome Bear, pleased you've joined us. The only reason I'm still up is bloody marking!!

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Bearface · 16/01/2013 23:22

I'm in. I'm a teacher, but got to go to beddy byes now, so will introduce myself properly tomorrow. I feel your pain, ladies. There aren't enough hours in the day. And I did resign partly in order to get upduffed, but no luck yet. No upduffing or more reasonable job! Eeek!

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HopefulFairy · 16/01/2013 22:29

Bugoven - Sorry to hear the change in job hasn't helped to alleviate the stress. Working in a school in any role can be stressful but even more so when it's such a challenging one. Being a teacher means that my day never ends but can imagine in a challenging school you always bring the day home with you emotionally+physically, whatever you do. I hope this year brings you the elusive BFP xXx

Thatsso - How do those sneaky b***ds manage to always pick the worst time to come?! Last time we had them, I was playing one of the leads in the school show+they came on the 2 days of our evening performances!! That's a week I'll not forget in a hurry. We're expecting them again soon.....mind you, have been under the big O threat for over a year so won't hold my breath.

I haven't been using OPKs so relying on natural symptoms to judge Ov. Prob not as reliable as it could be but fairly new on the ol' TTC journey so not familiar with all the tricks+processes yet. Do you find it helps? I do usually Ov in the week. Usually DH is waiting to DTD so I take a break in my marking to fit it in, then pick up the books again! Hardly the romantic, passionate conception I imagined! But at this point, any conception would do! Smile

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Thatssofunny · 16/01/2013 21:55

Fairy, ...I've got the same problem. My DP is also a teacher, so we are both continually tired. I work approximately 70 hours a week during term time, slightly less during holidays...although I'm getting better. Not helpful, though.
The thing I am currently most pissed about is the fact that I have been so good all month, getting ready for ov and thinking "yeah, we gonna make it this month". And then,... Ofsted call the day I get my smiley face on the darn stick and DP has a meltdown, because he's so stressed at work. (He's stressed? We are the ones being inspected...). Of the two days they could have chosen, it had to be these ones. So instead of dtd, I was marking books and going through my planning to make sure it's idiot-proof. I don't think there are many more people out there, who'd give their work precedence...especially after a year of trying. However, we have worked so, so, so hard all this time and I refuse to have any inspector tell me that I'm not doing a good enough job. We are a good school. End of.

Postponed until next month. I'm likely to ov during half term, so there's hope. :) Do you generally ov during the week?

bugoven · 16/01/2013 21:24

Hi hopeful. I'm not a teacher but I work in a very challenging role in a very challenging school with very challenging pupils.
I was working in a kids' home before and made the move to a school to increase my chances of destressing and conceiving. Pretty sure my body is working harder and more stressed than ever so don't feel I could get preggers. We do manage dtd regularly but no luck in the last 14 cycles.
Good luck.