Page 7 | Fantastic Forty Plus, part 9, this time is our time,bring on the bfp's!

hopefulgum · 2013-01-01T23:20:41+00:00

We've filled out thread - I do hope you all find your way here. I can't add a message on the old thread to let you know it is here...[smile] This new thread, will no doubt have its own set of bfp's and babies. I am excited to see what it brings.

Diege · 21/02/2013 07:42

notsoold I wouldn't worry too much about sickness. I get HG,so very unusual not to get even some sickness if I get it so extremely in usual pregnancies. How many weeks are you now? I have had a lurk at the october antenatal thread, but think I might hold out to the Nov one as due very end of oct (ds 2 28th oct, so could be same day!) Of course this is a massive 'if' as it's such easy days. I am trying not to get excited and be prepared for then worst, but I am a natural optimist (most of the time) and it's difficult to stay grounded sometimes.
Symptoms so far are tiredness and sore boobs. No going off foods, and only a few waves of nausea at bedtime.
Gum Noooo you are fertile myrtle, I'm not taking that title away from you just yet . I reckon you're in with a good chance this month - what are crosshairs by the way? . Hope you enjoy the copyright meeting . Sounds the sort you could do by e-mail, and then delete before reading...
calendergirl sounding very hopeful, if not a cert. We need immediate news when postie comes. I was very impressed that my tests arrived so early - maybe they realised how desperate I was what with ordering 50
Annual leave day today (half term here) so trying to think up something inspiring to do with the dcs that doesn't cost money...probably the park again and some home baking. Plus I have more exam marking (still not finished!) and they have asked me to do some more too - can't say no really!

notsoold · 20/02/2013 23:39

Calendar...fx for you!!!

Martha...welcome!!! Hellllllooooo from me! :) :)

Hi to everyone else!!!

Because I don't trust what I see and I have few pregnancy tests about I poas and now all show positive. ( even the ic that did my head in and showed the lightest of light second line when other brands- superdrugs and B&M showed +ive....). Do I believe that I am pregnant??? After all this tests yes....do I believe I will have a baba in my arms??? I want desesperately to believe it....
Without ms feels like déjà vu from last summer :(

Ds went to London and arrived todayafter few days with relatives ...all excited re ttravelling on his own and keen to do it again!!! I missed him and his messy ways!!!

Xxx to all

notsoold · 20/02/2013 23:26

Hi All !!!
I am having trouble posting and this is my third attempt...
Jbrd and Calibee...consider yourselves hugged by all of us. I don't think I can say wiser words han others here. Pain is clear from your posts and likewise love and understanding flow from all of us to you. Take care of your hearts and souls....

Deige...I read your post and thought was I pukking when pregnancy with dd?? So long ago I am not completely sure but me thinks not. I remember nausea during ds pg....as I(like you) didn't have ms during the mmc I hope I do because I am stressing a bit!!!

Morien...how are things?? Has af showed herself?

Sparkly....thinking of you hun....hole you are well

Gum...Falling is catching! I did and now it is you :) ....when ds started reception he went through patches of happy going versus finding excuses...sorry about the not salary raising issue :(....

Gum and green tww for you both....get yourselves some bfps so we can graduate together....

Shifty welcome hun!!!

calendargal · 20/02/2013 23:13

No postie yet and no AF - 19DPO so I am now certain I am pregnant. I will now be shocked if it isn't a bfp. I've sort of got my head around being pg (still in the absence of a +ve test of course...), but keep looking at dd thinking HOW will I cope with two?? DH away with work this week but he emailed this evening to say that a really important work project has potentially just been brought forward to Sept-Oct. What he doesn't know is that another big project has potentially just been brought forward to October too . He's back Friday night.

Welcome Shifty.

thewashing, years ago my mother had a friend who had her only child at 50 - this was around 1985 so extremely unlikely to have been assisted. She had married late and decided to try (possibly before there was so much adverse coverage of 40-something pregnancies too - perhaps that gave her the courage). The DIL of a friend of MIL's recently had her first at 47 after ttc a while, but my guess is that was IVF/donor eggs.

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hopefulgum · 20/02/2013 22:48

P.S. Calandergirl, could you please test already????

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hopefulgum · 20/02/2013 22:47

Morning all.
Welcome Shifty. I think you are still quite young (I'm because I am ancient), so I hope you will keep trying. Sorry that AF turned up. She has a way of doing that when we least want her to

Deige, I think your approach is very sensible. By the way, would you mind sending over some of your babydust? I have decided you will take the trophy for being "Fertile Myrtle". It used to be mine, but I think it should be yours now I think I am no longer the "fertile Myrtle" I used to be.

As for my crappy couple of days, I think it is because I am truly meant to be a spoilt princess who doesn't have to rush around and should not have to work. Pity I can't afford to be a princess. I'll just have to suck it up and get on with it. I do think that DS is finding the routine difficult after 6 weeks of very cruisey stay at home time. And, actually, I am finding that hard too!

This afternoon I have a 2 hour after school meeting, about copyright. I am sure that will be thrilling I'd rather stay home and go to the beach. I think I'll be having a family carer day soon with DS so we can both catch our breath.

Jbrd and Calibee, sorry to hear that things are tough. Please be kind to yourself.It is still so new and raw. I had to avoid my pregnant friend for ages, in fact I missed the last couple of months of her pregnancy, and didn't visit until her baby was about 2 weeks old (and only because my DH insisted). It was just too painful a reminder. ((hugs))

Well, I am officially in the tww. My temperature was up again and FF gave me crosshairs. I only got a "good" rating on "intercourse frequency", 2 days before and day of ovulation. I also DTD 6 and 4 days before, so lets hope there was a whole lot of sperm in waiting....I think it was a stirling effort and couldn't possibly have done it more often.

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Diege · 20/02/2013 22:22

Evening . Thanks again for the congrats. It is sinking in now and I'll wait until sickness kicks in before telling dh I think. That's a good sign for me (every non-sick pregnancy had resulted in mc) plus as you say Gum it will be hard to hide then! On past (healthy) pregnancies sickness starts for me at about 5.5 weeks (HG) so we'll see what happens. If it doesn't I'll probably keep quiet and see what happens.
Your day does sound stressful Gum! Ds1 had a similar one a few wks ago when he wouldn't get dressed - soooo frustrating when you need to get out. Sod's law about your trousers too. At least you have a good series of dtds in, so no stress there yet ...fpr a few days
Hi italian, Miaalexandramummy - nice to see you both x
calibee hope you are ok, it is so tough after a mc and it is relatively soon too to be feeking anywhere near normal.
How are things morien? A very difficult time for you too
Welcome shifty - love the name! You made a good choice with this thread
calandergirl has your postie been yet?

thewashingneedsdoing · 20/02/2013 21:18

i used to post on here under another name and wanted to say that i read today an interview with Nicole kidman where she said her grandmother had her last at 49 years old! thought that may cheer some of you up! (sorry if someone has already mentioned that)

ShiftyFades · 20/02/2013 18:59

Exactly
Will have to call it a day soon though. Would like to book a holiday soon (DS starts school in sept so want to go abroad in term time, for the first and last time for 10/13 years!) and also planning a big (both sets of GPs) holiday to Florida next Easter. Won't go with a newborn but flights should be on sale soon.

I need to get my best "persuasion" head on because DH had already decided to stop. He just forgot to use condoms this month and I "forgot" to remind him

CaliBee · 20/02/2013 18:45

Oh shifty thats crap.
Definately talk to DH...after all, whats the difference between being 39 and 364 days and 40 Plus a few?? lol

ShiftyFades · 20/02/2013 18:23

Thank you for letting me join you. I dithered over the 10 months+ thread and this one. I felt, given my age, this would be the right place for me.

Sorry to read about the mc and the awful time ahead. My friend is pg with baby 3, her first 2 were twins, born 3 weeks after DS. That's how we became friends (post natal class). She's lovely, I'm so pleased for her but I have pangs of jealousy. She is morbidly overweight and, whilst younger than me, I think that outweighs my age.
But I mustn't be jealous, this baby was much longed for and she has additional worries that made its conception more urgent. I love her to bits and can't wait to meet the baby... But I know I'll sob when I read the announcement

I used OPKs to get DS and I still have a pack.... I think I need to either: talk to DH to see if we should try one more month, in earnest... Or.... Sneakily test and romance him into bed...

Oh, and because I dared to hope today... AF arrived this afternoon... Bitch

CaliBee · 20/02/2013 17:57

Glad you have found Game of Thrones Jbrd and Morien....I have seen all of season 2 now and am currently on book 5.

CaliBee · 20/02/2013 17:49

Aw jbrd...I had a similar day. I cant seem to do anything right at work and the pedantic nit picky nature of pharmacists has somehow directed itself at me today. I spent my lunch hour hiding behind my hair and pretending I had a sniffy nose as I fought and fought the rising lump in my throat. I pretended to be reading my phone (kindle app before you think I'm nuts) but was actually watching my tears splat on the desk under my nose. Maybe its because today marks 4 weeks exactly since the mc....maybe because my body (even though temps are up and a week since +opk) shows no physical symptoms of having ovulated....I have no idea, but I feel incredibly flat and frustrated all at the same time. And yes....the royal baby fever is going to be hard. I hope we both feel better soon.

Welcome to shifty this is a lovely thread with fantastic supportive ladies. I couldnt have got through the last few months without them. Do you track ovulation atall?? Either temping or doing opk's or both?

Thankyou morien you are right...we have to keep the faith. There are lots of positive stories around. My cycles were like yours last year. gum is right I was prescribed Provera (basically progesterone) which brings on Af with 7-14 days of taking it. Another one is norethisterone. I do wish though that the Drs had looked a little more into the possible cause of my long cycles rather than just treating the symptom. I may bring it up at my GP appointment in a couple of weeks.
gum how crap having done all that work with no reward. I think you are justifiably pissed off....I would be too. Have to say I had a giggle at your ds's tantrum...I'm sorry. Oh and I'm pretty sure cbfm is programmed to read 2 peaks and then a high...I used to stop feeding it after first peak (when I got one). Hopefully those swimmies are well and truly in place....ready and waiting.

JBrd · 20/02/2013 15:42

Welcome Shifty Happy to hold your hand (and drag you away from the pg tests ) - the waiting is agonising, isn't it? I also have fairly regular and reliable cycles, so I know all to well how worked up you get when af doesn't arrive on time! And heartache when you then get a bfn or she finally does... Fingers crossed for you!

gum I think you need a deep breath and a or even a ! Some days just need to get over and be done with, and it sounds as if you've had one of them!

Morien Glad I'm not the only new convert to Game of Thrones! DH and I have just finished the first series and am now impatiently awaiting the arrival of season 2 in the post! Unfortuantely, it doesn't get released on DVD in the UK until the beginning of March. I've actually started reading it as well now, not sure if I will be able to stop when I get to the point where season 1 ended. I'm completely hooked...

Well, I just had a major wobble, similar to yours, CaliBee - just heard from a friend who was due a couple of weeks ago that she's had a little boy. I was all fine and happy for her and started looking for a little present for the baby - and now I'm sitting here in my office, fighting back the tears . For the first time since my mc, I thought 'I would've been 16 weeks now', and it hit me really badly.
And it will only get worse - from now on until about June, there will be 1-2 babies per month coming along in my circle of friends, and I'm truly dreading it, all of a sudden. And then there will be my due date at the end of July, when the whole world will be going crazy about the Royal Baby (Kate and I would've been bump buddies ), there will be no getting away from it all.

On the plus side, I guess it all means that I am truly ready to get back on the ttc bus now!

ShiftyFades · 20/02/2013 11:08

May I join you? I'm now 40 and have been TTC Dc2 for 14 months now without success?

I have 1 DS who is 4 and, as I have endometriosis I am so grateful to have him.

DH and I decided to stop when I turned 40 a couple of months ago. I became moody and snappy, it took me a few weeks to work out it was because of this. I think I'm not ready to stop, just yet.

Anyway, we've been careless this month and haven't used protection (I hated using condoms in Jan, it was miserable).

My cycle has had the odd hiccup. Last year AF was a week late, twice. The rest of the time I'm a dependable 28.5 days.

Last month I was a bizarre 3 days late but I knew there was no chance of being pg.

So... AF is 7 days late going on my usual cycle and 4 days late if you go on the most recent cycle.
Last night we dtd as this often brings on AFs arrival, but nothing!!

Common sense says do a test, but if I do, and it's negative I'll be heartbroken yet again.

I'd like to wait until the weekend as ill be 10 days late from normal and a week late from the extended cycle. Will you hold my hand while I wait?

Fwiw: I have no symptoms of anything. No boob pain (I was very sore with DS) but no back ache.

I don't want to tempt fate by buying a test. All the time that I don't know means I could actually be....

Does that make sense?!!

Sorry to jump in with such a long post when you don't even know me

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hopefulgum · 20/02/2013 10:02

Hi ladies. Lovely to see Miasmummy and Italian drop in.

Deige, how are you feeling about things today? I was thinking about you,and wondering when your morning sickness will set in as I know you get it badly. Will you see a doctor soon for a prescription? I guess it will be hard to keep from DH if you are feeling poorly?

Morien, it sounds like you are having a lovely time, bugger about the lack of AF though. Could you see a doctor and get something to bring it on (can't remember what it is called, but I remember Calibee used it, is it "provera"?).

Calibee I sympathise, wondering if in fact that was your only chance. I felt the same way after my first miscarriage. I know I am not a poster girl for a subsequent THB, but I did get pregnant again a couple of times, just still hoping for a golden egg. And it may happen any month.Just as I think you may have said to me before, if you keep trying,at least you are giving yourself a chance. I am still trying to keep the faith, despite such awful odds for my age group. I have to keep the faith, otherwise I think I would find it difficult to keep going.

Well, I've had a pretty rough day. Actually a rough couple of days. Yesterday, as I was rushing off to work with DS in tow, I slipped on my driveway, put a big hole in my brand new expensive black work pants, and a hole in my knee. Ouch. I then had to suddenly rustle up a whole new outfit that didn't need ironing (impossible), and get DS to school, and was quite late for my first class. My Head of department had started the class, I felt awful, and the rest of the day was out of kilter...

Today hasn't proven much better with DS chucking a huge tantrum just before we had to leave because he didn't like his outfit (Oh Geeze!). In the end I had to throw him into the car without a shirt on. By the time we got to his carer, he was shivering as I had the air conditioner on! He actually happily put his shirt on then!

When I got to work I found out that the professional learning I had busted my gut to do last year, in my own time, online (48 frikkun hours of it) would not in fact give me a pay rise, because I wasn't in a high enough pay bracket yet and probably won't be for a couple of years. I felt really blue about it actually. I was looking forward to back pay through to November when I finished the course (and had spent it a few times in my head). It also seemed to fuck up my whole day. Grr...I feel quite emotional and not as resilient as usual. I am hoping it is a sign of pregnancy , of course I'd have symptoms at 1 DPO

Incidentally, my CBFM asked me for another stick this morning and I obliged,and it read "high", that surely must be the end of the surge? I won't pee on sticks anymore, even if the monitor asks. They cost a fortune and as far as I'm concerned, I got two days of peak, and my temperature was way above coverline this morning.

So it looks like greenlizard and I are cycle buddies.

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Morien · 20/02/2013 07:44

Congratulations Diege! Here's to an uneventful pregnancy... How are you feeling about it having slept on it?

CaliBee hope you're feeling brighter today. I know what you mean about that feeling of 'maybe that was my only chance' but I think we have to keep the faith. We can still do it (look at miaalexandrasmummy 's friend!)

greenlizard, gum, all the best for your 2WW...we'll all be watching your symptoms carefully

sparkly, remnant - thinking of you both.

Day off here today, very welcome after 2 extremely busy days (I've fallen asleep on the sofa both evenings). It's a beautiful day, cold but clear and sunny -irish, if you're still in Ypres I hope the weather's as good up there as it has been here for the last few days. I'm going to go for a swim, potter about in the garden a bit, read...but first of all I'm going to watch the episode of Game of Thrones that I slept through last night. Thanks to CaliBee, gum and anyone else who recommended it - DP and I are loving it (when I can stay awake!)

Still no AF on CD42...

Italiangreyhound · 20/02/2013 00:32

Greetings Hippy, Angelgeorgie, Tina, Gum, fireflies, Twirly, BB, Irishmammybread, sparkleysappire and jbrd*, and all.

And hugs to everyone.

Italiangreyhound · 20/02/2013 00:21

MiaAlexandrasmummy have I missed some news from you???

Diege congratulations.

MiaAlexandrasmummy · 19/02/2013 22:46

Dropped in and saw the lovely BFP news for Diege , but also sending to Isabeller and those of you who are hurting.

Really appreciated the alternative views about when to ttc again after having had 2 c-sections, I was very encouraged, as my cycles seem to have already come back.

And finally... just to offer a ray of hope to say that my 45-year-old friend is 4 weeks away from having her naturally conceived first child.

isadorable · 19/02/2013 22:09

Sorry forgot to say welcome to all the newbies! And heartfelt commiserations to Isabeller in particular and of course to anyone else who is feeling low.

isadorable · 19/02/2013 21:43

Awww congratulations to all the positives, whether hoped for or unexpected! Cali don't lose the faith... And we oldies have lots to offer. I can see it must be tough just now though. Well, we've jumped back into trying in a manner of speaking - don't think this will be our month but dp just got a job finally and we're moving at the weekend so things are good. Congrats to sparkly too, though I no longer have any polite words for your husband.

CaliBee · 19/02/2013 17:50

martha I often wonder what he sees in me too. Have to say though....he's not your average 23 year old, he has definately "been here before" and I often find myself wondering who is the more mature one in the relationship .

So tomorrow is 4 weeks to the day since my mc. I feel sad and just a little bit poo today. The whole 6 weeks that I was "pregnant" now feels like a dream where you cant quite remember all the details. It's so lovely seeing others getting their BFP's but at the same time I cant deny just a little stab of pain. I wonder if my bfp was a one and only...the very very very small chance that the consultant told me about last October?? Oh dear I'm sorry..the mood is good on here just now. I may have to lurk awhile.

sparklysapphire · 19/02/2013 17:24

Diege, congratulations! I know this wasn't planned, so I hope you (& your DH when you tell him) really are ok with it, & can get your head round it soon.xx

notsoold · 19/02/2013 16:02

Congratulations Diege!!! :) :) :)