Fantastic Forty Plus, part 9, this time is our time,bring on the bfp's!

Morien congratulations!!!!

Hi All

Back again, still TTC, 6 months now, AF arrived today.

Feeling all very impatient and getting a little disheartened. Given up fags too, so rather tetchy as well.

But good to see some people have had positive results since I joined

notsoold having everything crossed for you that you will have better news at the next scan! 5 weeks is very early for them to see anything, so there is still hope. Really sorry you're in this awful limbo now.

isabeller when will you find out about the lump? It might be to do with all the hormone treatment you've had, maybe? Wishing you all the best!

Hello everyone else! Sorry for not posting more, just a quick hello- we're at Center Parks, and they have no wifi in the cabins, so I'm on my phone. It's nice and relaxing here, DS is loving it, and therefore do we Got myself some spa treatments booked in the next few days, which I intend to fully enjoy (in spite of feeling slightly guilty for leaving DH to look after DS. Fortunately, he doesn't have a problem with that )

Forgot to say....London trip is booked. Thankyou to all who suggested sites for cheap deals. We managed to get a fairly cheap Premier Inn room right by the Shard, for 4 nights and we leave a week on Sunday. I cant wait. Just scouting round for any cheap deals now on entrance to the attractions

Hi to all
notsoold thats a bit poo that the news wasnt exactly what you wanted to hear. I remember so well the awful thoughts in my head when I received similar news. I remember going from positive to negative vibes and back again within minutes. I really really hope this turns out well for you xxx

morien so you're joining me in the brides corner eh?? Congratulations .....I still havent had the "big" proposal or the ring..but he talks as if its in his plans.I humour him...afterall I'm only interested in getting married if its something he wants. Having been there twice before I view it through slightly mucky specs nowadays.

I wonder if I need to let the fertility clinic know that I'm starting the clomid again?? I dont think they do any monitoring on subsequent rounds if it was a good result the first time. Does anybody find it a pain in the bum trying to fit in all these phone calls (this week I have had to call the council tax office, the mechanic to fit my car in for service and now maybe the clinic) whilst working full time. Most places open after I have started work and close before I get home which means I am constantly stood outside at lunchtime phoning premium rate numbers off my mobile.

Yes irish...he is really upset. I just feel a failure as I know how mich he also wants a baba....and he is always conscious of his age and I know that will be a deterrent soon ( if not my bloody body doing as it should: ()
Sorry really, really disheartened this time around and by Jove I don't if I can go through another mc....

Oh notsoold ,have a big hug, so sorry you've had worrying results. My midwife told me though that in the early stages when everything is so tiny it can be hard to get accurate results and even sometimes different sonographers get different readings, which I suppose is why they keep rechecking after a bit more time has elapsed. I hope and pray that the scan next week shows a little heart beat. Have you told your DH yet? x

Morien OMG!!!! Congratulations!!! I love weddings!!!

Hi everybody and tanks for the support.
just back from my scan and mixed feelings really. The good news is that the yolk sac is at the right place (and not ectopic although I am still in pain). So i was told to take paracetamol re pain.
But no fetal pole was found and they said that maybe pregancy is around 5 weeks??? Even allowig for the egg to take a ride into tow and back still is way out of my calculations (therefore not developing??)
I will have to return on the 7th March for another scan. The MW was lovely but pretty much said to me to prepare myself for the worst :(
I had a look o Dr Google (the worst thing I know) and information is conflicting...but after seen the MW face :(

Sorry about the me,me,me post!!!

Blimey ? it has been so busy on this thread! I too have been busy but
mainly trying not to a) symptom spot or b) think about TTC too much?.not
being really successful in doing either to be honest

Today is 8DPO for me and I have no symptoms of anything but not letting
this get in the way of day dreaming. I am still getting my highs on my
CBFM so will be using up the full 20 sticks I guess. I have had a stuffy
nose for about a week (which probably accounts for my unusually high
temperatures post ovulation) but luckily don?t feel ill just a bit bunged
up (unlike you poor Irishmammy ? glad you are on the mend. Your trip
sounds very poignant and sometimes a bit of perspective is what we need)

Hopeful I was very impressed with your champagne quaffing party - sounds
like your iron will crumbled with indecent haste which indeed it
should after 24 days of living like a saint?that you stopped at four
glasses was a miracle. Sorry you had to pay for it the next day though
How are you managing your 2WW?

Congratulations Morien!. Like the way you just slipped it in casually at
the end like it was an aside! I am glad you have had ?the chat? and are
going to see a gynae. I agree men see it differently?I think because it is
all a bit conceptual for them and lets me honest they don?t always know
what is good for them! I know you are supposed to say that you just want
your DP to be happy but as I was telling my OH actually what I really want
his for him to be happy with my choices . He has threatened to get
it printed on a t-shirt. Luckily, he seems to be happy for me to be happy
so it?s all working out so far. I am sure now that you know your DP is
happy for you to TTC that has subconsciously lifted a weight for you. Have
you always had long cycles or is this a new thing?

Notsoold hope all went well at the scan and you can feel a bit more
relaxed?

Diege glad your DH is happy with your news ? very exciting times ahead!

Isabeller good luck in find out what the mystery lump is (nothing to worry
about I am sure ? but expect you probably will anyway until told
otherwise!) Do you have an appointment to get it sorted yet?

Calibee have you tried looking at Amazon local deals or groupon for your
break? They sometimes have some really good deals on although it can be a
bit hit and miss.

How are you doing jbrd and sparkly?

Morien congratulations on deciding a date for your wedding!It doesn't give you a lot of time to arrange if it's this summer,you're going to be busy over the next few months. Will you have a big wedding?
It's good you've booked an appointment too and that you've had a talk with your DP.
It does seem to be different for men, they don't seem to have the same longing for a baby. While my DH was happy to try again after I miscarried I know he doesn't want it as much as me. He loves our children, he'd love another one, but if it doesn't happen now I think he'll accept it more easily than I will. I think he assumes it's very unlikely to happen now but we don't really discuss it. He never wants to know about opks,ovulation,timing dtd etc anyway and because he has so much on his mind with his dad dying and now the responsibility of looking after MIL I'd feel bad about stressing him further with my feelings about not conceiving again. Lucky I can come and rant on here!
Belgium is a lovely country by the way, though we only visited the area around Ypres. We were lucky with the weather,it was very cold but bright and sunny. We found the people very friendly and welcoming and were relieved they could speak English well, we hoped to get by on a smattering of French and knew no Flemish at all! We visited the grave of MIL's grandfather and discovered quite a lot about his movements and battles in the weeks leading up to his death in WW1,it was very moving standing in the fields where he fought. We discovered he'd taken part in the Christmas Day celebrations when they laid down arms and talked with the enemy, just weeks before he was killed. It really brought history to life for the children too. We also ate lots of Belgian chocolate and had some lovely waffles, smothered in chocolate sauce served with vanilla icecream, mmmm.
I think I need to go and get some work done now!

Aaargh, I just wrote the longest post and disappeared when I tried to preview it. You should all be relieved because try as I might, I'll never get this one to be as long...

diege great news about your DH's reaction.

and calibee great news about AF. I know for me it kind of drew a line under my mc when AF came - I felt my body was letting me get on with things.

notsoold hope your scan sets your mind at rest today.

Isabeller any news about the lump? How worrying for you. It'll probably be ok it's upsetting.

Irish sorry you're going through a bad patch, emotionally and physically. I agree - this thread is a huge comfort when I'm down.

Drwho lovely to see you. Never say never! As Irish says, why not you?

Still no AF here. I'd have to check but it's well over 40 days now. Anyway, I'm feeling all upbeat and positive as I'm seeing a new gynae tomorrow. The old one was lovely but incredibly difficult to get hold of (drs in Belgium tend to work alone, without even a receptionist, so you call the dr to get an appointment - which is ok as long as they answer the phone. She'd given me her home number as a favour, and during my pg that worked - but now she's not answering that either!) I was really torn because I felt I needed her as she was so kind to me during my mc, I was scared to see anyone else...but yesterday I decided that what I need right now is a gynae, any gynae, to set the ball rolling again. So I called one of the local hospitals (because hospitals have receptionists who answer the phone and because this hospital is where I'd like to give birth if that ever happens because of their progressive maternity unit) and got an appointment for tomorrow.

Had a long, unplanned and very constructive chat with DP on Friday night. We talked about ttc again and I said that whilst his being 'not against' a baby is a good start, it's not enough. Like a lot of men, I suppose, he's not great at talking about his feelings but he really made an effort and we talked about all sorts of things. I appreciate (even if I wish it were different) that he doesn't have the need to have a child in the way that I do, because he's already got 3 (I want him to want one with me but he says the over-riding factor is that he doesn't desperately want another one, full stop, but he's happy enough to have one with me). Anyway, we came to an understanding about lots of things, and I think it's no coincidence that the next working day I came out of the limbo I've been in for quite some time and made my gynae appointment.

Oh, and we also decided that we'd get married this summer

Hi DrWho ,posts crossed!
I know what you mean about September, I know realistically our bodies don't suddenly change on a certain date but it feels like a milestone. I think I need to stop reading statistics ,it can and does happen for some people so why not us!
Anyway maybe the zits mean you have the hormones of a teenager!
Isabeller , I should have said before, I hope your lump will turn out to be innocuous, when is your next appointment?

hello everyone!
It's going to take me a while to catch up properly.

We got back from Belgium on Thurs, DD1 started with vomitting in the early hours of Fri morning and was really ill,we had to cancel going to see Justin Bieber that night which was a huge disappointment, she'd got the tickets last July! Then I started with the same symptoms and it really floored me, I had a full day where I couldn't even come downstairs. DD2 didn't get her hair brushed (it's long and curly and a bit of a challenge), Dad forgot to take her to dance class, no vegetables were eaten all day and when the kids were given the option of DH cooking tea or eating out they all went out for fish and chips. However I recovered enough to take control again yesterday and we're getting back to normal!

There's been such a lot going on here in the last week,first of all big congratulations to Diege and Calender !
Sparkly your results sound good, hope things are improving with DH.
notsoold hope your scan can put your mind at rest. I had lots of cramps, with my successful pregnancies that felt quite painful and worrying but it was just things stretching, hopefully everything will be fine for you.
CaliBee I don't know if you've booked your holiday yet but there was an ad in the Mail on Sunday for spring breaks in Mercure Hotels,there is one listed in London, website is mailtravel.co.uk ,holiday code is j005. In a strange way you must be glad AF arrived,at least your body is getting back to normal.
I got a BFN on my birthday,if I was at home I wouldn't have tested as I can tell by my temps I'm not pregnant but because I was away I couldn't connect my monitor to the computer so I had a glimmer of hope. AF then arrived shortly later.
I have been feeling quite down,this time last year I was pregnant, my due date from my second miscarriage was a few weeks ago,my due date from my third miscarriage is coming up next month.Turning 45 has made me feel less optimistic about my chances of conceiving again but the feeling that there's a baby shaped gap in my life isn't diminishing at all,the yearning is still so strong. However I'm not ready to give up just yet and it's good to get back to the support on this thread and lots of positive stories.
Gum you're right, it would be fun to meet up sometime, if I ever go to visit my friend in Secret Harbour I'll let you know ,alternatively Ireland would be a possibility!
I've only quickly skimmed through the last few pages so I apologise to not name checking more people, welcome to all the newcomers

Personally I'm keeping my chin down, cos I've got zits...at my age! FFS!

Wow ladies, I turn my back for five minutes and half of you are upduffed! Congratulations to all you pregnant ladies. I'm so pleased for you, and wish I was there too. Welcome to the new ladies too. Sorry not to namecheck but on my tablet, with DP snoring next to me and trying really hard not to wake him as he gets up at stupid o'clock.

8dpo today, no symptoms whatsoever. It sucks, and I can't help feeling with each passing month my chances are disappearing. I'm 46 this September, its not looking good, is it? Not even a sniff of a bfp.

So sorry things didn't work out this time isabeller hopefully next time will be more successful. Good luck with the lump, please do let us know how things go. I'll be keeping you in my thoughts.

Hope everyone else is keeping their chins up! Xx

Diege thank you...I thought the same...

Gum thank you...I guess I will find out tomorrow!!!

notsoold they would have been alerted to an ectopic due to abnormally low hcg and as calibee says your levels are normal. I'm sure if they had been concerned on that account they would have brought you back in there and then. Hoping the cramps settle down and you can relax after your scan tomorrow x

I hope you are right Calibee....
The pain is still there although is not awful...

notsoold your hcg falls completely withing the normal range for your dates. I would think they are scanning purely because you complain of one-sided pain and they need to rule out ectopic not necessarily because they suspect it.
Fingers crossed for you x

Hello ladies :). Wow hopeful what an amazing story :). Today I woke up with a runny nose & had it all day, but I've noticed my sense of smell is different, really strong. I do keep saying to myself, It's all in my head. I also have a really dry throat all the time which I've not had before, maybe a side effect of the clomid? I did buy a early response pg test but not sure when I'll give in to the temptation lol, my hubby says, wait till the 31st which then will be cd31 but I'm really tempted to do it tomorrow & I know if it's neg my hubby will say, told you to wait lol. I have to keep telling myself, be patient! :).

Yesterday I started having cramps about 6pm....not so painful as periods cramps but only on my right side.
No other symptoms and otherwise well...
I went to epu today and because I am 6+2 they dod some blood tests and told me to come home. They thought that at 6+2 a heartbeat might not showed in a scan and I would stress even more...
The epu phoned tonight and told me to book a scan tomorrow and that the hcg result was 5163...
Should I be worried???
Can it be ectopic with that result??
Ps I am 41..

Where do you live hopeful? Outside chance we might be moving to Canberra at the end of the year. I know people say it's a bit dull, but seems a pretty comfortable place to live with dcs.

diege I'm so glad he has reacted well. I hope you can sit back and enjoy your pregnancy now

First post mc af turned up for me today...so my body wasnt fibbing with me a couple of weeks ago when it gave me signs of ovulation. I do feel relieved that my body has recovered well and not kept me waiting for ages.