Fantastic Forty Plus, part 9, this time is our time,bring on the bfp's!

Evening all!! Found you at last. Has taken me 11 days to realise the last thread wasn't updating as it was full. Doh!! Have 12 pages of news to catch up on, so will take me a while. In the meantime, thank you Italian for remembering me and for your good wishes.

Glad to see you are ok Jbrd. Hope your recovery continues to go well.

Is a bit late for the bistro tonight, but I have some lovely jumbo, soft choc chunk cookies to share around if anyone else is having a cup of cocoa.

Hugs to all. FF xx

green the mind can play cruel tricks on us sometimes but hopefully next cycle you'll have symptoms plus a lovely BFP to go with them!

DH came home this evening with lots of washing after his week away, a suitcase full including 9 shirts! Lots of ironing for this weekend! But it is great to have him home.

CaliBee sounds like you're having a rough day! It must be difficult trying to sort out any issues with DP at a distance and when you're not face to face. When do you reckon he'll be able to come home for a weekend?
That's so unfair about your ex taking all the equity from your house too, the sheer injustice must have been hard to accept!

JBrd good to hear you're home safely and everything went smoothly, look after yourself xxx

So glad its all over for you jbrd spoil yourself and let yourself be spoiled x

Jrbrd Glad to hear it went ok. Xxx

Hi Ladies, I'm fine. All went very well, lots of waiting around, but then very straightforward. Hardly any pain, and the little there is is manageable with paracetamol. About to have dinner that DH has cooked (I'm ravenous), then off to bed, I think...zzzzzz

Oh lizard I have never been there...honest (she lies). When my cycles first started to get longer early last summer I convinced myself I was pregnant most cycles even once af arrived.
newpatches well I first saw "shadows" on my internet cheapy tests at what was maybe 10dpo...but couldnt say for sure until 12dpo. I guess sometimes the hoping in those last few days of 2ww is nicer than the horridness of a starkly negative HPT.

Ladies I would like you to behold the power of denial......

Despite getting my period a week early, bleeding for the normal 4 days and experiencing a corresponding drop in temperature....I keep finding myself thinking that maybe I am pregnant -wtf!

Explanation for such ludicrous thoughts a) my period didn't start normally (time, consistency etc.) b) my boobs didn't get sore but I have very sensitive nipples (not sore but tingling and my boobs are bigger and haven't gone down) c) there wasn't a spot to be found on my face or chest (sadly I still get spots in my forties!) d) my period was unlike my normal period (very red blood but no clots and it just stopped as it a tap was turned off) e) ummmm there must be something else I can dredge up from somewhere...I am quite hungry and felt dizzy yesterday!

Honestly, it is quite pathetic (and yes I did POAS to make sure). 8 need to have a word with myself......

Calibee I'm the same, I can't bear not being able to sort things out face to face. And I get days like yours, when there is nothing but bad news and hassle. My ex also did a number on me when I sold my house, and I lost everything. And ew...slugs? I hate them, I don't envy you.

I am still only 8dpo, and AF is due on Thursday. I have a stack of internet cheapies and a digital clearblue in my room, so may take an early test on Sunday morning, which would be 4 days early but the tests are the ultra sensitive ones. I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia last year, so if I am not pg then I think maybe that is taking a turn for the worse and is causing all the symptoms.

Hope all goes well with DP tonight.

x

wylie I was suffering from sillily long cycles too before I took the clomid. It seemed to do the trick for me.
newpatches when can you test??? I'm getting excited for you.

I'm hoping for a much tamer conversation with DP tonight....unless he has gone to Newcastle (he wouldnt dare lol). I hate confrontation with him when we can only sort it on the phone.
So today I had a letter informimg me that my tax credits have stopped (as DP now earning) and that I owe them £81!!! I also had a car tax renewal notice of £189 and a breakdown from my bank explaining about a mortgage enquiry meeting we had with them last week. I sold my 4 bed detached house last year with every intention of renting for a year and then buying again. My ex did a complete number on me which put me out of pocket by £115,000 and he got his debts (which I knew nothing about!!!) paid off with the equity in my (not his) house (hence selling). Raaa. Well last weeks meeting made me realise that without at least £16000-£17000 as a deposit I may be stuck in rental for a long time. I do object to paying £750 a month for this cold and small 3 bed semi just because its in a good area....oh and I regularly have to remove slugs from my kitchen in the mornings.

I will be glad when today is over.

God, I just woke up. Again. I lay down on the settee for a few mins and before I knew it I was being woken out of a deep sleep by DS home from school! Luckily he picks DD2 up from school on the way home for me. Absolutely crippling tiredness. Have also had heartburn again today, but no sickness. The oddest thing is the distinct lack of soreness in the boobage department...Usually a week or more before AF is due I can't even take a step without wanting to yell with pain, but so far nothing. I usually have to take my bra off very slowly at night to cope with the pain, but I can whip it off no probs .

Calibee keep ranting away, we are such a safe outlet.
Remnant you have spawned a generation of gusset checkers y'know...we all blame you

To everyone else, sorry again for lack of name checking but I am feeling stupidly dozy at the moment.

Has anyone heard from Jbrd? Hope she's ok.

x

Thanks for your support ladies....
DrWho...that made me smile. Have to say though that for the majority of the time I can be the bigger kid. He told me very nicely about Newcastle( I knew he was testing the water) and I replied equally sweetly " sure sweet you go to Newcastle..but if you do then you can Fcuk off"....not very mature hey??
sparkly....as odd as it sounds its nice to feel I'm not alone in lack of symtoms...although somebody did stink the work toilets out earlier and the gag reflex was stronger than normal. And Remnant....said toilet visit was a knicker checking event. Sorry for TMI but I have felt a little "wet" down there today...but so far so good

Calibee I bet next week will be one of the longest you've ever known.

I'm swinging between knicker checking and worrying about having twins.

Your (lack of) symptoms sound quite similar to mine. Not sick but last time I wasn't sick at all. I did have such sore boobs I had to wear a bra at night. This time they're only painful if I poke right in the nipple. Ds still has one feed a day though. I don't feel much more tired than usual but I am usually very tired.

Blimey Calibee, I'd have been pissed off too. Not sure if the sometimes being completely insensitive/a bit emotionally thick is a toy boy thing (mine can SO be the same) or whether it's just a man thing in general. Difficult for me to say given that I'm a cradle snatcher LOL!

Hope it's all gone ok JBrd - been thinking of you.

Bit warmer today. The bedroom and bathroom are stupidly hot, but the living room is FREEZING. So I'm spending a lot of time on the bed, knitting! It's s hobby, but I only do baby clothes cos I don't have the patience for anything bigger!

Can anyone else hear snoring?? Oh, it's ok, it's just Sparkly in the corner . Hope things continue to look up chuckie x

JBrd, thinking of you today.

Calibee, yes, rant away if it makes you feel better, I'd be pretty cross too in your position. I'm a few days behind you (7+3 since LMP), and pretty much have exactly the same symptoms (or lack of), I haven't had any bleeding, but I'm concerned about the viability. I had no symptoms at all with my first pregnancy which ended in m/c, but felt very nauseous with DD (though I wasn't sick), but I'm just getting the occasional slight wave usually after eating something. I'm tired today but I think that's just a post night shift thing. I hope the scan on Monday will put your mind at rest but appreciate it seems like a long time til then.

Thanks wylie, nice to hear from you, I hope your next cycle is more predictable and does the trick. Do you think your family will stop driving you loopy any time soon?

Drwho, do you think the stress of moving may have contributed to the arrival of AF? Just a thought. Is the heating being fixed soon?

I'm not sure what DH is doing over the next few days so may not be able to post, but I'll keep reading and will be back when I can. I think I may actually need a short snooze as I'm struggling to keep my eyes open.....

Jbrd, how's it gone this morning? I hope this is the end now and that you can get on with recovering. I'm quite shocked by everything you've had to go through.

Dr WhoFan, any warmer today? We've had huge problems with our heating this winter so I sympathise.

greenlizard, we seem to have lived parallel lives! I too have a great career (when I said the career thing wasn't my case I ony meant that I've never put having babies in hold for the sake of my career) which took me all over the world in my 30's. Like you, I had hosts of friends in a similar position, and I had a ball. Which isn't to say that I wouldn't have preferred to be bringing up children...but I made the best of what life offered at the time, and I really enjoyed it.

CaliBee, rant away! (I'd have been furious, in the circumstances). Hope you're ok.

I don't post often but regularly read all the posts and think of you all often. Nice to see so many new people! JBrd thinking of you today, hope all goes ok. Calibee maybe your symptoms will kick in later? Sorry you are having such a difficult time.
My cycle is a bit weird and I'm blaming stress for it. I think AF has turned up now, after having had a very long cycle. I did a test BFN which I wasn't surprised about really but it's still gutting to see. I'm being driven loopy by family at the moment.
Gum thank for posting that list of things to try, think I might go back to basics and work my way down the list! Hope you are ok.

Sparkly thinking of you, keep positive.
Best wishes to everyone else.

Morning ladies....

jbrd good luck to you for this morning. I will be thinking of you.

patches sounds good...I will be watching.
hopeful...definately dont waste the cbfm..they are too expensive. I must get round to listing mine on ebay.
remnant and sparkly how are you both feeling??

I'm still stuck in this dreadful limbo land. I think my brave face (over the phone) to DP has backfired a little....we had our first ever barney last night. I have been trying to sound upbeat and jolly when we speak in the evenings, despite that all consuming thought of "is my baby viable or not"....and, being his first weekend back, we decided that he would need to rest this weekend and so not make the journey down to me (aswell as cost factors). You can probably imagine my feeling when he told me his plans to spend the weekend in Newcastle on the lash for one of his army friends birthday. I was not impressed, and much snot and tears later I finally got him to understand that it was nothing to do with jealousy about him being out clubbing (way past that my darling!!!) more the fact that I am struggling to get through the days with this dreadful "not knowing whats going on" feeling, and I really would have appreciated his support at home but understood why the long/costly train journey was too much. Raaaaa...now I'm ranting...sorry.
So I have had no more bleeding but so few symptoms that I could almost be imagining them. I'm 8weeks (since lmp) although I know ovulation was delayed until at least cd16 so prob 7+ something. My boobs only hurt if I poke them, no nausea (to be fair I was never sick with my pregnancies in my 20's...but I certainly felt it), no tiredness (well no more than usual)...I have some constipation ( but I get that when not pregnant...so cant count) and have some lower pains (probably the constipation lol) apart from that I feel fine. Oh roll on a week on Monday when I hope above hope that I see my baby all well and fine.

There I feel so much better for expressing that....sorry to rant ladies x

Hi cheese how are you?

gum my MIL is lovely too but we've come to realise she's not going to cope on her own now FIL has died so we're thinking about selling both properties and buying something together, with some sort of annexe or independent living arrangement for her. It's hard to know how it will all work out but we haven't really got a choice as DH is an only child and she needs our support. I just hope we can all have our space and not drive each other crazy!
Sorry to hear you think AF is on the way,how frustrating that your DH will be away next month at the critical time.I was sure though that I had missed out this month when DH went away at the start of the week but fertility friend pinpointed ovulation on Monday and as we dtd Fri,Sat,Sun it gives an intercourse timing rating as "high" so I suppose you never know ,you might still be lucky with dates?

sparkly glad you're able to talk to your DH now and he's accepting the situation, hope you enjoy your well earned rest!

DrWho it is such a disappointment when AF turns up especially when you timed everything so well and the symptoms seemed so promising. Next cycle could be the one though.Hope you get the heating sorted out soon, in the meantime bet the staffie makes a brilliant hot water bottle!

Patches what a waste of chocolate! Hopefully it's nausea for all the right reasons though.

Welcome loublou, I think you've been given a very good summary on ttc from gum ,there's really nothing more to add!

How are you doing CaliBee ? hope you're managing ok with your DP away.

Hello to everyone else!

Ah, knicker checking, the domain of ttc crazed women everywhere. I sympathise x

Yes Jbrd, I'll be thinking of you tomorrow too. Glad that you don't have to wait. You want this behind you.

Very nice of you to about me under the circumstances. I've had a quiet day mostly at home with ds1, no dramatic symptoms to speak of. Busy knicker checking of course.

Being the torch bearer is a lot of responsibility! I will try not to disappoint ladies. I have some very odd pains in my lower abdomen tonight, definitely not af as it's completely different, behind pelvic bone. Maybe implantation pains?
Take care lovely ladies
X

JBrd - Just popping in to say I'll be thinking of you tomorrow. I've had 2 ERCP's & have found the procedure very straightforward with a good recovery.

I hope it goes as well as it can & you recover quickly. Take care xxx

at your MIL comment hopeful. No, I don't do anything as useful as nursing, I work for a big media organisation, so 24/7 is the thing.