Fantastic Forty Plus, part 9, this time is our time,bring on the bfp's!

Oh calibee I'm so sorry you're facing this, and without dp too . What a rollarcoaster you've been on (and are still on). At least the scan tomorrow will give you some answers and, if it is bad news (and it may not be of course) you will slowly be able to mentally take it in before Monday where you can discuss options. I really feel for you - I have been in the same situaiton twice and it is really, really cruel .
ON a happier note dd3 is home and recovering VERY fast indeed; dare I say milking it a little . I'm not complaining though!

Oh Calibee honey...I'm so sorry. Awful to be having to cope with that on your own. Virtual hand holding xx

Hey ladies....hand holding needed.
I have been around and smiling at your stories, but not posted as it didnt seem right to jump in and winge about my situation.
However...this morning I woke up to brownish discharge which seemed to stop but I'm now feeling a sore period-type pain and noticed red blood when I went to toilet. Its not looking good is it??
I rang EPAU this morning but they didnt really want to know and just said come on Monday as arranged for the scan. So I booked a private scan for tomorrow afternoon. However if this progresses it seems pointless paying £75 for bad news .
DP is away on adventure training this week so the message I sent him has only just got to him and when he called he had to hang up after 5 mins.
I'm bracing myself for the worst tonight. Just me and DS (15) in the house.
I'm so scared......

Well, my body's buggered, twenty. And I've been going grey since I was 21, runs in the family. And as for the knees, i used to run, but ended up with crappy cartilage and double knee surgery 6 years ago which didn't work. Oh, and I suspect that my ancient ovaries are going to rob me of a DC. On the plus side...erm...there is one, right? Oh yeah, there's my DP, without whom my life would utterly suck. And at 6'4", he's a sizeable plus side!

Please all feel free to vomit copiously, apart from Patches who has been doing so for days in any case!

Diege I didn't know that was possible. Hope your DD feels better soon. And for looking out for 40 ish year olds, what do you all think of yourselves? I feel I have a young mind and a reasonably healthy body but my hair is really going grey now and my knees won't last my lifetime!

I had another ovary twinge today so of course I'm hoping that sperm has met egg and is causing a kafuffle as it makes its way along. We were only able to dtd once though (damn busy schedules coinciding with positive opks!), our chances are therefore slim. Having said that though, two of my pregnancies were from one off dtd's so I'm not so conderened about that.

DoctorWho, I'm also quite low maintanace (although am not fond of the term!) and am into a lot of typically boy type films, sci fi, action. My OH gave me the Hunger Games trilogy for christmas and I could not put them down, very action oriented but a wonderful strong female lead character who isn't just super confident and all knowing but gets things done!

Greenlizzard I laughed at the order of your appts, acupuncture and then a wax, ouch! Or maybe you'll be more prepared to manage the discomfort?!

Thanks 1000FF, I do try to take it easy, we do get pregnant and that's really great, I know, but for whatever reason I haven't been able to sustain it and I did look at my 2013 diary and just think "how many mc's will I be fitting in this year?" Tannks for offering to do a list of tips, will read it with relish!

Hopeful, wow, a swim in the warmth !

Isabeller, I don't understand about the injection but hope you're feeling better soon.

Oh, and Iron Man...she luuuurves him (but then again who wouldn't.....? lol)

Haha Patches...I have those films. DP was so relieved when I said "anything with explosions and car chases" when he suggested the flicks the first time. He knows he's lucky to have a low-maintenance girlfriend who doesn't mind spending date night with a gun in her hand trying to get rabbits for the pot!

Morning lovelies

DoctorWhoFan..your post made me laugh. My DD1 also has far too many Y chromosomes...her xmas list included Thor, Dark Knight Rises, The Hulk...it makes her very popular with boy mates though, lol.

Diege Your poor DD, it's bad enough that we have to deal with all things reproductive when we're older, but for her to have to cope with that so young. How is she doing? Is she ok in herself? (What does that phrase even mean???)

GreenLizard That'sexactly how my ear has felt, like it was going to explode. Then last night the most violent stabbing pains were going through it. I figured it was either getting better or was about to burst. The swelling seems to have gone down though a bit but it's still horribly painful.

Hopeful She is in NSW, about 200 miles south of Sydney. When I spoke to her last the fires were about 15 mins away from her - she was hosing her house down and clearing the gutters etc. Fingers crossed it's passed her by. Just to make you feel even better, it's soooo cold today, I live in a thatched house and there are huge icicles hanging from the thatch. Very picturesque but deathly cold. The paths are like ice rinks.

Ok...so I did POAS this morning but it was a BFN again. I am 12dpo so should be getting a + around now but I will stick it out until AF is due and then check again. They are the internet cheapies...I have a clearblue digital but I have read they are not too sensitive so might keep that until if I get a bfp just for the thrill of seeing the words!!!

Stay warm and safe girls

x

Blimey Diege, what a nightmare! You must have been worried out of your skin. Glad they found out what it was though and got it sorted out.

To be fair FF, I didn't really do anything, although I may have been wearing a low cut dress of some description - I have good bras, giving the impression (only the impression, mind) of still having a cracking rack! Otherwise, I'm still pretty tomboyish, a bit overweight, and mad as a box of frogs, so I've no idea why he thought I was a good bet! Telling your young boyfriend, for whom you're his first serious girlfriend that you have bipolar is probably one of the scariest things I've done, but I didn't want him to get too involved before I told him. To his massive credit, he didn't bat an eyelid and has coped brilliantly through several periods of utterly black depression. And yet men I've dated of my own age over the years have run a mile when I've told them.

He's very special...and I'm quite long-suffering of him spending a good portion of the time we get together at weekends when he's actually conscious, shooting at a farm with his mate. I generally don't go because I'm a better shot than him - years of practice doing drive by shootings on Grand Theft Auto!! You know, I think I have a few too many y chromosomes

Nope she gets better soon diege who'd have thought you could get a twisted ovary at 7? X

Crikey Diege hope your daughter feels better soon, thank goodness they worked out what it was.

Thank you for the suggestions hopeful. Car parts arrived and it's cold but sunny so here goes.

Not that any of us look 40 of course so will widen stalking to 30

Thanks for your messages ladies! Off to Alder Hey now (will be eyeing up every 40 plus lady to see if they are Irish who I think is also there today?

Morning from a damp, gloomy London. Looks like the rain is coming back!

hopeful I used to live in HK and completely understand how oppressive the heat can be especially when it is humid too (I had terrible hair all the time because it was so humid!)...but when you tell us you are going for a stroll down the beach in the morning and a swim in the sea...well it's no wonder we are all a bit ! Grass is always greener of course. Hope you enjoyed your acupuncture - you inspired me to try it so I am off for my first appointment this evening. Not sure I planned the appointment well because I have an appointment for a bikini wax at the beauticians afterwards - which isn't entirely relaxing!

diege a twisted ovary - ouch! Do they even know how that happened? Glad they figured it out and got it sorted with no risk. Can't believe you poor DD is being bothered by her lady bits already! At 7 I bet she will bounce back in no time.

jbrd Good for you for taking some time to rest and feel a bit stronger. Work can be a bit rough if you are feeling a bit wobbly and it would take you longer to recover. Good luck with your bake off - I am sure you family and friends are appreciating the output I also love the film up but it has the saddest first fifteen minutes of a film i have ever seen. I especially love the daft dog - brilliant!

Thank you Tina99 and Firefiles for you advice on IVF - I am going to think about it (whilst trying everything else in my power!) - I hope you don't mind if I ask you questions if I have any?

Welcome to Amberini and welcome back twentythirteen I don't think we've met

Get well soon Patches - I burst an ear drum a few years ago - it really, really hurt but the infection before hand felt like my head was going to explode.

xx

Evening All, especially newbies. Nice to see lots of lovely new ladies on here.

Wylie with your DH away, is there any facility where you could have his sperm frozen and stored? Just a thought. And supplements needn't be scary or make things worse. I took a huge amoungs of vits and weird supps and who knows, they could have been responsible for DS snuggled up next to me?

Re supps and top tips etc, did anyone get round to setting up another thread to post top tips on so we have a place to chat here on this thread and then a resources list? Want to check first before doubling up on things. Could someone let me know please? If there isn't one then I will set up soon and post my top tips and it would be great if people like Gum, Lol (if you're still with us out there), to name but two, could do the same as there is a wealth of knowledge here. I know we have all tried different things - Lol I know felt DHEA was great, whereas I wasn't keen, but some of you might thing Royal Jelly is a waste of money.

DoctorwhoFan just have to say - am totally in awe of your bagging a partner 14 years your junior. I really hope you do get that golden egg soon.

twentythirteen please take it easy on yourself. You're on 40!! That is very young by many of our standards. Good luck with getting a good, strong, sticky bean soon, and keep posting. That's what we're here for. In my experience it's better to post on forums like this than have all your TTC trials and tribulations out there in RL - gets way tooooo oppressive.

Newpatches hope your ear infection clears up soon.

Irish thanks for the top tips. I'll see if I can get round to expressing.

greenlizard yes - have done IVF x 2 cycles. Both failed but wonder if it kick-started 'things' as I conceived the month after 2nd cycle failed. Happy to help with any questions you may have.

Amberini welcome also and good luck. Your story is quite similar to many others on here - those with children already but not with current DP. Glad you're enjoying trying!!!

jbrd big hug for you. Really impressed with how you're bouncing back.

I'm tired, time to get some sleep. Sweet dreams all. FF xx

Blimey Diege. Hope she recovers quickly. Big hugs.

Diege - glad to hear your DD is OK, you must be so relieved! I agree about the bloody women's bits! You'd wish they wouldn't have to experience any issues with them at such a young age! Does a 7-year-old even understand what ovaries are (no offence to your DD, no idea how knowledgeable kids are at that age, but I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have had a clue!)
Fingers crossed she recovers quickly!

Hello! Just an update on dd3 (age 7) and her tummy pain. Turned out after a scan today that she had a twisted ovary so has had keyhole surgery this afternoon. They managed to save it and pin it back so it won't twist back again, but all very scary. No fear compares to waiting for your child to come out of surgery, so I've learned.
Anyway, good news and I'll sleep well tonight. Bloody womens' bits eh, they don't give us a moments peace

Want say hi and wave after reading of everyones recent trials and tribulations. Really feel for you hopeful although a tiny bit at thought of sunshine despite the fact that I melt in moderate heat.

I have a car thing too JBrd and hoping that the parts will arrive to fix it tomorrow despite whole country being buried in light sprinkling avalanche of snow otherwise will be in big trouble with DMum and DBrother who I'm supposed to be giving a lift to hospital on Wednesday. What will actually happen is will fix car then DM will decide to cancel appointment as it's too cold..

Downregulating injection last week made me feel really awful for a few days but mostly ok now, baseline scan this Friday. DP and I both getting as worked up as possible so as to take full advantage of opportunity for extreme emotional rollercoaster ride

best wishes to all and fingers crossed

twentythirteen...lol, I'm not cool and laid back! I just hate disappointment and am loathe for anyone to overhear me swearing at a sliver of cardboard because it doesn't have the right amount of pink stripes on! But I will test tomorrow morning, I promise. I also have looked to see what the delivery date would be IF I were pg this time...Sept 30th. So it's not just you! lol.

Neurotic nose popping in for a hello. OPk is now quite clear (i.e. negative) but still had an ovary pain today... (don't focus on it, don't focus on it!). And I looked up what this one's birth date would be (yes, I did, I'm hopeless, honestly). A good friend asked me yesterday if we were back to ttc yet and I lied. I'm normally such an open book with those losest to me but I just can't stand the thought of being the one who discovered too late that she wanted a family and just had a string of sorry mc's instead, so the future of my womb action will be between OH and me (and you lot) and I'm preparing everyone for the possibility that we might have stopped ttc for a while by mentioning, when they ask, about the genetic testing and implying that we might not be able to.

Newpatches, I'd presumed that it was the way of this thread to be so cool and laid back about not poas'ing, "Me, What? Oh, you know, dpo 11 (blows on finger nails)", but since others have since responded I can add my to the bunch! (Perhaps you've been justly otherwsie occupied, sounds very painful, hope it eases soon).

Jbird I know that stress of the weeks leading up the event. I also took more time off than I strictly needed, I just wanted to get myself back. Hope all your baking and lovely things does you some good.

Doctor, perhaps we can compare notes, my OH is 12 years older than me! I imagine our sperm meeting egg scenario is a bit of a retirement home style celebration with his sperm using a walker, slowly, and my egg sticking her teeth in to make herself more attractive.

Hi Amberini!

Diege I did not know older children could get colic, hope she's on the up.

Hopeful and JBrd...Ok, just for you I will POAS tomorrow! I did do one today but at 11dpo I got a BFN...I have internet cheapies so will do them daily now and keep you updated!

I've slept most of the day because of this damn ear infection, I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. I got antibiotic drops from dr btw. But I am happy to report that I just upchucked again rather copiously.

My dsis lives in Oz...and she said the heat is unbearable at the moment. She was right in the line of attack from the bush fires, and had had the 'catastrophic warning' by text.

Timer's just gone off for dinner...not sure I can face it

hi greenlizard I've been through 2 years of fertility treatment culminating in IVF, it can be extremely stressful if only because you constantly seem to be waiting for the next stage of treatment, it can feel like your life is on hold. It did put a strain on our relationship but mainly because I got so upset firstly because of the drugs I had to use but then because of the weight of expectation we had - twice we had to deal with the distress of IUI not working, then with the blunt fact that my eggs were crap. It was only when we made the decision to go the donor route that I felt some of the pressure lift off. Not sure how I would have dealt with the IVF failing, but the clinic I went to were very supportive and offered counselling as part of their service so I think I would have had to take them up on that!

I suppose the best advice I can give if you decide to try it is to expect set backs and prepare yourself how you will deal with things if it doesn't work, also to make sure your partner is completely happy as well with trying IVF and acquaint yourselves with the process and what will happen (or may not happen) thoroughly because it's tough, but also very rewarding (in my case) :-)