Elderberry Pavlovas Unite - the over 30s TTC number 1 (thread 3)

yay rache im glad you're staying, fingers crossed I can talk pregnancy with you soon

PG ladies, please can you let me know where you're going or if you start a thread what you've called it?
I have enough trouble finding the new Elderberries thread when we need one!

Ladies, I am not going anywhere because I am far too nosey and excited for you all to get upduffed too. I will however become pretty much silent and cease all baby talk forthwith. All the best to the lot of you and I hope to see you on the other side very soon

I'm still here lurking checking how you doing. But don't want to upset anyone with baby talk. That would upset me as well and ttc is hard enough as it is!

no hazel bells dont leave too

Go for it Jane

That's a good idea. I see you there
I'll still hang around here and see how you girls are getting on.

I mean ante-natal clubs, prob a better place for our waffling...?

Hazle - I don't know, we do manage to bang on a bit! I'll start one on pregnancy and see how many of us elderberries join us?

There is a thread for over 30s first mums to be on ante natal. I had a look and it seems our type of people. What do you think? I feel we should go together.

janey where are you heading now? There's probably not enough of us for a separate thread yet.

ahh Janey shame hun......missing you already. Good luck with everythinf and please pop back and see us.

bunny sorry you're not feeling well.

i am also a bit of a hagbag- would prefer less of the pram chat.... Feel free to go forth and graduate lovely pg ones.... But keep in touch too...

Best wishes to you janey

Re:the weight gain- my weight goes up a few pounds every month before af -I'd love it if it was because of pregnancy sigh

You don't have to go janey!

Must admit though when I read what the pg ladies were saying I was thinking I wish I had that problem!

Bunny, I fear you are right. And on that note I shall duck out. I will spy take a peek from time to time to see how you're all getting on but shall go elsewhere. All the best to all if you, and hope you all get your BFP's very soon and will be clogging up the thread with your own good news.
Pip - hope to cross you being hilarious soon and that you get your BFP soon
Quod - keep in touch, for very obvious reasons I genuinely care very much for your plight. I really hope things work out for you soon.
Viv - you're a relative newbie to our gang but have made quite and impression! As I said earlier have been very moved by your story and truly hope you both get the BFP you deserve very soon.
Other pg elderberries - hopefully speak to you all on the pregnancy (or - argh - childbirth) forums soon.

You've all set high standards and I will not be joining any groups with bad grammar or talk of babydust!

Genuinely all the best to you ttc-ers x

ahh rache your puppy sounds lovely, mine turned into a right pickle at 6 months, she really started testing the boundaries. Im sure puppy will welcome the new addition. Mine loves cuddly toys so now doubt that will lead to tears.

I have a very poorly tummy this week, this had better sort itself out im on CD7 (or is it 6 ) ive got some serious BDing to do over the next week or so!

Ah so glad today's news is much more positive.

Viv so glad you have sorted things and sorry you've had such a rubbish few days.

Quod pleased to hear things are getting better for you too. Continue taking it easy.

Cd 9 here so just gearing up for 'shag week'. Shame it had to coincide with back to school week though as I'm absolutely zonked!!

Gosh you lasses can talk
Viv I'm glad you have sorted or out and I'm also glad you have taken him back. I don't like to see relationships end.
After my mc I was the same on the baby front. My DH has an incurable condition which I don't like talking about and him being healthy is my main priority. So for example if his medication meant I could not conceive I would not want him to stop taking it. Luckily it has happened but it was not the only thing that could make my life happy.
I'm going to join the head in the sand crowd on the pram. I don't even know how to start. I won't do anything until 12 weeks anyway but I had a quick read, got overwhelmed and decided I don't need one yet.

Glad to hear that you and OH are managing to sort things, Viv.

CD16 here. Have dtd 5 times this year already and it's only the 8th Jan!

Yay for Quod's BFN!!!
Now I never though i'd be typing that on here!
What an absolute shitter of a time to go through but I'm so glad for you that the worst seems to be over and you're feeling much better

Viv you describe your situation so well with your words and you can really tell how much he means to you. Nobody is infallible and everyone deserves a second chance and I'm so glad you're giving him one

Hazle the travel system will be our only extravagance. We want to sell the house and move next year so we're not even decorating a nursery as such as it would definitely put me off buying if I was viewing a house with giraffe wallpaper. We've already got a neutral coloured spare room so we'll just put some baby-friendly pictures and curtains up. I don't even think we're going to buy a cot until he/she needs one probably at around 6 months old. And FFS, the price of changing units!! They're just a chest of drawers with rails on the top to stop the changing mat falling off and they're bloody £500 in Mamas & Papas! We will be getting normal drawers from Ikea!

Thanks for the responses, I have been thinking more about the PIL pram situation this afternoon. I think just telling them the price and then saying we will be pleased with any contribution is probably best, or even suggesting they buy the car seat which will be £150-200.

Thank you, Janey, for that lovely, lovely message.

Ah viv your posts have honestly made me cry. I am so, so happy that you have managed to forgive him and from the other side of a computer screen, it's incredibly clear how much you mean together. I truly hope that this awful time has made you stronger and that together you will go on to conceive a perfect little baby very, very soon.

quod - there's nothing more wonderful than a BFN after the torture that is a mmc at 12 weeks. I'm so glad that it looks like you can finally begin to put it behind you to some small extent. And yes, it does bring out strange things in you; I went through the MMC on my own as my parents were at their house in France, my ex lived abroad and we were on the verge of splitting up, and my brother lived abroad. Plus I didn't want anyone else with me. But I vividly remember discussing with my brother the size of the clots I was passing, and how they measured against my fingers, so he could ask his consultant brother in law for medical advice. I have to say I never thought I'd be having that conversation with my little bro, but the barriers just seemed to disappear. Grisly indeed, but essential - and I'm glad it was exactly as expected so you can now know it is over. I can't begin to imagine how awful this has been for you both over the Christmas period, but hopefully 2013 will bring everything you deserve.

Argh! I keep crossing posts. Thank you, Mother and Hazle. My decision to stay with Michael certainly doesn't feel like a desperate need to not be on my own (goodness knows it would be easier to walk away) or to have a baby. Those 'needs' have, quite suddenly and unexpectedly, taken a back seat. Life will never, ever cease to amaze me. You just never know what is lurking around the corner (and this, happily, applies to terrific things, too)

Viv very glad to hear you have managed to work things out - well, considering the circumstances. I'm sure it must be an incredibly difficult time for you.

Quod good news, so back to dtd or did the doc tell you to wait?

As for the buggy prices, I do believe the GPs might be shocked if they have no other recent grandchildren. Even my DH said "HOW much?!?!?! " when i mentioned the Bugaboo price
I'm sure you can get something totally fine for a fraction of the money, but on the other hand, we're not going all out with special color-coordinated nursery or anything, so might as well spend a bit more on certain other things.