the slightly pointless ones ttc (sort of!) now thread

Just popping in briefly as I have a mountain of ironing staring at me...

Hello purpleaura nice to have you with us. Yes, we are quite an 'elite' group at the moment - I think the title is so cryptic nobody new stumbles in. Oh, I will definitely put a good word in for you with Mr Stork.

Flowers, I feel a bit horrid but I have to confess that my first emotion on hearing about the royal baby was a sharp pang of jealousy.

LoveYou hope today went ok at work. I just think we have different approaches - not better, not worse. I would love to be as positive and enthusiastic as you, but I guess I'm trying to protect myself from too much disappointment.

Hi all, thanks for your messages. Massive glass of red wine in hand watching the royal variety performance... And have savoured several cups of tea today! As you said LoveYou, I'm glad to know my cycle has some sort of pattern although would have loved to have a BFP !

Wierd how DH found out about Kate Middleton before me!

Welcome purpleaura join in the fun! I just had my 'first ' 2WW and that was so strange, never been actively hoping for a late period before!

Hello fellow ttc-ers! V excited to be joining this elite group (thanks loveyou for the invite :) ) DP and I have just begun ttc and before now I had no idea that it would be such a long wait for that magic bfp! How slowly can a month go by?! I'm so reassured that there are other people going through exactly the same thing at exactly the same time.

I am very pleased to have had what might turn out to be my last period for 9 months! DP keeps telling me not to get my hopes up, that it might not all happen so quickly...and I know I that he's absolutely right but its so hard not to!!

I'll keep my fingers and toes crossed for us all. bridget - can you send the stork over to me too please?!

Oh, and it definitely isn't implantation bleeding. A 26 day cycle isn't that odd for me. I sort of hover around 28 days, but a couple of days either way isn't that unusual.

Hello Flowers, nothing like finally buying a test to tempt AF out of hiding - she really is such a terrible tease!!

Glad you are out of that horrible limbo now though, and onwards and upwards for next month.

I'm on cycle day 25 and more certain than ever that I won't be having an August bundle; classic PMS symptoms, very un-pregnant boobs and the start of spotting. It's been a strange month really. On the one hand, my body has been very kind and not tricked me into thinking I could be pregnant. Yet, on the other, it's been rather dull not having the odd secretly hopeful day.

C'mon stork - please, please fly in my direction very soon and stop off at Flowers' place en route!...(LoveYou I'm hoping he's already paid you a visit)

Hi girls

Loveyou I hope you have had a good couple of days now and going back to work this week can only surely start to get a bit easier especially as you get into the routine of it. Good luck

Well things here this weekend were getting weirder and weirder because I was getting more and more overdue! So studied the pregnancy tests in tescos this afternoon and agreed with DH to do a test today - but then, just as I toddled off the loo with stopwatch and stick, discover AF has arrived in true tardy fashion! So looks like we at least know my body is working post-pill, but no BFP for another month or so. To be honest I'm just glad to know either way, with or without resorting to testing, because it was so strange each day to not have a period yet no real symptoms of pregnancy or other signs to help us know! I hope you girls have better luck this month!

Oh LoveYouForever it sounds like it was an incredibly difficult day - well done for getting through it.

I'm the worst person in the world to give advice on this I'm afraid, but I'm happy to listen whenever you want.

Evening all.

Loveyou how did you find it?
Thank goodness it's the weekend already (at last). I had a long and grumpy day at work but luckily had bought easy dinner and threatened with dire consequences Asked DH to cook tonight, funny how that can make life seem better! And he found chocolate for pudding :-)

LoveYouForever it's lunchtime already. Chin-up, hang on in there, and it'll be the weekend before you know it.

Morning Creamtea1, I think December is a really good month to give a more relaxed approach a try. Like you say, there is so much other fun stuff to keep your brain occupied with and it would be a shame to let over-obsessing about ttc 'take the shine off' such a special time of year.

I don't think it is ever possible to completely switch off, but taking a more casual approach (even just every so often) I think can help prevent ttc becoming too emotionally draining. It has worked for me this cycle anyway.

I'm definitely going to try to spend the festive period appreciating and enjoying
everything I already have. Although, I will make a secret wish to Santa and, if DP wants plenty of 'seasonal greetings' I'll be happy to oblige!

(I love your nickname by the way; it reminds me of sunny summer holidays in Devon scoffing scones)

Bridget I think I'm going to try to adopt your attitude now as well. It will be month 4 for me, so this time no opk's, no counting cycle etc. just going to try and dtd regularly and at most keep an eye on what my bodies doing - cm etc. and no testing until I know a period is due.
And yes it will be really hard! Lol. But I think with it being Xmas month it will be easy to be like that as plenty other stuff going on.

Good luck with tomorrow - I hope you manage to get a good night's sleep.

I'll be thinking of you.

Oh, really hope I don't sound all "little miss perfect pants" - I'm still doing the odd boob poke and obscure google search - I'm just not letting it play on my mind every second.

It helps that I have quite low expectations of success.

LoveYouForever - I'm just at a stage where I'm fed up of putting myself through a roller-coaster of emotions each month. At the moment, I'm just trying to think it will happen, but I've just got to be patient and enjoy life while I wait.

LoveYouForever I didn't realise your return to work was due to happen so soon. No wonder you've been feeling emotional about it all. Like flowers, I hope, together with your DH, you can put plans in place that work for the whole family.

Mini Bridget is now nearly 6 and when I look at the children in her class it is impossible to tell whose parents have always both worked full time and whose haven't. They all appear equally happy and well-rounded, and they all seem to enjoy close loving relationships with their mothers.

I know it will be a wrench to be apart from your DD but please do not think it will weaken your bond.

Flowersfortea, so pleased you've popped by! It's great you are managing to keep a level-head about this ttc-malarkey; it's something I'm determined to do this time round.

Don't be jealous of the dog! She is well and truly in the doghouse. Cheeky blighter decided to disappear after rabbits this morning. Initially, I called her and she came running back. So I made a huge fuss of her, gave a tasty treat, and - just as I was enjoying a smug dog owner moment - she looked at me as if to say "Sod this...I want rabbits" and buggered off at top speed.

Finally, after I've stood shivering in the rain for 45 minutes, she decides to come back. To rub salt in the wound, she's clearly soooo very, very, pleased with herself, and trots along with her tail aloft for the rest of the walk.

Afternoon all, thought I'd come and join you!

love you sorry to hear about this - I hope you and your DP can find some plans that work for you as a whole family.

Bridget was getting jealous of your dog-related anecdotes on the other thread! Somehow a 5th floor apartment in city centre isn't quite right for a pet, but would love to one day!

On a me note, got through the 2WW without (too much) neurotica, but now in that funny phase where AF should come any day (who knows what the pill had masked in terms of my cycles) but I really don't think I should try and test for at least a week - so being really good and haven't bought any tests yet (or stolen from work...). Good luck to the rest of you! As mentioned on the last thread, some symptoms but probably PMS so trying not to get my hopes up for a few more days at least.

Ah shit LoveYou, is there anything at all you can do to afford to live on one salary? Cutting back, or going back part time, anything? I'm sure you've thought through options, I just know that horrible feeling and would do anything to avoid it. The Money Saving Expert website has really good tips on living on less. In fact, I'd credit the site for my being able to be a SAHM, and not have astronomical amounts of debt.