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dear pregnant work mate spare thought before...

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bluer · 22/11/2012 17:30

whining about how worried you were that your second child took so long to conceive you were getting worried....when you only had your implant taken out four months ago.
And not only showing your scan pix once but actually leaving them lying out on the table all through dinner even though we have all seen them...
And then moan about how far you're getting and how awful it all is. ..
When the green eyed monster has me and I'd quite happily chew your arm off to be in your shoes...

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bluer · 22/11/2012 21:01

I just need to let it all out sometimes but maybe I'll try grapefruit....or sook a lemon...anytime I get jealous ;)

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FrankelDeBeauvoir · 22/11/2012 20:27

With you all the way OP! Some people have a significant lack of tact these days.

PoppadomPreach · 22/11/2012 19:53

Bluer I can totally empathise and you do not sound bitter.

There are always some idiots out there who completely lack any social skills or empathy!

Good luck!

RightUpMyRue · 22/11/2012 19:50

Grapefruit juice is supposed to help you conceive. That's really bitter. Wink

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bluer · 22/11/2012 19:13

I would suggest my post was slightly more tongue in cheek than entirely bitter! I am not unreasonable and I am in no easy wishing my colleague any unhappiness...I know that if I ever her there I will try to be 'aware'of my audience and sensitive...
Actually who am I kidding , the day I finally get a bfp I'll probably be so excited I'll run out to tell the postie and the rest of the street only wearing my knickers! No offence meant but I appreciate the support..x

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MrsHY1 · 22/11/2012 19:03

I hear you Bluer! Envy

charitygirl · 22/11/2012 18:48

Ah Lilly - I feel sorry you're so lacking in imagination and empathy. That must be hard for you.

Ahhhtetley · 22/11/2012 18:46

It doesn't sound like she's bitter.. Having been in that position but it was a close friend who was pregnant with her second, I can fully appreciate why she's feeling like she is...

I wanted to stop all contact with my friend until I felt I could cope with it, it did hurt our friendship, but to me, it was a case of life!! And utterly shit when people mins about their pregnancy when you'd, give an organ to be in their position. It's excruciating!

RightUpMyRue · 22/11/2012 18:45

I know how hard it can be to watch everyone else in the world get PG when you're just not getting PG no matter how many times you try (and try and try and try) but she's pleased and excited and if she doesn't know you're TTC she's not being insensitive because she doesn't know.

It's hard to be rational when everything feels so bloody unfair but you will get your baby sooner or later and then it will be you with your scan photos and complaints of an aching back and without knowing it, or meaning it you could be upsetting another TTCer in your office.

Keep on trying, fingers crossed and legs open. Stay positive Smile

FabulousFreaks · 22/11/2012 18:42

I don't think the op is bitter, it is a long depressing and traumatic road trying to conceive sometimes and better to vent here than to her colleague. That is what this type of board should be for. Sending op hugs

LilllyLovesLife · 22/11/2012 18:37

I am sure she doesn't mean to offend you. Sounds like normal pregnancy excitement to me. I feel a bit sorry that you are both so bitter against people who can conceive quicker than you. It's not their fault.

SinkyGoodenplenty · 22/11/2012 18:34

How much do you like her/need to have a functional working relationship with her?

Either spill water/red wine/flaming sambucca over the photos (passive aggressive shizzle) or just say it, plain as day, "you're being a self-centred, spoilt madam and I'd kill to be in your position" (aggressive aggressive shizzle).

Or smile sweetly and remark on the easy, gilded life us barrens lead...

Crap, isn't it?

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