Elderberry Pavlovas Unite - the over 30s TTC number 1 (thread 2)

Quick question: I have been doing Zumba and ballroom dancing for the last year. Zumba twice a week for an hour and dancing two hours. Do u think its ok to continue?
DH just called asking how my day was and said I sound tired!
I def recommend adding B to your names girls!!!!

Oh Rache, I am so pleased for you - it's so worrying when odd stuff happens

Janey - hope everything goes well for you - fingers x

Congrats Lol - let's hope that starts a whole load of BFPs!

Welcome MrsMustard.

I'm mainly counting down the days till I leave work (why is everything about counting days in my world?!) - then we're off to the mountains after xmas for a few months - maybe the change of scenery will bring a BFP. Or at least it will be way less depressing when it doesn't!

Rach I have been worrying about you all day, what a relief to hear everything is fine. Janey I am hoping you get the same reassurance from your private scan tonight. It must be so difficult not to worry but like everyone else has said these symptoms are fickle things.

Blol it must have been bizarre keeping the news to yourself all day and not cracking and calling him. I had to tell mine via FaceTime as we were in different countries and time zones at the time!

Sazzy sorry to hear you are bowing out this month.

Lol at the self-congratulating men - I had one of those too! No wonder they think that conception/pregnancy/childbirth is easy - they only do one tiny bit and they're guaranteed a good time doing it!

Blol I just got goosebumps at that - what a wonderful way to tell him

Janey Thanks! I loved the rock idea, too. Just like when not totally freaking out about telling people I'm thinking of getting some books for my family for Christmas - like an aunty book for my two sisters, a grandma book for my mum and a grandad book for my dad and letting them open them up as a way of 'telling them'. OH says that's a total cop out and I'm completely selfish for not just telling them! Think he's keen on zero ambiguity...

Really sorry about AF sazza come back and say hi when you're feeling up to it - we'll still be here...

I'm sorry sazza - hope you get your BFP soon...

hazle - love the way you told him! Lots of my friends have said that their DP's/DH's response was along the lines of "it works!" or "yep, well done me". My sister in law said my brother had been our for a few drinks for his work christmas do and even patted himself on the back when she told him!

Hey guys :)

Good news Rache and I hope everything goes to plan for everyone! I'm going to scuttle off the thread I think. 7 days to get my hopes up, only for AF to show up at work today :( Getting to me a bit now, so will be lurking and wish y'all the very best!
Sazz x

I sent DH a photo to his mobile of the Clearblue Digital and wrote "Your boys can swim!"

I don't know how to tell him. He is out with friends tonight and doesn't get in until about midnight!!! So I might even be asleep!!!
Was thinking of letting him come to bed and spoon me then put his hand on my belly and tell him there is a baby!

Ooh good point Brave (loved your rock idea btw, although hilarious he couldn't work it out!) - as you've had time to think about it blol you can do something memorable to tell him. As opposed to me - running into the bedroom at 6am and putting all the lights on, with a pee-covered stick in my hand, muttering "I THINK I can see a line...". DP said I was shaking when he took the stick off me!

Rache - those statistics must be very reassuring. Fingers crossed I get a heartbeat too - am 8 weeks tomorrow so if all is OK it would put me with 4.2% chance I think. Aargh, I have the fear, but things being OK with you have made me feel a little more brave....

How do you think you'll tell him blol?

Fantastic news Rache! So pleased for you And yup, the stats are pretty good

Blol how are you going to tell him? First time, I didn't tell him for ages - I inked a rock that I picked up on holiday with 'Baby xxx ' and 'Made in Greece' on the back because it was a holiday baby. I wrapped it up and gave it to him as a present but he totally didn't get it!

Last week, OH was taking aaaages in the bathroom so I dashed in straight after him then had to yell to him to wait as he was literally about to leave the house for work! Staggered out of the bathroom in shock and told him on the stairs. Drama fail, but he looked happy and much less confused!

So relieved to hear that all is well Rach. Now relax and look after yourself!

Lol I think it's good that you have time to get over the initial shock yourself before telling DH. I told mine a minute later in a really rubbish way, at least you have time to think up a lovely way to tell him the wonderful news

And according to this,
sites.google.com/site/miscarriageresearch/miscarriage-general
the chances of MC at 9 weeks after a heartbeat has been detected is 0.5%. I know it it stupid to count my chickens but I can't help thinking this also is good news.

It's such good news Rache. You must be beyond relieved.
I'm still here in shock. Not told DH yet as want to do it face to face and did test after he left for work!!!

Oh so glad to hear everything is fine!

Thanks Janey. I think this was more stressful than waiting for my GCSE, A Level, Degree results and Driving Test all rolled into one!

Oh rache, it had been so long I was starting to get really worried. I was literally checking in every ten minutes during my lunch break! Don't even know you, but welled up when I read that (oooh, hoping it's pg hormones not just me being soft). What a horrid, horrid weekend and how horribly stressful for you both, am absolutely delighted for you that all is OK.

PHEW and congratulations

Well bloody hell, THAT was stressful!! But thank fuck everything is ok

The appointment ran an hour late so I had an extra hour to work myself up into a frenzy of worry while at the same time trying not to think about my burstingly full bladder. It was so full after all the waiting that the Sonographer nearly had to send me to empty it so she could see anything at all!

But there was our little bean on the screen, measuring 9+3 with a nice strong heartbeat and he even gave us a little wiggle which was amazing to see. I am not generally a particularly emotional person, and even pregnancy hormones haven't softened me up that much, but I struggled to hold it together when she told us everything is fine. I am sooooo relieved! Only 2.5 weeks until our next scan

That's great that they're seeing you tomorrow Janey. My symptoms disappeared in the middle of last week so it apparently does not indicate any problem. Still impossible not to worry though.

thinking

Not been on here for a while but seems like there's lots going on!
Congrats lol let's keep the BFPs coming! Welcome MrsMustard.
Think of all the pg Elderberries who are having a stressful time. Fx for you.

Yes she knows, was the first I told apart from DP I think. When I had my 12 wk scan last year and was told the baby had died I sent her a text and she walked out of her office (despite me begging her not to) and turned up at mine with flowers, chocolate and wine. Being with her tomorrow is absolutely the least I can do.

I think I might go for the private scan tonight anyway, as if all is OK it means I can be there for her without any conflicts on timing. And if all isn't OK I can use my 9.15am appt to talk through next stages.

Oh and hi mustard - think I might have forgotten to welcome you earlier!

Hey Captain YOu're not out til you're out. Fx that you won't be needing that scan...

Janey glad that they're seeing you tomorrow. Does your friend know that you're pg? It may be that she could return the favour and wait with you if that would help? Obviously a sensitive sitch, but still, just a thought. Really hope they put your mind at rest.

Plus you really are a wonderful friend volunteering to keep her company. Just thought I'd say that.

Hi MrsMustard I missed you earlier! Welcome

Quick reply as I'm at work.

Congratulations Lol!

Will talk about everyone else later.

Less spotting here 13dpo. Pipbin over and out.

Just rang the EPU and told them about boobs not being sore, the fact I'm ancient and had a mc last year, and going on holiday. I asked if I was being silly and they didn't answer, and said to hold... then came back on the phone and told me to go in at 9.15am tomorrow morning. Not sure if that's because they're worried or being nice, and am almost too scared to go. But guess it's a good thing I'm going in.

Only problem is that I'd promised to be with a friend tomorrow who is having a horrible dye thing done to check her womb/tubes as she's having probs ttc, and her husband is abroad. However her appt is at 10am so I'm hoping I can now meet her at the hospital (she's been referred to the same one) after the scan. If it's bad news I'm sure I'll be able to hold it together for her, and if it's good news I will be fine too obviously...

Good luck with your scans Rache and Janey, thinking of you, and Pip & Bunny, really hope it works out for you this month.
Also welcome Mrs Mustard
And CONGRATS! bLol

I woke up with the tell-tale back ache this morning which normally heralds AF. Only 6DPO today so I'm guessing OVing at CD21 means there's no chance for any fertilised eggs to implant before hormones change and bring on AF.. I'm due a scan in a couple of weeks to see if anything sinister is happening in my uterus.
Hey ho.