Elderberry Pavlovas Unite - the over 30s TTC number 1 (thread 2)

Captain sorry you've had a rough bit of news. I actually have a friend who had one of them (she even gave it a nickname). Good news is she conceived while waiting to have it removed and I think ended up having it taken out between her first pregnancy and her second - she now has 2 healthy children. Not surprised you feel a bit floored though .

Oh no Captain that sounds like a nasty shock. Sorry to hear that. Please don't be disgusted with yourself - it's not your fault, just a part of your body has gone all independent.

Definitely put Dr Google away. He is no help at all.

Good news? It's benign. The rest you can find out later from the doc. When do you see the doctor about it all?

Thinking of you

AAAARRGGHHHH!!!! I just looked up the type of cyst it is - Dermoid.

MS sufferers - vom warning!

Dermoid cysts are a form of teratoma, so it's got hair and possibly teeth and glands and things! It's basically one of my ova that has decided to develop itself on my ovary despite not meeting any sperm to do it properly. I am so disgusted with myself!

I am putting Dr Google away now. Calm.

Just got back from my ultrasound.
Turns out I have a 5cm wide cyst on my left ovary that also appears to be blocking the fallopian tube. The right ovary looks healthy but is a bit bigger than usual.
The ultrasound lady (radiographer?) didn't know what the effect of any of this would be on my fertility, but I can't imagine a 5cm cyst growing off my ovary (and apparently for a really long time too) could ever be a good thing.

Does anyone have any experience of similar? I don't think it's the same as PCOS, since there's only one cyst, although it's clearly a whopper. The woman was pretty jaw-on-floor about it, although very firm that it was totally benign. She was amazed I wasn't in pain from it at all..

(Obviously, will be going to see docs to discuss in full, but just after some idea of things in the meantime)

Anyone else had the revolting, but apprently quite common pregnancy symptom of nosebleeds or is it just me?

Rache bought some gaviscon yesterday as I've been struggling so much with acid reflux it's making me feel sick. This is really really unusual for me and I'm not enjoying it much but have discovered newfound sympathy for my father who because he smokes and drinks alcohol and coffee too much and has a terrible diet but I love him dearly suffers really badly with acid reflux all the time.

It was the aniseed flavour and I bought it out of desperation when I discovered I was feeling worse after eating! Took a couple of spoonfuls before bed. Flavour wasn't so bad but the aftertaste nearly made me yack. Amazingly though, 20 minutes later, stopped feeling so grim... but then it started to reappear about 45 minutes later!

Bah humbug to AF Happy

10+6 and very bloated here. I popped the button on my best fitted work trousers last week I think it's safe to take Gaviscon, Rennies, etc. to help with indigestion and bloating but I have found so far that a glass of ice cold milk about half an hour after eating seems to help so have avoided taking any actual medication so far.

Quod I have an allegedly decent employer who posted pre tax profits of 13 million last year but all I will get is the minimum legal requirement of 90% salary for 6 weeks and then SMP @ £135.45 for the next 33 weeks (which I will have to pay tax on due to my company car) and then sweet FA after that if I choose to take the full year's maternity leave. Not all of us PAYE employees have it good

Oh Happy That is rubbish news. Sorry to hear that

Thanks for the insight Pip - very interesting to hear about alphabeticalness making a difference.

And didn't see the BBC Breakfast report, but it explains a lot - ie everyone on Facebook making announcements every five minutes, not being able to see mw for ages and ages. This will upset my OH considerably - he hates the Olympics. Hates it. He will be pigsick if anyone thinks we were inspired by it!

Could also be bad news for all those ladies with BFPs - fewer school places in 4/5 years time. But still, very glad to be pg!

Yes to the horrendous bloating. Still managing to eat as much though! In Dubai it reached disgusting proportions - did not like being in my bikini next to my 28 year old, size 8 stunning friend. I looked about 5 months gone by the end of each day (bloating increases during the day, attractively).
Have warned DP about how I'll look in my bikini in Thailand. Not sure he'll care (or so I'm telling myself!)

Sorry to hear that Happy.

Has anyone else got HORRENDOUS bloating? I am having to eat smaller and smaller portions, feeling stuffed after a tiny meal, and am going to bed hours after eating anything feeling packed to the rafters and really sore. It's like my digestion has just stalled.

New Year baby would be nice though? Also means boozing would be OK over Christmas...?
Every cloud...
Still sucks though
FWIW my cycle was all over the place - from 23 days to 28 - but I've conceived, so I don't necessarily think it's a bad thing. Just might make it worth using clear blue ovulation sticks or something if your OV date is jumping around the place, as mine was...

I'm sorry happy. That sucks

Well that's me out for 2012 ladies. AF showed up this morning 2 days early . A 24 day cycle this month, what's that all about??
Moving myself to the bottom of the list boo hoo. Hoping for a good start to 2013!

escorpion, due to POAS 10th Dec
Aquarius1, 31 ttc about 8mths, next due 14 Dec
Bottlered76, 36, ttc since March, due to POAS 16th Dec
MeanMrsMustard, 31, ttc 1 month, AF due 18th Dec
twinklestar2, 33, ttc1, cycle 16, BFP due 19 Dec
Navis, 35, ttc1, cycle 2, BFP due 21 Dec
Pipbin 37, cycle 16, BFP due Xmas Eve
Mulberry, 35, ttc 1, trying 8 months, AF/BFP due 28 Dec
Bunnygirlie, 32, been trying since june, AF due New Years Eve!!!
Captainmoll, 32, TTC about 16 months (13ish of really TTC), OV due Dec21st(ish) BFP New Years Day!
Happylass, 34, cycle 4 BFP due 1st Jan 2013

HazleNutt, 34, Twelve week scan on 7th of Dec.
Rach, 34, twelve week scan on 14th Dec.
Purple, 30, 12 week scan FINALLY booked for 20th December
Janey, 38, twelve week scan on 24th Dec.
Quod, 33, twelve week scan also on 24 Dec
BraveLilBear, 32, 12 week scan sometime Edd 28th July (approx)
Lol, 38. Edd 4th August I think

Captain, thanks - I did know about maternity allowance thanks, it's just not the same as having the same kind of % of salary you'd get with most decent employers. I will have to work out how to play it, because I will need to keep my hand in with my regular freelance job, but I think you are not allowed to do more than about 5 'keeping in touch' days otherwise you lose MA (which is about £100/wk I think - not easy to live on in London!)

Hello Ladies, and new ladies.

So I was on a course today, which meant I was home before DH. He got home and I told him that the internet wasn't working. He went off to check and came back saying it was an area fault. 'Well' he said 'it's things like this that mean families get started' and off we went to bed!

Also, did anyone see the item on BBC Breakfast this morning? It was saying that there has been a rise in the birth rate and it's thought to be down to the olympics. Seems that all that winning got people shagging. DH and I are geeks though so it takes a lack of internet for us.

Right, schools. Here is how it works. They have a staggered intake into nursery, they start the term after they turn 3 (I think), then, here at least, all move up to Reception, the academic year they turn 5. So an August birthday who would turn 5 next year would have started Reception this September. It also means that some children can have nearly two full years in Nursery. Children are not compulsory school age until the term after they turn 5. I would definitely advocate getting your child into school as soon as you can, however, because they are not compulsory school age then it does mean you can take them out during school time if you want, for a holiday for example.

As for the difference of being a summer baby academically, yes it can be an issue, for example I have a girl in my class who turned 5 in the first week of September, there is also a boy who turned 4 only 2 weeks before and he is in the same class. Damn near as a year different in age, but then that will always be the case, the line has to be drawn somewhere.
As for what this means academically, my honest opinion is that parenting makes far far more difference. One of my most able children in a July birthday. The difference is that his mother reads and works with him.
As for alphabetical, I have to confess that this can make a difference.
I tend to work down an alphabetical list of children when I am going to hear them read, work with them, write their reports etc, by the time you get to the bottom of the list you have lost impetus. For that reason I try to change the order and mix it up a bit.

Cross-posts! I fell off the list:

Happylass cycle 3 AF due 8th Dec
escorpion, due to POAS 10th Dec
Aquarius1, 31 ttc about 8mths, next due 14 Dec
Bottlered76, 36, ttc since March, due to POAS 16th Dec
MeanMrsMustard, 31, ttc 1 month, AF due 18th Dec
twinklestar2, 33, ttc1, cycle 16, BFP due 19 Dec
Navis, 35, ttc1, cycle 2, BFP due 21 Dec
Pipbin 37, cycle 16, BFP due Xmas Eve
Mulberry, 35, ttc 1, trying 8 months, AF/BFP due 28 Dec
Bunnygirlie, 32, been trying since june, AF due New Years Eve!!!
Captainmoll, 32, TTC about 16 months (13ish of really TTC), OV due Dec21st(ish) BFP New Years Day!

HazleNutt, 34, Twelve week scan on 7th of Dec.
Rach, 34, twelve week scan on 14th Dec.
Purple, 30, 12 week scan FINALLY booked for 20th December
Janey, 38, twelve week scan on 24th Dec.
Quod, 33, twelve week scan also on 24 Dec
BraveLilBear, 32, 12 week scan sometime Edd 28th July (approx)
Lol, 38. Edd 4th August I think

namechanged and updated stats!

Happylass cycle 3 AF due 8th Dec
escorpion, due to POAS 10th Dec
Aquarius1, 31 ttc about 8mths, next due 14 Dec
Bottlered76, 36, ttc since March, due to POAS 16th Dec
MeanMrsMustard, 31, ttc 1 month, AF due 18th Dec
twinklestar2, 33, ttc1, cycle 16, BFP due 19 Dec
Navis, 35, ttc1, cycle 2, BFP due 21 Dec
Pipbin 37, cycle 16, BFP due Xmas Eve
Mulberry, 35, ttc 1, trying 8 months, AF/BFP due 28 Dec
Bunnygirlie, 32, been trying since june, AF due New Years Eve!!!

HazleNutt, 34, Twelve week scan on 7th of Dec.
Rach, 34, twelve week scan on 14th Dec.
Purple, 30, 12 week scan FINALLY booked for 20th December
Janey, 38, twelve week scan on 24th Dec.
Quod, 33, twelve week scan also on 24 Dec
BraveLilBear, 32, 12 week scan sometime Edd 28th July (approx)
Lol, 38. Edd 4th August I think

Welcome bottle. We are on a lucky B name roll so you have an advantage
I am also trying not to think of finances that much (hard considering I'm a bank manager lol) and will have to play it by ear. Otherwise would not have a baby due to fear!

Hi all
AF has buggered off so now back to twiddling thumbs and hoping DH's upcoming 10-day trip abroad doesn't mean he's away for the crucial OV days and that he's up for a warm welcome when he gets back (despite the jet-lag)
Welcome new folk! Have a mince pie..
Quod I am also self-employed, and found out recently from another self-employed friend who had a baby in the summer that we CAN get maternity pay!!! Apparently, as long as you've made some National Insurance contribution, there is a state maternity pay that you should be eligible for! I was pretty astounded to find this out (and I expect it's not much, but..) sometimes this welfare state thing is pretty good.. Let me know if you investigate and find out any more about it.

Tomorrow is a Big Day in Moll Towers - I'm having an ultrasound to see if bad things are happening inside me, and DH is off to the Docs to arrange sperm count shenanigans.. FX there's nothing serious wrong with either of us.

Happylass cycle 3 AF due 8th Dec
escorpion, due to POAS 10th Dec
Aquarius1, 31 ttc about 8mths, next due 14 Dec
Bottlered76, 36, ttc since March, due to POAS 16th Dec
Bunnygirlie, 32, been trying since june, AF due New Years Eve!!!
MeanMrsMustard, 31, ttc 1 month, AF due 18th Dec
Winkle, 33, ttc1, cycle 16, BFP due 19 Dec
Navis, 35, ttc1, cycle 2, BFP due 21 Dec
Pipbin 37, cycle 16, BFP due Xmas Eve
Mulberry, 35, ttc 1, trying 8 months, AF/BFP due 28 Dec
Captainmoll, 32, TTC about 16 months (13ish of really TTC), OV due Dec21st(ish) BFP New Years Day!

HazleNutt, 34, Twelve week scan on 7th of Dec.
Rach, 34, twelve week scan on 14th Dec.
Purple, 30, 12 week scan FINALLY booked for 20th December
Janey, 38, twelve week scan on 24th Dec.
Quod, 33, twelve week scan also on 24 Dec
BraveLilBear, 32, 12 week scan sometime Edd 28th July (approx)
Lol, 38. Edd 4th August I think

Ooh new people - hello all love the Santa hat smileys

rache "babies are expensive toys" - love it being serious I'm a bit in denial about the cost- although it makes me feel better to think all my time spent working and not getting pg at least means a bit more £ for our sprog (that's unless we spend it all on Xmas gifts which feels quite possible at the mo)

Oh and welcome bottlered and mulberry!! Here's hoping this thread gives us all a load of good luck

Rache - I agree - best not to think about the cost - sure it'll all sort itself out!!