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Thanks pebs - you are right!

Just had a good scan at 12+6, neuchal fold was small & nasal bone seen so feeling ok in terms of Down's, despite my advanced age.

I still don't think I really believe I'll have a baby at the end of it, though. Just feels weird.

How did you get on wilder? Hoping all was well.

i don't mention the movement in real life either mum tum just in case!

Keep checking for news from the scanees - come on ladies!

No wonder you're on tenterhooks pebs I would be exactly the same. Did the mantra originate here? Maybe it's worth a mention.

'Today I am pregnant.'

Everything crossed for tomo for you.

Any news cheese, wilde? Thinking of you...

Marking place

Any scans news yet ladies ?

I'm 17 weeks today and finding it unbelievable . Have 20 week scan on 29th nov and am terrified but in a way hoping that provided I get good news I will start to calm down a little fat chance

lurcher I think u and I have similar dates?

Welcome to the newbies sorry your here but trust me the ladies here are wonderful a real strength

Fingers crossed to all the 2wws

And pebs I to am feeling a low down fullness and despite having dd(13) I simply don't know if its movement yet or not - and I'm to scared to mention in rl to anyone in case I've had a mmc and end up looking a right pillock with my 'imaginary' kicks

Nearly Friday ladies

I think we all feel like that when we are going to a scan cheese i know i have expected a mmc every scan so far in this pg (and i have had a lot!).

my strategy is to just keeping plodding along from appointment to appointment hoping for the best and fearing the worst.

Thanks for good wishes. 1.5 hours till scan. Shitting myself & convinced it's another mmc.

brave this is kind of the furthest i have been. i did have a mmc at 20 week scan last year and had seen the baby on scan at 16 week (but it was only measuring 15 weeks). i had a scan at 17 weeks this time and i feel like that was the furthest i have seen a baby on scan. really nervous at the moment after what happened last year. i am taking blood thining injections everyday as my placenta was full of blood clots and caused the late mc.

i sometimes feel a fulness in low down in my tummy but not sure if that is the baby or not.

Hi cogito sorry you find yourself here but everyone is very lovely and supportive here

I even know friends who were told by midwives to have a drink every now and again if it helps you relax (like once or twice a week)

Plus if you had a BFN before drinking, then the hormone levels and ergo the pregnancy would have been so early on that risks would be even tinier.

Good luck for tomorrow pebs is this the furthest you've been? I'm sure I've read before that it takes longer to feel baby first time round because it's unfamiliar or something or other.

Welcome cogito don;t worry about the drinking. it will be fine. the baby looks after itself for the first few weeks so it won't affect it. tbh i still have a glass of red now and again to cover up my pg.

good luck to wilde and cheese today.

Good luck to all the ttc-ers. can't wait to see another batch of bfps on here!

Got a scan tomorrow. i am 19 weeks - arrrghhhh.... hoping everything is fine but as i don't think i have felt any movement yet i am still really worried. don't think i will ever go to a scan feeling confident.

Oh pixie missed you out, sorry! Only 5 days til the 13th... will you make it or break early do you think?

Hi to everyone else I missed!

Hello I hope it's ok to join. I had mmc at 9 weeks in June. I got a bfp today but really scared as I drank at the weekend after getting a bfn (just started a thread about it)

Lol all this waiting. No wonder mothers have the patience of a saint in films, anyway

Good luck wilde and cheese for today, and we're all in for your 3ww lurcher

Feel free to rant MrsHP, so many of us know that feeling even if it's not today.

As for 2ww... Like jolly and dorita I'm a resolute ' wait til after AF due kinda gal, too'... Being a stubborn taurus sometimes has it's upside! I, too, would love a 2-3 week rather than the 1-2 s I got last time.

Hoping I'll get distracted by some other BFPs between now and the 18th

Thanks jolly. I have been feeling little kicks intermittently for about a week now, which surprised me - with DS I didn't feel anything until 19 weeks, and I know they say you feel second babies sooner but I was expecting it to be around the 17-week mark, but I definitely felt something at 15+6 and have had lots since. It's fantastic, and it's obviously such a relief to know that bubs is alive in there - but I won't relax until I know the anomaly scan is done and that there are no visible health problems, at this stage anyway.

Really thinking of you and all the others on the 2ww - Dorita, you're so right, we're always waiting for something. And I don't know what's worse really - waiting to POAS, waiting for scans, waiting for kicks, waiting for the birth....you get over one hurdle, and think "by the time X has happened I'll be able to relax", and then the next hurdle looms and of course you can't.

Jolly totally agree about that STD show! How desperate do you have to be to go on TV??

Big hugs MrsH - I had a crying day on Sunday can down with the flu and found out friend is due a couple of days before my edd for the 2nd MMC x

I'm in the 2ww AF due 13th

Leaves to carry on with the ironing - sharing the delights of the new mint leaf and chocolate ice cream from Haagen Dazs :)

Feels like we're always waiting for something...POAS, scans, good luck to everyone and especially wilde and cheese with your scans tomorrow and lurcher for your 3ww

Mrshp you're allowed to feel down and come on here you never know when something's going to hit. I was fine for what would have been my due date, AF came the next day, also fine, then the following day had to leave work early as I couldn't stop crying! You just have to go with the ups and downs don't you really? and try and remember it's okay to feel that way. You're probably affected by this week's lack of action but don't worry, you'll be back in the saddle next month and the musketeers will go on again!

littlebear I'm like jollyb now, trying not to POAS until AF is a day late, just because I can still have hope until then whereas an early negative a few days before ends the hope for that month...I'm due some time next week I think (had 29 and a 19 day cycle last 2 months so who knows!) so will join the hold handing please

Good luck to wilde and cheese for tomorrow - looking forward to hearing two positive scan stories. cheese, does having had PE once mean it is more likely to recur? Is there anything they can do to prevent it? It must be very worrying for you.

Hoping time goes quickly for those on the 2ww....I am on a 3ww myself as my 20wk scan is in three weeks. Absolutely dreading it, but at the same time looking forward to it as a key milestone to get through.

Nearly Friday everyone

Marking my place. What a nice place to share experiences.

I've got my 12 week scan tomorrow too. Having a hormonal day & don't even know how I feel about it.

In the last few days I've admitted to myself how scared I am about this pregnancy (had severe, early PE in 1st pregnancy - DS & I almost died & he was in NICU for 3 months). There is a reasonable possibility it could happen again this time.

I suppose reality is hitting & I'm shitting myself.

Hi everyone. Good luck for tomorrow Wilde. I saw a very pregnant woman at the sandwich shop today and felt a bit sad/upset that it wasn't me yet. I haven't really been too worried about other people being pregnant, even if it does seem that everyone else in the world is getting pregnant all the time. However today I did have that feeling. I wonder if it is partly because it was almost a year ago that I got pregnant, having tried for a year before that, or if it is because DH is away this week (which really should be THE week for dtd) and so I know there isn't really any 2ww this month. I know that I am very lucky in that I already have DD, but if she is going to be the only one I think I can be happy with that, but I'd just like to know so that I can just get on with my life. Much as I keep saying, I'll just get on with it I don't all the time there is a chance if that makes sense...

Sorry for the self-pitying ramble. I'll be fine tomorrow no doubt!

Yay - someone to hold hands with Jolly Are you as impatient as me? Literally don't know how time has forgotten to move

Good luck for tomorrow Wilde fingers crossed everything will be back to boring old normal. And hey, changing due dates is at least a good distraction (if you like maths and geekiness as much as I do, anyway lol)

Thinking of you!