Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake part 4

Ah wilder these pesky hormones! Mine are raging away too! Although my pregnancy symptoms have now gone. Wish I could switch my brain off.

It sounds like you saw a lovely consultant. And a wee bonus that you had another scan. Glad it went well.

I'm still waiting on my neuchal screening results. It's only been a week, but I'm likely to come back high risk age-wise. So I'm going to phone the midwife tomorrow & see if I can book one soon.

I'm not going public with this pregnancy until I have the amnio results, which could be well into January & I'll be obviously pregnant before then - aaargh!

Oh Wilde, it sounds like they were so lovely to you today, I am so glad!

Jolly sorry to hear about about bfn. We didn't even dtd this month ad DH away for most of it but Will be back musketeering with you all next month though.

hey all, finally back from appt. Was good, was about the mcs but the consultant said it was just procedure nothing personal and as this pg was going so well is nothing to worry about. I burst into tears and could hardly stop crying and so she got a mobile scanner and did a wee scan and reassured me that all was well, that each pregnancy was different and this baby is strong. She also said that if something was going to happen, it will and that is life, not just pregnancy, or this pregnancy, or me, but we really could get run over tonight so not to fret, and be positive for me, and for the baby.

She booked us in for a growth scan at 34 weeks tho said really that was for our benefit more than theirs as it looked like I could do with the support .

anyway. still feel like crying so think am just really hormonal today!

hope all well with you pebs

Ooh good luck for your appt wilde everything crossed for you - and you pebs!

And thanks Yikes I promise to be more positive. Can't remember if it's this thread or not, but right now, I, like Jolly, have a Schrodinger's baby

Great news on the support Yikes that must feel great! Your nurse sounds amazing let's hope all this positivity rubs off with more good scan news and BFPs too!

yikes am glad you are in the system and being looked after :) I took the baby aspirin just after i thought I had ov'ed and until I was about 6 weeks (ran out on hols) and am sure it helped the baby stick! I think generally on this thread we quite like our aspirin.

jolly am sorry to hear you don't think you have made it this month. 10dpo is still early though. It really is. But BFNs suck :(. If it helps any I had a blinding BFN at 10 dpo (tested morning and evening ) and then a strong positive mid morning at 11 dpo. So you never know until you get AF

arf polka who knows what you should do! You sound lilke you are excited about it and happiness has only got to help the pg?! But at 7 weeks you might feel like utter shite and only want to be at home! If you cancel will you lose the money and everything? could you go in Jan or owt instead when in the second tri and a bit bouncier?!

off to mc appt soon. Am already in a tizz, haven't felt bubs yet today (completely normal of course am only 14 weeks!) so am paranoid and really, really want to listen in but bet they won't and what if they don't hear anything?! And I don't want to talk about my mc's any more, I want them to be the past. They make me feel so sad and fretful.

Ho hum, just need to grow up and get on with it eh?

can't remember if I posted after pebs but YAY for listening in and good luck for today with the scan x

bear - fx for you. You never know til AF arrives.

Just got back from hospital. The nurse was lovely, really put my mind at rest about my wonky uterus and has booked me in for a scan in 3 weeks. Lots of tips too like taking 75mg of aspirin every day (-does anyone else do that?) and eating lots of protein). I feel in quite a positive mood today. Que sera sera and all that. I even rang my dad to tell him my news (super early I know, but it was so miserable having the mc before when my close family didn't even know I was pg. and I ended up telling them all after the mc anyway so it seems daft to keep it secret).

Jolly really sorry to hear that

Could still be early? FWIW, I'm pretty much convinced I'm out, too, this month. I'm in la-la denial land now but I know I'll be miserable when AF flies in and starts cackling at me.

Difference is, I'm too stubborn to spend on an early test, so am just delaying the bad news. Really feel for you. If it's still a BFN tho at the weekend, we could be cycle buddies in the pre-Christmas BFP hunt? Crap consolation prize, though, I know

polka tough call - totally understand the need for some time away, but get the worrying as well. Can you get advice off a mw at the epu or somehting? Like the ladies said above is definitely worth a call to insurance company, too.

Oh jolly hugs

jolly. Will you test again in a couple of days?
The anticlimax of a negative test after a long old month is shit isn't it?

wilde - great news re the prods!
cogito - lol, that told me! I'll stick to my Wittgenstein from now on
polka - I vote for the holiday option. Think positive
I'm off to the hospital 2moro for what was meant to be a chat with the fertility nurse but I'll be able to tell them my good news (positive CB digi this morning), get some blood tests done and hopefully get some more info about my wonky uterus (-I've got one of those bicornuate /heart-shaped ones). Fx I get some good info.

That's a dilemma Polka - not sure what the best advice is. Unfortunately I have experience in the area of m/c & holiday travel.

My 1st m/c started on the last day of our family holiday in Portugal. Being abroad, not speaking the language etc made a sad situation worse. Luckily I was able to fly back the next day & get seen in the UK.

My 2nd m/c was 2 days before I was to fly to New York with DP. Unfortunately I needed surgery so we had to cancel. The EPU nurse told me that if it happened mid-flight the plane would have needed to be diverted & I would have been hospitalised & not covered by insurance.

I would definitely speak to your insurance company, informing them you are pregnant & ensuring you are covered for pregnancy-related complications, including m/c.

I can see why a sunshine holiday is tempting!!!

Thanks for the advices and jolly I know what u meant and am absolutely not offemded

It's Cape Verde were meant to be going to in three weeks, we've not been away for 2 yrs and 'cos of hubby's job we don't even get weekends together do would so love s break together....dilemma!

pebs so pleased the MW heard the wee one, so lovely

polka where and when are you going on holiday (if you say it might be 'backwards'?!)? I went to italy for two weeks from 5-7 weeks and was lovely to be away from worrying tbh. Went to India when in second tri with DS but even tho I was very relaxed during that pg and confident in Indian healthcare (If I could get to a hosp in time!) I wouldn't have risked being so far from home in the early days of the pg. Bizarrely, even in some of the most places of italy (amalfi coast) I would have days where I felt homesick for my bed, some white toast and normal tv! not like me at all!

hmm... I wouldn't have a scan before 7 weeks, but you have been there done that so do what you need to to relax! I did have a scan at 7 weeks and again at 9 weeks but because I had bleeding... but both scans only reassured me for about three days, then I worried again because really, it is just a photo isn't it. not a crystal ball.

yay pebs. good luck for tomorrow chuck

mw been and heard hb! phew! can't wait to get tomorrow over with.

polka. I dont think I could go on the holiday. I had to turn down a trip to Vegas in this pg. loads of pg women do go on holiday though I have seen them in Maldives and a cruise as well as normal holiday places.

I don't think anything can be done if you are going to mc so don't worry the facilities will not be good enough to prevent mc.

my concerns would be food and medical facilities if you need them.

if you are going check your travel insurance mine says pregnancy complications aren't covered if you have had more than two mcs. don't know your history but make sure you check!

pebs fingers and toes crossed for ur scan tomorrow, sounds like you're getting great care but (taking off my full body-suit metal jacket and handing it over) but metal away, we get it!

jolly think I'm 4wks6. I had a scan 6wks6 last time and had two lovely strong twin heart beats but at the 12wk scan my mmc was found, so a total realist but would really like some hand holding/reassurance along the way if I can.

It's a ball ache holiday conundrum, on the one hand if the worse happens there's not a lot they can do medically but if I had to go in and something could have been done but as its so backward and they couldn't do it, I'd never forgive myself.....metal metal metal!

Scuttles off mumbling to oneself but leaving some more ish crisps and dips.....enjoy

just dashing in to give pebs some positive vibes and a big squeezy hug. Hope the mw visit is reassuring. Let us know how you get on.

Sending calming thoughts to you pebs - so glad the nice mw is coming round later. Fx it'll help...

. you'll be ok! and how lovely that you are being so well looked after. let us know how the listening-in goes :) x