Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake part 4

Mind if i join you? Feels polite to say hello as I've been lurking around this thread on and off for months now and will be doing so more regularly now.

I've had two mcs this past year while trying for our first and am now 4w0d with pregnancy number 3. Both mcs were at 5/6 weeks, so this doesn't feel real to me and I suspect it won't at least until I'm past 6 weeks. Very comforting, though sad, to see many of you feel the same way.

Hi all,

Totally missed the boat on wilde's stressful day - so glad that everything is ok and that you have an explanation for what's been going on...but bouldering what the hell were you thinking

Sending positive vibes to polka

I'm ok - still having some really tired and emotional days at 15+3

Hope everything is ok polka i had a bit of bleeding for about a week early on and it was very worrying.

I am finding it difficult to 'buy into' this pregnancy as well. i am nearly 21 weeks but still haven't felt anything i can say was definatly the baby. i have an anterior placenta though which masks movements - thanks body! the people i have told at work are speaking like i am going on mat leave soon but i really can't believe that will happen yet.

i look pregnant - well i have a cute little bump so most people probably wouldn't notice but i think i do! just wish i could feel some movement to relax me a bit.

polka good luck for today, am crossing everything for you.

Another hand holder here polka try and get some rest - we all know that's easier said than done xx

Evening all. polka, thinking of you tonight. Hope tomorrow brings you good news.

wilde, that GP sounds appalling and I would definitely complain!

cheese, I know exactly how you feel about not "buying into" the pregnancy yet. I am 19 weeks tomorrow, bump is huge, everyone knows and I'm feeling movement daily now - but it still doesn't feel real and I'm still scared to get excited. I won't relax until this baby is here. 20 week scan next week and I'm so scared about that. We're going to find the sex out this time (had a surprise with ds) as I think it might help me get my head round everything a bit if I know the sex - might make it all a bit more real.

I agree possum - you never get that innocence back. Or confidence in your pregnancy. Mmc are particularly cruel, as you have no idea anything is wrong.

I'm 14+5 & haven't really bought into this pregnancy yet. I'm beginning to feel movement which is a little reassuring. I'm dreading telling people eg work but I'm showing & can't avoid it for much longer....

I always think the cruellest thing about previous miscarriage(s) is that it totally takes your innocence and excitement out of future pregnancies. I'm starting to enjoy this one now that I'm past 24 weeks, but up until now, I've been very 'meh' about the whole thing x

I've got all my fingers & toes crossed for you polka, I really hope your baby is safe and sound in there. I hope you manage to get an EPU referral tomorrow to get it checked out. Worrying times, I know. Am so scared myself, just want to get past 10 weeks (where I got to last time) and then I might chill out a bit. Why oh why do some folk sail through pregnancy and others have non-stop worries?! xx

Thanks ladies you're ace, as no one knows in rl its even more scary as you all know. DH trying to be helpful and supportive in his own way! Still no cramping but i do have a teeny dull ache and its now more browny when wiping, so sorry for TMI but seeing as previously I had a mmc at 12wks with a dot of implantation at 6 wks, the red blood is new. Thanks again

Holding both your hands polka I agree with wilde that no cramping is a very good sign xx

no cramps is a good sign. Hope you are ok polka, thinking of you x

Holding your hand tightly polka & hoping you can get a scan tomorrow. My EPAU take self-referrals but only after 48 hours of bleeding (although I've been seen both times within 24 hours)

Crossing everything for you xx

:( polka thinking of you xx

Oh ladies pls help me....... This afternoon everytime I wipe I have bright red blood with quite a bit of mucous, I'm not cramping and its only when I wipe but I'm fecking terrified. I'm 5wks5 today. My plan is if it continues thru the night that ill try and get a scan tomorrow but help, hand hold, help ladies.

oh backward. that's shit

brave yeah am a pain. DS can't ask a question without me being like 'Oh! how interesting, let's look that up' I am so boring. I was terrible at uni the first time tho, such a drunk barely went to lectures...

I will complain aye peeps, thanks for the encouragement. I have a week off from tomorrow aft so will have time to beat that drum. Am all worried about coming across as a hormonal, emotional pg woman with a beef tho, rather than composed and just cross am not good at this kind of thing but I know as a gobby person who doesn't take orders just because someone has a white coat I should stand up for me, and others.

ah pebs . Text your friend and let them know and she can then let her friend know if she thinks it is necessary? Though if the friend is going down the adoption route hopefully she'll have some peace with not having her own now, and with pg in general. Don't feel bad though. and wooo how lovely to have a girls weekend in a cottage! want one!

sigh

I was filling in the maternity forms for work and the midwife who filled in my matb1 (not my lovely usual midwife) has filled the date I'm expected to give birth in as the date my miscarried baby would have been due instead of my current due date. Way to go making me feel great...

Hi pebs I love how you're being really sweet and considerate with people about your good news. Is there any chance you could meet your friend face-to-face before Friday? Or at least talk on the phone? That might better than a text - plus, you can explain your concern about upsetting the other girl without it sounding like a really big deal.

While it may be painful to the other girl to see pregnant women, it's not as if (a) you can hide it anymore and (b) you're the only pregnant woman in the world. Your good friend may be better placed to know how she feels about pregnant ladies, so if you give her the option, I'm sure that'll be appreciated - would also give you a clue as to how to play it.

At the end of the day, I know you're being considerate, but you can't pretend like you're not pregnant for the fear of not upsetting someone - the fact that your colleague is being so nice suggests that you're playing it right, and that people have the capacity to feel happy for others, even if they feel sad for themselves.

That's my 2p worth anyway...

Blimey wilde what a day. So pleased you finally got the peace of mind you needed. I'm totally on the complain-about-GP-bandwagon here. I know you don't want a fight, but how would you feel if he did that to someone else? Someone you knew?

That, for me, is always the motivation I need to step up and make your thoughts known.

Btw - so impressed that you nailed your homework first! Babywilde is going to have nowhere to run when they would rather be playing on the Xbox etc instead of finishing off their maths!

Sorry for the EDD arrival

Great move tas I really hope it helps. I'm sure people will come through to assist with DD. Fx for you x

Polka awesome news about the early scan! Maybe Wilde should take your GP on loan, he sounds ace!

Hi to everyone else

it was the edd + 1 year for my baby i lost last year on sunday and i totally forgot. didn't realise until i came into work on monday and noticed the date. felt a bit bad but i do think about him a lot. hope you get through today ok wilde i agree with complaining about that idiot. it's a pain you have to see gp to get a referral to epu. i have never had a gp appointment in any of my pregnancies. the midwifes and epu sort it all out.

Enjoy your holiday polka could be your last one for a while! make sure you check out the travel insurance just in case.

feeling much better today. i have got my maternity jeans on and ordered some new maternity tights. my tights were really digging in yesterday.

quick dilemma for you all. i am going on a girls weekend this week. just staying in a cottage with one of my good friends and some of her friends/family who i know but not 'my friends' iykwim. one of those girls can't have children and has decided to adopt in the future. i haven't told my good friend yet as i wanted to tell her face to face. should i text her and let her know so she can warn the other girl or should i just tell them on friday and hope the other girl is ok with it. don't want to make her feel awkward all weekend if she is uncomfortable around pg people.

the girl in my office seems fine about my pg. i haven't really talked about it since my excitment on friday and see was asking me questions yesterday.

hey all.

polka am so glad you are relaxed and happy about going on holiday :) enjoy!

cheese had a good nights sleep thanks and woke this morning feeling very happy and confident in my pregnancy yay. DH is looking after the house etc so am all lazy!

Is the EDD for the baby we mc'ed in april today though. aw. bit sad about that but also insanely grateful for this wee one too.

hows the pneumonia tas?

hope the new BFPs are ticking along wonderfully

How are you today wilder?

Hoping you've had an ok night.

And I agree fully with a formal complaint regarding your Doctor. The Practice Manager is a good starting point. I'm sure there will have been other complaints about him if he's been that inappropriate with you.

Good luck & hoping things are better today.

wilde so pleased you had the reassuring scan great news and what a complete prick that GP sounds awful!

tas I think chatting with an experienced pro in these things will really help.

yikes glad you're ticking along and not feeling too rough!

AFM had GP appt this morning, he was really reassuring about our hols and that he'll get us an early scan before, been feeling hideously rough (more so than the previous pg) so I'm hoping that's a good sign!

Hello to everyone I've missed