Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake part 4

Hey Jolly hang on in there. Totally understand not wanting to be in limbo, but surely they'd get you back pronto if there was nothing obvious.

Re the spotting - don't panic. Can you call your consultant? Doesn't mean you're out, could be just one of those things - I know we have an auto switch to 'disaster' mode when these things happen but you're not out yet.

We're here for you...

at lots of good news everyone!

JollyB why you thinking of deferring? If it was me, I'd be up for it no matter when it was (even though it's early) - surely if it's too early to see something, they'd get you back anyway?

And, in a bid to at least make you smile... Pale knickers. If you are spotting, least you'll know?!? lame attempt, sorry If you were here I'd lend you a pantyliner. But altho you may be, very secretly, and we'd never be the wiser I'm guessing you're not.

Could you borrow a liner off someone at work?

glad to hear your news lurcher - a girl!!

midwife came this morning and i heard the heartbeat again. it took her a while to find it so it was a bit stressful but luckily we got there in the end.

Thanks backwardpossum I hope you're ok over the next few wks, hopefully it'll pass calmly and you'll get lots of kicks to remind you of the wonderful little one waiting to meet you x

Congrats on your little girl lurcher! And good news, Dorita x

Congrats lurcher! Fab news

I had a second blood test to measure FSH levels as the first was quite high at 14.8 and second has come back at 5.6!! This is 'more than normal' in a good way according to my doc but will discuss at women's hospital when we go for fertility appointment next month. I'm so happy it's low even though I don't understand yet why it's so different. It means we have as much chance of conceiving as anyone else, my body's still young hurrah!!!

That's brilliant news Lurcher! So happy for you!! Xxx

Great news lurcher

Yay great news Lurcher and a girl too! Full set on its way

So pleased it went well - and that you're now letting yourself get excited

Just a quickie for me to say that the scan was fine! Low-lying placenta so I've got to go back for another one at 34 weeks to see if it's moved up or not, and if not it will be an automatic CS - but I am probably going to have a CS anyway after having had a shoulder dystocia with ds' birth (am at increased risk of that happening again) so it's immaterial really.

It's a girl! I am so shocked - I really thought it was going to be ds2! Have been feeling really excited all afternoon - first time in this pregnancy I've let myself get a bit giddy.

Fx for you today lurcher... sending positive thoughts.

Good luck for today lurcher. That will be a big hurdle to get over.

Thanks Lurcher for your kind words and reassurance - and sorry that you've been through this too

However... big congrats on your pregnancy, and hand-holding offered for your scan today. Good luck!

Best of luck with your scan lurcher.

jolly I had a 6 week scan. Couldn't see much - just a blob - but there was a definite flicker which was the heartbeat.

textbook, welcome to the thread. We're sorry your experience led you to find us, but glad that you did find us, if you see what I mean...this thread has been a real lifeline for me. I had a mmc too and also found out at the dating scan, in May. It is such a shitty thing to go through and so cruel as you have no warning nothing is wrong. I was told to wait for one normal cycle following the erpc just to make sure that any traces of tissue would be passed with my next period, but I have read it's not harmful to get pg straight away. As it happened, we were going on holiday a couple of weeks after the mc and I decided as I wasn't pregnant I was going to enjoy some wine without worrying I might be in the early stages of another pregnancy, so I was OK with waiting that one cycle. The cycle after that was weirdly long, but I conceived in it (ovulated on something ridiculous like day 26!) and I'm now 19+5 in what is, touch wood, a healthy pregnancy. So there is every chance that this was just one, horrible experience in your life and that your next pregnancy will be successful.

Hand-holding for me please ladies - anomaly scan tomorrow and feeling very nervous about it...

Sorry jolly got confused! Trying to catch up on thread & got muddled up. Yes, these scans are given routinely in the obstetric clinic for certain groups of patients. Hopefully they will offer further ones too, so you can get your confidence.

Another welcome to textbook from me! Miscarriages are shite, but a MMC is especially cruel; I had one at 11.5 weeks & would never have known had it not been for a scan. Take care of yourself & take as much time as you need to recover.

Brave my DP & I had a similar argument when I was around 8 weeks - he said I was unnecessarily negative about the pregnancy - I think for me it was just a self-defence mechanism.

Jolly I'm sorry you're not entitled to an early scan - it's such a shame EPAU's vary so much in policy. I was entitled to one at 8 weeks, due to a previous molar pregnancy - but got another (against the rules!) because of the mmc (it was one of their criteria). I would happily have paid for these. Just for the peace of mind - although I was a wreck again within 2-3 days!!

I'm getting more movements today - bubba must have shifted, so that's reassuring. I also had to confess to my boss as I need time off work next week for an amnio & consultant appointment. Still feel weird about telling people - just don't feel ready - maybe I'll feel a bit better after the amnio & 20 week scan....

Someone asked up thread about a scan at 6 weeks - I know that in the clinic where I work, they are given at this stage & called viability scan, so I think it might reassure you, hopefully.

Sorry if I've not name-checked everyone. Hope the metalling/rollercoaster ladies are holding together ok! Xxx

Welcome to the thread, textbook. I had a mmc in May at 7 weeks, discovered at 9 weeks, and I felt exactly the same as you. Just wanted to get pregnant again as soon as possible. We started trying straight away - midwives at the hospital said to wait until after I'd had my first period, but my own midwife said that wasn't necessary and that they only say that for dating purposes. As it turned out, my period did arrive, but we conceived that second month and I'm now 25+3 today. It's been a tough road and I can't say I've enjoyed this pregnancy (and I'm really not enjoying it at the moment, whinge, moan etc) but I'm starting to believe that I will have my wee baby in 3 months' time. It's only just over 2 weeks until my due date would have been, and I'm feeling a bit wobbly about it, but I just have to focus on my wriggly tum. I hope things work out for you as well as they have for me. x

Not 'about' wobbly headed but a bit!! Bloody phone!

Evening ladies, had my first day back at work, some of my colleagues know about my mc last week and have been really kind, feel ok just about wobbly headed

Welcome text I too suffered a mmc at 12weeks in jan, its certainly a roller coaster but off you feel up to it I'd jump back on the wagon! I found reflexology and acupuncture really helped me with the hormonal craziness after it