Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake part 4

Great news, cog! [bsmile]

Yay cog! [bgrin]

Congrats belissima!
I had scan today. All good - in right place with HB. It measured at 6 and 5. I thought I was 6 and 6 so pretty accurate it seems!

Hi girls
Thank you so much for the warm welcome and lovely messages.
Yikes nice to see I'm not he only old one!
I'm feeling a bit less anxious now. Will try to go to bed early and get some sleep.
5 weeks tomorrow. Onwards and upwards!

Oh crumbs Jolly don't call him Lord, you'll give him ideas above his station!

How are you doing?

Hi Bellissima. You sound like you're in a similar situation to me. I'm 38 too, trying for my first baby. Am 6w1d today. Had a mc at 10 weeks in May and was devastated so have got everything crossed that this one has a happy ending. I'm getting a bit more confident about it as the days pass though. Counting down to 12 week scan! Good luck with your pregnancy too!! xx

Welcome belissima - sorry you're here but, yes, these threads are really helpful for speaking to people who know what you're going through. Can't tell you from my own experience if/when it gets better since I've miscarried at 6 weeks twice and am now at 5w2 again. It is really encouraging seeing the growing excitement in the success stories on here (e.g. lurcher, state and tas) and in friends who have had babies after m/c, so I have faith that it does get better. I well understand the knicker checking - guilty of that myself - but it helps me to remember the stats are generally on the side of successful pg.

lady - Guess that's the best kind of BFN. Best wishes for an enjoyable and short spell of ttc!

Well, have just POAS, BFN. My body clearly do a good job of getting rid of everything. Does mean all systems are go for trying again.

Hi girls I wonder if I can join?
I'm on the other mc thread and find it the best place to talk to people who have gone through what I have.
Bit of background. 38 years old, no children. Mc in July at 7 weeks and got my bfp on Monday. I am so scared I'm not even that happy
Think ill be 5 weeks tomorrow and I am obsessively knicker checking at the moment!!! Every twinge makes me panic. Does it ever get better?

hi all,

state! very excited for you, I had wondered where you'd gone. Glad everything is going smoothly.

lurcher congrats on your little girl, the clothes are much better for girls (imho anyway), that's the main reason I was so happy to have a girl first time around, very superficial I know!

jolly hope you have a good time on Sat, I think a night out is just the ticket, I 'd be honest with your friends, esp if they are good friends. I also just tell people I'd want to tell about a m/c, I found friends' texts etc very comforting when I had the MmC.

I have just told my boss at work, though I knew she had guessed! She said the clue was in the constant eating . I actually feel like a weight has been lifted, strangely enough. I can start to be honest and not feel like I'm hiding the bump. Though that's impossible now, it's looking pretty ...... big

I am so excited, I won't lie though the fear does still get me from time to time! Glad to hear your doing well lurcher a girl, how exciting, despite 7 scans, we didn't discover what this one is, which is strange for me, but is exciting too!

Excellent news from mumtum and state! state, was wondering how you were - bet you are so excited now!

I have just been very brave and ordered baby girl three outfits from the M&S website...that makes it feel very real! Was lovely choosing girly things after only ever having bought boy things for ds though

Evening all!

I'd lost you, just spent ages working out which topic you were in.

Well its the homes straight for me now, and I just wanted to say thank you, every last one of you who's kept me sane, held my hand, made me positive and gave me a kick. Baby state is due to arrive on december 19th by elcs, I can't quite believe it! We had a fantastic scan today happy healthy 'good size' baby which is something we've never had before, so today I am very happy.

Now off for a good read through and catch up :)

Yay to great scan mumtum!

Thinking of you jolly, I'm sure all will be fine x

Me? I'm 26 weeks tomorrow Time is flying by...

Fx jolly agree with others brown blood is said to be ok xxxx

Yay for lurchers girl

Wilde glad your spotting us nothing to troublesome

Hi to everyone else and the newbies

Afm .... Had 20 week scan today omg me ?!? I know !!!!! All good too ! Am growing a heavyweight boxer judging by size and punching activity maybe just maybe I might go public now and even take some tips from pebs and go have a sneaky peek at topshop maternity wear ......

I agree with others jolly to tell your friends so you can relax and enjoy it. In my week between 1st and 2nd scan that confirmed mmc I met friends for my birthday and told them I was having a scan the next day. They were just really nice, hugs and lovely friendly chat. It made me feel much better about dealing with whatever the next day would throw at me, I felt supported if you know what I mean.

And, it sounds like you're going to be okay so you should definately lay off the vino!!! xx

Glad to gear things are sounding good Jolly and you'll be going out with your friends - that's the spirit! ( well, not literally!).

I agree with HJBeans. My criteria for telling people about this pregnancy would be whether I would tell that person if I miscarried. So quite a number of people, who knew about my 2 m/c now know I 'm pregnant now. Still not gone "public" yet though.

I've also had loads of cramping in all 4 pregnancies, so don't worry about that in itself - I think it's just the embryo implanting & womb stretching.

Good luck with your scan cog - from all I've read cramping is common throughout the first trimester. I'm feeling a lot more crampy than I have in the previous two m/c pgs - sort of like very mild almost pre-period cramps but a bit more concentrated on the left side. Not the best for peace of mind to continue to feel AF is on her way. But apparently this is normal?

Hope you enjoy your night out jolly - if they are good friends I'd certainly be upfront with them, but I know it's a very personal decision. I've been very open about my m/cs and my friends have been an amazing source of support. The next step for me is, if I'd feel comfortble telling people about the m/c, why not tell them about the pg early on and have that same support straight through? I have this time and it's been really helpful.

I don't practise what I preach though wilde!!

Don't get pissed jolly that would be silly! Just be honest with them if you are happy to do that.

I had brown bleeding at 5 weeks it's implantation. Just google it and you will see!

Not much happening here today. Ordered a load of maternity clothes on topshop as i am bursting out of everything. was late for work this morning as i couldn't find anything to wear.

go jolly today you are pregnant :) congrats!

we know how hard it is to believe! but for now it sounds like you are a-ok and remember what pebs said about trying to be positive in early pg - it really helps outcomes. and NO !

Weirdly my computer just flipped out and lost my reply so will try and remember what I was saying!

JollyB whatever you do, don't do the drunk thing! You'll have the hangover from hell, will feel sooo guilty and all round terrible. If they're good friends, I'm sure they'll be supportive, and if the worst happens, you'll have extra back up to help you thru.

Besides - awesome news re the 3+ - think that's something like 20000 HCG!

Sorry about all the faff LadyF - you'd have thought they might have mentioned that at the time.

Good luck with the scan cogito...

And hi to everyone else!