Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake part 4

hey everyone! I lost you all and all of a sudden yikes is 8/9 weeks preggo and state is about to have a baby! :) wow!

willsanta pregnancy announcements are shit. I still hate them and I am pg!

My friend who was due at the same time as me is having the shittest time imaginable. Apparently she is having to organise the work rota for all her teachers who are pg, and had to spend her xmas work do at a table with new mums and pg people so was baby talk all night. And me and her SIL too are pg at the same time as she would have been due :( She's is very sad. She is as hard as nails so to hear she is in bits about this whole ttc-after-mc lark is heartbreaking. I just hope that she, and all you other ttcers, get your BFPs soon! If anyone bloody deserves it... (altho I know it doesn't quite work like that)

AFM am nearly 19 weeks now and feel baby kicking often so am a bit less paranoid... but the 20 week scan is rearing its ugly head so will start feeling utterly freaked out again soon. Still spotting most days so guess placenta still on cervix but it is lessening so there is hope.

Hope pebs is getting on a-ok?

to all and wish you all such good luck!

Yes she was a few days away from me I believe, hope she is doing well!

I'm feeling rather overwhelmed by it all tonight and feel like having a bloody good cry, it all just seems so surreal, my mmc and erpc were a year ago this week just gone and now I'm preparing to welcome a new baby, I'm overjoyed but it does toy with the ole emotions.

Thank you to every last metaller who's helped me through this rollercoaster! X

Another day, another announcement of "wonderful news". DH not being at all sympathetic and I know I need to toughen up and get over it, and also that i am really lucky to have 1DC already, but it still feels like a kick in the stomach .

Glad you're starting to relax and enjoy your pregnancy mumtum. If its any comfort, with DC1 I didn't relax till 24 weeks and wouldn't properly plan anything till 28 weeks [superstitious emoticon]

Tiredness and queasiness are Good Things jollyb but they still feel shit so lots of sympathy (and I bet KateM smacks anyone who tells her that).

I hope everyone is having a lovely weekend x

Hi everyone, for some reason I keep loosing this thread!

Anyway just a quick one, I'm going in for my csection on wednesday!!! Still metalling won't believe I get to keep this baby until its safe in my arms I don't think.

Hi mumtum glad to hear you've found a way of coping, sounds like you're doing just fine

Sorry backward that you're feeling down about the date, just keep on thinking of the kicking bean inside you now, probably yelling 'hey, I'm here and I'm great, don't be sad!'

Glad to hear you're ok too jolly, my friend who had a mc, then went on to have her son (and just had second son last week) but she had terrible bleeding for a long time, all okay. Bodies are weird as Bravelilbear's friend says!

AFM I've got a scan tomorrow to check my tubes, ovaries and womb are all okay, first stage of looking into whether we've got any fertility problems. I don't think we have, think it's just taking a bit longer, but seeing the doc about my migraines I mentioned blood tests as an aside and here we are... It'll be good to know we're okay (fingers crossed) though. Got 2nd appointment to discuss results of bloods/sperm test etc. next Weds.

Am off work with a nasty cold, weather's so horrible in Liverpool today I'm almost glad I'm coughing my guts up!! Hope everyone's warm and dry and feeling festive

Morning ladies

To answer the question I've had 3 mc all beans didn't make it to 6 weeks but I had mmc discovered between 6-11 weeks.... I'm now 22 weeks today can't quite believe it myself. Tbh I didn't start to relax and enjoy being pregnant til about 2 weeks ago . Largely because I was convinced I'd have another mmc.....then I started worrying about health of the bean the further along I got. The 20 week scan for me was when I got told that in as far as they could tell after all the tests I have a happy healthy baby .....
The best thing to do is work out your way of coping and keeping the mentalling in check. For me I brought a home Doppler and I had to promise myself only to use it every third day ... I also made a bargain with myself if I struggled to find the heartbeat to wait til the following evening / morning and try again if I still couldn't then I'd panic. I was very lucky I found it first time at 9 weeks !!!! And only had one scary incident but for me mostly it gave me the reassurance I needed... Have to say since I've felt movements my obsession motherly mentalling concern has subsided the tiniest bit . Hope that helps

Good luck to anyone on the 2ww , sorry to those who got af fingers crossed for you all in new year

And to all our graduates ( or nearly grads) hope all us well xxx

Hello Yikes! And co. hope you feel better soon HJ. Was talking to my friend who knows yesterday and she said pregnancy is a time when all manner of crazy things happen with your body... she said it's a way of testing that you're up to the challenge of parenting etc!

The reason she said this is cos I'm off work and waiting to see gp with a giant cyst/abscess 'downstairs'. It's gross and extremely painful and I'm scared about how bean is coping.

Thing is, where I'd normally be putting off exposing my nether regions to a doc, I'm now banging down the door to get it sorted. Really hope I won't need surgery. Eek.

Great news mrsd about your scan
Good question beans about getting past a certain stage & starting to enjoy being pg. I was wondering the same myself...

the mosh pit reference is because someone mixed up the work mental and metal and there were lot's on heavy metal references since. it was all before my time so i guess you had to be there!!

i am not sure if anyone is still posting on here from those days.

Can I ask a question please? Why the mosh pit? I've seen your thread many times before and have lurked a bit/lot, but never known what the mosh pit reference was in aid of!

Yay to scan going well Mrsd

Tomorrow would have been my baby's due date. I'm sad, but also feeling optimistic as I have a very very wriggly wee monkey kicking me here at almost 28 weeks. x

Hi jolly thanks for asking about scan. Should have been tomorrow but I had it yesterday due to some bleeding over the weekend. Totally convinced myself it was game over only to see a strong heartbeat! Could have knocked me down with a feather! They also found a tiny fibroid and a little bleed next to the sac which doc was unconcerned by. Have spotted a smidge since and hoping it was that little bleed working it's way out. She said it was more than likely implantation. Now been booked in for 12 week scan on 23rd Jan. Eyes are closed and everything's crossed!!

Welcome to the gang, yikes. Our catchphrase could be "Yikes! Jolly Brave Beans!".

I'm really looking forward to hitting 8w for the very reason you state. Though the longer I go without spotting, the more I find myself stupidly and morosely googling stats for mmc (which are also pretty encouraging, to be honest). I hope I'll stop expecting the worst after I've had a scan - because I'm stuck in the US I'll not have a chance to be scanned at all until 10.5 weeks.

Do we have any women on the thread who have miscarried repeatedly at a given gestational stage? If so, how far past that stage did you stop assuming it would all end in tears again and start enjoying your pregnancy?

Cheers, brave and jolly - pain is lower back, too low for kidneys I would think, and no other problems to speak of except feeling much more UTI-y again after a few days reprieve. They did test the urine, though I don't thi the time they were away was long enough to culture anything and maybe they've prescribed based on white blood cells plus symptoms. Or maybe they did some sort of time machine culture and that's why it cost $1000! If its worse by tomorrow, I'll head back to the clinic. Am back to the UK on the 28th and, as I said, want to give the NHS a big hug.

Welcome back polka. Glad you had a restful hols and hope your hormones settle down quickly and any DTD marathons are enjoyable and fruitful.

Please can I join the jollybravebeans club? I'm 7+4 today. Nearly 8wks which I'm visualising as a milestone as the risk of mc goes down at that point (although my mc in May was at 10wks )

Wow, a girl goes away for a week and all sorts of good news happens! Lets hope the positive vibes continues

Congrats for those BFPs and fingers n toes crossed for the 2ww!

AFM had a relaxing hols (were a few teeny babies in our resort which was a painful reminder of those babies we've lost) but feel newly refreshed for next stage of DTD marathons, still in the WTF cycle so fingers crossed hormones settle themselves soon

Hey HJ

Don't know about the lower backache... fx the UTI hasn't travelled north. When are you due back in the UK?

As for one-sided pains, most of my early pains have eben left-sided, which is the side I ovulated from this time.

Really hope you feel better soon.

Quick question, ladies.

Has anyone had dull, one-sided lower backache around 7 weeks? I'm having this today and am a bit worried that the UTI isn't responding to the antibiotics and has spread upward. Don't feel otherwise unwell though and am loathe to try to get another $1000 out of travel insurance for what may be normal pregnancy aches.

It's not severe, just there. And as I suspect many of you can relate to, a new pain leads to nervousness and temptation to consult dr google.

A lot of my cramping has also been on the left side, which leads me to a second possible extremely silly question - is it possible to feel which side your baby has attached on to? Are normal pregnancy aches expected to be one-sided?

Thanks in advance for any wisdom.

You're right, jolly, I'm 7 weeks today, so a member of the brave & jolly bfp club. (sounds quite a positive-leaning club, doesn't it? )

Welcome santa, sorry for your loss and hope your 2013 starts happily for you.

Do I remember that bel has a scan today? If so good luck and let us know how it goes.