Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake part 4

HJ that was the kind of thing I had before my scan last week. Doc told me it was from a bleed near the sac. She was unconcerned. Hope that helps you. My gp said any bleeding in early pg entitles you to a reassurance scan particularly if you have had mc before.

Christmas makes everything like this do much more stressful!

scenarios, not scenarigrin. What an odd autocorrect!

Errg. Bit of a panic here. Had just finished writing a friend saying I'd had no spotting to speak if this pregnancy and was begin to think it might be different from my two m/c pregnancies when I noticed some spotting. Not at all like previous spotting - was an odd reddish flake of material, like a scab or chapped skin, with very light pink CM.

Know it won't mean certain doom even if it increases and know there's nothing to be gained fom worrying regardless, but can't stop my mind from going through various depressing scenarigrin getting worse through the day, ringing travel insurance again, going to ER, getting scanned and hearing bad news, miscarrying over Christmas, etc. etc.). Fuck.

yikes we all know how you feel i avoided our nephew unti i was 20 something weeks, it does get easier last time i visited them i was excited to have a squeeze, be gentle with yourself.

I will come let you know what this elusive little baby is as soon as i can, with my hospitals new visiting hours and dp running around on school runs for the big two i will need the company of mumsnet a fair bit :(

I'm metalling harder than i have for months, all seems to good to be true right now.

I am hiding as AF due in 3/4 days... Can't even think about it right now. Will properly catch up,at the weekend one way or another....

Hi all. Just popping my head round the door to distract me from the pile of essays I should be marking...hello to the new ladies. snorks, sorry to hear you have had bad experiences with HCPs. The staff at my EPU can be lacking in compassion too (first prize to the consultant, who on the morning of my ERPC - having been nil by mouth on the ward for 24 hours while they tried to get me on a theatre list and by this point so dehydrated I was on IV fluids - didn't express any sympathy but told me that he was determined to get me done that day because he wanted the bed). I tried to rationalise it to myself by thinking that they're so blase because mc is so common (which must mean that most people who go through it go on to have normal pregnancies, which is true as we know, of course). It's shit, though, and you have my sympathies.

I'm 23 weeks on Weds. I've been feeling baby move since 15 weeks, but she's really moved things up a gear in the last week or so, which is great. There was an article about prem babies in the Times on Saturday, which said that at 23 weeks they have a 25% chance of survival if born then. Not exactly great odds, but I find it a bit reassuring that at least she'd have a chance. The odds then increase to 50% at 24 weeks and 60-70% at 25 weeks, which is pretty amazing really - the difference that one week can make.

Wow, state! Can't believe you are so close to meeting your baby - and finally finding out the sex! Really looking forward to hearing about your little one when you get chance to update us.

Thanks for being so understanding and supportive everyone. I've lost my symptoms today but am trying hard to enjoy a day off and remember that early pregnancy can be a bit weird like this rather than going completely mental.

I had intended on not making any contact with the midwife until I was happy I was 12 weeks. Just not sure I can see the point in it. I was booked in in June and was low risk and as everyone medical I've attempted to discuss things with since has pointed out, 2 1st tri mc is no big deal. Right. Twats.

The midwives at our local EPU forgot to go to the ' pretend you give a shit' course so I don't really fancy going there unless I absolutely have to. I sound like a bit of a bitter old hag but it's a toss up really which part of losing our babies was worst, the people I thought might show a bit of compassion being so matter of fact and cold or the losses themselves. I don't want to have to cancel another appointment either cos it hurts.

Congratulations to all of you who are getting there with new pregnancies. Have been lurking on and off since late summer so I know a few of your stories

Feeling a bit down today. Another birth announcement from one of our pals. That's the seventh this year. I know I should be pleased but I'm just not. (Bad person). I've somehow managed to avoid meeting any of the babies so far this year but DH wants us to visit this new baby on Boxing Day. Totally can't face it. I don't think Christmas is bringing out the best in me. Even when I get to 12 weeks I'm not sure I'll feel differently about it as I'm high risk so I'll be panicking that things could still go wrong. Bah Humbug

Great news pebs, 24 weeks already!! Exciting stuff!

Good luck for Wednesday State if I don't get the chance to say tomorrow. x

I'm seeing my consultant tomorrow to talk about section (I'm 28+4 tomorrow) so hopefully I'll have a date soon too! This is passing really quickly now. I can't believe I'm in my third trimester. I tell you what, I didn't think I'd ever get here back in May...

Good luck on Wednesday State! What a wonderful christmas present

Well, lets go TTCers, bit of festive fun and baby making all round!! (I'm trying to give myself a boost here, we're both full of cold bang on fertile time so that's gonna be realllly fun!)

snork I really feel for you! No one will be able to give you the comfort that only a healthy 12 week scan can. I had a molar pregnancy discovered at my 12 week scan in May and I am now nearly 7 weeks preg. The worrying is overwhelming and although I'm delighted, I feel like I need to protect myself.

I had a scan last week due to spotting but my gp has offered to monitor how my hcg rises. I've found that helpful. X

glad you are well and happy pebs

such good luck for weds state

Congrats to the continuing first tri gang :) So many BFPs at once, it was great! And welcome to newbies, this is a lovely supportive thread :)

Glad to hear its all going well pebs 24wks already!!

Still can't quite believe how close I am to the finish line, don't think ill believe I'm having a baby until its in my arms, I said to dp in a mess of hormonal tears it better cry straight away, it needs to cry really loud, still metalling at 39+2! Thanks for all the good wishes :)

Hooray for happy scan, pebs!

And all best wishes to state - it makes me happy to think of you meeting your baby so soon.

Welcome, snork, and sorry to hear of your losses. Congratulations on your pregnancy and sorry you're feeling understandably apprehensive about the wait though the first trimester.

dorita is right, you're certainly not alone in this - this is one of two very well populated threads on MN filled with women for whom pregnancy or ttc is a very long slog emotionally due to previous miscarriages. I do take a lot of comfort that it's normal to feel as I do and that I can talk freely with people who really understand. I hope you'll find this useful, too.

I'm 7w5 after two early mc this year and my husband doesn't talk much about this pg either. I think we're both trying to think of it as a potential pg until we've got past 12 weeks, and it's just much easier for him to do that as he's not got lots physical reminders of how real the pg is now.

Are you sure your local EPU can't scan you any earlier than 12w? Mine is very happy to give as much reassurance as is needed through the first trimester and there's good evidence this can actually improve outcomes. Do see what you mean about a scan being no reassurance until the next scan, though, given the history of your losses. But since odds of m/c decrease vastly after hb, after 8w, etc., I'd still find some comfort in knowing my chances were improving.

I hope it feels easier for you soon. If it helps any, I've been surprised by how quickly I've gotten to (nearly) 8 weeks and I felt just as you do when I found out at 4w. Take care.

Good luck state can't wait to hear news of the new arrival.

Midwife came this morning. my bump is measuring 24 weeks so perfect! and the heartbeat was fine. the baby was kicking the doppler so that was good.

I am getting excited about this pregnancy now.

Good luck for weds state!

Thanks Dorita. I'm delighted to be pregnant again of course but I think so much time recently has been spent trying to get over the last miscarriage and trying to get pregnant that now I am pregnant again I feel a bit weird, like I don't know what to do with myself. I keep trying to talk to DH about it but unusually for him really he doesn't have a lot to say. I think he's worried too really.

I wondered about getting a reassurance scan in very early January and so have a smaller chunk of time to get to. Thing is though with my first mc I had a scan ans saw a heartbeat then lost it anyway 48 hours later so I know really that this wouldn't reassure me much, plus I'm really tight-fisted so can't imagine wanting to pay best part of £100 when I could just wait a few more weeks!

Not sure what I'm wanting anyone to say really!

That's what we're all here for snork, those times when you need a boost or a virtual hug. I think everyone who's become pg on this thread has felt exactly as you describe at some point or another, I think it's natural and I hope that helps you feel a bit better, that you're not alone?

I'm still working on my bfp (next week or so will be busy!) but I'm sure someone else who's been in your position will have better things to say and I'll just send you nice calm vibes for now xx

I hope no one minds me jumping in but I think I might need a little place to chat about things. I found out a week ago that I'm pregnant again. Have had a couple of miscarriages, the last one in July was just out of this world awful. we've got 2 very lovely dcs already and up until this time have always fallen pg quite easily. This time it took 6 cycles which felt very long and stressful. I thought it might help me feel a bit calmer if I kept this pregnancy a secret (DH knows obviously) as I don't want anyone worrying on my behalf or to have anyone think losing our other babies doesn't matter any more.

For the first few days of this pregnancy I've felt quite calm but today I've been finding it trickier. I've been feeling sick which has been okay but it's the tiredness that's got to me a bit. It probably sounds daft but I've just realised how long the wait is to get to 12 weeks and I don't know if I'm gonna be emotionally strong enough to handle it.

Dashing in with a dead quick but HUGE 'good luck' state for weds what a wonderful story to hear for us ladies needing some hope

Thank you lots my ds and dd were csections so whilst I'm still a bit nervy about it I know what to expect :)

You know if someone had told me this time last year where I'd be now I'd never had believed them, I had my first mc july 2010. The mmc last december hit me hardest though so I feel very lucky that one year one week later I should have my baby in my arms.

Just wanted to say a huge Good luck to every one here and a thank you for all the support, kind words and hand holding before things get too hectic and I can't post much! Will let you know when lo arrives :)

Ps good luck to state for your CS. It'll be amazing to hold your wee one. If you haven't had a section before, feel free to ask - it's not that bad xx