Page 4 | Months on and most people are pregnant so I'm starting a new thread Come and join me if you've been TTC a while or are TTC after pregnancy loss... we've been through it all! Pt 2

mrsnec · 2012-11-01T06:23:09+00:00

HK, Munch, Els, Rach and Tas where are you and more importantly, how are you? Sorry if I forgot anyone. Looking forward to updates!

MunchinMango · 09/11/2012 10:28

Hiya mrs. I can totally understand your loathing to have to go for tests. That was awful what happened to you. My friend recently went through tests to check out her and her dh so I'm well aware of whats involved. I also know how slow I am to look about myself and my erratic cycles. So I am no one to be dishing out advice.Also you shouldn't be so quick to assume that there is something wrong with you and I know the first thing they will do is check your dh sample so they can rule it out. I also can appreciate how touchy a subject it would be to raise with dh. But anyhow I don't think there is any harm giving it another few months til the new year. In the meantime defo try the temping to see if that sheds any light. I find fertility friend great for imputing your results and its displayed in graphs as well.

Well it's a lovely wet day here:( dh has flu and I hope the rest of us font get it. My AF is still continuing to what I remember it to be pre mc and pre pill!!! So fx.

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mrsnec · 09/11/2012 07:11

Morning All, yes definately been thinking about an action plan. I'll tell you a bit about my doctorphobia. I had an accident a few years ago. I had a laporotomy and was discharged from hospital with no refferals and no explaination about what they'd done. I had 2 years of complications and 4 GPs. They didn't help. Before we started ttc I paid a private consultant to examine me and review my file and she told me there was no damage to my reproductive organs and thought I'd have no trouble concieving. But she did say she didn't think my stomach muscles would support a pregnancy though as the surgeon cut them the wrong way but I then went to another one who said they'd never known that to be a problem! Anyway, we'll have to go private here. But that's ok. It's kind of done on a pay as you go basis and you go straight to the person you think you need to see so none of this waiting for a refferal type business! I do wonder if my issue could be hormonal. When I first got pg I was on the mini-pill. I was constantly changing brands as I had hormone imbalances all the time. That pill was the lowest possible dose I was ill and I took it late but would have had good progesterone levels as a result. Low progesterone is also a cause of LPD. So I'm considering trying progesterone cream. Also, I know this will sound wrong to some but I feel like I'm assuming I'm the one with the problem and I have concieved before. DH hasn't. And it could just as easily be an issue with him. Yet he wont accept that and just jokes about it. Having said all that,(which makes me question if he'll be a good father and wonder why we're doing this) I still think the health issues play a major part. I've had a word with DH about that too and he knows that the less he drinks and smokes the more action he's going to get! But I think we need to be dtd more still and give it 4 more months then I think getting my bloods done and his sample looked at will be a good start. But you're right munch, think I can stretch to 3? just to make sure I am ovulating on day 21!

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MunchinMango · 08/11/2012 15:44

Hiya Ladies

Great to hear from you and that all is still progressing nicely. Fx you have a great nuchal scan and you can maybe start to enjoy this pg.

Tas any updates with those blood tests?

Mrs I was thinking you were very quiet. Sorry Af played tricks on you again but great that the vitamin B tabs lenghtened your LP. Maybe just take them every other day if you find them hard on your stomach or try a different brand? Its very disheartening to be ttc for 2 years. Maybe put a plan in action for yourself. Try temping for a few cycles to see if that helps and I saw basal thermometers as cheap as 3.99 on amazon. Buy maybe sometime in the new year would you consider going to doctor to discuss having some tests done? I don't mean to panic you and I'm sure all is ok. (Btw this is from me who puts off going to the doctor to look about things for herself!!! so i am no one to talk) My friend had been ttc for over 2 years and got fed up and booked an appoint with a clinic but fell pg herself before the appoint came up. Bravo on finding the keys, you'd think your friends would be more appreciative. Enjoy the festivities this weekend.

Well my af has certainly come with a bang. I can honestly say its the first normal af I have had since coming off the pill in Aug 2011. Now to see if it will return on a more regular basis. But for now I am starting to hope again.

Any sign of Hellokitty, Rachie, Lynzi or Berries?

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mrsnec · 08/11/2012 11:57

Hi All! Els sounds like thinks are progressing well! And you Tas I agree with what the others say that it's good they're keeping an eye on you. Don't forget to keep us up to date with it all and the job situation too! Munch good news. I agree with the action plan too. The more I read the more convinced I am that temping is the way to go but I haven't tried it yet. Anyway, I've been lurking this week cos I was feeling a bit hopeful and didn't want to tempt fate. Body playing her usual tricks and threw in a few more new symptoms for good measure! The witch got me today though. 34 day cycle this time though which means I've got my LP to 13 so I should see that as a result. I'd reduced my B vit dose by half too as they were upsetting my stomach a bit. However do feel a bit miffed and sorry to be negative Tas, I don't share the belief that good things come to those who wait. I've been waiting long enough! This is now cycle 24! In other news, got my friends keys. Didn't end up making a day of it in the end as DH had to work in the morning. Not sure why we bothered really as friends didn't appreciate the effort and cost us a lot. But I'm not all doom and gloom, DH's Nan is here on holiday staying with DPILs. Having an early Xmas celebration this weekend. And we've booked a little holiday so I have something to look forward to. 4 days in Venice in Feb. Can't wait! Hope you are all ok. Looking forward to hearing your news. Anyone up to anything this weekend?

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elsabel · 06/11/2012 22:41

Oh Tas can imagine you must be nervous but at least theyre keeping an eye on you and hopefully all is good and it will be a huge reassurance for you.

I went for my first midwife appointment today and she said i could get my nuchal scan as early as next week, I am counting the days right now to get past the point I was at last time.

Good luck with your new cycle Munch, fingers crossed for lots of cm and dtd!!

How is everyone else? xx

MunchinMango · 06/11/2012 16:54

Hi Tas, oh fx that all is ok. I suppose they have an idea of what level your hcg should be at for your dates. I can only imagine that's all they can tell from a blood test. I'm sure you have been doing tests every day?? (Well that's what I have done in the past) has the line been getting darker or if you did the cb digital one that dates your pg it would change from 1-2 weeks etc.

How is everyone else doing?

Well AF arrived today and I'm actually relieved. I can't say if I o'd or not during the cycle. But here's to a new cycle and I armed with tests galore, temping etc. As I feel we will only keep trying for another few months I'm going to give it my best shot.

tasjaSAmuminSA · 06/11/2012 12:01

Munch - hang in there - all good things comes to those who waits.

Mrs - did you get the keys back?

Gyno told me today I need to go for bloodtest so that they can see if baby is ok. So with the LDMS date and the HcG hormone they can determine if baby is fine??? They will phone me tomorrow they said. I'm a bit scared.

MunchinMango · 05/11/2012 11:20

Good morning ladies. It's very frosty!!!

Tas omg a bfp!!! Congrats. Just shows you when you forget about ttc it actually happens. Sorry to hear about your dh but unfortunately I have heard similar things happen to people who commented on Facebook. But I must say your dh comment was harmless enough. Hopefully it blows over.

Mrs how did the key hunting go? Eh I think idea that you eat too much meat confusing opks sounds a bit bananas to me. I understand now totally why Xmas at home with relatives would be too painful. Better to have nice holiday to look forward to.

Els woohoo 9 weeks. That's great. Roll on until its your scan at 12 weeks.

All good here, not great on dtd front :( , all that cm has disappeared now do maybe I'm into the 2ww now although only thing I can seriously look forward to us getting AF. I think it would be a miracle for anything else.

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mrsnec · 03/11/2012 07:19

Hi All Munch that's a good idea about going to docs then but I hope it's for another reason! Agree about not telling DH when it's a good time though. I do the same. Tas that's amazing news. Goes to show keeping busy is a good thing too. Really hope everything works out with the job situation. Definately agree with what Els says about Facebook. Glad you're ok to Els and things progressing well. Anyway, still not sure what went on with those opks. I read you can contact CB to get replacements and that Amazon often sell some that are out of date. But my friend said it's cos the sticks were 'confused' cos I eat so much meat that's loaded with hormones but I'm not so sure about that! On another note I did think about going home for Xmas. Trouble is the past few years it's been all about the children in my family. I'm not a jealous person by nature but I don't like seeing DM playing granny to other people's kids. My parents have 9 step grandchildren between them but none of their own. This feeling gets worse the longer this ttc lark is taking and is worse than ever at Xmas. My plan is to try and do Xmas here and invite dpils, neighbours, and any clients we have that have come over for xmas and try and make it a good one then use the money I would have spent on flights home on another short break in Feb but go somewhere a bit more adventureous! Think it'll help having something to look forward to! Hope you all have a great weekend. We're off North again across to the Turkish side as my friend managed to lose her DP's keys at those bungalows in the mountains we stayed at last weekend. We've decided to go back and find them and make a day of it!

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elsabel · 02/11/2012 16:44

Hello ladies ive been looking for you since the last thread disappeared and am very pleased i found you!

Firstly...congrats tas thats amazing news bet you are very anxiously happy i know how you must feel.try and stay calm and take a day at a time thats what i have done (not easy though i know) Sorry about your dh and the job facebook is a pain in the arse nothing is secret anymore big brother is always watching!

How is everyone else? Glad youre having a lovely time mrs wherever you are, sounds nice.

Munch-sounds like your body is really messing you around you poor thing, but hopefully its getting sorted now xx

All is ok my end (i hope fingers x) 9 weeks tomorrow and still worry alot but trying to stay positive just cant wait for it to be 12 weeks!! Hi to anyone else who is watching but keeping quiet hope everyone is good xx

tasjaSAmuminSA · 02/11/2012 15:20

Hi Ladies!
I have LOTS of news to tell you. Lots has been happening!
Remember my school concert? Well, with all the preparation and practice and stress from the concert I realised with a shock on Monday that I'm 4 days late! So I went to buy a test. Did it that evening - I couldn't wait till the next morning. It was negative. But it took ages to show the result so I thought there was something wrong with it.
So yesterday I bought another test and did it last night. It was negative. Only to see the same test lying there this morning with 2 faint lines. So I showed it to my friend and she said YES I'm pregnant. But I don't want to get too excited , I'll do a test on Sunday MORNING to be 100% sure.
The BAD news is this:
My DH went to work on Wednesday and when he got there they handed him a notice for diciplinary hearing. Why? Because he said on Facebook: Friends, please pray that I can find another job because the stress is killing me.
Can you believe this? Now he's suspended till the hearing that was suppose to be today but he went to the doctor and she booked him off with severe depression and stress.
Not really good timing if there's a baby on the way! 2 years ago he was fired from his job because he was working on his own business (in his own time!!!!) and he looked for 4 months till he got a new job. Remember: In SA there's no benefits and things like that. He can only claim UIF that is about a third of his salary! So If he loses his job we are basically screwed! A bit stressfull but trying to take it very easy and to relax! Don't want another mc again IF I'm pg. Having faith! xxxxx

MunchinMango · 02/11/2012 14:17

Hiya mrs your hol sounds great. Good that you got to rekindle the romance as it easily can get lost in the whole ttc madness. Well judging by your ewcm you seemed to have dtd at the right time. Typical the opks malfunctioned on those days. Could you not manage a trip to see your family over the Xmas? Sorry you lost out on that job.

Yes dh was saying to me also to go to the doctor. I think I will at Xmas. Today I saw defo ewcm fir the first time in months so maybe my body just took its own sweet time to get back in action. Now only thing is to grab dh for some dtd!!! And also not to let him know its the right time as I feel that puts too much pressure on him.

Any plans for the weekend?

Any sign of the rest of the ladies or any newbies?

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mrsnec · 02/11/2012 06:36

Hi Munch. Well I've not been around much as our friends have been here for nearly 2 weeks and we've been away with them during that time too. Sorry to hear about your cold weather. Yes it's still warm here but getting cooler at night and dark early so can feel really cosy in the evenings. Best of both worlds! My favourite time of year here. Not sure what to make of your cycle. If it was me I'd be a bit frustrated. Did you test again just in case it's a bfp? If not would you need to have another word with your doc? I'm on CD 28 today. I used my opks from CD 14-21. I didn't get any smileys. 5 neg and then 2 errors. No idea what I was doing wrong. On the 2 days I had the errors I saw ewcm for the first time in ages. We managed to dtd that day too as it was when we were away and we stayed in a seperate bungalow to our friends. It was all quite romantic actualy! Anyway since I saw the ewcm on the days I thought I was going to ov then I don't see much point in trying opks again. Last lot just seemed a waste of money. I'm ok in myself at the moment ish but I didn't get that job I went for, my next cycle will be no 24 and we've got no more visitors until next year so I wont see any of my family for xmas again so I sometimes find it hard to stay upbeat! Enough of my ramblings! Hope everyone else is ok!

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MunchinMango · 01/11/2012 18:02

Hiya mrs, thanks for starting new thread. I thought yous had all disappeared :( how are you doing? Very envious of your warm climate now as its gotten very cold.

Well I'm on cd51!! I kid you not!!! Still no sign of AF. Another wtf cycle I guess. But something is definitely going on. Two weeks ago my boobs got very sore and I had a lot of crampy dull aches which lasted a week and the soreness peaked last sat and que lots of cm (not fertile looking) and have loads everyday since. But boobs no longer sore. I'm temping for over 2 weeks now and hard to tell what's going on.

Anyhow looking forward to hearing from you all.