Thank you all so very much again. Reading your stories made me so sad, that all of us have lost our babies in some way or another, at some stage or another.
Kleine, I'm so sorry to know of your recent loss as well. Do look after yourself in the coming weeks. The best advice I got was to eat healthy food (lots of fruits and veggies), get in a little exercise every day as soon as I felt physically strong enough, and do some meditation/breathing exercises. It gave me a sense of being somewhat in control enough in control to look after myself and was also good for the recovery, I guess. Hoping you start to feel a lot better very soon, physically at least.
coco, big, big hugs. Phoenix must have been a beautiful baby, looking just like her daddy. I responded to your thread over on the Miscarriage and Pregnancy Loss topic but will repeat the same thing here: after what you've been through, the fear and the anxiety are normal, especially in this period of such great uncertainty. If your little one comes out fine and healthy, you'll be able to love him or her, you will. For now, just know that we understand your worry.
greengoose and Rainbow, I'm so happy to hear your good news and will keep you in my thoughts and prayers, that everything may go well despite all we fear.
Little9, you'll be in my thoughts too, that everything may go well. No having clear answers is always so difficult, isn't it? That is the bit that really frightens me.
Angel, I live in an Asian country and the rules and systems for these cases aren't the same as what you seem to have in the UK (I learned a lot from reading Mumsnet and was pleasantly surprised to know of the hospitals organizing services and having memorial gardens and so on). But I consider us lucky that the hospital agreed at all to anything... even my doctor was surprised that they agreed. The care was excellent, though, I won't fault that and they were sensitive enough to put me in a room by myself in the gynae section, not the maternity ward. But it's sad that there are no systems in place to let you say goodbye to a baby born before 20 weeks. Anyway, little boy has his place in the arms of my granny (grandpa always refused to carry babie, so he wouldn't start now!) and in our hearts. It's lovely to hear about your little Phoebe, bless her, the rainbow after Georgie, bless her too!
spilttheteaagain, that little wobble you had makes me so sad. It sounds like you and Little9 and me all had similar experiences of loss. Little Freya must feel like such a gift, even if the pregnancy must have been so hard.