TTC after recent mc - Thread 2

So I'm going to climb on the B bandwagon - do you think it will bring me a New Year BFP?

congratulations Posy what a fantastic roll this thread is on! May all your beans be sticky ones, ladies.

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Thanks Janie. Have just read back through the posts, what a horrible ordeal you've had . So glad it's not what they thought it was and that you can ttc again. Fwiw, my cycles were definitely messed up for several months after mc, and it's now 6 months since mc that I have got a bfp. I honestly think that for some people it must just take a bit longer to kick back into place but a big fingers crossed it will all sort itself out for you soon.

Blundercats just read your job posts. Have been in a similar dilemma - I say go for the job and carry on ttc. You only live once. I wondered whether to hold off ttc this month as I have applied for a few jobs, and have now got a BFP. Still not sure whether to still go for t'interviews, but at the same time, there is no reason why pregnant people shouldn't get new jobs, in my biased opinion!

Blol glad to hear your scan news - how exciting. How many weeks are you then?

Almond how are you feeling? Worked out your leaving date yet?

xx

And yay for your line posyplum ! Fx for you xx

blunder thanks so much for that. I remember chatting on here before avoid the Angus Cactus (sp) stuff so might take a trip to holland and Barrett. Oh boys have it so easy!

Hello everyone, just wanted to update you all that I got a very faint positive today on a cheapo Asda test. Sorry I've not been on much lately. I have been getting a bit fed up of ttc after five months since mc and have been trying to trick my body into forgetting that I am!

Don't really know what to feel either - I don't feel like I can really get excited about it til at least 8 weeks, which is after I mc'd last time. That's it really. Hope everyone is OK and that the chain of B-BFPs continues (think I had a very belated lucky fruity one!) xxxxxx

Chin up bling (nice name btw). There must be cheaper alternatives you can look at. Like homeopathic things perhaps? like this?

I don't really know about alternative stuff but I'm sure there are things you can do so at least you're doing something.

bump 103 days?!! oh. my. god as they say. I'm not surprised you nearly went mad! Do you opk?

ok i've now got a lucky 'B' name to bring on AF (janiewoozle)!! bring it on! x x x

Ok ladies I decided to join the b gang and see does it bring me any luck!!! Thanks to all for encouragement but poas again this evening and bfn. Cd 29 today so I guess another wtf cycle for me. Going out on Xmas party on thurs so think I will drown my sorrows.

Huge congrats to Betty on bfp!!

Blunder hope that its af starting and as for ttc versus new job, I'd throw caution to wind and what will be will be. You'll always find a way to manage.

Janie I feel your pain on the long cycles. I had erpc and first cycle lasted 103 days. I nearly went around the twist. I too have piled on weight but a lot down to comfort eating. Fx af shows up soon.

Anda could it be implantation bleed? Were you ttc?

Blol and almond glad all is going well.

Peanut here's hoping that it is implantation pains.

Waves to everyone else I have missed.

just looking up some reflexologists in belfast - the acupuncture seems really expensive and i just can't afford it at the minute :(

my old 50 day cycles seem to have turned into 60+ day cycles but i guess it's always odd after a mc. sorry i seem to be feeling awfully sorry for myself today, normally much more positive!!! chin up!

anda, cycles weren't massively regular- 28-32 days really (never was that in tune with myself!

I would LOVE it if we all could poas at a similar time.

Having said that, I still don't know it was af, could have been a relapse (had cramps for last two days though so hope that's a sign). kitty I think I know exactly how you feel, sounds like we all do!

Coke not weird at all, I felt exactly the same. I actually did a little celebration dance when it appeared! shh, shouldn't tell people this

Kitty, sending super strong af vibes your way!

IBelieve ooh, hope so, in the weirdest possible way! I can't think that I've ever wished for AF and cramps before!! I've already felt pretty uncomfortable today so maybe it's a bit of spotting before it starts properly tomorrow. Fx. (I'm so weird)

hey i want an AF too :( finally stopped bleeding a few days ago now I'm wanting it to start again! (janie my ERPC was 16th Nov - still waiting for AF)

blunders i agree with the others see where fate takes you, you may not even want the job and it would be a shame to waste a month of dtd

Blunder yay for you! Are you on a 28 day cycle? I worked out that if today was CD1 my next AF would be due 1/1/13. New year, new start

Janie I had the erpc on 25th october, and got af on 1st dec. maybe just go to docs and ask the question, just to put your mind at rest?

Blunder, yay! Woohoo to last af for a long time!

Coke, fingers crossing it is af. I had that on the day before mine 'properly' started iyswim, and appeared with avengance the next day. Along with some impressive cramps! Here's hoping for you, then you me and blunder can all be poas at roughly the same time at the end of the month! Wooo!

Oh dear, blol and anda, not good days for you.
blol your dance sounds very impressive. Shame you can't do that exam, but I know you'll want all the best for this bean eh? Can you keep up doing the dancing otherwise? And do you dance with a partner. I see what you're saying about the af- got fingers and toes crossed that it is af now.

almond, good that you feel relieved re netball decision. Good to look after yourself too. Funny that you were in a similar situation with jobs. Maybe fate will step in and decide for me- ill leave it up to her as long as I can!

anda, could it be like a mini bleed? Are you going to get back on ttc now or still waiting? You were doing opks before- perhaps you could try again if you feel ready for it...?

Lol its catch 22 isnt it. I feel a bit sorry to miss the match but on the other hand dont want to risk anything! I also dont want to get fat if you know what I mean! Might try some swimming next week. The doc basically said that I just need to hold tight and try not to worry (I asked about cramps). But I will get referred to a specialist obstrician by the kidney consultant to look after me and I think I will see them sooner than the normal 12 weeks. I didnt make it far enough last time to find out! Just need to get through the first trimester then I will need to worry about the old kidders!

Well I was full of the joys of spring because I thought I was on CD1. But it's just, well, stopped. It was the pinky type blood they tell you a little bit of is fine when you're pregnant, but then nothing else. Oh well, hopefully it'll hurry up.

Blunder I meant with af you can continue to shag and I think you have a good chance of being ovulating if its come back so early!
Glad you made up your mind almond. Are you likely to get a scan?
I had a similar situation to your netball one. I've been practising for a dance exam in two weeks time, and hosp said I had to speak to teacher. I talked to her today and she doesn't want me to take the exam at all. I'm a bit gutted but she is the expert and I have to trust her. She said jive and cha cha are too quick for me to risk it. Oh well.

Hiya everyone,

Lol that is good news about the scan and good you are getting a follow up one too!

Blunder yeah for AF! I felt so happy when mine returned after the mc! I think with the TTC you have to do what ever is right for you. We waited a couple of weeks then started again. Stopped for a couple then started again indecisive moi. I also had a very similar job dilemma to you about a month ago and did lots of research. Basically you are right in that if you get the job pg then you will only get maternity allowance which is minimal (you will still get something though). If you are not pg before you will still get statutory. I guess my only concern was the stress of having a new job would put me under and whether that would stop me being able to get pg and also if I did get pg quickly then how would my new employers feel. In the end the job didn't materialise so all my stressing wasn't worth it and I am now pg so the decision is out of my hands!

Janie fx yours will arrive soon too! Have you tried any accupuncture or relexology. Lots sware by it! I had reflexology before this BFP so I am obviously swearing by it !

Peanut big fx for implantation cramps. It must be your turn next!

So my news is that I decided not to play netball which I feel relieved about. I am shattered too and not sure how I would have managed anyhow! I had to confess to the Captain as she was suspicious anyway. She was lovely but feel a bit weird telling people so early. Went to the Docs too and he just took my blood pressure asked me a few questions and that was that. Apparently I have to ring the midwife clinic in a few weeks time and 'book in'. Also seeing my kidney specialist tomorrow to see what he has to say (not only have I got mc to worry about but kidneys that dont work too well). Hopefully all is well and I can get through to 12 weeks!

Sorry lol, what do you mean? If it is af, the shagging will have to start all over again. Ho hum

Yeah thanks blol, I'll try to do one thing at a time

janie yep that might work, probably not me asking you, but what the hell- anyone else had a d&c here and still waiting on af?

oh wow blunder woohoo - ok someone ask me and then mine might come too haha!!! yay for AF! never been jealous of someone getting AF before heehee!!!

That's quick blunder! How it's real af. That means you are well with a chance of bfp with all the shagging!
I would not stop because of job. You don't even know of you will like it! Play it by ear and see what happens.