TTC after recent mc - Thread 2

I'm definitely out now and joning the September babies (hopeful) waiting list. Christmas shagging here we come....

Yay for September babies. They'll be super smart and the biggest and cleverest in their year (even though I'm still gutted that my July baby would have cost me nearly a year's less childcare!!)

DH did his dissertation on birth distribution in elite rugby players and they'll be more likely to represent their country if they're born September to November! But saying that, he was born in April, so who knows!

Damn you knowing my best one kitty!!

I had no idea about the cousin marrying thing, particularly that it is a cultural thing. Presumably the reason this is asked because of potential genetic/chromosone problems or something?

September baby it is then. If I ever resume normality that is.

Ah don't worry about banging on :) I like to get on with normality most of the time...

So you have only been trying for one month! I don't mean to sound harsh but that's not very long is it though saying that I imagine I'll be the same if I don't get a BFP in January!

And just think all of us Jan ttcers we'll have September babies :) - I like the sound of a September baby for some reason

blunder I think they are first cousins - my midwife said in a lot of Asian cultures cousins marry each other...

...and boobies?

Really blood relatives??? What relation are they- do you know?! That really surprises me. Oh god I hope I don't offend anyone here...!

You never know re bfp peanut, but I totally get the not feeling it vibe. When are you due to poas?

Ok..joke...(and I do work with wildlife)

What kind of bees do you get milk from?

Aw bump that's so rubbish, I'm so sorry. Puts my troubles in perspective! Sending you cyber hugs.

Feel a bit bad banging on now but since you asked, yes it was our first pg. mc at 10wk at beginning aug. af came back properly for first time last month, so was pretty hopeful for a bfp for crimble, but just not feeling it now!

I'm a student midwife, hence intimate knowledge of booking paperwork. Don't usually mention it in case people assume I will be a know it all when I'm most def not!

And yes blundercats think we could all do with a joke right about now!

Excuse poor spelling/punctuation, normally grammar Gestapo but on phone x

Oh bump poor poor you, that is so hard

What a strain on you and your family it must be x x x

Oh BPeanut sorry you're feeling so crap. Remind me of your stats, was this your first pg? and how long ago was it? Are your periods back to normal?

How do you know about the blood relatives thing? are you medical?

As we're all sharing crap days I will share mine with you. My mum is very seriously ill and not getting better. Really the mc has been the icing on the cake of a really shit few months. On the day before my ERPC my dad was taking my Mum into one hospital then coming to pick me up from my one. He had to do some work today (self employed) so I went to look after my mum. It was fine and we had a nice time together it's just generally so horrendous how quickly she has become so ill. Anyway, all this gives me perspective about everything else - usually I compartmentalise everything as this helps me to cope but there is a danger I haven't grieved properly for this mc as I'm too busy being devastated about my mum.

lol, can you fire the pain in the ass one? Glad the other errors didn't cause you too much grief.

Loving the fake infection though. Are you tempted to throw in a few dummy symptoms too? I would! Ok next time you have to slip in that you also........ have to eat a lot of custard/ can't wear pants/have become allergic to washing up liquid..as a result...?

Oh no peanut, that's not good, poor you. It's ok to feel about things now and then, or even (isn't that smiley a bit wrong? Christmas cheer plus sadness?!)

But I'm sure we can cheer you up.....wanna know my favourite joke? (it has a tiny tiny link to pg so say no if you're feeling too sensitive and I'll tell you another time)

Hi girls. Had a bloody awful day. Everything getting on top if me anyway and then had a personal disaster which broke the camel's back. Know I'm not pg again this month, fed up of trying to be positive and just can't bear it. Sorry to be so grumpy, hoping someone will cheer me up because at the moment am crying onto the keyboard.

Incidentally, 'blood relatives' gets ticked more often than you'd think!

Two of them just made an error of judgement but could have caused me huge problems. The third one is a pain in the ass and I could have murdered her so deserves it.
Infection is my lame excuse for not drinking. They keep asking how I'm feeling and I had to google kidney infection symptoms to tell them!

Hi lol, sorry to hear about your crappy day. Had the staff been really bad?

'kidney infection' because you're actually pregnant or real kidney infection (youch)?

Hi all
Still struggling with app. Rubbish!
Had letter with booking app for 21st dec and scan for 22nd jan which is a few days after my 39th birthday. I'm really nervous and hoping I get there with good news.
Had the shittiest day ever. Had to interview 4 of my staff and send 3 of them to potential disciplinaries. Even with my reputation for being a bitch which is probably true I still hate all this!
Xmas party tomorrow and work concerned about my ongoing kidney infection which is causing me not to drink. Oh dear.

Evening Fred ladies! How are you all - bfpers and otherwise? What news?

Since = a nice ( ny resolution :- preview more)

Ooh good news thunder now you'll be sure the BFP is a real one :)
Yeah the blood relative one is good! What since way to spend Christmas Eve bear

Yay for BFN Blundercats Have some biccies to celebrate

(damnit I am fickle. Poas. But a good strong BFN so at least I know where I am. May the next one be a +ive!)

Wow that's an interesting one...I wonder how many times they have a yes ticked there?

I'd love a real , thanks. As you might be able to tell from my frequency of posts on here, I work alone and there are very many times when I need human distraction! Same applies to biscuits today.

Thanks for the biccies BlundercatsHoHoHO I actually bought some cookies for the girls in the office this morning and have one left to share, if anyone wants it?

Was looking at the notes form that I have to fill in and take with me. My fave question so far is 'are you and the father of the baby blood relatives?'

Christmas name change here too...!

Ooo bear how lovely having appointment on Christmas eve. Although at that stage it is just a million questions isn't it? Still a lovely feeling to know that you're moving along.

Bump decided against it again this morning. I don't know what I want to see on the stick any more so I'm hiding from it! Been googling this on and off brown spotting, and I think it might be start of af or even just a mini mini af. Or nothing. Trying not to read the ones relating to pg people as I can't believe that at the mo. Confusing times!

lol I downloaded app yesterday and its rubbish. Can't do anything on there without it crashing so I give up til they do a decent update!

anyone got the munchies?

More name changes! Awesome

Got my midwife appointment through last night - 3pm on Xmas Eve! Feels exciting having my notes, but still having occasional wobbles. Am veering back towards wanting a reassurance scan, but have no way of convincing DP to let me. It's expensive, but he says that wanting it is too negative and I'm wishing bad things to happen.

I just want to see a heartbeat then I can feel more confident and relax for the rest of the time. Have been having lots of crampy twinges the last few days so worry is ramped up. Sooooo difficult.

Twinings lemon and ginger yummmmmmm

I mean ! (again!)