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TTC after recent mc - Thread 2

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woody17 · 08/10/2012 08:28

Hi everyone - I've started the new thread as our original one is nearly full.

I really hope that this is the one where we all get our BFPs and don't have to experience any more heartache.

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posyplum · 09/10/2012 18:05

Sorry you're having such a rubbish time scared - big hugs.

Messtins hope your dog is OK - sounds like a fab career change is in order...

xx

scaredmummy2B · 09/10/2012 17:43

The only time in my life I ever want to be wrong but had more cramping since hospital so I'm not hopeful just want Friday to come so I can move on either way!

I'd like a heartbeat or nothing not something with no heartbeat on the screen as I could really do without another d&c

messtins · 09/10/2012 17:07

scared will keep everything crossed it is good news on Friday, but can understand given your previous experiences why you think the worst. Hope you are wrong.

suzydelarosa · 09/10/2012 16:55

scared so sorry about your mc. I don't know what to say except that it is rubbish and look after yourself.

After endless shagging from CD10 to CD18 I got a BFN on Monday and an early AF. Man - it really is not a good month! More trying in October...

Oversubscribed fertility services at hospital have cancelled my recurrent miscarriage appointment because they have no room - am going to be menopausal before I get to see a specialist about my angry uterus!

posyplum · 09/10/2012 16:10

Hello everyone. I can't believe our little thread made a second page - woo!

I have also been MIA as I have been trying to ignore ttc this month. I am with you Woody, feeling bit nauseous, bit crampy (not grampy!). I am 12dpo and have somehow managed to hold out til now. Planning on testing at the weekend as I am fed up of giving clearblue my money!

Hope everyone's well - jessie pleased to hear all those symptoms are so strong!

So sorry to read about the recent mcs and BFNs :( Big fingers crossed that this is our thread. xx

scaredmummy2B · 09/10/2012 14:53

Thanks messtins just emailed that to my boss coz he's an arse am now sat at home with my feet up instead of no the way to work! There not convinced I had a mc sure they think it was just a bleed and I'm over acting but giving the bleeding pain and my history you can't blame me well dday is Friday got a scan at epu to see Wats going on

Hope your all ok

So sorry about your dog messtins
babyJames hope your ok know wat your going through I was terrible after my 2nd this one I'm just kinda num

Thanks everyone else for your kind wishe's can't list you all but you really help thanks and I hope your all ok going to rest now as my mum got dd and dh2b is at footy tonight so a nice sulky evening with chocolates for me x

messtins · 09/10/2012 09:46

Scared thinking of you today. The can't count time off after a MC against you - same with all pregnancy related sick leave. Something to do with the sex discrimination act. www.workingfamilies.org.uk/articles/parents-and-carers/rights-during-pregnancy-and-maternity-leave/miscarriage
I went back pretty quickly this time and have found it helpful to be busy, but you need to at the very least get the horrid physical bit over with first.
baby james it must be very hard to go back to an environment full of young families. You need to take time off until you feel strong enough to deal with that.
woody really hoping this is a BFP on the way for you.

Thanks everyone for caring about my dog Thanks She was diagnosed with a trigeminal nerve tumour at the base of her brain about a year ago, but is pretty happy really. She's lost all the muscle on one side of her face and has nerve pain on that side, but the acupuncture is really helping. When she had her scan I thought that was it for her but she has been very stable since, so hopefully we'll have her a while longer. On the plus side it has set me off on a new path as I'm now quite interested in training in veterinary acupuncture.

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woody17 · 09/10/2012 08:48

Ah messtins that must be a brilliant job? I'd love to work with animals (I think). I hope that your dog is ok?

And lol do you still work as a dentist?

babyjames I think that you should definitely go to the GP if you are still bleeding and having pain. Are you still getting +ve tests? I think that it sounds like your mum is right - you shouldn't feel bad about having some time off - you've been through so much. After my 2nd mc last month, I have found that it's helped to feel like I'm doing something - hence the cutting out caffeine, seeing homeopath, acupuncturist, nutritionist. It's probably doing nothing but it has made me feel more positive about what has happened over the last few months. You are bound to be grieving - not just for the baby that has been lost but also for all the hopes and dreams that end with the mc. I really hope that you are ok and that you are getting support in RL.

scared hope you get on ok at the hospital. Thinking of you.

Well, I'm feeling really bleugh today - really nauseous - this is the worst that it's been. And the side of my boobs (almost under my arms) are really sore - tender to the touch.

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scaredmummy2B · 09/10/2012 08:10

Thanks everyone the bleeding has slowed but because of my history the gyny ward have told me to go in through a and e so just gonna take dd to school then go down there I have a bit of support at the moment the feeling of de ja vous is killing me the most just feel like all I've done since xmas is get pregnant and visit one unit or another at the hospital! Last mc I was off work for a long time they lost their temper said I'd lose my job if I have any more time off so Im pretty sure I'll be going to work at 3 today as I can't afford to lose my job :-/

babyjamesblackberrycrumble · 09/10/2012 07:42

Welcome Jelly

So sorry Scared such a terrible thing to have to go through again. :(

I'm still bleeding a small amount and am a bit worried about the pain in my left low abdomen. I don't remember this last month. Should I call the GP do you think? Don't want to cause a fuss for nothing! Also I don't feel ready to return to work yet but feel a right fraud. This 2nd MC has really affected me and keep randomly crying and wanting to sleep. My job involves families in crisis point with young children. It's very stressful and I cant afford to make mistakes. My Mum called in last night and she has urged me to get a Doctors note for a week but I feel terrible about it. If only things were different :(

Lolcbcblemonlime · 09/10/2012 00:13

Oh mess how lovely to be a vet

Not a fan of needles but trained as a dentist so used to stick them on people's gums.

messtins · 08/10/2012 22:43

Scared I am so sorry it didn't work out. Many hugs. Life really is shit sometimes.

Welcome to jelly

Should point out that I am a vet so am allowed to stick needles in dogs! It's not something I am massively into but my dog has a brain tumour that gives her neuralgia (nerve pain) down one side of her face and acupuncture is the only thing that is helping. I think it's a very interesting area to explore (in all contexts!)

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woody17 · 08/10/2012 22:26

Yes mango I'm fed up of trying to read my body and it playing tricks on me! I'm going to test on Thursday morning - I'm going to Rome for a long weekend on Thursday so want to know if I am. I think it'll be too early as ill probably be only 10/11dpo. And that's if the ewcm yesterday didn't mean anything. I do seem to have ov really early this cycle but it is a wtf one so I guess anything is possible!

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YorkshirePeanut · 08/10/2012 22:10

Aw so incredibly sorry to hear that scared. Hope you have plenty of support in the real world and manage to take a bit of time out to look after yourself. You've had such a rough ride. Sending virtual hugs.

jelly hello and sorry you're here, but welcome! I also have a well and truly messed up wtf cycle, have booked acupuncture on Thurs to try and bump-start it so will report back!

woody and munchin I'm vicariously symptom spotting through you, given the lack of any of my own. Mentally egging you both on for a BFP!

Ha munchin I take full advantage of uni access to online medical journals for my own personal benefit Grin

MunchinMango · 08/10/2012 21:53

Ah scared really sorry to hear about your mc. There are no words to comfort you. Life really sucks sometimes!!! Take care and be kind to yourself.

Welcome jelly, this is a great place to hang out.

Good to hear from you mrs aka Jessie. Sorry you have bad ms but its a good sign that all is well good luck at your scan.

Woody my af is due Wednesday but I think I will leave it til sat if af doesn't show. Snap to your symptom spotting I've sore boobs, salty taste in mouth and twinges as you describe. If I'm not pg I just want af to hurry the fc uk up!!!! I've had enough of this wtf madness. What about you?

Wow peanut you are a fountain of knowledge.

Hi to everyone else. Good luck with appoints, scans, testing or ttc.

littlepinkfizz · 08/10/2012 21:44

So sorry scared so so sorry xxxx

Lolcbcblemonlime · 08/10/2012 21:33

Stick with us hun. Are u off work? I needed a week to lick my wounds before I went back.

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woody17 · 08/10/2012 21:28

Really sorry it didn't work out scared

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scaredmummy2B · 08/10/2012 21:13

Found you all again I def won't be ttc for a while but would like support after todays mc :-(

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woody17 · 08/10/2012 20:59

jessie really good to hear from you and glad that everything is going ok.

Hello jellycurls sorry that you've had to join us but this is a really nice thread (I think). Have you been to see your GP? The only thing I can suggest to try and get af to start is to maybe look into acupuncture. I've just started having it (to hopefully help me conceive and then have a healthy pg - FX) but I've heard that it can be used to bring on af, regulate cycles.

Hello babyjames how are you doing? The place that I go to for my acupuncture has a multi-bed room - basically there's a few of you in the same room have acupuncture at the same time but it makes it a lot cheaper. I've definitely felt a lot more positive since having the acupuncture, although I can't really explain why.

munchin when do you think you'll test?

Well, I'm still symptom spotting even though I promised myself that I wouldn't so now as well as the nausea, I have very mild cramping/twinges in my lower abdomen and my boobs feel weird - they are almost tingling, I can't really explain it.

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MrsJLS85 · 08/10/2012 18:27

Hi ladies, just popping in to say hi, I've been a bit MIA as I've had horrible (but lovely and reassuring) morning sickness. Am now past 6 weeks, so really hoping this is the one. Going for an early scan next week.

Fingers crossed to you all - I'm sure this new thread will bring everyone their BFPs!!

JellyCurls · 08/10/2012 15:15

Hey ladies, can i join you all? I had a cp in august and although i went from getting bfp to bfn i never had a real bleed. Still waiting on first visit from AF since, now at 45 days (or 37 from day i got bfn) and shes still absent. Any ideas to get things back on track?

janiewoozle · 08/10/2012 15:14

thank you for your nerdyness! might give it a whirl - as you said, no harm in trying and it would be cheaper than accupuncture! x

YorkshirePeanut · 08/10/2012 14:48

janie agnus castus is supposed to work by affecting your prolactin levels, which in turn affects how much FSH (follicle stimulating hormone) and oestrogen you produce. It's supposed to help regulate cycles, and you're meant to take it from CD1 until ovulation. There haven't been any studies showing overwhelming success but a few show a correlation with improved fertility in women with irregular/missing periods. In any case a systematic review has concluded it's safe to take as long as you're not on any fertility drugs - so no harm trying it! You can get it at Holland and Barrett..

Phew. Think I geeked out there for a minute. Hope nobody got hurt in that particular Attack of the Nerd.

babyjamesblackberrycrumble · 08/10/2012 14:15

Grin littlePink I seem to have missed that! I did choose a nice place to mark though Wink