TTC after recent mc - Thread 2

scared I'm so sorry you are going through this again. Life sucks sometimes.

pinkfizz I had my very sympathetic GP point out that my fertility was dropping and my MC risk rising every year past 35. Thanks for that. I'm 37, not a spring chicken but hardly ancient.
Last time I MC I had bizarre cycles for months afterwards. When do you think you ovulated? Could it just be a long cycle? (is there still a chance of a BFP-in-waiting?) Hope either BFP or AF has arrived before your appt to set your mind at rest. I think it's frustrating but normal for cycles to be a bit strange for a few months afterwards, hopefully not a sign of anything sinister.

Have made an appointment with my gp next week. He'll probably tell me I'm peri menopausal. Great

Poor you scared . Its terrible and harrowing for you.

woody did you test this morning? Hope you are enjoying Rome!

Well been v lightly spotting( barely enough for a liner) since Sunday.af due on Saturday and did a FRER this morning - bfn. So disappointed. Fooled myself into thinking it was implantation bleeding( I mean, does anyone actually get this?)
Do not know what is happening . Have hack 2 normal cycles after mmc, 28 and30 days. Really pissed off and tbh feel like knocking all this ttc on the head.
Have no idea what is happening now to my cycle. This was my 3 rd mc and my cycles all returned to normal.
Any ideas? X

Thanks girls but I'm bleeding a lot and very sore today so any hopes I had for tomorrow have faded hard :-/ 3 mc in ten months just seems a bit harsh to me!

messtinspeople are so bloody insensitive sometimes! After my 2nd mc my friend came round and told me she was pregnant like 2 days after I came out of hospital from the d&c thankfully I was given the heads up from my man that she was going to tell me as he's friends with her husband! This allowed me to lay screaming and crying for 3 hours before she got here! I coped with the News very well to her face. A bottle of wine later she decides I'm so comfortable with the news that it was appropriate to show me the baby clothes she brought for her baby people just don't think and to top it all off now I'm having my 3rd mc she is just getting her 20 week belly and I can't escape it as she lives bloody next door :-S

How was acupuncture peanut?

How you doing woody did you give in and test?

Thanks for sharing your stories. We have been TTC for a year, DH had motility issues but they are better now and at his last test his counts were normal. It's hard to accept that it took us a year just to get here, what if it takes another year before anything happens again :-(

messtins I really feel for you, either your friend is so unimaginably thoughtless or there's something malicious about her. How could she be so stupid?

Have only just caught up with this thread

scared so sorry this is happening to you again

messtins I am not prone to violence but I want to slap your friend. Don't let the insensitive cow get to you.

woody enjoy Rome, fx for a good result for you.

Good luck peanut, hope af arrives or bfp!!
Missm, I took me 18+ months to get pg with dd then I fell pg as soon as I stoped bf before af, mc had one af fell pregnant again mc then fell pregnant again so I'm alot more fertile, not sure if it was mc or pregnancy that's contributed to the difference?
Good luck testers!! Woody I dont think it matters when you test if it was neg you could put it down to being early but do what will allow you to enjoy your Holliday the most would be my advice!! Hope you have an amazing time, I am off to Egypt tomorrow and doubt I'll have Internet access so will anxiously check in on you all when back
Scared, I hope you get good news tomorrow!!
Mess, that was very insensitive and it must have felt like a double blow being on af hope this is your month

Good luck with the accupuncture Yorkshire I really would like do be doing that too but DH also not a believer!
Enjoy Rome Woody :)

Evening all!

Second of two long shifts over and done with, finally got time to say hello - I've been lurky-lurking from my phone at work but just can't be doing with typing on the teeny tiny keyboard.

posy, woody, munchin and fizz FX for you all - hoping for BFPs all round! Agree with munchin, we need a happy fix!

scared poor you, the waiting is bloody awful, I had to wait 3 days for my scan and yo-yo'd between being hopeful and gutted. Didn't work out for me but keeping my fingers crossed that you get good news.

messtins I could happily plant a foot up your friend's backside for being so insensitive - yes, probably because of awkwardness but still! Dumbo!

baby Hugs! I could have written your post. My DH is also struggling to know what's going on with me - he seems very placid about everything, whereas I'm rabid about getting pg again and am constantly up and down, with occasional psycho outbursts. He thinks I'm mental - so do I half the time ! Hope you feel better soon x

And hello to everyone I missed out!

Very excited about going to see the acupuncturist tomorrow. DH is telling me not to get my hopes up - he's not really into happy clappy woo-woo stuff. Nor am I really but acupuncture seems to get results, who am I to argue! Anyway I can't help hoping I'm going to come home tomorrow, AF is going to arrive with a bang and then we can get on and make babies. I know it's unlikely, but it would mean so much to just feel normal again, even being able to join in with the monthly AF grumble would make me feel better. I don't like being broken with no end in sight . FX the acupuncture helps eh!

Right, off to bed, my brain is fried. Night night one and all. Hope the sandman brings babydust tonight! x

woody have a fab weekend. Hope it's good news on your return!

Hi woody, I have fx for you. But hope you have a really great time in Rome. My pg hallucinations are continuing also. Still feeling nauseas, sore boobs comes and goes and slight crampy feeling. I'm on cd 28 today. I've decided not to retest til sat. I think it will be easier to deal with a bfn at weekend and no work.

Messtins Betty and Suzy sorry that af came. That's awful Suzy about your appoint. Messtins your acquaintance was very insensitive to say the least!!! Betty so sorry to hear about your grandad.

Medusa glad to hear you are coming out the other side.

Baby it is perfectly natural to have a good cry. It's part of the grieving process. Although I suppose it's hard on the dhs seeing us so upset. Hope things start to look more positive soon.

Scared sorry you are in limbo and I really hope you get good news on Friday.

Posy and littlepink hoping yous get bfp's at weekend. We need some happy news.

Wow lol that was some career change dentist to bank manager. I'm afraid of the dentist!!!

How are our pg ladies doing Jessie and kitty?

Waves to peanut, jelly, janie and anyone else I have left out.

Oh have a wonderful weekend woody and I hope it gets topped off by a really BFP!
AF due sat but been lightly spotting since last Saturday. Wish she would just come xx

Hi all,
Big hug for you Messtins , really what a tactless woman! You deserve to treat yourself today. Each flipping AF is like a slap in the face :(
I have also been trying for #2 a while now and MC in August and again in September. I had a major meltdown last night at bed time with proper sobbing DH just doesn't get it. He first was saying lets relax more about it and it will all be ok. He wants to stop the ovulation sticks etc. When I got upset he then said maybe we should forget it all together as he can't bare seeing me like this :( I am massively grateful to have my lovely DS but just feel our family is not complete and feel so sad after 2 MC. I agree that now any future pregnancy will be a total worry.
I often feel like telling people to stop whinging about their kids on facebook. Really winds me up!

Having a crap day today. Bumped into an acquaintance in the supermarket, who gave me a hug and said "I heard what happened, I'm sorry" before proceeding to spend the next 10 minutes telling me all about her new pregnancy. There was no need for it, she's not showing, I wouldn't have guessed, she could just have let me find out on the grapevine at a later date....I am trying to be charitable and think in being awkward about the miscarriage she was just burbling on without thinking, but really, how tactless!
First day of AF and feeling rubbish, it's bringing it all back. TBH today I'm not even sure I want to get pregnant again - we were TTC for a year before the MC, I don't want to put my life on hold for another year of getting my hopes up and having them dashed every month. It just feels really unfair that we wait so long for a BFP and then lose the baby when for some people it seems to come so easily. We definitely want another child - I just want a crystal ball to see that it all works out ok before committing to another pregnancy. Being pregnant after loss is rubbish, instead of being happy to get a BFP you just immediately feel really vulnerable. I can't face losing a third baby.
Have two colleagues who both had babies the week after I MC, both whinging on Facebook about sleepless nights and I just want to slap the pair of them.
I think I've hit and unreasonable!

missmedusa - I got pg in April and had a mc in May; was pg again at end of June then mc in July.

So I seem to get pg easily and certainly easier after mc. Unfortunately while I really want to get pregnant and keep the pregnancy, my uterus doesn't!!!

I'm still here too. Still recovering emotionally and physically but I'm back at work and things are getting better. I had my post op check up yesterday and everything seems to be ok. I still have a bit of spotting 13 days later but I guess that's not outside the realm of normal. I think I am slowly starting to come around to the idea of TTC again although I'm still pretty scared.

Can I ask those of you who got PG again quite quickly after your MC, how long it took you to TTC before you conceived the first time? Judging by this thread it does seem to be true that we are more fertile after MC as there have been a lot of BFP's which is such a good sign.

Betty I'm sorry about your Grandad. I hope you manage to get the practical stuff sorted. How is your DD coping? Boo for BFNs - hope this is your month.
I got first AF post MC today. Should have known because I felt crap yesterday - really down. Ah well, CD 1, onwards and upwards. I'll keep you company on testing late - I'm pretty good at not POAS (one of my few virtues).

lolC my dog is a heinz 57, mostly terrier, and she's 13. I don't think we'll be getting another when she goes. I rescued her when she was about a year old, but then I was single and could take her to work with me, neither of which still applies. I don't think we'd cope with a puppy again, couldn't give it enough time. She's the perfect fit for our family really - old enough to be happy to doze the day away but still up for an hour sauntering round the park with the boys on their bikes. We'll really miss her when the time comes.

suzy that's really crap about your appointment.

Hi ladies.
Have been a bit busy trying to organise flights etc for me and dd so we can get to uk for my Grandad's funeral. Everything seems c**p at the moment and even on here there are so many people with sad stories to tell. Life's tough!

Got another bfn on Sunday and then af about an hour later! I was so sure I was pg. I used my last test and I'm not going to buy any more untik I am at least 5 days late next month (you can remind me of this when I start poas at 6dpo!)

Lets hope that this thread is a lucky one.

Welcome to the newbies and sorry for your loss.
Hugs for anyone whi needs them.
Good luck to all the girls in the 2ww.
And fx for for bfps and sticky ones.
I'm so happy for those of you who are pg right now. X

scared good luck for Friday and for managing to get yourself through every day until then. Don't be bullied by your boss but if it feels right, then certainly go back. We are all very different in how we cope with things.

This is a lovely thread of people. All so genuine and caring. It's like the big Lemsip chair!

messtins I'm currently attempting to train a v lively 6 mth old boxer! It's 3 steps forward and 2 back! V difficult to get her to walk to heel! She's adorable but so excitable,bless her.

Poor you suzy . How is it when you think have something signed and sealed,it goes tits up for no apparent reason? Fx for November x

posy AF due on sat but if she doesn't show by fri will test then. Have already a clearblue which came with the opk's so this should be sensitive enough? Really really praying it's good news for us x

Thought of you this evening baby when I made an apple crumble! Would pass some out but my lot made short work of it. Hope you are feeling more positive and ready for the action again!

Hi to all the other ladies!

Please let this be my month

Ooh thanks for the tip baby. £3 for 2, what a bargain. There is a big Tesco on my way to work too [tempted].

I hope you are feeling ok now. Good to see you back too. I know what you mean about being surrounded by pregnant women - practically all my mum friends seem to have had their second this year. I agree about stupid doctor comments too - one day I'm going to write a big rant about my mc experience doctor-wise, I've been saving it up ;)

Thanks lol I'm gonna go back tomorrow my choice I need to. Keep busy before Friday and I don't get paid for sick as I haven't been there long enough but if I need to take it I will now thanks x

Mess that sounds very good. What breed is she? I love dogs and want to haw one almost as much as I want to have a baby. But working full time would mean leaving them alone and DH days its unfair.
Woody erm I hate blood so didn't make a good dentist lol! Am now a bank manager. Love that much more!
Scared I do hope u r wrong and there is a chance. I'd second what mess (or was it someone else?) said about being off. Like I said I work for a big bank and manage about 25 staff. I even have to give people time off for ivf with no questions asked! It is part of equal opportunities and your employer needs to respect that. Don't be bullied into going to work!!!

Messtins I also hope your dog is ok. Really miss having a dog around the place. Good to see you back Posy FX for testing at the weekend. I have spent a fortune on Clear Blue products! I found that when I MC last week that the Tesco Own brand had the line present for longest as hormones dropped. They cost £3 something for 2 I think.