TTC after recent mc - Thread 2

thanks yorkshire i know i'm glad i opted to have the test done after the op - at least i know. i'm dreading getting the call from the team at the hospital so i am making a little list of questions i should ask them in case i get all flustered and sad. i'm trying to stay positive but it's just been such an up and down couple of months.

i think i need to have something to look forward to / take my mind off it - hate my job so i think if i can try to look for new work then at least my mind might concentrate on something else for a while. and holiday...a really good long holiday. To make it worse, my boss (who is well aware of MC etc.) came in this morning and his daughter was caught on being drunk at the weekend (she's nearly 17) and he started saying 'i'll tell you one reason you don't want kids....' i just thought it was the most insensitive thing ever. aaaaaaaarrrrgggghhhhh!!!!

sorry rant over x

Oh janie that sucks. On the one hand thank goodness you did get the test done, but totally get that you just want to try again. So unfair. When will they let you know if it was complete or partial? I really hope no chemo is needed. I had a quick google (as you do) and nhs website says if no chemo needed then you can try to conceive again once your hcg levels are back to 0 which could be as soon as 2 months. Not trying to second guess your consultant but don't give up hope!

Thank you messtins you're right, the stuffing has been totally knocked out of me. I'm normally a really positive person but I just can't bring myself to be that way. God knows how I'll get through work today where's the fast forward button in life when you need it x

janie I'm so sorry about the molar pregnancy. I know a few people from MC boards who have been through this and it has turned out ok for all of them, but prolonging the tests and worry and delaying TTC again is just awful. I hope you are still able to enjoy your weekend, but can understand this has just knocked the stuffing out of you again

Hi almond!
Long time no see!
I'm ok. Was really down when af arrived last month and felt very sorry for myself but have now picked up the pieces.
I'm on 8 dpo trying and failing not to get my hopes up too much this month. I've decided not to test until I'm late, if I get to that point, to avoid heartache. So I might test Sunday morning or even Monday.
Where are you on yours? How are you feeling?

thanks whenshewasbad

i haven't slept a wink. we were heading away for a hotel break this weekend as a little treat after the MC and i was feeling really positive but now i'm just in a total state of despair. emotional rollercoaster doesn't come close.

janie I'm so sorry about the molar pregnancy. A friend had this a few years back it is very treatable but horrible to give up a year of ttc.

Really sorry

thanks yorkshire i heard back from the acupuncturist and she advised she could bring me in for a chat and see how it goes - although she recommends once a week x 4 weeks, then once every other week then once a month which sounds pricey. hope tomorrow goes well with your friend. my best friend is 22 weeks pg and i know she was having her 20 week scan around about when i had my D&C and i just realised that she probably didn't want to tell me about it. it is tough on both sides i guess. but if the friendship is strong then you know that each other will be there for each other through everything - good and bad.

unfortunately, in the meantime i heard back from the hospital where i had my d&c. i opted to have the cells tested after the op as this can give any results of problems etc. and they have told me it was a Molar pregnancy - simply explained as similar to a mole on the skin but in the uterus. they advise that its extremely dangerous to TTC for at least a year as they have to continually test to ensure that all traces of the last pg and cells have gone :( i've been in such a state since as i have my heart set on TTC again as soon as i get a positive on my ovulation tests :( i live in belfast but have to register with a hospital in london as it's quite rare and there's a 20% that chemotherapy would be required as treatment. i'm totally devasted and now panicking that it will take longer and things might never happen

Hi Girls!

Sorry I havent been around much. Was getting a bit obsessed with MN so thought I better ween myself off a bit. Hoping I have missed some BFP's??

Sorry to the newbies who have joined.

So my last cycle was completely messed up! Ovd on CD17 then got my AF on CD 25 which only lasted 2.5 days which was very short for me (they used to be 6 days) and was v light. Had a freak out as I realised I had a 9 day luteal phase which I read (Dr Google) makes it hard to get/stay pregnant. Been trying to be more positive this cycle - on CD14 now. We've been DTD regularly (almost EOD) since CD9. Not had any so looks like it may be another WTF cycle. How many of these can I have??!!

Woody fingers crossed for you poas!
Yorkshire glad the acupuncture worked!! I had been having it for my migraines and it seems to be helping! My physio (who does the acupuncture) has inadvertently become my counsellor as I had to sign a form that said 'are you actively trying for a baby'. So then blurted out all about the mc and now it seems like every week we talk about it or something related! Random but seems to be helping.
Lol how are you? Where are you in your cycle?

Hi fellowpink ,yes I recognise you too from another thread. You will find plenty of support and hugs here. Take it easy and lurk away

Hi Pink I'm sorry you are joining us , not a club anyone wants to be in, but we are here whenever you are ready to try again.

Thanks all. I will be sure to join in as soon as I can. Really appreciate your kind words. Times like this you realise how lovely people can be.

Hi pink, so sorry you've ended up here. Lurk away, post when you're ready - venting is good! Treat yourself gently xxx

Oh no pink I remember you too. Sorry u find yourself here hun. We are a lovely bunch though.

pink I think I remember you from the conception threads. So very very sorry. Look after yourself.

Hi all. Looks like I will be joining you soon. Am currently in the middle of a mc, and as it my first one, not sure how long it will take etc. but we want to TTC as soon as possible.

Wow this baby making business is hard isn't it.
I may lurk for a little bit until I'm ready to be brave again, but just wanted to say hi.

waves at Wooly

janie I went to try and sort my cycle out, it was CD75 (about) when I finally went for acupuncture, after having been ignored by the doctor. That was a week ago, AF arrive a couple of days after seeing her. It could be coincidence of course, but I'm going to see her again today and will see if she can now do something to improve chances of ovulating and successful implantation. Irritatingly with acupuncture, you never know if it really worked, only if it doesn't work! I don't think there's a right time to start having it, if I'd known I were likely to have such a crazy WTF cycle I would have gone sooner. Poor you having all those announcements - I can deal at work because it's work, but friends' pregnancies are a totally different kettle of fish! My friend is coming round for coffee this pm, we were 3 weeks apart and she's now 24 weeks pregnant. Going to be hard to see her bump, but she's had her own bad times, she had a stillbirth at term two years ago and a healthy baby since so I guess it's karmic swings and roundabouts...

messtins it's actually easier dealing with the nice normal pregnancies, they give me hope for what could be! Especially when you see in their notes that they've had previous losses but gone on to have a normal pregnancy. The only ones that get me down are the ones who've never had anything but healthy pregnancies and babies, moaning about indigestion or stretchmarks or just being sick of being pregnant. I know I should be professional, but I just want to tell them to shut up and be bloody well grateful!! (I don't. But I would like to )..

woolly I think I posted something on the last thread about this, but there's no evidence that outcomes are worse if you ttc straight away as long as you've been on folic acid at least 3 months - I looked into it very thoroughly! WHO and NHS guidelines (to wait 3 months) are based on absolutely nothing other than them wanting you to have a regular cycle so they can date the pregnancy easily. Go for it!

Thanks suzy, I was almost 11 weeks. I think DH will put his foot down if we mc again and want to call it a day, so I desperately want it to work next time (as does everyone in this situation I know!) as this will probably be our last attempt.

sorry, I mean wooly....

Hi Wolly - I have two friends who got pg right after their mc. It really depends on how along you were when you miscarried. if it was a chemical pregnancy and you were, say, only 5 weeks along then I'd imagine you'd be good to go asap....whereas if you were much further along and closer to 12 weeks, I imagine it would take a while to get ovulation starting again (your hormones sometimes take a while to drop back down to normal) and maybe the body does need a break.

I always figure - why not give it a shot!? (that's me at 42 talking... desperate times and all that!)

Hi everyone, thought I'd pop in after posting on the miscarriage board (waves at Messtins) and thought I'd ask here too. Had a mc on 26 Sep and am now waiting for cycle to return to normal. My dilemma is whether to ttc before AF returns or wait until one normal cycle. I am 41 so time is of the essence but am prepared to wait if this increases the likelihood of a successful pg. Is your body physically ready to conceive again so quickly after a mc? Does anyone have any experience of this? Of course, this might all be hypothetical anyway, assuming that I get a BFP again...

thanks yorkshire i wasn't really sure if it would be too soon but i think i'll try to get booked in for next week. i'll try anything!