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TTC after recent mc - Thread 2

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woody17 · 08/10/2012 08:28

Hi everyone - I've started the new thread as our original one is nearly full.

I really hope that this is the one where we all get our BFPs and don't have to experience any more heartache.

OP posts:
posyplum · 30/10/2012 13:00

James so sorry to hear about your mc yesterday :( We all understand what you are going through. It's early days yet so go easy on yourself. xx

Horse also sorry you have to join us but welcome!

babyjames I am also in the 2ww - 5dop - here we go again! (sigh)
xxx

JamesAndTheGiantBanana · 30/10/2012 12:13

Hi, I thought I might join this thread, I was part of the bfp in 2012 thread, then the June 2013 antenatal thread, now back to square one after mc yesterday. I feel pretty low right now, need a bit of hope. We will try again but it all feels risky and worrying right now. I don't even know when cd1 will be, right now I'm still bleeding from the mc, although it's probably tailing off now.

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful · 29/10/2012 23:23

horse really sorry you are here.

suzy thanks for the post about your recurrent mc appointment. I had a similar appointment but only saw one of the juniors. He didn't have much of a clue, just wanted to sign me up to the promise trial. They give progesterone supplements during early pregnancy. I asked him for more details but he didn't know the details.

Dh and I have had the blood tests for genetic screening. He said he thought they would come back ok as we have a dd together.

YorkshirePeanut · 29/10/2012 21:56

Assuming all goes well and I haven't been misled by the sticks, I'm tentatively thinking that I'll be starting the 2ww later this week baby, so might join you for a POAS date! My friend had a baby today, the second friend to give birth in a week, so am feeling a bit put out. Fx the hotel does the trick tomorrow... Wink

babyjamesblackberrycrumble · 29/10/2012 21:34

Hello all,
welcome Horse and welcome back Ibelieve.
Messtins sorry you had a down day. I also have very up and down days.

I had a night out on Saturday to Comedy club and a hotel with DH. Also drank a bit much letting of steam I think for the 2 MC last cycles. Was a good night but also hard as my friend is 9 weeks pregnant about where I should be :(
Enjoy your night out tomorrow Peanut sounds great.
I'm just starting the dreaded 2 week wait. Anyone else similar?

YorkshirePeanut · 29/10/2012 18:39

Horse, we have a dog and two cats, and they are all dirty peeping Toms! Have lost count of the amount of times have had a romantic encounter spoilt by looking up to find we're being eyeballed by an unimpressed animal...

Had another go with those ov sticks today, I'm not sure but I think I might have got a positive. It looks about the same colour as the control line. Who knows? Going to be dtd anyway tomorrow so fingers crossed I'm right!

messtins a good crying session is always useful I think! I'm not sure I've felt quite like you have in that I'm rabid about trying again and always have been, but I can understand the flat 'meh' feeling where everything seems a bit pointless, particularly when AF was refusing to show! Hope you're feeling better soon x

lol boozy weekend sounds lovely! I also overindulged and paid the price yesterday morning. Ouch.

Ibelieve waiting sucks! Wish I knew how to make it go faster, I can tell you with certainty that thumb-twiddling doesn't help...

I have such horrible heartburn today. Wish it were a symptom of something exciting but unless you get heartburn with ovulation, I think it's just a leftover from my weekend on the wine! Time to break out the Gaviscon...

AWomanCalledHorse · 29/10/2012 13:09

Thanks for the welcome Yorkshire & messtins!

messtins, sorry you had a :( day, but talking about it all sounds like a good thiing.

Yorkshire, I don't ovulate until day 19 the earliest so you could just be testing at completely the wrong time?
Sounds like a lovely evening you've planned! Don't know why you'd want to remove a panting dog from the atmosphere of the baby jig (we've got house rabbits & I always make sure they can't see us...would hate for them to get ideas).

lol, sounds like you had a good weekend!

IBelieve, I've not had a erpc, but we're hoping to get back down to business when the bleeding stops, like you it feels like a waste of time waiting.
I guess if you're really not wanting to do it this month, you could spend the month doing whatever turns you both on (relaxing the ttc atmosphere?).

Hope everyone has a good week!

IBelieveInPink · 29/10/2012 12:45

Hi ladies. I am almost ready to come back and join you. [hgrin]
I had the erpc last week, so back to square one again. We have been advised to wait a month until we can start to try again, am wondering how many people actually do this though?!
Trying to keep busy in the meantime, and booking in lots of fun things to do.
I just feel quite impatient to start again. Not that I am not upset about the mc, or that I feel it not important, I just feel like I want to make the most of this supposedly extra fertile time! Is that crazy?
Anyone got any ideas on how to make the time between now and starting to TTC again pass? It's gonna drive me nuts, all this waiting!!!

Lolcbcblemonlime · 29/10/2012 11:56

Oh mess I hope u feel better today.
Has anyone seen woody since her bfp?!
I'm feeling ok. Had a good weekend laden with alcohol and have a busy week ahead of me. Still ages until ov time Sad

messtins · 28/10/2012 18:51

Hello Horse sorry you are joining us but you are most welcome!

Yorkshire Envy at your night away. Enjoy!

I had a Sad day yesterday - went on a church away day and ended up totally dumping on one of the women there, turned out she had 2 MC back in the day. Spent a while in floods of tears, but maybe it was a good thing. I feel like I got over it all much quicker this time round but have just got stuck feeling really flat, grumpy with everything and very unsure about what comes next and whether I even want to be TTC (though we are, or at least not preventing). Maybe a good bawl will let me move on a bit?

YorkshirePeanut · 28/10/2012 09:14

Morning all! Finally a day off...Smile

Hi horse, sorry you've had to join us x

Anyone know what time it is? Grin

Am feeling a bit pants at the moment ladies. I was so excited when flipping AF showed, but now I wish I hadn't bought those CB ov sticks. When I started using them on what I think was cd10 the test line was fainter than the control line, but not much...they got progressively fainter and now cd15 they're hardly showing. Does that mean I could have ovulated before I even started testing? In which case I totally missed the boat. Or of course I could have not ovulated yet and am sulking for no reason. Am already panicking about having another 3-month wtf cycle..am so quick to think the worst

Anyway. Have decided to try and inject a bit of romance back into the babymaking proceedings, have booked a very swanky room at a hotel on Tues night (random but we're both off that night) so taking him to see James Bond, dinner, then surprising him with hotel and raunchy knickers! Who knows if there'll be any eggs knocking about to fertilize, but at least it'll be a change of scenery. Doing the baby jig is not all that romantic when your bedroom's got knickers drying on the radiators and the dog pops in to watch halfway through!

I've lost track of who's where, anyone waiting to POAS at the moment?

Gingerpanther27 · 27/10/2012 15:05

Sorry to see you on here horse after seeing you on November bus

AWomanCalledHorse · 27/10/2012 14:22

Room for another?
In the middle of mc (7wks pg) & looking forward to getting back to trying for DC2. Have a DS, 10 months & we've been trying for #2 since Feb, 'glad' that this mc has confirmed I can get pg (had been busy googling secondary infertility).

Have got internet cheapy pg & opk's on the way.

babyjamesblackberrycrumble · 26/10/2012 19:20

The line was dark when got the Smiley this morning. I got pregnant last 2 cycles using it but lost both Sad

suzydelarosa · 26/10/2012 19:13

babyjames since I love to poas I keep doing it from the moment I got my smiley --- just out of curiosity to see how long it lasted. The smiley lasted about 24 hours, which I suppose showed when the LH surge was happening. I think i ovulated soon after that.

Last week I tested in the afternoon and got a smiley and there was no smiley the next day. worth looking at the colored line on the test - the darker the better.

However I'm not pregnant yet so no expert yet.

babyjamesblackberrycrumble · 26/10/2012 18:26

Thanks Suzy will keep at it till Sunday then [hwink]. What happens if you get more than 1 day of Smile ?

suzydelarosa · 25/10/2012 23:16

lol the opk says ovulation happens 24 to 36 hours after you've seen the Grin. I read and re-read that bit.

Gingerpanther27 · 25/10/2012 23:02

lol that's excellent value [hgrin] I ran out of opk sticks and cbf travelling 40 odd miles to get them am not paying 20 quid for 5!!!! Hmm

babyjamesblackberrycrumble · 25/10/2012 20:02

Hi Lol think thats cheaper than I've paid before. I think ovulation usually happens anytime 12-24 (Maybe 48?) hours later. Think the smiley is the start of the surge. I got pregnant last 2 cycles using them but both ended in MC [hsad]

Lolcbcblemonlime · 25/10/2012 19:49

Thanks all.
Baby- I'm using cb for first time this month. When does ov generally happen after smiley?
I need to time my shags as we don't do it as much as we should so every bit of info helps! I paid 24 quid from amazon for 20 sticks and the test thingy. Is that good value?

babyjamesblackberrycrumble · 25/10/2012 18:48

Hi all,
Welcome back Betty , good to hear that there has been lots of DTD going on. Sorry the quality time with DH wasn't under happier circumstances.
Lol sorry AF got you. [hsad]
Thanks so much for sharing Suzy. Really interesting and useful information,
Messtins Yay to ovulation.

I got my [hgrin] on opk this afternoon so am happy! Was getting a bit worried it wasn't going to happen! Nearly out of sticks! Got a night in a hotel with DH Saturday so if I'm due to ovulate next few days it's good timing [hwink] plus get an extra hour in bed as DM has DS, bonus!
Kittykats I can't remember how to PM. Can you remind me or PM me as I know how to respond! Sorry! Good luck with your private scan. Hope it puts your mind at rest a bit.

MunchinMango · 25/10/2012 16:38

Thanks Suzy for sharing that. As I'm fast approaching 41 I'd say I'm in the dodgy egg category too. I suppose what will be will be. Only regret ill maybe have is that we didn't decide to ttc a couple of years earlier.

Welcome back Betty.

Sorry lol that AF got you.

Good luck to anyone poas soon. Fx for more Bfps.

suzydelarosa · 25/10/2012 12:32

morning all, Visited fertility expert at the recurrent miscarriage clinic in Oxford this morning and thought I'd pass on some of the wisdom that I was relayed. First as I already had a child with my partner it's likely that the m/c was due to my age and associated problems with my old egg! And bad luck, he said. At my age (42) 30-40% of pregnancies will end up in m/c. So that's good news to those out there with kids... luck o the draw!

I asked about progesterone supplements and he said it's a myth that they make a difference to an early pregnancy; if the progesterone levels are going down the pregnancy is failing and there's not much that can be done about it.

I worried about my age but if I have regular periods I am still fertile and should be able to carry a baby, it's just the wonky eggs that might let me down in the end. IVF would make little difference as the issue isn't conceiving but the quality of the egg.

BMI is important and getting your BMI down to a reasonable level. Hey ho.

Finally he mentioned that genetic testing is sometimes useful for people who can't conceive and/or haven't had a successful pregnancy. He gave me some scary quote that '2% of people walking around Oxford have (what I think he called) mutated/translocated genes' which hasn't affected them but affects their fertility/ability to conceive and offspring. By that time I was dozing out a bit so didn't get the details. Science is not my forte.

have arranged for blood tests to test blood clotting issues, genetic tests to ensure no translocated issues and the like.

Hope this was helpful - good luck this month everyone. I'll be POAS-ing next week.

messtins · 25/10/2012 08:51

Welcome back Betty I think I ov'd yesterday so we can be cycle buddies this time round.
LolC sorry to hear the witch got you [hsad] (been waiting for an excuse to use a halloween smiley!) but good that you are back to normal cycles. Good luck for the next one.
scared how are you? Haven't seen you post the last few days.

Lolcbcblemonlime · 25/10/2012 07:57

Morning girls. Af showed this morning. A bit gutted but happy cycle back to normal 31 days.

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