TTC after recent mc - Thread 2

Hi echo and clairey - when are you testing echo ? fingers crossed for you x
clairey no sore boobs or back here but I didn't have them when I was pg either so I'm not much help :)
I'm interested in you all having HCG tests, I've not had one - do you have them if they aren't sure if you are miscarrying or not? I've now been miscarrying for 3 weeks and 2 days! No wonder I am knackered - Surely I will just run out of blood soon?

It's prob jst my hormones like still in my system afta mc Bt keep hoping docs made a mistake n I dreamt th whole mc. High hopes for u echo, u never know what mote b around th corner. Xxx

Hello! I am TTC after MC in August- had 2 WTF cycles since. The past few days I feel definite twinges/ cramps on lower right side, so I really want to think this is a good sign (although I think sore boobs and lower back pain are a REALLY good sign, Clairey) but fear that maybe it may be something else- I got sick of going to the EPU to have HCG tested, and just stopped going, without having a final scan to confirm all RPOC had gone. Do you think that it is better to think positively and visualise happy outcomes, or less stressful not to build up hopes? My hopes are high, but fear my chances are low...

Oh can I just ask, has any1 else experienced really sore boobs, mine are killing me and the lower part of my back was really aching last night, its like pregnancy symptoms all over again!

Hi Hannah and bravelilbear soooo sorry for your loss its sooo pants!!!!, I mc over a week ago and still feel rubbish, frustrated and jst wana cry 24/7. this is the best place to let it all out cos atleast everyone understands. I do keep wondering when am I actualy feel happy again cos i really hate feeling depressed, atleast the bleeding has stopped. Gona try and persuade the hubby to ttc every night just to put a smile on my face, dnt rekon he'l go for it though.lol xx

Thanks for the welcome horse...

Sorry you're having a weepy week

I made the mortal error of watching Toy Story 3 again last night. My poor OH's t-shirt was soaking wet by the end. Which he found hilarious

Kittybump, just let it all out, even if it's only on here & not in RL, I've been having a cry most nights this week, doesn't help that everything we're watching in the evening has featured a pregnant woman of some sorts!!

Welcome HannahJayne (I mc a few weeks ago, bled for 10 days so hope you've not got long left) & Brave, fingers crossed for your bfp on the 18th!

Hi everyone I'm so humbled reading back over this thread - everyone seems so contained despite all the craziness.

I had an early mc/cp at 5+2. Ironically on Oct 15th, which I later learned was international babyloss awareness day. First pregnancy. Never expected it - who does? Huge shock!

We're now TTC again, and I think I'm looking forward to POAS on Nov 18.

So hi to all the Kittys, James's, monsters, animals and tins... and everyone else. Happy hand-holding!

Kittybump the only useful advice my mum has given me is to talk about it. She had a mc before my brother was born 18 years ago and she bottled it up and has never really talked about it. Take care of yourself.

Yep, being away from home with no sanitary protection and no shops to buy anything wasn't best pleasant!

Hi hannah sorry for your loss - must have been crap being away from home :(
messtins thanks for your message - I'm at work so don't want to be upset here - only my manager knows which is exactly the way I want it. Will allow myself to be sad at home, I probably have been bottling up so far :(

Hello! Can I reserve a place for when all this is over? I miscarried on Saturday/Sunday at 5+5 so really very early. Guess we'll start trying again as soon as the bleeding's over. Was referred to the EPU this morning as GP wasn't sure whether it was threatened or actual, and have to go back on Wednesday to make sure the hcg levels are going down.

I just wanted to say thanks, as well. I was on holiday when the mc started, and threads like this one stopped me going into meltdown mode, got me through the flight, and got me home. So thank you. A lot xx

Kittybump it's ok to be sad. I think it's healthier to give in to feeling sad and process the emotions a bit rather than bottling it up. I'm sure we are all still having good days and bad days along the way. This is one place you don't need to pretend to be positive if that's not how you are feeling.

Hello brie messtins lol and womancalledhorse not sure how to abbrev that! Hope all is good with everyone, I'm feeling a bit sad today - but trying to rationalise it as a hormone crash which would be a good thing! Positive positive positive :)

Hi Kittybump & BrieMonster.
Good luck Betty!

Hope everyone had a great weekend?

Thanks messtins.. So would be April for you then? Really hope by then you are well into a healthy happy pregnancy!

Nope, not a clue, but Brie you are v welcome anyway. I MC in September too, and would have been 16 weeks now. From last time I MC I know that I was hyper aware of what stage I would have been at until my EDD, it got a little easier after that.
Hope some of this positivity results in some more positive tests very soon.

Oh the irony.. as soon as I posted that I thought positive.. "positive positive positive" what movie is that from? And a minute later I realised. It was the annoying sister on Knocked Up!

Does anyone else have a clue what I'm on about?

Thanks Lemonlime! Obviously I don't wish the experience on anyone.. but so nice to share and see how many people are in the same boat. Especially with regard to 'what not to say'! Even before it happened to me common sense meant I'd never try to belittle someone else's pain, which is what so many of those responses does.
I got over caring about that though and am being positive now!

Hi Brie sorry you find yourself here. It's pretty heartbreaking and cruel - but we are a nice bunch!
I try and fail most of the time not to obsess too!

Taking the plunge.. bear with me while I learn the ropes, abbreviations etc.

Had a MC in September and after the initial devastation I assumed I'd get pregnant straight away without even TRYING-trying. It doesn't help that I'm off sex altogether!! We have an 18 month old son, yet I long for even less sleep and more banana mashed into the carpet.
I'm trying to take it as it comes and not get too caught up in conceiving. But I can see myself breaking out the sticks and calendars whilst trying to appear nonchalant.

Good luck for those of you waiting to test, and thoughts/hugs/prayers/whatever helps to those of you dealing with MC just now. I was doing pretty well until Halloween which would have been my 12wk scan. I had so fallen in love with the plan that the pregnancy brought, and now it's all different.

Anyway, I look forward to hearing good news from you crowd!

Hi all and thank you for kind words. Fingers crossed for all of you in the 2ww, I'll be so happy to hear some BFPs as it gives me hope :) I keep wondering if I should POAS - seems weird to hope for a BFN! I think it would still be positive at the moment though so I will stay away from the sticks.

Hello Kittybump (getting a bit confusing on here with kitty x 2 and james x 2) I'm really sorry for your loss and that you are having to keep going back - adding insult to injury.
I'm just checking in really as mumsnet has ceased to consider this a "thread I'm on" and I had to search for it. Nothing to report. In 2ww, AF due sometime around the 10th but not sure whether this will be a WTF cycle or not, think I ovulated about day 14 so we'll see.

Hi everyone.
Just wanted to check in and send lots of hugs and babydust to you all.
Af is due Weds but I'm not going to test and don't have any tests at home to tempt me. I've not been on here as I just got too obsessed and then too upset last month when af arrived.
If af doesn't come then I'll pop in and let you know and maybe there'll be a poas buddy or two around the end of next week.
Welcome to the newbies and I'm really sorry for your loss. I found that ttc straight away was the only thing that would help me to look forward. No luck yet but I'm only on second cycle after early mc in Sept. Good luck x

baby am equally symptom free, well apart from the imaginary sore nipples which aren't sore until I poke them to see if they're sore haha! I did have some weird lower abdo pain yesterday but think I'm over-analysing everything, was probably trapped wind ... Had no symptoms whatsoever last time so hoping if I do catch this time I'll be horribly sick, sore and otherwise indisputably pregnant. FX for both of us indeed.

Anyone else joining us for a POAS party on or around the 12th? xxx

ou whats Horse doing nice today?

KittyKat It's nice to hear that things are going well for you this time. Gives me hope. You also seem a lovely lady and always have something nice to say :)

Yorkshire Think I will test the 11th or 12th too. I don't seem to have any symptoms though :( FX for us both

Hello to everyone else too!