TTC after recent mc - Thread 2

Congratulations MrsJLS85! Hoping to hear of your boring, painfree & quick labour next year..and that you manage to enjoy the pg.

I think I'll be a bag of nerves next time I get a bfp, and not able to relax at all (with DS we had a scare at 36wks), but I hope it's all worth it in the end. Don't feel strong enough to go through this many more times..

Hannah, I hope you have a good week & enjoy seeing Sarah Millican! I don't really celebrate my birthday but having a mc really made me hate it!

Jamesand, good news on the fainter line! Hope your mood gets back to normal soon!

That's great news MrsJLS85 Thanks for popping in to share! You must be delighted

Love hearing good news, especially on these threads. Hope springs eternal!

Hope you can enjoy this pregnancy as much as possible.

Just a quick hello from me (used to be 'jessie0343'). I haven't looked on this thread in weeks and weeks, but I just wanted to share I little success story: I was one of the first posters on this thread back in... july I think it was... when I had my first MC at 6 weeks. I then fell pregnant immediately again, and MC again at 6 weeks.
Well I just wanted everyone to know that I have reached the 12 week point of my third pregnancy in a row, and had a very successful and lovely scan last week. I feel so happy and thrilled, and know that this is baby is the one that was meant to be.

Good luck to everyone going through your journeys. fingers crossed for BFPs all around very soon!

Good luck all those waiting for bfp's, it ain't over til it's over! Good luck peanut, test again in a couple of days.

Happy birthday anyway, Hannah, even though you don't feel like celebrating it. I started bleeding pretty much the day before my birthday last month and I felt the same as you, didn't want to do anything. I hope you get spoilt anyway, nothing wrong with chocolates and flowers even if it is a busy week.

Kitty, I really want to start trying again now, but I keep reading that it's advisable to wait for af so I suppose I should really. Grr.

I did another pg test this morning with fmu and the line was way fainter than Friday's which I'm taking as a good sign, so I'll hold off calling the epu for now. Hopefully by this time next week it'll be bfn. On the down side, the progesterone drop is making me REALLY MOODY the house is a tip but all I want to do is snuggle in bed and watch films.

Oh, and for those of you with a BFN I tested negative twice before my BFP so you're not out until the witch turns up...

I'm actually jealous of you all in the 2ww. Never thought I'd say that!

I've got a really busy week. It was supposed to be my birthday on Wednesday but it's been cancelled. I hate birthdays at the best of times and this year I really don't fancy it at all. Thursday we're going to watch the filming of Sarah Millican's tv show, and on Friday it's Imagine Dragons somewhere random in the NQ in Manchester. Then off to see BIL and SIL in Durham at the weekend. Busy busy busy, and hoping this might take my mind off waiting for AF.

There should absolutely be a white haired princess icon...

Sorry for the BFN Sally & Yorkshire.

Really hope you're out of limbo soon Kitty.

Arf at the 'white princess' Bear, have imagines of a Rapunzel style tower in my bits now!
I've got OV sticks, but I bloody hate poas that isn't a pregnancy test!

Lol, it sounds like you have a chance, fingers crossed.

What's everyone up to this week?

Welcome to the 2ww Lolcbcb it's soooo much fun! Erm, not really. Unless you are uber patient. I was pulling my hair out before ov with impatience, but have calmed a little now knowing that I'll know within 7 days. (She hopes)

From what little I have learnt in the last few weeks, I reckon you're in the game! My understanding is you need to DTD before ovulation, so the soldiers are ready and waiting for the arrival of the white princess (IYSWIM).

Haven't got a scooby-doo about O indicators and smiley faces and sticks - but better to have done it than not!

Sorry you got the BFN Sally but hey - it is early and not being able to test til Thursday may well be a good thing. Fx!

Morning ladies...

POAS this morning and BFN at 10dpo, but no sign of AF so not out yet. I'm not going to have another chance to test till Thursday now as I'm working away from home in the middle of nowhere.

Hi brave I'm 1dpo here I think as I had smiley on sat so am assuming ov yesterday. I shagged Friday and Saturday but not yesterday as we were both knackered. Do u think I have a chance?
It's only day 1 and I'm pissed off with 2ww already! At least I have loads on to take my mind off it. Good luck next week. Half way through for you!

Thinking of you Kitty don't be afraid to talk here - much as we all don't think it, the chances are you won't be the last person to go through this, so please use here as much as you need.

Boo to the BFN YorkshirePeanut but maybe it's just early - it ain't over til the witch sings and all that...

Good luck with the epu James - I'm in the 2ww, AF due 18th (I think, in a WTF the cycle, so basing this on ovulation last Sunday). Not feeling very hopeful tbh, boobs are starting to hurt like normal AF (when pg, they didn't hurt hardly at all until after BFP, just felt kinda floppy - which is an achievement for a AA-wearer!). Will see.

Who else is 2wwing?

Morning ladies

Well today was POAS day, BFN . Which I expected but still totally pants. No sign of AF though, so am still clinging on to a pathetically slim thread of hope.

Kittybump sorry you're still going through this, 4 weeks must be really hard. I had medical management too. They wouldn't let me put the tablets in myself so had to have VE to add insult to injury! They also sent me home before I'd actually passed anything, because the consultant was an idiot (and I told her as much haha). I passed everything at home in the end, and it didn't really hurt to be honest. Definitely better than waiting IMO despite the indignity, I waited for 2 weeks before having it but nothing was happening so went for the tablets. Hope it's over for you soon one way or another x

Hello to everyone else too! xx

Thank you both, you are both right about having somewhere to discuss this but really I'm just so keen to move on. 4 weeks today since I started bleeding and still not over, hopefully this time next week I'll be through this limbo.
James are you intending to wait for AF?

kitty, I'm with james. Take as much time as you need to, and know that (unfortunately) there will always be people here who haven't moved on yet, and are still going through it, or still in limbo. Everyone around them might have moved on, and forgotten, or expect them to have gotten over it by now, but being here, with other people going through the same shit gives them comfort. So carry on sharing, and don't apologise xx

Kitty, we've all been through it, and so many of us are still going through it, don't worry about talking about it, you need somewhere to talk about it because there are few people you can talk to about these things in real life. (Well, I do) Sorry you're going through this still.

I'll speak to the epu tomorrow and see what they say. Anything to speed this all up and get me to cd1!

So who's in the tww at the moment?

• tablets obv not talents

Thanks all, useful to know it might be painful. I work M, T, W and I really don't want time off - not being a martyr it's just a headache for me having to rearrange all my appointments and I still have to do them so just puts me behind - but thinking sensibly I don't want to be at work if the first lot of tablets work and I start bleeding a lot (apparently the first talents alone work for some people). So might see if I can set it up for the end of the week.
Sorry all of you who are TTC you probably don't want to hear all this mc stuff anymore - fingers crossed I'll be with you soon and of course fingers crossed even more for some positive tests :)
James I'd probably go for a scan too, if I hadn't had my latest one I'd probably think I had finished mc now but actually the scan shows there is a small amount left with a good blood supply to it. Though I suppose you could just wait till you get a BFN.

Kitty I had the tablets pretty much straight away. I miscarried over a w/end having had some bleeding since the Thursday and ended up on the gynae ward due to heavy bleeding. Once that had stopped they scanned me and "products" still there so they recommended medical management. It's not too bad - you can insert the tablets yourself ("if you are familiar with using a tampon" WTF? I'm 37 and have had 2 kids, I think i can manage a tampon!). I was unprepared for the pain of the contractions though, previously MC was not that physically painful. Good luck whatever you decide to do.

Lol in October I got a smiley and that month only DtD that day (well, twice - turns out DH likes gadgety sciencey TTC) and fell pg. keep it up for the next couple of days

Hi all
James I believe there is something to mourn anyway as in your heart it was a baby. I had a PUL and there were times I thought the pg was only real in my head but I still had to mourn my baby if u see what I mean.
Well I got a smiley yesterday and had DTD night before and then amazingly did it again yesterday! We never do it everyday. Today DH is hungover so prob no chance of it happening again. I'm quietly hopeful. What do u all think!?

James I think it's definitely worth booking another scan. Just for your own peace of mind. It's also a line in the sand, that's it's 'over' (from a clinical point at least).

Kitty hope this week you get to move forward a bit and that you're managing to relax.

Thanks kitty, I haven't got another scan booked but I'm thinking about booking one just to check it's all gone, I want to move on from this!

Anyway, sorry for being a downer, good luck to everyone ttc or in the tww, I hope to be joining you soon!

Oh James it is shit, don't apologise for feeling bad. Mine was the same, blighted ovum too and the fact there wasn't a baby has helped me a lot but it doesn't stop the sadness about the 'mental baby' you had (can't think of a better way to put that sorry!). I had to talk about it to my GP yesterday and I just broke down even though most of the time I'm ok.
My MIL doesn't even talk to me about it - I know she cares as I've heard her asking DH how I'm doing when she phones but doesn't even manage a general 'how are you?' when she sees me. At least once you've had the cheery 'we'll try again' chat with people they will probably never mention it again!
Do you have to go back for another scan?

Hi, I haven't been around much, nothing to add really. I mc'ed properly last weekend, lost the sac on Monday, the bleeding has tailed off to almost nothing now, but still getting a big strong line when I poas so I must still have quite high levels of hcg. I'll do another test next Friday, hopefully the line will be fainter. Keep feeling upset even though I pretty much know that it was a blighted ovum so no real "baby" there to mourn, I'm still sad, and having flashbacks to seeing the miscarriage "products" etc every few minutes. I know it'll get better but right now this is shit. I told mil that I was still getting a bfp and she said "we'll you probably haven't lost it then!" All hopeful, and I had to tell her that I'd held the sac in my hand, there was no way it was still there. It got me all upset, I've had to tell a few people this week that I've lost it, and be all bright and cheery and "oh well, we can try again!" When really I just want to be sad and not have to care about their sodding feelings.

Sorry for the rant! Hopefully in a couple of weeks I should get a bfn, maybe af, and then be able to join in this thread properly.

I kep thinking of those of you who are in the limbo-land of waiting for an MC to finish- I feel really sad thinking about that time- ruined my already soggy summer. You are so brave to be planning TTC. I hope thinking of the future makes the present more bearable.

Had a lovely- ish Friday evening. The five star spa down the road is so desperate for business that they are selling monthly memberships, for the cost of a massage. People who avail of the offer can use the facilities: showers, sauna, turkish hamman (sorry that is def the wrong spelling), vitality pool, heated stone loungers, relaxtion area with herbal teas and all the latest magazines. So I got a membership and spent TWO hours there. But when I was reading the magazines, a little local publication was there and it had a really sad article about a child with a rare form of cancer, so I was bawling away in the luxury bathrobes, on the special relaxing bed, surrounded by all the lovely candles and water features, trying to hide my tears from the five star guests who probably paid a lot more than I did.