Elderberry Pavlovas Unite - the over 30s TTC number 1

Now I'm not just imagining it any more. Boobs are definitely sore. Painful, actually. But I did POA internet cheapo stick, a supposed really sensitive one and it was a BFN, not even a hint of a line. Odd.

Hello,
I got a new job (great news).. but they are still advertising my old job so having to do TWO job (bad news and shattered).. so the upshot is I pretty much missed all the last thread!!!
Anyway I'm Frantastic, 34, TTC cycle 3 AF due 13 Oct.
to be perfectly honest, i've been a bit lax in this department due to new job.
however we did DTD during my last OV dates but my sister was shouting at me for not doing it more. She's just had her 20 week scan and is desperate for us to be on Mat Leave together.
So over the past few days my emotions had been shot! I can read anything about April Jones- ball like a baby!, and on Sunday night I found out Dh's parents wouldn't be coming for Christmas day.. not that big a deal really but I was crying, had a row with DH and went to bed not speaking!!
So today.. 4 days before i'm due I get spotting.. NEVER have this before in my life! I'm (trying) not to get too excited about thinking it could just be early....

hello to all the newbies and good luck for the next cycle ladies xx
PS LOVE the over 30 thing!

PS I am always picturing Agyness Deyn in my head when thinking about Agnus Cactus. Maybe she drinks Elderberry Pavlovas?

Lolcbc I have heard some negative stuff about Agnus Cactus - apparently it's very strong and can throw your cycle totally out of whack. Do a search on these boards, proceed with extreme caution would seem to be the general consensus.

Winkle it's called agnus castus and its meant to increase fertility and regulate hormones!!! Has anyone heard about it?

HazleNutt I have never seen one of those! They are hilarious (the 1st one for all the wrong reasons!)

At least in this area, almost all cars have the stick figure signs with kids names, like this:
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When DH still had his fancy 2-seater sports car, I was considering this:
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this might now change, of course, if that TTC activity works out.

rache am with you. Babydust? I was going to reply saying that as well as having eyelashes on the front of the car I'm sure they have those utterly ridiculous signs notices about who's in the car in their back windscreen - but hazle you beat me to it. FWIW I'm not going to drive more carefully than I would do just because you've put some bit of laminated plastic from Clinton's Cards in your back windscreen....

Rach, happy birthday and I would happily use the sentence "we're too old for that" when the b-word is mentioned. I promise never to put a "princess on board" sticker on my car either.

Hi Everyone! waves

Rach, 34 (OMG how did that happen?!), TTC cycle 2, AF due 18/19th Oct.

Well I thought pre-OV dragged but this 2WW is going majorly slow! I have been having mildish abdominal twinges for the last few days but I suspect this is caused by me obsessively thinking about it 24/7 rather than the creation of new life. I also have cold-like symptoms and no matter how much I eat my stomach keeps on gurgling. No PMS yet though which I would expect to show up any time now so if by the weekend I have a desire to murder DH for no reason whatsoever I will be confident that AF is on the way

Can I just say how pleased I am that there is no mention of cuckoo babydust on these threads (apart from me just mentioning it there!) When I've browsed elsewhere and all the ladies on there are wishing each other babydust I assume that these are the type of women who have a car sticker saying their car is powered by fairy dust and have eyelashes on the front headlights.

That's good news quod - I would have 'popped' over too in your situation, obv, but really, who can be arsed... At least this way you can DTD without involving getting on a plane!

Yes, also tried the special lube, even though we don't usually use one. The lengths we go to hey!

Hello all

Well DP's work trip has been shortened so I don't have to go to Belgium any more, otherwise I would surely win the 'how far have you gone/£££ in the name of TTC' competition with my planned trip just to get some fertile-time shagging in?

(New folks - my DP works away a lot and this month we actually got as far as planning that I would join him in Belgium for 48 hours).

Oh yes I tried the special lube too! Wonder how much money I have spent on TTC?! Must be hundreds.

Lol - I took epo and that month I had a weird 43 day cycle so I stopped taking then. What do Agnes thingies do - should I be adding them to the shopping list?

Hazle - I had no idea about cycles etc I thought you just dtd a few times without contraception and you got preg. How wrong was I.

Morning all, any POASing today?

Could not read 50 shades, gave up half way through as I was ready to strangle someone next time she said "Oh my" or "holy crap". Does anybody actually talk like this? If you need to get in the mood, try literotica.com, something for everybody.

at the hen's egg. And what did he think we do with them later?
My DH asked me if I'm pregnant the next morning as well. Got him a "Pregnancy for Men" book that he has now been reading with great interest.

It is surprising that people sometimes know so little about biology - sure, if you're just starting, then relaxing, having regular sex and seeing what happens is probably a good idea. But was talking to a couple who has been TTc for 2 years and they had no idea about the cycle, had not researched anything, just thought that you have to have sex on day 14 . Surely you would after a year or so at least give it a quick google and check out some tips to conceive?

Oh and I forgot sperm friendly lube, even though I don't use lube normally.

Mm I read all 3 of the 50 shades but didn't get particularly horny with them!
Winkle do u take epo as well as that agnus thingy one?!

Can I add 'read 50 Shades of Grey' to that list too? Was hoping to be part of that baby boom!!

And you too Winkle. It has to be our turn soon. My thinking is that I can't get pg until the New John Lewis here is finished for me to buy baby things in.
It'll all work out in the end.

Ha ha happylass similar to my other half. He's 38 and thought that a woman grew an egg each month which was the size of a hen's egg!!! He was shocked when I explained that women were born with all their eggs and asked how they could all stay in there considering how big they were!! I asked him if he was asleep during his biology lessons at school!

Pip - it should be your time soon, you deserve it.

Hello again all and welcome to the newbies. I'm 34 and on 1st proper cycle of TTC. BFP due around 19th Oct so just in to the 2ww. Am well aware this could be a long process but can add my DP to the list of people who thinks its a breeze to get pregnant. Until we started TTC (and I put him straight) he honestly thought you could get pregnant any time if the month. He asked me if I thought I was pregnant about 12 hours after I took my last pill. Honestly!

I hear you Winkle two very dear friends have both had babies int he last 12 months, one within 2 months of trying, and one when she had come off the pill to get ready to TTC and got pg by happy accident.

I think the problem is that we are all told at school, and for good reason, that you can get pregnant by just thinking about sex. Turns out its much harder.
I remember that a much younger woman in the staffroom said how easy it was to get pregnant, she is 18 and doesn't have a clue, and about 4 of us looked up and said 'no it bloody isn't'.

Winkle I've had all the tests and scans.
DH has had a couple of SAs. One of which had the highest results the Doctor had ever seen. This resulted him in carrying on like he was Billy-Big-Bollocks.
I have had day 21 and 5 bloods, lots of scans because of suspected cervical cancer, I recently had a HCG which showed that I had one blocked tube which was unblocked by the HSG and one that they couldn't get any dye into either because it is blocked or was spasming.

So I may have had either one or no working tubes. Right now I have at least one. I go back to the clinic in a few weeks and get clomid. I am determined to get pg this cycle so I don't have to.
However I have been very ill the last couple of days and my last cycle was a week shorter than all my others have been so I'm not sure when I was going to ov.
I am using the CBFM but it hasn't asked for any sticks yet.

I'm so sick of hearing about people getting pregnant first try grrrrrrr

Hello all, I'm loving the over 30's thread! I'm 34 and in my second month of trying. BFP due 3rd Nov.

My 25 year old friend recommended this site. I chatted to her this weekend about ttc and said I've just got to be patient as it takes a while ttc - this was just before she told me that she fell pregnant the first month of trying! ha ha!