Elderberry Pavlovas Unite - the over 30s TTC number 1

hi everyone, can I join in? I'm 31 and ttc child #1...2nd cycle. in the 2ww now - got the smiley on cb digital on Friday (CD 20 of 35) and it was gone by sat afternoon. managed to dtd on cds 11 13 16 18 20 and 21. think Dh is tired out and glad of a rest for the next few days!

I agree Aquarius TTCing can be very lonely.
I was talking about it to a friend who has a one year old. He was saying that they found Child Birth trust meeting etc were a lot of support to them, but there is just no equivalent for TTCing. Also, when you join a pregnancy group you make friends who will be always going through similar things to you. However with TTCing when someone graduates they have little in common.

This forum is so helpful and supportive.

That helps put things in perspective HazleNutt. Most of our couple friends have just had or are about to have their first. My sisters have several. A spate of work colleagues recently all announced their pregnancies around the same time - someone said 'there must be something in the water' and I wanted to punch them/go and have a cry. Even my hairdresser is up the duff (by accident - she said it was a one night stand). I'm glad there are forums like this to share experiences and help learn from each other or I think I'd go mad.

I just turned 34. One of my best friends is 43 - trying for about 10 years now, several mc, IVF attempts and nothing. The other is 38 and would like to have kids, but her DP is not really sure what he wants. I'd be absolutely thrilled for either of them.
At the moment I'd just like to get the CBD to show me 2-3 weeks and then 3+..

I'm with you on that one. Get very pissed off with people who accidentally fall pg and don't give a toss. Saw one smoking with a big bump the other day.
How old are you?
My friends either have kids already or don't want them. Also have a few younger friends from work who are not at that stage yet.
Glad u feeling ok. I think once you pass the stage u mc'd you should be able to relax. That's what I'm hoping anyway!

I would guess just 4 weeks or so, the CBD monitor says 1-2 week from conception, so really-really early. Mc at 5 weeks last time. Sorry about yours
I'm feeling fine, just sore boobs and DH claims they've already grown - well great, I'm a FF/G anyway, soon will have to do bra shopping in camping shops and sew a couple of tents together!

As for other people's pregnancies, I'm happy if it happens to friends of mine - all my close friends are even older than me and one of them has been trying for almost 10 years now, no luck.
I hate to read about feckless parents though, like this couple in papers recently, who went out on a binge and left their 3 tiny kids home alone. Couldn't give a f about them, as the mum charmingly declared. Why are those kind of people having kids left right and centre without any difficulties? How's that fair?

How many weeks do u think you are hazle? And how u feeling???? I think I'll be knicker checking 50 times a day when I get bfp again as mc'd at 7 weeks last time . Not healthy I know but it can't be helped!!!

Well obsessively knicker-checking at the moment and fx that this is a sticky. Quite worried, to be honest - once can happen to anybody, twice could mean a problem.
Yes will call the doc next week - of course it's too early for any scans, but should get my bloodtests done (thyroid). They also test all women for toxoplasmosis here, so would be good to know if I'm immune or should be careful with my cats.

Aquarius I'm sure you'll get a BFP on those eventually as well, just that we are all so eager to know ASAP...

Zombies (love the name by the way!) feel free to moan! There seems to be a new baby or pregnancy everytime I look on Facebook or open my email!!!! Makes me depressed but no doubt I will be shouting about it if it happens for us!!

Thanks for the tip! Will stop being such a tight arse and fork out for the decent ones. Congrats to you!

Welcome Aquarius. And I would not trust those allegedly ultra-sensitive ones too much - it's only today I get the faintest of faint lines on them, almost invisible. BFN yesterday. ClearBlue Digital has been positive for a couple of days now.

hello! can I join? New to mumsnet and ttc chat forums generally. 32, trying since April, can't believe the number of people I know who have got pg since then when I haven't (and can't believe what a jealous person I am!), came off the Depo injection last July and periods still a bit wonky - between 25 and 35 days. Currently cd 33 and not much happening apart from v sore boobs which I always get. I just came back from a two week holiday and wondered if that might have messed things up a bit = it wasn't a relaxing holiday (more of an adventure) but we dtd'd more than usual.... I've done a couple of tests with cheap (but allegedly ultra sensitive) stick-type pg tests - both bfns. still hoping...

Welcome chuckalot I don't always moan this much

Well so far this week we have managed to DTD every day!
If it doesn't work this time then at least I know we have given it our best shot.

Welcome Chuckalot we are a friendly bunch indeed.

{moany}
Found out his week that 4 people I know are going to have their babies in the next few weeks. Two women, and two men (ie their partners are due).

It looks like we will all be POASing around the same time.
I am waiting to OV, watching lines on OPKs get darker but no temp rise yet. DP made it home for 12 hrs so we got some action in. Think I will be due at the latest 28 Oct but OV is a bit of a moveable feast for me so we will see when it happens.

DP shut the dog out of the bedroom last night (otherwise she hogs the bed) and she weed on my sheepskin rug and ruined it in protest. Not sure who out of me, dog or DP should be in the doghouse for that one. Grrr.

I decided I'm not 2wwing yet. Cause it will drive me crazy. So will continue to do opk and see if I find lines. That will keep me entertained.
Think af due two weeks from today so 26-27th. Too long to obsess!
Keep feeling a tugging pain on my left side. Is it ov that not happened yet?

Welcome Chuckaluck I am also 2WWing (AF due 19th) and have enjoyed a lovely large glass of Shiraz tonight. Ignorance is bliss

I would never write it off - just from reading absolutely loads of TTC threads it would seem that conception is so much of a lottery that as long as you managed to bonk somewhere around OV time then you're in the game

Mmm how old are you janey? I think I might be the oldest
Well I'm currently trying to decide when I ovd. Positive opk tue. Very sticky cm yesterday but neg opk yest and today. Shagged fri and tue only so not too hopeful. Have no energy for it tonight as I'm working tomorrow.
What do u all think??? Write it off?

Hi ladies, can I join this thread? You all seem very friendly and supportive! I have been TTC for about a year, age 31 and BFP due on 25 October so in the 2 ww. Am enjoying my glass of wine tonight!!
Congrats to Hazle, hope this thread brings us all luck!

Ah pip I know what you mean. But I think I'm the oldest here and I'm still feeling positive - reckon we'll get there in the end