Elderberry Pavlovas Unite - the over 30s TTC number 1

Thanks all! Am DTD - every night- so it is becoming a bit of a marathon. Argh why can't humans come with a little green light that lights up when OVing?
I read a few threads on the net that suggested that a long luteal phase was possible and shouldn't cause worry. Anyway will keep on DTD just to be on the safe side.

I getting the feeling that I'm out really.
More brown spotting at 8dpo. I know it coud be implantation but I'm just not feeling it.

Zombies since beginning TTC I have done loads of reading up on women's plumbing and I believe that no matter what your total cycle length is you Luteal Phase will always be 12-16 days long (unless you suffer with LPD,) with 14 days obviously being the average.
So it seems like it probably is EWCM that you have and you need to have a few nights of romancing ahead

Zombie. I used the CBFM, but I have two. One that is mine and one that I got from ClearBlue to trial.
Well the one from ClearBlue gave me a peak on day 16, but mine didn't, and in fact is still giving me a high even though I'm on day 23. I have ovulated, I'm sure of that.
I guess what happens is that if it doesn't get a peak then it encourages you to keep going!

zombie ? I use the CBFM. I always gets a peak but I have heard that the first month it gives you highs while it's getting to know your cycle.

Have you been dtd just in case?

Never used it zombies - but I'd imagine that if you're on a 40 day cycle it may well have not happened yet. Doesn't it happen, on average, 14 days before AF? In which case would be day 26?

I'm meeting a load of friends drinking tonight. Suddenly got really paranoid about going out (I will only have a couple of glasses, and have absolutely no symptoms of being pg) so bought a first response early response test. I know it's inaccurate in about 40% of cases at this time, but I thought it was worth a shot - if it came up as pg I'd obviously make an excuse not to go to avoid the booze. Unsurprisingly BFN. Not giving up yet though, but will be having a drink or two!

Hazle - I KNOW. When I was pg last year (before mc at 12 weeks) those 10 weeks from finding out I was pg were the longest of my life! Not helped by the fact my ex was an arse so I was even more stressed than ever.... I really want to get pg asap but am almost dreading that time-stopping-still feeling if it happens!

Oh god Hazle I see what you mean...you just graduate from the 2ww to the 8ww really don't you?

Has anyone had a CBfM not give them a peak?
This is the first cycle I have been using it. It has been showing me a high since day 9, which I understand it generally does from early on if it is cycle 1 and it clearly errs on the side of caution whilst it is establishing a baseline.
But it's CD 22 and even though mine is a 40 day cycle, presumably ov should have happened by now (the My Days app said it should have been yesterday. I also might have been imagining it thought I had some EWCM.
Does this mean I didn't ovulate or can this happen on the first CBFM cycle- many highs but no peak?

Of coruse we won't leave this thread, not until we have a bunch of BFP Elderberries to start a new thread with.

Let me tell you though, you think the 2ww is long? It gets worse! After you get your BFP, every day to get closer to week 5,6 etc is endless. I never had weeks so long in my whole life, and week 12 is ages away..

I've been taking Vitamin B too which has helped. So has having an HSG.
I don't think this is implantation, just regular spotting.

Pip you know your body and what is normal/unusual for you..

I was thinking how nice it is that the BFPs have stayed around - it gives us TTCers a light at the end of the tunnel!

Pipbin, I am also one who spots a lot and (it might be coincidence) I've been taking Vit B, Vit D and Folic Acid for the past couple of months, and it seems to have reduced it. I hope yours is implantation spotting this month!

I am off to Greece tomorrow - can't wait! An enforced break from the househunt, which is depressing and time consuming. (I am writing up at the moment so I am taking my laptop and writing there - trying to eek out the advantages of the final stretch of my PhD!)

Thanks Rache interesting that there was so much of it and it was so red. All the website wisdom says brown really.
It does mean its really not over until AF sings.

Of course I don't mind Pip, I just usually assume nobody wants tmi. It was red at first just like the start of AF and then it got pinker as the day went on and appeared to be a mix of blood and lotion-like CM. There was so much of it at first that I considered putting a tampon in. My second lot of spotting 4 days later only lasted a few hours and was a bit browner. When it was happening to me most of the obsessive Googling I did suggested that implantation spotting was mostly old-looking brown stuff but this was not my experience.

Very personal question Rache but what was your implantation spotting like? What colour and consistency was it? If you don't mind answering of course.

Sadly Rache it's only too common for me. I spot quite a lot, and until recently from 4 or 5 dpo onwards.

If that's unusual for you Pipbin then that sounds like a good sign. Of my 2 bouts of spotting I think the one that was most likely to be implantation was at 8DPO. It started about midday and lasted until I went to bed. If yours is implantation then it means that a BFP should show up in a couple of days My Sister got her first (very feint) BFP at 8DPO. I have got absolutely everything crossed for you!!

It's 7dpo here and I've had a bit of spotting after a bowel movement.
Does anyone else get that?

I don't think they can see much, but I guess should be able to see if something is there. And if it's in the right place and not ectopic.

Janey got my 1st BFP 2 days before AF was due, at 12DPO.

Hazle Oooo a scan, how exciting! Isn't the embryo about 2mm at 5 weeks so good on them for being able to actually find it?! So you're already further along on the CB than last month? That's really positive

I just phoned the doctors and they took my details and said a Midwife will phone me in the next week or so.

Janey I haven't got any symptoms either apart form the occasional pre-AF style twinge which I had last week. This week nothing. I'm desperate for the promised bigger boobs to arrive If my temperature wasn't still higher than normal I would think I was imagining the whole thing.

Ps remind me rache- if you're 4+5 now, when did you get your first BFP? Before AF due?

rache - in my PCT you actually can actually have your midwife booking in appointment after your 12 weeks scan (depending on how busy they are!). I think it's more common to have that at around 10 weeks and then scan at 12-13.... It's SUCH a long time to wait! If I were you I might get a doctors appointment soon though just to get yourself in the system - for loads of the tests they like to scan you at 12-13wks and my doctor was particularly arsey last time about me going to late and the fact they might not be able to squeeze me in. He was a complete twunt though and made me cry so he could well have been lying!

Rach I'm not sure, in my case I'm on thyroxine and the dosage has to be adjusted as soon as possible in pregnancy, so that's why I was told to go in. They'll do a scan as well though while I'm there anyway, and some other tests I believe, like toxoplasmosis (all pregnant women are tested for toxo here).

yes, 3+ on ClearBlue should mean 5+ in normal terms. Last time I was also 5+, but the CB never got past 1-2, so nice to see that it's moving this time.