Elderberry Pavlovas Unite - the over 30s TTC number 1

Congratulations purple!! That's bfp number 4!
I'm sorry bunny.
Out of interest - all you knocked up elderberries, how many dpo did you get stitches and aches?

Oh Bunny I think we've all been there. Sorry it doesn't look like your month this month. Allow yourself time to be disappointed about it.

Oh bunny I'm so so sorry

Hey Janey thanks but I have that many pg tests I could give Boots a run for their money.
I've been doing a trial for ClearBlue so I have stacks of tests from them, not to mention the hundreds I've already bought.
It's just a dull ache, tbh much much more like AF than a stich.
I just want AF to hold off until Tuesday, which is when she's due. If that happens then I can start on Clomid straight away as I'll be on day 2 when I get the prescription.

Quod - no idea about allergies as I don't usually get them. But weirdly someone at work commented that I've been sneezing all week. I thought I was getting the cold my bf's had, but no sign of that. Fingers crossed it's one of those weird symptoms?

Pip - I have weird stitch type feelings which was why I splashed out on an early response test. I have one spare - wish I could give it to you! It was quite unlike any other exercise or AF feelings, was weird... Absolutely everything crossed that's what it is...

I'm on my phone do am going to have Ho reply to you one by one do I can remember what I'm saying! Firstly - pure - massive congrats! Fabulous news. Yes if you have the cash get a clear blue digital, will tell you if you're 1-2 weeks or 2-3 weeks pg. or just go to the doctors and make it their job to work it out!

A ClearBlue digital might help. I've never had a BFP so I have no personal experience of them.
However they date from conception rather than the date your doctor will give you which is from your last period.
They are expensive, however cheaper on Amazon, if you can wait that long.

Thanks everyone, the hyperventilating is gradually slowing down. Yes Pipbin, I've had lots of cramps all over the damn place for weeks, strange stabby pains, low throbbing pains, dull aches, all sorts, that's why I've been so convinced that I wasn't pregnant and that I was just building up to a really horrendous 'ha ha you've come off the pill' mother natures revenge style AF.
Do you think those tests that tell you how many weeks pregnant you are are actually any good? Maybe I should get one of those to give me a clue?
Trying to think of some witty or cute way of telling OH the news, although knowing me I'll just blurt it out the second he crosses the threshold.

Congratulations Purple. See, what did I say.

Well 11DPO here. Tiny bit of red spotting this morning, but nothing since. Slight dull ache across my bikini line, don't I remember someone saying they had that before their BFP........?

You shouldn't feel guilty or sorry, you should feel DELIGHTED!!
I don't know how you date it though I'm afraid...Did you say you've been off the pill 4 weeks?

Well done purple and congrats!!

Oh I'm so FX for everyone, I feel GUILTY for getting pregnant by luck not judgement. I'm so sorry everyone!
How do I find out how far along I am without any proper dates to go on? don't they date from your last period? I haven't had one so how does that work? What can I do to calm myself down without the use of caffeine alcohol or nicotine? Thank god I at least had the good sense to take folic acid, it feels like the only thing I've got right so far.

WOW Purplemonster that is brilliant news! Congratulations!
This Elderberry thread is really turning up the BFPs!

I am on CD12 here and unusually for me no spotting yet. Have just spent 20 mins googling whether allergies are an early pg symptom as I have had HORRENDOUS hayfever for the last few days...or possibly it's the Greek pollen, but I don't normally get hayfever...Dr Google says it can be a symptom...

Well you know how I've been putting off testing? Decided I couldn't put it off any more and it was best to just know the bad news and guess what? I'm only fucking pregnant. Don't believe it, in total shock, shaking, was the fastest, darkest line you've ever seen (not that I know about these things given I've only ever tested once ever before) I can't believe it. I'm so sorry to all those people for who it is taking a while to conceive. Given the fact that I'm 30 I fully expected it to take a year or so hence why I'm so in shock that I've got IMMEDIATELY pregnant whithout even trying. Oh my god, how am I going to tell OH (yes, I'm afraid I HAVE told all of you first, he's at work) oh my god oh my god oh my god....

Chuck - low motility can be sorted through the usual cutting down on booze and fags, wearing loose undies, healthy diet and exercise, taking the vits and no laptop on lap. My husband had low morphology which seems to be the one that you can't change. No one has given us any advice on it and google is ambiguous. He did another sa this week so we get the results back next week and we're seeing the docs the week after. Want to find out how much morphology affects conception. Bad luck on AF arriving too.

Cd9 here and monitor says high so we'll be dtd tonight.

Chuck. My DH had low motility. He took a daily multivitamin, nothing special just regular Boots stuff. He then had an SA done about 6 months after the first and his motility was the highest the doctor had ever seen!
Also worth bearing in mind that DH doesn't drink, smoke or eat meat. I'm not saying any of those had anything to do with it, but it cutting down on booze and fags won't do anything any harm.

oh yes, I keep smelling all kinds of things that DH clams he can't. So we should be due around the same time, give or take a few days

Hazle I also feel a bit nauseous this morning but I think that has more to do with DH stinking of last night's curry, although it could mean my sense of smell is increasing.

I am such a moron sometimes! I have been using the wrong date to calculate my due date and turns out that I am more likely to be end of June than July. I am 5+2 though like I thought so at least I got that bit right! It also brings my scan date forward to before Christmas which is good news.

Rach I should be 6 + 1, according to this pregnancy.about.com/cs/pregnancycalendar/l/blpregcalc.htm the 12th week starts on 6th of Dec. I'm a bit nauseous this morning - morning sickness is supposed to start around 6 weeks, so bean certainly seems to be on schedule.

chuck I presume it must at least be a relief to know the issue and what you can do.
Here you go:
www.livestrong.com/article/428775-diet-to-increase-sperm-motility/
ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Increase-Sperm-Motility-in-5-Easy-Steps&id=2117562
Google also revealed several supplements specifically intended to increase motility.

chuck I think zinc supplements are supposed to help with motility.

DH got his results and he has low motility. Not sure of the numbers etc but they are sending that in a letter. Feel better as I think I had just convinced myself that one of us would have something so bad, we were never going to be able to have kids! But them I start to feel like 'why hasn't it happened yet'? But anyway AF also arrived this morning so off to month 13 of TTC we go! Anyone know of anything we can do to help with the low motility?